The Single Shall Inherit The Earth

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Despite the prevailing stereotype that women live in a candy-colored fantasy world with unrealistic relationship expectations, a new book by "playboy" Carl Weisman says that over 30% of confirmed bachelors avoid marriage because they "won't settle for anything less than perfection," reports Reuters. Weisman's book, So Why Have You Never Been Married?: 10 Insights Into Why He Hasn't Wed, includes a survey of 1,533 heterosexual men discussing why they've never tied the knot. They not only fear marrying the wrong person, they also fear losing their money in a messy split. Of course, the implication is that these men remain bachelors by choice, and not by circumstance, enjoying the swinging single life as long as their graying bodies hold out. Often the stereotype of single women is that they are desperate to wed, though according to the Telegraph, that Bridget Jones-ian preconception might be shifting, at least across the pond.


8% of women between the ages of 25 and 44 live alone, according to the UK Office of National Statistics (ONS), and that's twice as many singletons as twenty years ago. "The ONS report cited recent research which showed that two-thirds of freemales feel that they can enjoy a happy and fulfilled life without a partner," the Telegraph notes. Paula Hall, a shrink with Relate, a nationwide relationship counseling nonprofit in England, tells the Telegraph that many women have become cynical about longterm relationships. "If you're busy and fulfilled with lots of close friends, then relationships may seem a bit irrelevant, emotionally high-risk and a lot of hard work," Hall says. Maybe they just don't want to deal with those scads of men expecting "perfect" relationships.


Men Prefer Being Solo Over A Bad Marriage: Study [Reuters]

Women Shun Marriage In Favour Of Single Life [Telegraph]

So Why Have You Never Been Married?: 10 Insights Into Why He Hasn't Wed

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I'm single, never married and live alone - well, with the kitties. I dated a guy afraid of committment, but didn't realize that was his issue until he started picking the relationship apart. His guy friends told me he was afraid of committment. He's 45 and STILL afraid of committment, but he's no longer my problem.

What's weird is meeting men that I might date(when I do meet them) who think something is wrong with a woman who doesn't have children or isn't divorced. Like I should have settled somewhere along the way rather than waiting for a better fit.

I'm not waiting for someone who is perfect, I'm not perfect, but I'm not willing to settle either.