One Michigan Concerned Mother is so, so, so mad that a hospital that she took her daughter to requested speaking privately with her 17-year-old daughter that she's gone public to warn other Concerned Parents that the government is restricting their "God-given" right to control all aspects of their children's life.
Today's Flip Out Story begins with Concerned Mother Christy Duffy taking her 17-year-old daughter to see a doctor in a Lansing, Michigan hospital. The hospital had posted a sign in the reception area stating that a new state law requires parents to leave all patients between the ages of 12 and 17 alone with a doctor or nurse for five minutes. The sign was an overreach on the part of the hospital; no such state law exists. The hospital fucked up.
But that didn't stop Duffy from going on a nutburgers rant about her daughter how her daughter ever speaking privately to a doctor or nurse would be an egregious erosion of her parental rights over a 17-year-old person who, in less, than a year, will be free to buy as much hard core pornography and bulk abortions as she wants, and her mom won't legally be allowed to do anything to stop her. Duffy tells OneNewsNow,
Let's get one thing straight: no doctor or nurse is going to sequester my children in an exam room and talk to them privately. Period.
The nurse would also inform my children that the doctor's office is a safe place for them to receive information about STDs, HIV and birth control. That is what the nurse would be chatting about with my children without any pesky parental oversight.
I kindly informed her that no one would be talking with my children privately, and I needed to know how to opt out of this policy before bringing Amy back for her physical next month. By this time, the doctor was ready to see Amy, so I had to cut the conversation short because I was not letting my girl out of my eyesight or earshot … Not when it was clear that these people were angling to undermine my parental authority.
I once knew a girl with a mom a lot like Christy Duffy. She found out she was several months pregnant right before her high school graduation and ending up not going to college so that she could take care of the baby she conceived because her mom didn't want her to know what sex was or how it worked. Anyway, the baby's father left her and now she works at a gas station. Real heartwarming stuff.
Duffy has some advice to parents who wish to replicate that scenario in their own children's lives:
"Make sure this is crystal clear: what they want to do is talk to your child about sex and drugs (maybe rock and roll – who knows?) without your input," Duffy asserts. "Is it really such a stretch to imagine that a doctor who does not value abstinence before marriage would encourage your daughters – as young as 12! – to receive birth control?"
She offered her warning to parents of sons, as well.
"Is it really such a stretch to imagine a nurse telling a young boy – because a 12-year-old boy is a BOY – that she will give him condoms so he can be 'safe?'" Duffy adds. "Is this what you want told to your children without the ability to filter the info through your worldview?"
Duffy went on to quote "sources" on the inside that told her that her the government is trying to seize control of The Children because money. Not sure how all of that works, but I do know that kids who receive comprehensive sex education and access to birth control are much less costly to provide medical care to than kids who end up pregnant because they don't know that sperm is dangerous. Prenatal care followed by 18 years of medical care for a child is a lot more expensive than a condom.
Another thing that puzzles me about parents like Duffy: if she was so ineffective in instilling her "world view" over the first 17 years of her daughter's life that a private 5 minute conversation with a nurse can undo everything, then that is not the state's problem; it's the parent's. If a teen doesn't want to have sex because they don't think they're ready for physical, emotional, or spiritual reasons, then they won't. Maybe it would make sense for Duffy to re-evaluate the flimsiness of her beliefs and her own subconscious knowledge that clinging to them in the face of a disparate reality is futile before projecting that insecurity onto everyone else.
Right after a few deep breaths.