@tashatakeadive: Oy vey! My husband is actually self-declared. Apparently,he took a women's lit course in college and the prof asked "Who here considers him/herself a feminist." He was one of two people in the class to raise his/her hand. I've been trying to come up with ways to make "feminist" a term that doesn't scare people. Best bet so far: free cookie whenever you say it. It wouldn't take long before everyone were a feminist. The only problem is where to get all those cookies: I'm in negotiations with the Keebler elves as we speak.