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I’m an 18-year-old female. I’m cisgender and bisexual. I’ve been in a monogamous relationship with my cisgender…

I’m a 24-year-old nonbinary person living in Florida. I have two wonderful girlfriends. One I have been with for…

How does one get into the gay BDSM bottoming and leather scene?
Seeking Answers Concerning Kink

I am a 38-year-old lesbian, very femme, very out. I have a co-worker I can’t figure out. We’ve worked together for a…

My father left my mother abruptly when I was 14 years old, and he hasn’t contacted either of us since. It was a…

I’m a professional dominatrix, and I thought I’d seen everything in the last five years. But this situation…

I’m a 67-year-old gay man. After a breakup 15 years ago, I believed the possibility of emotional and sexual intimacy…

I married my high-school sweetheart at 17, had a baby, together a few years, mental illness and subsequent…

I have been with my unicorn boyfriend for four months. The sexual chemistry between us is out of this world! I’m a…

I am a 22-year-old Italian man, 100 percent straight, sensitive and sporty. I have been reading Savage Love for…

As a 36-year-old straight woman with autism, I am often misidentified as lesbian because my social signaling must…

I used to be a fan of your column, Dan, but something happened to you. Maybe it’s stress, the current political…

I’m a straight man in a live-in relationship with a beautiful woman. There are no sparks in bed, and it’s been more…

I’m a twentysomething straight woman. About a month ago, I had a really vivid dream in which I was at a party and…

I was honored to appear with Esther Perel at the Orpheum Theater in Vancouver, British Columbia, a few weeks ago to…

I’m a 40-year-old bi man. I’ve been with my 33-year-old bi wife for three years and married for one. When we first…

In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of…

I’m a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by…

I’m a 22-year-old straight male dating a 23-year-old woman. This is by far the most sexual relationship I’ve been…