Husband Takes Wife's Last Name, Is Subject To Ridicule From Buddies

Screenwriter Kris Dyer married his girlfriend Jo Myddleton last October. Since he thought his last name was "rubbish," he decided to change his surname to Myddleton, and surprisingly the most irritating part of the process was not the bureaucratic leaps and bounds Kris had to go through to change his name, it was the prejudiced reaction of the Myddletons' friends. ""I always considered my friends to be pretty metropolitan, but they too seemed to have problems coming to terms with it," Kris Myddleton told the Independent. "They thought I was joking; eventually I had to show them my new bank cards to get them to believe me. They kept asking 'Why?' People seemed vaguely disapproving, as if we were breaking a sacred rule." But couples like the Myddletons are becoming increasingly common in the UK, as only 50% of women now take their husbands' names.I know that for some it's a big ideological struggle — they feel that they are condoning a certain aspect of the patriarchy of which they do not approve. But for others, like Myddleton, it's a question of style, and also sweetness: Kris said that his wife is an only child, so the only way they could carry on the Myddleton family name is if he took his wife's name. Personally I would never take my husband's name professionally, but in my personal life I'd just as soon jettison "Grose." I mean, it's not as bad as Hymen but it's not a great last name, nor is it one I'd particularly like to see my children taunted with as I was. For the married Jezebels out there, what naming convention did you go with and why? No One Understood Why I Took My Wife's Surname' [The Independent]


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