There's Now a Pregnancy How-To Guide for Type A Overachievers

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The GOP's best efforts notwithstanding, women today have more options when it comes to not getting pregnant than ever before. At the same time, we're also oversaturated with information about infertility; whether it's mercury poisoning, heavy exercise, or stress, you name it, it probably kills our eggs. That's why Jean Twenge's new book, The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant, is geared toward 30-something women who put off childbirth to achieve their career goals and now want to utilize their Type A skills to get knocked up. Unfortunately, The Daily Beast's Melissa Lafsky notes, "the control we're now able to exert over our lives doesn't extend to the biological, whether we like it or not."


You might recognize Twenge's name because she's constantly quoted on millennial behavior, thanks to her book on the demographic, Generation Me. The San Diego State University professor is a three-time mom, with one kid conceived in her late 30s, and, according to her Amazon bio, she came up with the idea for The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant after researching fertility while trying to conceive for the first time and feeling overwhelmed by the alarmist, often contradictory and fear-mongering information she came across online and in books.

Lafsky describes the guide as a nice balance between obsessive, fruitless Googling and lengthy fertility tomes, although she says it's a little too cutesy — for example, sex is called "baby dancing" (ew). Still, "there's a goldmine of valuable information, delivered in precisely the way its audience wants it: quick, comprehensible, and scientifically vetted." Lafsky is also a bit fixated on what she thinks is the book's subtext: fear of the biological clock running out:

Age has become the albatross hanging on the neck of a generation of would-be mothers. And there's nothing anyone can do about that … except package and sell the most efficient and medically sound methods of tricking our egg-depleted bodies into creating a healthy fetus, stat.

That might be true for some of the women who purchase Twenge's book, but not all women think getting knocked up is "the most elemental task that women can and have been doing for millennia."

The Girls' Guide to Getting Pregnant-Type-A Style [The Daily Beast]

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It's a hard thing to talk about because of the one hand it's not fair that women have to think about whether they want to have a baby when they're not financially or psychologically ready for one but on the other hand do you just not address it? I have a friend, just turned 36 and married for a year, whose doctor told her she should start trying asap and was complaining to me she didn't like what her doctor said because she feels she should be able to have another childless year of marriage before having to start (she wants 2 kids). But then I have a bunch of mom friends who had to have things like ivf and many went through miscarriages as they tried to get pregnant mid to late thirties. And when I said her doctor might have a point my friend got really testy with me so I shut up about it. But I hate the idea that in a few years, if it's difficult for her to get pregnant, she might have wished she had more information. I don't know, it's just a sucky thing to have to deal with nowadays.