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Father’s Day means a lot of things for a lot of different people. Maybe you were lucky enough to score a great dad, the kind that made you pancakes on weekends, coached your soccer team and sang off-key to Bob Seger on long car trips—but always, unmistakably loved you.

And maybe Father’s Day means something totally different to you. Maybe your father passed away, maybe he was abusive, maybe he was never there to begin with. Maybe he was this douche:

For the latter group, Father’s Day is often a painful reminder of what others have but you don’t, and those stories deserve to be told, too.

So what does Father’s Day mean to you? Share your stories—the good, the bad and the ugly—in the comments below.