Ladies, We Need More Words Than Just 'Lady'

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Ann Friedman makes a strong argument for the term "lady" in The New Republic: it "encapsulates the fundamental mutability of modern feminism" and occupies the middle ground between being a girl and a woman. (Props to Britney.) Moreover:

..."lady" splits the difference between the infantilizing "girl" and the stuffy, Census-bureau cold "woman." (Both still have their place — just not in the witty conversation that young feminists want to be having.) It's a way to stylishly signal your gender-awareness, without the stone-faced trappings of the second-wave. It's a casual synonym for "woman," a female counterpart to "guy," commonly used in winking conversation between one in-the-know woman and another.


Friedman acknowledges the tongue-in-cheek sensibility at play when most ladybloggers use the term, which resonates strongly; at this point, I have a hard time typing the word unless I'm mocking someone who doesn't treat women as equals or an article based on negative (and dumb) stereotypes. A headline from a recent example: "Ladies, You Are at Your Ugliest at This Exact Moment."


I wish I felt comfortable using "lady" in a more genuine way [Ed: I have no problem with it; I'm with Friedman on this one.] for two reasons: I write about women all day and shit gets redundant, and I do love that "middle ground" etymology. It's unfair how men have man/guy/dude/bro/boy — lots of options! — but we're stuck choosing between "women," which is super dry, "lady," and "girl," which skews young. I suppose there's dame and gal, but they feel anachronistic. Guys get all these generic terms; where are ours?

Your suggestions, please.

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I like using "lady" in fact I address lots of my friends as "lady face". But yeah now that I think about it the options are quite lacking.

However, the one that I am NEVER okay with is "female". When people use female in place of woman it makes my skin crawl. And why does it seem it's always in a negative context? Weird.