Mindy Kaling Tolerates New Female Character Who Is Not Mindy Kaling

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Mindy Kaling’s character on The Mindy Project has had some trouble making friends. Evidently, so has Mindy Kaling.


Anna Camp’s character from season 1, who played Mindy’s BFF, vanished from the series; so did Mary Grill, who played another friend of Mindy’s. Now, as The Mindy Project transitions off network television to Hulu, she is trying again. “It’s hard to make friends as an adult woman,” Kaling said while previewing her upcoming book, Why Not Me?, at BookCon on Saturday. Another thing that’s hard as an adult woman: hiring actresses to act in scenes with you! (Almost as hard as hiring more non-Mindy Kaling women to write scenes for you to act in!)

But everyone can chill, because Female Friendship will be a main focus of the upcoming fourth season, Kaling explained.

“In L.A., the only people you meet are women in your spin class. And you have to wonder, if a woman seeks you out at spin class, you wonder what the motivations are! But you’re so desperate for friends. … It’s much harder to find someone you want to talk to than a man you want to sleep with.”

“The only thing I want to do in the next five years is make a good friend,” Kaling added, somewhat worrisomely.

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This might just be me, but I’m not really reading into what is causing the uproar around this quote. To me, this is saying that it is harder to make female friends than it is to find a man to sleep with.

Call me crazy, but in my time as an adult woman, this has been proven true to me. It’s not all that hard to find men who want to jump in bed with you, particularly in this age of Tinder. But finding good female friends is hard. I made one this past year, and the pride I felt in the fact that I fucking managed to do that is what I imagine I would feel if I did something like run a marathon. It’s hard to meet friends and cultivate friendships. Romantic relationships are buoyed along by the intimacies of physical contact and the social norms of dating. You don’t have that structure in place for creating adult friendships.