Are You Sitting Down? Barry Manilow Has Come Out As Gay

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Photo: Getty

This is like when a celebrity dies and you think, “I thought they died years ago.” Barry Manilow, master of the piano and the art of easy-listening, has finally admitted in public that he is gay. Manilow is 73.


For an interview with People, Manilow opened the doors of his Palm Springs home, but most importantly his heart. In the piece, the singer-songwriter discusses his 39-year relationship with Garry Kief, who was a television executive when they met. Kief is now Manilow’s manager and the president of Barry Manilow Productions. The pair married in 2014, which is one reason why you may feel like you’ve heard this one before, but this is the first time Manilow is explicitly acknowledging their relationship in the press.

39 years without public acknowledgement! If you’re ever curious about the unique burdens gay people continue to face, imagine being with someone for four decades and never being comfortable enough to acknowledge your commitment to strangers.

(In the piece, Manilow also touches on his first marriage [to a woman]. On Susan Deixler, his high school sweetheart and ex-wife, Manilow says, “I was in love with Susan, I just was not ready for marriage.”)

News of Manilow and Kief’s wedding effectively outed the singer. Regarding why he stayed closeted for so long, Manilow told People, “I thought I would be disappointing them if they knew I was gay. So I never did anything.”

Babe, you wrote and sang “Copacabana.”

Babe, while accompanying Bette Midler at the infamous gay bathhouse the Continental Baths, you “like the bathhouse patrons, sometimes wore only a white towel.”


Babe, you basically announced you were a friend of Dorothy when you performed a virtual duet with Judy Garland at Clive Davis’s pre-Grammys party last year.

Babe, people already had an idea.

But whatever, hindsight is 20/20 and these things take time to get used to, no matter how silly that might seem on the outside. Regardless, it all worked out for Manilow, a rich white gay man. “When [fans] found out that Garry and I were together, they were so happy,” he said. “The reaction was so beautiful — strangers commenting, ‘Great for you!’ I’m just so grateful for it.”


Looks like he made it.

Some Pig. Terrific. Radiant. Humble.



Yeah you said it well when you mentioned “the unique burdens gay people continue to face” because the older us gays are, the further back our sense of “it’s not safe to come out” is, the harder to come out it is. I didn’t come out until I was 35. There’s a lot of burden of mental health on older gays. Even when you’re way beyond the point of “everybody knows” you can still feel catastrophically trapped and suffocated and unable to free yourself.