Victoria Watts is 23, a single mother of two and a "renewed virgin." She had sex for the first time when she was 16, but always felt guilty about bumpin' uglies outside of marriage. She says the first time you have sex with a husband is "one of the greatest fulfillments" in a woman's life. "My [future] husband deserves a whole person." Jesus Christ. Literally! Watts is the granddaughter of a pastor and the daughter of an assistant pastor. (So it's through prayer that she's a virgin again.) Writes Brian Alexander: "But is it really possible to reclaim your virginity? If it is, what does it mean to be a virgin in the first place? And what does it mean to 'lose' one's virginity?" Good questions! If it's lost, can it be found? Leave it to the Pregnancy Resource Center of Northeast Ohio (where Watts now works) to sum up what it means to have sex before marriage: Its website asks, "Have you already unwrapped the priceless gift of virginity and given it away?" (Uh, yes. Tore off the paper and ribbons and played with it 'til it just about broke, just like kids do on Christmas morning!)
Continues the site:
Do you now feel like 'second-hand goods' and no longer worthy to be cherished? Do you ever wish you could re-wrap it and give it only to your future husband or wife? Guess what? You can decide today to commit to abstinence, wrapping a brand-new gift of virginity to present to your husband or wife on your wedding night.
They're pitching the idea of virginity as a concept. Laura M. Carpenter, a writer and an assistant professor of sociology at Vanderbilt University says, "In America... You can remake yourself. That has been deeply ingrained in the culture for a long time. So why not virginity?" Victoria Watts is a "spiritual virgin," but some women opt for surgical revirginization — in which the remnants of the hymen are "repaired." Dr. Denise Baker, who performs 100 of the procedures a year, says, "One patient of mine gave it to her husband as an anniversary gift." Why is an intact vagina a "present"? Is sex only meaningful when dudes get all Star Trek and boldly go where no man has gone before? Does Jesus give a shit about your hymen?