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    Adam Lambert: "Me Being Sexual Is Offensive Because I’m Gay"

    "Boxers Or Briefs?"

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    11/17/09

    In reply to Adam Lambert: "Me Being Sexual Is Offensive Because I’m Gay"
    I'm giving Lambert the benefit of the doubt and assuming he meant sexualized images of women, rather than images of female sexuality. Given the context it seems that way to me-- I didn't even think of it meaning anything else until I started reading the comments. I think what he means is that it's only culturally acceptable for him to behave as if he doesn't have a sexual thought in his widdle head, while it's culturally desirable for (pretty) women to behave like that's all they exist for. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    In reply to Adam Lambert: "Me Being Sexual Is Offensive Because I’m Gay"
    I'm tired of people saying that women can experiment with their sexuality and be bicurious, but men can't. You know why? Because the "bicuriosity" that is encouraged is generally for the benefit of men.
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    11/16/09

    In reply to Adam Lambert: "Me Being Sexual Is Offensive Because I’m Gay"
    Sometimes it goes the other way, like how it's obscene to say 'vagina' or 'labia' on tv but 'penis' or 'balls' is fine. In her autobiography, Cybill Shephard talked about how enraging this was when they censored her show b/c teaching young girls that saying the words is okay is important.

    But it's deff true that gay sexuality is more 'obscene' than straight sexuality. how many gay movies have I rented hoping for some hot boy-on-boy action and there's far more straight people bumping uglies. (Velvet Goldmine, i'm v disappointed.) The director of But I'm a Cheerleader said the MPAA gave the first edit an NC17 rating for a very mild sex scene, considering there was no nudity, and the camera angles were such that you could hardly see the two acresses at all. The director had to edit it down to a 30 second kiss and touch sequence with a lot of shadows.
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    11/16/09

    In reply to Adam Lambert: "Me Being Sexual Is Offensive Because I’m Gay"
    charles what now? #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    In reply to Adam Lambert: "Me Being Sexual Is Offensive Because I’m Gay"
    Everyone on that cover looks constipated. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @sportz.star: Ha! I just looked at each of their faces individually, and this is so true! Adam Lambert: shock constipated; Wanda: embarrassed constipated; Cyndi: happily constipated; Rob Marshall: stoic constipated; Dan Choi: Bish, plz constipated. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @Diziet_Sma: hearted. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    In reply to Adam Lambert: "Me Being Sexual Is Offensive Because I’m Gay"
    Erm, female sexuality isn't all over the place, but guys' idea of what female sexuality is is all over the place. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @msmoneypenny: i.e., Sarah Palin. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @msmoneypenny: That may be true, but I also think that there is more dialogue about female sexuality too. Also, while female deviation from the heteronormative is often commodified and put under the scrutiny of the male gaze, I feel like the male equivalent is rejected more often as being disturbing, both in emotional terms and to the detriment of society, and inexplicably shameful. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @msmoneypenny: This this this this. Females presented for the male gaze is everywhere. Female sexuality scares the hell out of people. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @msmoneypenny: YES. When women on tv or movies express what they really want, people get scared. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @ameliabearhart: I jest, but yeah, Adam's got a point. I wish he wouldn't make it to the detriment of depictions of real female (hetero- or homo- or everything in between) sexuality. #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @ameliabearhart: I would actually say that there's more "dialogue" about "female" "sexuality." That is, it's not actually a dialogue as much as a pretend dialogue that only serves to perpetuate the patriarchal status quo. It's not actual female as much as it is the heterosexual male's idea of what it means to be female, and it's not actually sexuality because it's stripped of agency* and is therefore less sexuality than sexualization--the grammatic shift to the passive voice become essential to the construction of the representation in the media. Unfortunately, I'd actually argue that the fact that this fiction of female sexuality is presented as a dialogue (as if we have some say in this shit), as female (so now this is what we're supposed to be/look like/act like/dress like?), and, most insidiously, as active rather than passive (because it confuses real sexual desire with the desire to be sexy, and seriously fucks up a lot of women in the sex department and also confuses men in the sex with women instead of raping women department), is even more dangerous than the simple refusal to acknowledge anything but a minstrelized version of male homosexuality, as the lack of real representation affects both groups, but the hetero female sexuality is getting warped by the media's fucking with it, and refusing to acknowledge their fucking around.

    *representations, I mean, not actual female sexuality #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    @Cimorene: Okay. True. But I feel like there are people who point this shit out! Like you did right there! I feel like because it's an active phenomenon, it's easier to point out and understand the shit going down. But with male homosexuality, I feel like there's a passive-aggressive element to the whole ordeal. Like, yeah, you are a guy, but since you don't like women, your sexuality isn't SEXUALITY--it's something else that needs to be separated from male sexuality at all. It's a different kind of bad. Perhaps not as bad--but when I look at it like this, it feels like sexuality as a whole is a fucked up dialogue based in confusion and reinforcing reproductive roles rather than the actual sexuality.

    I guess we're all fucked. But maybe that means that all stands we take are helpful to each other. I want to be optimistic about this.... #adamlambertout
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    11/16/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    Oh my god, all of these questions are like pulled from my brain.

    And Edie is fucking hilarious. #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    The second I saw that Pringles canister I was praying that we'd see a Pringles Duck Beak.

    I was not disappointed. #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    If I eat a whole clove of roast garlic over the course of a couple days, my vagina tastes like garlic.

    Actually my vagina kind of always tastes like garlic, because I eat so much of it. Sometimes when I just eat roasted garlic on a baguette with blue cheese for dinner and nothing else, my vagina also kind of smells like garlic. So does my skin, my breath, and my hair.

    Good thing my boyf likes garlic-flavored vagina. #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    Hey! No telling secrets on camera! #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    The opposite of FML is IMMD. :) #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    or, MLIA: [mylifeisaverage.com]
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    11/14/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    I HAVE WORDS LIKE THAT TOO. AND I WAS JUST THINKING ABOUT THEM.

    Two of mine are Kaufman and Feynman. I know how they are pronounced but I still never pronounce them correctly. And I should know better, because I have a last name that is usually mispronounced myself, and it's annoying. Plus you look like an idiot when you're talking about how much you love someone and someone points out that you're pronouncing their name wrong. #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    I think the first answer should have been answered with this:

    (EDITED COS I WANTED TO USE '' BUT NOT IN THE HTML WAY)
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    @Vivien Smith-Smythe-Smith: #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    @Vivien Smith-Smythe-Smith: Back and forth, forever! #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    @Vivien Smith-Smythe-Smith: 143! hearted. #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    the video should be working now. #potpsychology
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    11/13/09

    In reply to "Boxers Or Briefs?"
    Ahhaahaha. This reminds me of a friend of mine who keeps misusing the term "OPP." She thinks it means "Other People's Problems."

    She uses it all. the. time. I have to keep reminding her that no matter how much she wants to make the new definition of OPP happen, Naughty By Nature have already claimed it, and she just has to give it up and stop humiliating herself! I am NOT down with the new definition of OPP! #potpsychology
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    11/14/09

    @BetteD: My nerd friends and I used to say OPP to mean "other people's papers" that we were editing.

    :( #potpsychology
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