Internet Makes British Mums Act Like Big Babies

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All was well on the messageboards for Mumsnet, a British parenting site. Ladies were bonding nicely over breastfeeding and blankies, that is, until a group of entrenched commenters went rogue and founded an invite-only forum.


According to the Daily Mail, the new forum was set up by the Mumsnet Oldies, aka "the Moldies."

A handful of 'old school' Mumsnet veterans set up a private discussion board on the site and began emailing up to 200 other members, asking them to join. As the main site grew and attracted up to 400,000 users, they said they wanted a separate area where they could talk about issues surrounding older children, rather than babies and toddlers. But the move has triggered accusations that the Moldies have set up passwords, black-balled other members from joining their group, and have soured the democratic ethos of the website. While some mothers have taken a 'who cares?' attitude, others have accused the Moldies of betraying long-standing friendships, and one woman even said she had been reduced to tears by the row.

While some mums feel like the Moldies are having a fantastic party to which they were not invited, a poster called "Vinegartits" had this to say: "I am glad they started Moldies because most of the people I disliked and left a bad taste in my mouth when I first started here, all of the high and mighty 'I am so much better than you, I have been here forever and command your respect' have fucked off to there."

The nature of commenting forums is always cyclical in this way. The early adopters feel proprietary, and when newbies come in, they feel like their playground has been invaded. Then they "fuck off," as Vinegartits so eloquently noted, and a new batch of commenters begin to feel as if they are the chosen ones. And the internet seasons they go 'round and 'round. Just because these women are mothers does not mean they are immune to the immature rites of internet forum posturing.

It's Not Exactly Baby Talk As Mothers Go To War Over Rival Mumsnet Parenting Forums [Daily Mail]


I've been on all types of message boards where this has happened; it's not just restricted to mothers.

Meh—over time you get to know some posters better than others and you want a private area to discuss stuff in-depth. I don't understand the hurt feelings but then again moms groups are always well-known for drama, I've found. It's why I've eventually left every one I attempted to join.