@Notes from the underwhelmed: That poor, poor girl. Let us have a moment of science for her getting stuck with him, and a moment of congrats for you for not having fucked someone who brags about not being able to hold his load. Laaaaaaaaaaame. Read more
Megan Carpentier
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@ronaldpagan: Well, quitting smoking is best. But if you can't, DO NOT fuck with correlation between hormone-based birth control and smoking. Many doctors won't even prescribe if they know. It's totally random whether it will do anything to you so it's totally not worth it. I got an IUD for other reasons, but I love… Read more
@ronaldpagan: Do NOT continue smoking and getting on the Pill. Yes, it can be that bad. Look into a copper IUD. No hormones, equally effective. Read more
@Notes from the underwhelmed: Well, there's a big difference between "overlooking" that he's not some kind of typically attractive and him not being attractive to you. Don't settle. Read more
@dvs: And therapy isn't for insanely fucked up people only. It for people that have this wall in front of them who are so focused on the wall that the can't see the path around it. You're so focused on "we're not that fucked up" and "i'm not that fucked up." No one says you are, that's not the point. Look at what… Read more
@dvs: I mean, the reason I am pushing therapy is that it sounds like you have exhausted your other options and are still not happy. No one but you can wave a magic wand and get you to want to boink your fabulous husband if you can't get past what makes you not eager to boink him. I am from upstate NY and went to… Read more
@dvs: STOP!! I know it's not easy, believe me, I really, really do. I suck at making myself actually vulnerable to someone, I suck at expressing my feelings to someone, it took me fucking forever and a huge fuck up in my life to get into therapy. But, for real, you are not going to wake up some day and find it is all… Read more
@dvs: I feel like a broken record here, but if it's because haven't worked through your individual/couple-y issues about that "right time" thing, go see a therapist, preferably together. Your issue isn't whether you're having the sexing, it's that you're not having the talking. Also, go see a gyno and get on a long… Read more
@badmanners: No one knows how to date. Welcome to the world. Get a bunch of condoms and insist on their usage, a good gyno and a yearly appointment and (IMHO) fuck the nice ones if you can. If you're like "awww, he's so nice, I should be friends with him," definitely fuck that guy. Read more
@dvs: Seriously, you're married, you love him, he loves you, it's gotten to the point of weirdness that you haven't, obviously. You have two choices and neither of them is subtle. Either you have a conversation in which you say "I love you, I want to have sex with you, can we please or why not" or you just grab him… Read more
@Xavoc: So true, I should've said that. So many people quit when they have a bad match. The lady that worked for me might not work for you. It's like birth controls, hair stylists, gynecologists, sex partners, etc. But if someone needs a recommendation in the DC area, feel free to private message me. Read more
@DreamerMarie: Please, as I've said to a bunch of other fabulous Jezebelles today, find yourself a good therapist and let him or her help you yank that confidence out from under the rock you let someone else topple onto it. Sex-free is fine if you're fine about it (although it doesn't sound like you are), miserable,… Read more
@J.D.Regent: It's raining again, what can I say? Also, did you miss the post about my dry spell? :) Read more
@briardahl: It's very true. Internationally, particularly in majority Muslim countries, multiple marriages are legal, but I don't think the second+ wives would be considered legitimate wives here, right? I mean, it sort of comes down to him being shady and the fact that despite their (his?) citizenship they lived here… Read more