One of the reasons I love writing for Jezebel is that I'm encouraged to get into conversations with readers. Often I get to see another point of view and it's helpful to me as a writer (and a critical thinker). Read more
Sure! That's fine! I don't proclaim myself to be any kind of gay activist (I can't do crowds), but pointing out why this kind of stuff is offensive is continuing to show how far we are from true acceptance and makes people think about what they're saying. Read more
Deal. Read more
Thank you for pointing that out. I agree that my own bias about stereotypes absolutely comes into this and some people may be totally okay with it. Read more
A misandry medal! (But you will have to settle for this image that was very popular at Hot Topic when I was in high school.)
FUCK YOUR HAND HUGS. Read more
OK. In the spirit of being honest, I doubt you and I would connect because you referred to me as a drama queen instead of refuting my point. It's fine for our sensitivity levels not to match, but I didn't just write you off for having a different opinion. Read more
My grandmother bought one of those hospital masks to wear when I came out and asked me if she would catch AIDS if she hugged me, so I know that feel. Read more
Yes! And then give them one of my other articles if they ask again. Rosebud, maybe? Read more
I don't agree with the argument that just because it doesn't mean to be an insult makes it okay. I actually put that in there! I know people are trying to be positive and make a connection and it still doesn't make it better. Read more
Fine! Read more
You do make some valid points. I will disagree, however, that my listing of characteristics, in an opinion piece was offensive and unnecessary. This is what I grew up knowing about what gay men should be like and this is something that I haven't been able to achieve for a variety of reasons. I don't go out and say to… Read more
Someone has already accused me of being the type of dude who puts "no femmes" on his Grindr profile even though I don't think anything I wrote suggested that. I think it's important to note that just because I don't like stereotypes means I aggressively go against them/tell people I'm not a "stereotypical gay." And… Read more
That's a lot to assume from this! I will tell you two things: One, I have never put down a "type" on a dating profile. I am also in no way masc/str8 acting. In fact, most people would call me flamboyant. Two, nowhere in this post have I said I'm a revolutionary. I am not carrying the pride flag to freedom. That… Read more
But I disagree that we're talking about your grandmothers (who I hear were nice people besides their political views). I'm talking about people who use this in general conversation. I'm also pointing out how it feels. The phrase is meant to be positive but it feels exhausting and makes me feel like an asshole to say… Read more
What I took away from this is that I was not the only person to play Trauma Team all the way through. I have a google alert for "Trauma Team Sequel" Read more
I actually ordered beard oil and special moisturizer because I would rather just do that than shave at this point. I am lazy beyond belief. Read more
As a member of the gays (or just, you know, gay), you can say whatever you want. This wasn't a post about how we should talk about ourselves amongst or about ourselves (that is so much bigger). It was about being referred to as a representative of an entire group by people outside of the group who compress being gay… Read more
I wrote this as a member of the minority group I am discussing, pointed out that people don't mean it badly and suggested that it might be time to retire the term. If you're part of the same minority group and disagree, fine. But if you're not, how is this post not appropriate? Read more
Embrace the shitstorm! Read more