Ask A Mortician: What Do You Say to Someone Who Is Grieving?

In this episode of Ask A Mortician, our favorite deathxpert, Caitlin Doughty, tackles Shit People Say To Grieving People That Is Wrong. For instance, you probably should not say "look on the bright side."


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therealquash ᕙ(⇀‸↼‶)ᕗ

My father died about 17 years ago when I was a kid. It was hard, still is. I'm sure people said all kinds of wacky things to me. I still am not particularly good at dealing with other people's sorrow. The thing that really gets me, though, is when people get so angry at people not saying the right thing. Not at the time, because I get that judgment is clouded at that point. But later, looking back, can't you just realize that the person was trying? Maybe people aren't good at it. I don't know, I'm not saying this all that eloquently. But I guess I just feel like grieving is hard enough; I have never had the energy to care whether people said the most appropriate thing to me in an effort to sympathize.