Yesterday, Tyra sat down with a large group of teenage girls (ages 13-years-old and up) who are either pregnant or trying to get pregnant, because they want babies so badly. Naturally, their reasons are pretty stupid (one 14-year-old girl says she wants a baby because baby showers are fun), and they clearly haven't thought anything through, particularly about the financial burden of raising a child. It's baffling to me why this is such a trend. Tyra pinned it on Jamie Lynn Spears and the fact that so much tabloid gossip is focused around "baby bumps." But there's obviously something else at play, since most of the girls she spoke with had been abandoned by one or both parents, and they were looking for someone to love them unconditionally. Clip above.
I expect I will get slammed for this, but, *ahem*:
Babies - toddlers - children - are *actually* capable of filling emotional voids.
I don't have one myself, but I have a niece I like to borrow. I'm sure there are lots of reasons not to have children at 14, and I support most of them - and I'm also sure that wanting to have someone little to love isn't the healthiest way to start out some new person's life - but all of that said, is it odd that seeing this feels kind of positive for me?
I would much rather see a girl having a child because she wants to love it than having a child because she doesn't believe in abortions and feels trapped but doesn't see a way out, or a woman having a child because she's married and has a career and feels this is the "next" step even though she doesn't want it.