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But seriously--would you trust me to? If I'm lying, I'm not the one at risk of knockeduppedness.
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I can see it benefiting couples in monogamous relationships.
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All those guys who REALLY don't want to have kids would have another option.
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Him: 'I'm on the PIll, so don't worry.'
Her: 'Great. Because I'm not, and I'm really, really fertile and wouldn't mind having a kid. Okay, let's get to it.'
Him: 'Uh...'
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He was freaked because he's a cop and doesn't make enough to support a baby and i was like 'dude, what honestly makes you think I'd be carrying anything you plant in my uterus to term?'
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Yeah. I could trust some guys. I'd trust my long term boyfriend, for example. Or a husband. Or anyone else I was in a solid, monogamous relationship wtih.
I wouldn't trust some random guy I didn't know very well, but I think men who do that with random women are also idiots. Wear a condom with people you don't know well and aren't monogamous with! It's so simple!
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I'd still keep taking mine though, because pregnancy is one of my biggest fears right now, and two contraceptions is better than one!
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Of course, you could be like my CRAZY ASS Evangelical cousin who says that vasectomies are of Satan because they separate men from his holy, life-giving seed... his words.
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This does make me wonder if the old adage about birth control (for some women) – that it works great because it makes you feel like never having sex again – would go double. Hmmm.
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I think people are frustrated because we get an article like this every six months or so, claiming men will finally be able to have more birth control choices just as soon as we can get a dozen to take part in a trial (in the mean time, here are three new variations on the female Pill, two of which cause suicidal depression and blood clots – try to guess which ones!).
It's sort of like seeing a big 'Coming Soon' sign over a shop that never opens. We're just cynical, is all.
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What am I going to do with all the tiny pins I've been hiding in my purse?
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We're going to have to get soap opera level deviant.
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But digging the condom out of the trash and injecting myself with a turkey baster is already so much work. God damn it.
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We're the perfect test couple! (and no more condoms sounds great!)
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"No baby it's okay, we don't need a condom! I'm on the shot!"
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Edited to add that I'm a guy, and I still don't understand guys who feel this way.
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It's clearly a cultural issue and maybe it's *slowly* changing, but it's not changing nearly fast enough for me.
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At least that would be my hope, hopeless idealist that I am.
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....but, then again, my track record shows I am not that great with making assumptions about what men think.
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I think the attitude is changing--more guys seem to be wisening up and using condoms, for example--but I think we still have a long way to go before men see birth control as THEIR job instead of ours.
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Am I the only women in the world who also hates how condoms feel and sort of understands desperately trying to find an excuse not to use one (although of course I do)?
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Yeah. I find it kind of weird that men not wanting to use condoms when their partner is on birth control is framed by some on this board as not wanting to take responsibility and trying to make it entirely the woman's job.
I honestly feel a lot of men who suggest not using a condom when they know their partner is on birth control, especially younger men, do it out of the honest belief that since they are already using a very efficient form of birth control, and since they can't believe someone they are attracted to and seems nice could have an STD*, that the condom isn't necessary
I don't think it's a case of men being lazy and wanting do dump all the work and responsibility on women.
I see it as a case of them not having many non invasive options, and condoms being gross and annoying, so why wouldn't they select the option that seems both most effective and most pleasurable for both people?
That's why I brought up my personal dislike for them.
*I've read studies that show both men AND women tend to assume people with certain characteristics (physically good looking, good hygiene, nice and honest seeming) are less likely to have STDs) and I think that's a generally true mistake people make when assessing the need for a condom.
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