Um, so "Vows" this weekend…between the word "excruciating" and the surveying everyone on "how they knew"… and the fact that this guy couldn't even figure out how he felt about this woman after 17 months in Africa I think it is safe to say it was the most depressing thing ever. (Fine, "ever" in that section.) Is Jonathon (spelling: what's with?) just gay? Or is it common for dudes to act like this? Discuss. [NYT]