Also, in the example cited above, Dan didn't say only women can be bi! That's just not what the coulmn said and I've never heard him deny bi men exist. If anything, I've heard the "well, he's obviously gay!" sentiment a lot more on Jezebel actually.

In that Savage Love article, Dan cited a study that showed men got aroused by the kind of sex they *self-identified* as enjoying, while women were more likely to get aroused by gender combinations outside of how they self-identified. He DIDN'T claim bi men don't exist, he cited a study that shows female sexuality tends to be more fluid. In other words, gay men are gay, bi men are bi, straight men are straight. But gay women may be more likely to mess around with men sometimes, straight women may be more likely to mess around with women sometimes.

Dan was asked whether a guy's "playing for the other team" in college was just a phase? And he responded, likely not. Basically, that he is probably actually gay or bi (And told the advice-seeker to butt out. Maybe it's not that his current girlfriend doesn't "see" it, maybe she's into it)

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He also tends to be tough on people *only* if they gain weight during a relationship, because often that's not what their partner wanted and the partner of said person may feel less attracted. He's never claimed that everyone needs to be thin, or that you must be thin to look good or to find a partner in the first place. To suggest this means he'd be insulting to anyone with "body image issues" isn't accurate, & seems a bit like sloppy thinking on your part.

On the other hand, Dear Prudie's "words of wisdom"? Uh... hmmm. In my experience, people don't tend to masturbate because they can't think of anything else to do with their hands. It's not that crazy for a guy to jack off twice a day. Unless his habit is interfering with his sex life -- which wasn't the case here -- who cares?

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Even the title of Friend or Foe reads like some sort of Mean Girls exercise. Any advice columnist that urges the advicee to, on a slow gossip night (whatever that is) talk smack about someone with the rest of their friends is, as they say, full of shit.

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I used to love Prudie on Slate, but now that it's Emily Yoffe it can be pretty uneven.

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I don't so even when he says something smart I get all petulant and want to cross my arms and yell, "YOU CAN'T MAKE ME!"

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