He Said, She Said: The Mythical History of the False Rape Allegation
LatestAn odd place where men’s rights activists and feminists meet is at the idea that false rape allegations ruin lives. The first side is infuriated that with a single accusation, someone (usually female) can destroy the reputation and future of someone else (usually male). The second side argues that false allegations are exceptionally rare, and the few people who make them are destroying the credibility of true sexual assault victims. This last point was proven a few weeks ago when Whoopi Goldberg, in the face of Bill Cosby’s own testimony that he drugged women to have sex with them, compared the situation to well-publicized false allegations like the 2006 Duke lacrosse scandal and Rolling Stone’s retracted “A Rape on Campus” article. (In the face of nearly overwhelming evidence against Cosby, Goldberg eventually changed her position, saying, “It looks bad, Bill.”)
But while both groups agree that false allegations are a problem, they couldn’t disagree more on how to address the issue. MRAs can’t talk about them enough; many cite a false allegation as their “red pill” moment that opened their eyes to how evil feminists are. Feminists are much more uncomfortable with the topic. False allegations, after all, hold a disproportionate place in the public imagination; their specter derails productive conversations about sexual assault and supporting victims. Feminists, a group in which I include myself wholeheartedly, can dismiss the discussion by claiming that, because of their extreme rarity, false allegations aren’t worth representing or talking about. And when stories about false allegations are told in art and literature, we try to label them as “bad for women” and minimize their impact.
This is a bad approach, and it’s counterproductive to the goal of supporting victims. The only way to dilute the power of stories like the ones cited by Whoopi Goldberg is by discussing false allegation narratives more, not less. We need to actively explore these stories to understand what they can tell us. Although false allegations are statistical outliers, the fact that people are so frightened of them and reflexively disbelieve victims tells us more about our society than it does about the woman or man making the allegation (or about the prevalence of rape in general). And the allegations themselves show how familiar, widely believed tropes about gendered behavior can be manipulated into plausible-seeming narratives.
Stories about false allegations are not only common: they’re also very old. They go back as far as the Bible, but are especially common in Greek mythology. The most famous example is Phaedra, whose false accusation against her stepson led to his death. I’ve written about how common rape was in Greek literature and how the Athenians enjoyed the occasional rape joke. In a culture where rape was so common and so easy to laugh about, it’s surprising that there was so much worry about false allegations. But maybe that paradox can tell us about our own, equally irrational fears.
Discussions of false allegations are inherently charged, cutting close to some of our deepest discomforts about how our society deals with and thinks about rape. They evidence the near-impossibility of an outsider ascertaining objective falsehood when the only witnesses are the alleged victim and perpetrator of the crime, as well as the difficulty of the fact that rape often doesn’t leave a trace except on the psyche of the victim. In the absence of physical evidence, the struggle becomes one between narratives: he said, she said. That’s why the recent New York Magazine article juxtaposing photos of Cosby’s accusers with their stories is so powerful: it centers them, at last.
Rape allegations also draw attention to an uncomfortable contradiction. One of the core beliefs of our legal system is that defendants are innocent until proven guilty. On the other hand, many people—after an entire recorded history that has often assumed the opposite—have a default response of wanting to support and believe those who say they’ve been sexually assaulted. So how do we handle the fact that these two stances are fundamentally irreconcilable? If we believe that alleged rapists are innocent until proven guilty, then on some level, we have to believe that victims might be lying until they can prove that they’re telling the truth. We don’t want to automatically assume that everyone accused is a rapist, but we also don’t want to assume that accusers are liars. There is no unequivocally safe ground from which to judge.
With subjects this difficult, art offers a uniquely safe place to find and draw out the nuance. False rape accusations are common in fiction: In To Kill a Mockingbird, Atticus Finch establishes that his defendant, Tom Robinson, is being falsely accused of raping a white woman. The title character in the 2003 film The Life of David Gale had his academic career ruined by a student who claimed he raped her after he refused to give her a good grade. More recently, Amy Dunne, the main female character in the book (and movie) Gone Girl by Gillian Flynn, repeatedly falsifies rape accusations—and, surprisingly, is easily believed by the police.
Because Gone Girl was released in the age of the thinkpiece, there are dozens of articles declaring it misogynistic. Many of these articles say outright that seeing the movie reinforces the mistaken idea that false rape allegations are common. But again, ignoring and minimizing the false allegation narrative won’t make people trust rape victims any more. Looking at the story closer almost always shows that stories about false allegations don’t land on “bitches be crazy” they explore how deeply screwed up a society’s attitude toward rape can be. Analysis detoxifies better than dismissal, better than calling false allegations a “myth.”
But let’s try it. False allegations are a myth. True or false? It’s both. False, because when we call something a myth we really mean that it doesn’t exist. When we say that mermaids are mythical, we aren’t saying that we know there are a few mermaids in the ocean but the majority of sightings aren’t genuine: we’re saying fully that mermaids aren’t real. Calling false rape allegations a myth implies that they never occur, and as much as we might wish that were true, that is not the case.
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