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All's I know is that I'll be calling them "salty nut-logs" from here on out. Read more

We're getting married in two months (eee!) and we have both a Macy's and a Honeyfund registry. Macy's for parents and older family friends who want to give us a tangible gift. Honeyfund for the younger folks who would like to get us something but appreciate that we've lived together for three years and would only be… Read more

How about this: Gift registries need to die forever, and you don't have to indicate that your prefer anything else. If there's no registry, people will probably end up giving you cash. There's no reason to indicate that you "prefer cash" if there is no traditional registry by instead going for an "alternative… Read more

Cash is tacky for all but the most cash-strapped of newlyweds. If you are getting married and are over 30 (as most middle-class people are these days), chances are you don't NEED anything, and my broke ass certainly can't afford to buy it for you when you already have nicer stuff than I do (and can save expenses by… Read more

Consider the fact that we, your wedding guests, may also be strapped for cash and the amount of green we can scrape together to give you is frankly embarrassing. Whereas if you make a list of things you want, some of us can be damn resourceful shoppers and get you something you both like and want and still be within… Read more

I am sure someone brought this up, but if they are so strapped for cash, why are they having and paying for a wedding? If you can afford $15,000 for a wedding, then you don't need my money towards a down payment on a house. Just a thought. Read more

My husband and I are (relative - 6 months now) newlyweds. Though cash would have been more useful to us (we had already been living together several years and buying the things we need, so didn't really need more stuff), we didn't even think of "suggesting" cash - or the equivalent in honeymoon registries, etc. I… Read more

I wish giving cash and asking for cash was more acceptable. Cash will ALWAYS be used, unlike a juicer. And if I give cash, I don't even care what you spend it on. Use it to pay the water bill for all I care. It's still helping the couple. My partner's mother (we're not married so she isn't my MIL buuuuuuut) will not… Read more

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As much as cash would have been helpful to us, my hubs and I didn't want to ask for it. It's tacky. Instead, we registered at Target and chose a few things we did still need (ranging in price) and when people asked we mentioned that we would use any target gift cards we received towards buying a kitchen table. We got… Read more

I asked for actual gifts, had a registry, and still got cash. You really, REALLY don't need to be so grubby as to ask for it outright. Yes, I said it, it's grubby. If people want to or can give you cash, they will. Trust me. I would never, EVER in a million freaking years on this planet ever dream of asking for cash.… Read more

When my wife and I got married, we were both well past 30 and and had been living on our own for a long time. We were trying to figure out what to do with the two households' worth of crap we already had; we definitely didn't need any more. Read more

Here's my revolutionary suggestion: ban wedding registries once and for all. Read more

I understand why that turns the stomach of people who hadn't heard of Steubenville before the rape case. But I think that's cause the name of the town is so identified with the case itself. But Steubenville, like every other place in the world, is just a place that isn't really any worse than any other. It's not… Read more