Are The Mommy Wars Declaring A Cease-Fire? (Probs Not, But We Can Hope)

"The Mommy Wars" was first brought to public attention as a term in a Newsweek piece in 1990 on the struggles of working moms versus at-home moms, but as you know—unless you are a Mole Person who lives underneath the subway—has since expanded to encompass (and foster intolerance for) every single one of the many "roads diverged in the wood" of baby-making, especially lately. There's Hilary Rosen's snafu about Ann Romney's "not working a day in her life," which became a GOP-used paean to the stay-at-home-mom, that attachment parenting Time cover depicting an unweaned 4-year-old boy on his mom's boob that we literally just stopped talking about, and leagues of controversial mommy bloggers (led by eponymous Bad Mother author Ayelet Waldman, a.k.a Mrs. Michael Chabon) who confess to preferring one child over the other, or preferring Michael Chabon over all of them.


Controversial French feminist writer Elisabeth Bedinter's Le Conflit, La Femme et La Mère (The Conflict, The Woman and The Mother) just released stateside after major success in France, expresses attitude towards motherhood that seems positively Betty Draperish in comparison with the dirty diaper Salem witch trials we're sadly used to here in the states at this point. She argues that there is no such thing as "maternal instincts" and the degree to which some women devote their lives and selves to their children is damaging for both. Her response when confronted with the term "Mommy Wars"? "Ah, quelle horror!"

Refreshingly, mommy bloggers seem to be getting sick of it as well. Jen Singer of writes: "It's time to end the Mommy Wars "How about we all stop arguing over which mom works harder and whether or not Ann Romney worked at all and who bakes a better cookie, Hillary Clinton or Barbara Bush?" Katie Allison Granju of concurs: ""So who's with me? Who will join my proposed campaign of non-violent resistance against the mommy wars?" Perhaps this foreshadows an idyllic future of playing peacefully on the playground together without going all Carnage on each others' asses. Sounds nice.

'French feminist, Time magazine fire latest shots in Mommy Wars' [National Post]

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