Cheating on a husband or boyfriend may not exactly be exemplary conduct, but there are certainly worse things one can do, morally speaking. And while we're speaking of morals, what if you don't really have them? Or at least don't apply them to situations like these? Morality is subjective after all. There's an interesting question on the matter in Salon's advice column today. A married woman and a serial cheater writes in that not only does her husband not know about her infidelities, she has absolutely no guilt about it. This led advice columnist Cary Tennis to wonder whether she was a sociopath. (He eventually decided that she probably isn't.) According to a piece on Nerve today comparing how differently Americans and the French view infidelity, it makes sense that an American would think that there might be something fucked up with a person who could cheat and not feel bad about it. But apparently things are different in France:
People still wonder why Monica Lewinsky was a big deal — after all, the current president's wife, whom he met when he officiated at her first wedding, spent most of 2005 living in New York with her lover.
It sort of reminds us of a quote from our favorite cougar, Maude from Harold and Maude:
Vice, Virtue. It's best not to be too moral. You cheat yourself out of too much life. Aim above morality. If you apply that to life, then you're bound to live life fully.
Since no one truly knows what goes on in a relationship besides the two people in it, is it for anyone else to say whether the cheater is a horrible person?