Do You Tell Sex Partners About Your STDs?

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I have herpes. I've written about it on the internet before, and that fact comes back to bite me in the ass way more frequently than any blisters do. But it's somewhat of a relief that it's out there, because I feel less of a burden of having to tell new people I bang, since these days, the people I sleep with tend to have read up on my sexual history. But I never used to tell people, mainly because I only ever had that one outbreak, so it just didn't really seem like a part of my life. I was with my last boyfriend for a few years and we never wore condoms and he never broke out in blisters. (I also never told him about having herpes until like right before we broke up, after we hadn't slept together for a few months.) But I wonder if anyone tells the people they're sleeping with about their past or presently-dormant STDs. Let's figure it out by taking the poll after the jump!


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Tracie Egan Morrissey

@Brianne: oh you can frig off right now.

@jenalicious: i am not a responsible person and i have never EVER claimed to be. i'm not interested in talking about the way things should be. i'm more interested in talking about the way things are.

i'm a lot more upfront about this shit in this phase of my life. i wasn't a few years back because people (like some of the ones in this comment section) act like herpes is the END OF YOUR LIFE. that shit can't kill you and can't cause birth defects unless you are a woman with an outbreak at the time of a vaginal delivery. and that will never happen to me.

i hate how everyone acts like they are doctors here when they are like, "i've never had an std, but..." FUCK but. you've never had an std, so you don't know. you don't know what it feels like to have to carry that stigma and be afraid that no one will ever want to fuck you again. especially when you know for a fact that it's NOT THAT BAD to have herpes. and you don't know the scientific facts on the situation because you've never been forced to sit down in a doctor's office and discuss them. so step off. for real.