<![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Lady Skittlehattington:
OMFG, I just did a literal spit take, brava!

virtuallin

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> blasphemy! fucking George Clooney (in my dreams) never gets boring!

meli

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc:
Funny you'll say that 'relationship damaged' shit. It's exactly what I think most of the time when I meet regular couples.


raspberryjamba

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc:
The sex average age thingy is way old studies. There are much recent nvestigations that show men and women "peak" (whatever the fuck that means) in their teenage years.


raspberryjamba

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Yes! I can tell you from personal experience that this is definitely true. I know personal experience is not significant on a general level (I do study statistics), but I definitely spent all of high school fighting any urges and feeling like I 'should' be a prude and such. I didn't even masturbate because that would be 'bad'. I think this socialization has A LOT to do with how men and women act sexually. A lot more than most people would admit.

fortunately now I am a sexually liberated college girl and I couldn't care less if people want to put me down or judge me for wanting sex..

femalemathmajor

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Miss-Pringle: @Xavoc:

I'm in a really REALLY happy open marriage. The difference between what we do and what cheaters do is that, just like lolacat said, we can be honest. But a lot of people can't figure this whole thing out. I find that a lot of guys who would bone me if I were cheating on my husband will stop flirting after I tell them that my husband is fine with it.

If "chronic male horniness" was true, then how would Mr. Travel Writer explain that?

raspberryjamba

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @minesbigger:
I think I shall bone George Clooney twice a day starting tomorrow, and report on any feelings of boredom that might or might not arise after two years, in the interest of science.


raspberryjamba

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Miss-Pringle: Well, I'm not saying are. Just the ones I've met... I haven't met a transgendered person that wasn't still just as screwed up after their surgery as before. Just different issues.

Perhaps you'll find someone who can keep up with you and meet your needs, or perhaps you won't. Either way it's really your life, and you're the one who has to be happy living it. (Obviously)

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Lady Skittlehattington: "arts and motherfucking crafts."

Price. Less.

Rooo sez BISH PLZ

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: maybe I'm relationship damaged, then, or a wreck in the making, because I do not believe that one individual, no matter how wonderful, studly, loving, etc., could completely satisfy my sexual longings for the rest of my born days.

Miss-Pringle

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Miss-Pringle: I'm not poly, and the open relationship bit doesn't work for me. I do know a few poly folk, and a few open relationship people as well.

I've seen some very happy people come together, and I've seen some very happy people be destroyed when one member of the open relationship refused to honor the pre-set agreement.

Somehow most of the poly folk I've met can only be best described as, relationship damaged. They have all had underlying issues that prevent them from being able to fully trust one individual with meeting their needs. This doesn't apply to everyone, merely the ones I've personally met.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @lolacat(ΩΜ): absolutely. In an open relationship, you have to trust that the partnership is stronger than short-lived passions. Which must be hard as hell if the stray-er is flagrant about it, but in the very long term might result in a stronger relationship. Or not. Would love to hear from people who have been there, but that's just not the Jez demographic.

Miss-Pringle

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Miss-Pringle: I don't care what consenting adults do. However, I am a believer that if fidelity is part of the contract you struck - Then man-up (or, as the case may be, woman-up).

It isn't that different than lying. People in a "open" relationship haven't made any such promises. The distinction is that they have specifically negotiated an open clause in their contract. The other party gets to decide if that is a relationship that they can live with. It is an open and honest negotiation between adults who respect each other. Cheaters who do it under cover do not respect their SO's.

lolacat(ΩΜ)

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @crazycatlady: sorry, way late, but I think it's because so many people use fidelity as an absolute indicator of true and enduring love that they could not conceive of formalizing a relationship with an "open" clause at its very beginning.

Miss-Pringle

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @missmam: Really- where did you read that?

lolacat(ΩΜ)

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @It'stheRooo:

The exact same post as earlier (except the Judgey part b/c that may be mean?):

Huh? Do you really want to put any of the blame of cheating on the spouse who was capable of fidelity? When you know NOTHING about it? I'm stopping there because there is a world of nit-picking I could do with this assumption.

lolacat(ΩΜ)

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> It's obvious that this guy's wife cheated on him because he made it clear that he was going to cheat on her anyway.

missmam

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Ellabella: I'm not calling you names, just calling out your post- which did seem to say something different. But, I understand your point.

I speak from experience- relationship breakdowns can and often are the fault of one person entirely. A good example is cheating. If you enter into a monogamous relationship where fidelity is required and you cheat- You are the cause of the relationship breakdown. Doubtful anyone held a gun to her head and forced her to cheat. Cheating is a conscious and active decision. Cheaters ought to take responsibility for their actions. (And- I hold cheaters in the same view as I hold despicable, disloyal friends- it is an act of betrayal by someone you trust implicitly.) There is no excuse except selfish cowardice.

I get it happens. I don't care what other people do- this is my opinion of cheating as it pertains to me.

Now- I agree with the dork comment. I absolutely disagree with his chronic male horniness theory. Utter crap. Same rationale as applies above- Don't promise a S.O. fidelity if you don't intend to follow through. Just a bunch of crap behavior out of people who ought to know better - and likely do.

As for taking it as fact that she cheated and he didn't- just taking the facts as they are presented to me.

I don't think I'd like either of these two IRL.

lolacat(ΩΜ)

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> "His wife cheated on him, which came as a shock, because Sachs always figured, "I always thought I'd be the one who'd fuck it up."""

Cause? Meet effect.

*rolleyes*

Rooo sez BISH PLZ

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @hortense:
Of course I was not referring to ALL men, just the masters of douchebaggery featured today.


saysaudrabarkley

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Crap. I meant to say "why should you make him feel guilty if he looks at another woman." Well you get the picture.

stealthird

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @zivah: I agree. Personally I like Dan Savage's idea that while women can and should expect a man to be monogamous, they shouldn't expect monogamy to be easy for a man. You don't want to feel guilty if you happen to think of other guys, so why should you feel guilty if he looks at or thinks of another woman? I kind of like the idea that I would let my man have one night stands now and then, provided that they are ONE NIGHT STANDS, nothing on going and not more than once with the same girl, and that I don't find out about it. I like it in theory, I don't know how I'd feel if it actually happened...but it seems like a guy might feel less scared of committment if you let him know he can have a one-nighter now and then. Just no cuddling.

stealthird

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: I'd just like to thank you for helping me differentiate between exceptions and the rule. I was so confused before. Thank you, thank you, thank you. And also for learnin me on all the sex stuff...

Ellabella

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @rocknrollunicorn: hahahaha

This is awesome. I'm totally using this now. 'I'm just feeling a little rocknrollunicorn right now' works in so many ways.

Gundam_Halo

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @lolacat(ΩΜ): I suppose when a relationship fails I want to put the blame on both parties, regardless of who cheated. I didn't mean to imply that it was his fault she cheated. Though nobody took such incredulous issue with his implication that the dissolution of the marriage was entirely her fault. Plus I think he's a dork based on that post... But call me what you want. I've certainly been called worse.

Ellabella

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Ellabella: Huh? Judgey McJudgerson? Do you really want to put any of the blame of cheating on the spouse who was capable of fidelity? When you know NOTHING about it? I'm stopping there because there is a world of nit-picking I could do with this assumption.

lolacat(ΩΜ)

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> My boyfriend has what I call a PWE "perpetually wandering eye", whereas I, for whatever reason, only have eyes for him. Ideally, I would prefer that our lusty diversions were more in synch; however, I have come to accept that other women are nothing more than a five second diversion. If I took issue enough to chew him out, or attempted to oppress it, the result could be the sort of crap behaviour detailed above.

secretspygirl

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @snarkhunting: Damn it! I can't type even when I'm being snarky. I meant "dig yourself IN that much faster."

as in dig yourself into a big fuckin' hole from whence there is no escape, the better for the pointing and laughing on our end.

snarkhunting

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Dude, just invest in a backhoe, seriously. You'll dig yourself that much faster.

I could point to all kinds of evidence regarding the socialization men as "sexual" and women as "frigid" to answer your "evidence," but the fact is, others here have probably already done it, and I have better things to do than educate the ignorant on the internet. Really. I swear.

snarkhunting

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: I think this is good stuff. There are lots of reasons why sex in a relationship tends to sort of ebb and flow. Sometimes these reasons are the direct result of something one or both partners can fix, like affection or communication or stress or prioritizing time for sex. Other times it could just be some bitch of a job working one partner to the bone and keeping him tired all the time. (Not that this wife of a resident knows *anything* about that)

Bottom line is: I'm agreeing with you. Sex in a relationship ebbs and flows, but if the ebb lasts too long, it might be time to look for something causing a problem elsewhere which is spilling over into the sex life.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Lady Skittlehattington: Do you do arts and crafts with the balls? Do you make them into something pretty? Because that would be really cool. And possibly marketable.

Ellabella

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @hortense: My pleasure, Horty.

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Don't worry Adam, your wife did cheat, but I'm still pretty sure you were the one who fucked it up...

Ellabella

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @TeenageGangDeb: LOL. Yep!

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @MsDirector: on a related note, as someone who has had non-exclusive relationships, i just want to say that 'non-exclusive' does not mean 'less meaningful' or 'less legitimate.'

this pisses me off to no end. it's a choice the person i love and i have made, and that choice should be respected.

k122n

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @exelizabeth:

Get off your high-horse, he's laughing at you.

PeteRR

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Jan74: "It is evidence that it is more socially acceptable for men to express their sex drives."

I guess I do agree with that.

I think what you're saying is that when a woman decides to escape what society expects, she can always find an equally willing male to do it with, because the societal + cultural expectations are not the same for him.

Hmm.

PeteRR

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @DirtyThirtiesDenizen: That is an interesting episode, but one person undergoing rather unusual hormonal circumstances does not a case-study make.

exelizabeth

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @crazycatlady: Pair bonding and possessiveness? I pair-bond with anyone I fuck, so there goes casual sex for me.

Brigit

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Stop. Just stop. You are embarrassing yourself and making the women laugh at you.

As we discussed yesterday, that is what men fear most. Generally.

exelizabeth

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @TeenageGangDeb: Sorry, not going to discuss that here. Thank you for understanding.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> thanks roodles for the book suggestion; who's the author? i've been looking for something to contend with geoffrey miller's "the mating mind" for a while now.

leggsluthor

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @hortense: Mea culpa, I shall shut my mouth now.

TeenageGangDeb

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Sophie: you don't need a man for an orgasm
and sex with no orgasm is still great

crazycatlady

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: So when you told me that I was intolerant and had to watch a David Spade comedy about pissing off feminists to "learn tolerance", you were trying to help?

TeenageGangDeb

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: @Xavoc: I'm going to ask that this conversation be taken into private message territory. Thank you.

hortense

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Um yeah I think about having sex with nearly every semi-attractive man I see. I don't call that "chronic female horniness," I call that "being rocknrollunicorn."

rocknrollunicorn

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: Right, because I have information on a subject, and like to help people I'm creepy. If some people find me creepy, that isn't really my issue.

If you cannot take what I have to say at face value without feeling I have some sort of ulterior motive, then feel free to skip over anything I post.

Or are only the people that you like allowed to be here?

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Miss-Pringle: if sex is just sex, and commitment and love is another; how come there aren't more open relationships/marriages?

crazycatlady

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SedateMe: The old folks that are not getting any.

Trashtastic

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: It's not about merit or whatever you're trying to make it.

You're acting like the Great Dicked Philosopher on All Things Sex Related while being CREEPY as hell. It's not a matter of disagreement.

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Who is that man? He is giving me the creeps with his douche stare.

LookyLoo

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: Thank you for your honest assessment.

I will have to disagree with you, but I'm OK with that. I don't have to agree with a person on everything to evaluate whater what they're saying has merit or truth.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> I can't think of a single case of a serial cheater, one that I've known personally, in which their true nature wasn't blatantly obvious.

I think it's an indelible part of human nature that everyone seeks to maximize their social status. For some people, that means they always chase after the most apparently desirable mate, which they determine based on the quantity of other people who are also attracted to their target.

If you marry such a person and then eliminate their access to the adoring crowd, you're lowering their social status. So they'll inevitably cheat on you to restore it.

TexasP

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: Oh and you're creepy

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR:

It is evidence that it is more socially acceptable for men to express their sex drives. Women can't, or they are tainted. They have low self-esteem and mental problems. Read Slut Machine's recent post about that.

Jan74

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Dude's a weirdo. I love the over-generalizing.."all men are this..." Really?! "Cause I know lots of men who are happily couple and don't cheat.

Just because he hasn't found a woman to fall in love with, why should he be all of womenhoods problem?

Stay at home and jerk off if no one woman will ever be enough for you.

Intimacy issues, emotionally immature blah blah boring. Get over it already and live life!

brassinpocket

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: Cuz guys like you are creepy. You troll websites like this one and try and tell us how women think and feel and all about how to have a relationship. You're creepy. You go into sex threads and try to give us your "wisdom." You're creepy. Not to mention insult some of the women here with your remarks. Aaaaannd....you're creepy.

*don't even GET me started on your views of the Sean Bell case either.

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: But it is societally acceptable for men to have a sex drive. Until recently, the same has not been true for woman. Post sexual revolution, there has been growth of sex toys for woman, etc.

treecut...will cut a beech

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @quietcal: When we outlaw chocolate cake, only outlaws will have chocolate cake.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: Is there a reason you're so venemous towards me?

I've actually never had a reproductive health class. I graduated before they existed where I was raised. I do actively educate myself about sex however, so I'm not sure where you are basing your sarcasm from other than yes there are exceptions to rules.

Peaks have nothing to do with whether a young woman can be horny, or an old man can be. It is simply the bioligical peak (average age) in which they feel the most interested in such activity. There are various sources, and if you want to speak strictly Kinsey the sexual peak of a woman isn't until she's about 55.

Personally, I feel I have a larger than average sex drive, but I am not able to maintain the pace and frequence that I could 10 years ago when I was about the age of 18. Part of that is physical condition, part of it is change in body chemistry/age, and part of it is the difference in my lifestyle.

Do you have an issue with offering information here because I'm not female?

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @hortense: preesh... and while a good many dudes can be total fucktards, I'd like to think the majority of the male readership is hear to either be entertained (I watch The Hills, ANTM and such and enjoy dishing on them) or like xavoc said, to try and freaking learn something.

THE hoi polloi

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> First one douchebag compared rape to chocolate cake, now this douchebag equates cheating to chocolate cake. Can't we leave chocolate cake out of it? Chocolate cake is good and pure, and these guys obviously do not deserve cake of any kind.

quietcal

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> I don't know about a lowered sex drive being indicative of bigger problems with intimacy.

Example: A few years ago, the girlfriend of one of my best friends (a dude) was raped in her apartment by two strangers who followed her home. Did they stop having sex? Yes. For a very long time. Did they stop loving each other? Not by a long shot.

Of course, not every couple that goes through a dry spell does so because of trauma. But there are those that do. And it's normal for people in committed relationships to go through dry spells even without some traumatic incident. Consistency is not a human trait.

I think that if you really love and value someone as a part of your life, you are open to the idea of supporting them through an issue that might be affecting your sex life.

TeenageGangDeb

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Possibly TMI:
My gentleman friend has an extremely high libido (almost excessive adolescent-level masturbation is engaged in of the frequency that other men are wowed by), but he'd never even entertain the thought of going elsewhere with it, not even to a strip club. Guess it just depends on whether you're a sleaze or not.

trikitixa

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> crap! i did it wrong. :(

sorry, guys.

robot ninja spy, of the guild of calamitous intent

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: Bullshit. That's what you learned in health class.

Young women and old men can both be horny and the whole "peak" thing is BS. But you're the sex expert!

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: No, constant avaliability doesn't prove that men have a higher sex drive. Culture plays way to big a role in shaping adult behavior. Women aren't supposed to put up one night stands ads on craig's list, that's dirty and bad, so they generally don't but if one appears it would get flooded. And on top of slut shamming are the greater physical risks of sex for women (pregnancy, more susceptible to STIs) so women have rational reasons to fight a high sex drive that men don't.

The idea that women are less sexually than men is a relatively new one. In the Middle Ages there was a strong belief that women were MORE sexual and were trying to pull men down to their level.

You can't prove what came first, the chicken or the egg. And we can't classify genders like this- there is too much individual variability.

clevernamehere

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: italics Thanks! italics

robot ninja spy, of the guild of calamitous intent

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: As you age, you will not have a constantly available sex drive. On average men peak at about 18, women peak at about 30.

They're just a little behind you.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @myrtlebeachbum: I am horniest after a big fight. HOT

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @robot ninja spy:

<i>italics</i> = italics

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: best explanation ever.

Charlotte Corday

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @hortense: Careful with your generalizations there!

I prefer the term feminine hygiene product.

[ps,the menz who try to not be assholes thank you]

redheadedstepchild

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @myrtlebeachbum: Some personality types communicate better by fighting. The problem arises if they have a partner whose communication style can't deal with it.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @clevernamehere:

But isn't the idea of "constant availability" the very evidence for a higher sex drive in men?

BTW, A higher sex drive than your SO is no excuse to cheat. Either you "handle" things within your relationship, you learn to live with the imbalance, or you leave. Cheating is cheating, and unfair, and corrosive to any relationship, sexual or otherwise.

PeteRR

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @freakalina:

My favorite stand-up comedian does a routine about why he prefers his wife ask him that, but he'd never ever ask her that. Cause he knows what she is thinking, when she is just looking at him in silence: "Gee he is ugly. Ugly and fat. Ugly, and fat, and bald. My mom was right, I should have held out for something better. At least someone that was ugly but took care of himself, you know. Someone who got highlights."

I love how he addresses retrosexual male insecurity when faced with the new metrosexual men.

Jan74

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: Loving someone does not mean you have a great relationship, or that other parts of the relationship do not suffer due to sexual issues. I think it is great when partners work to overcome these items.

As a man, the humblest thing I've ever read as far as a man loving a woman, was a paraplegic's description of what he endured to conceive a child with his wife. (It's the medical equivilant of taking a taser to your bait and tackle.) Also along with what he has to do in order to simply have sex with his wife.

For the average person, sex is integral to the relationship. Exceptions happen, but they are not the rule.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @myrtlebeachbum: Yeah, I've heard that too. But I've also heard that I didn't call that a non suffering sex life.

redheadedstepchild

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: If a sexlife is important enough to be suffering, then it's probably affecting the relationship.

redheadedstepchild

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> As someone who doesn't think monogamy is natural FOR ME (sorry; haven't figured out italics) can I say I get really annoyed when people on either side of the debate insist that monogamy OR polyamory are stupid/unnatural. We are each different.

robot ninja spy, of the guild of calamitous intent

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: And some couples can go to war with each other and still fuck each other's brains out every day b/c that's the only connection they have to cling to at that particular point in time.

Or so I hear.

myrtlebeachbum

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: absolutely. but if the sex isn't good at least some of the time, i for one, will get bored.

Charlotte Corday

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @hortense: Thank you. Just because we may have a different view, does not mean we are unwilling to consider other viewpoints, ideas, and that we do not want to educate ourselves further.

If I didn't want to learn I wouldn't be here, and I learn something new every day, or get pointed in directions on where to go educate myself. And sometimes I'm quite rightly told to go to hell here, which is a nice wake-up call to re-evaluate something I've said or done.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Charlotte Corday: Well, I'm saying that some people can be great partners and love each other to death and have sexual issues.

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: Are you saying that sex is not an integral way of expressing your feelings for your partner? Some people are OK in a sexless relationship, I'm willing to be that most people are not.

Sex, is as much a part of communication between partners as talking, or body language. I also know very intimately that if my needs are not being met by my partner, that my relationship will suffer for it. Just as I know that if my sex drive takes a severe dive, I need to adjust my life because I'm harming my relationship.

Sex isn't the end-all-be-all of a relationship, but it is a very important part. Just as important as being able to spend time together, communicate effectively, and to have some common interests.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @CuffLinks: Whenever anyone spends that much time indemnifying themselves for bad behavior, that person is a douche and should be taken down.

She cheated, and their relationship had the no-cheating clause built in according to the outcome of that, but he's the one who was working out the entire framework to excuse himself in advance of doing the same damn thing.

Both of these people are winners.

JennaW, Internet Tough Girl

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> also, that johns site is fascinating.

Charlotte Corday

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SinisterRouge: umm, i know that in my relationship, no sex means no intimacy in other areas. not good.

Charlotte Corday

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Y'know, in certain species of animals, females fuck multiple males (even in monogamous relationships) because they want the highest chance of getting pregnant.

So y'know what? EVERYONE likes to fuck around.

I would totally cheat on that douchebag anyways. Go wifey.

gluecake

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> I got a newfound respect for the power of testosterone from a "This American Life" episode on the topic. In the episode, a female to male transgendered person talks about the radical effect that the testosterone injections had on the libido. Shortly after commencing the testosterone therapy, he found himself aggressively lusting over every single woman he saw. He said his mind would instantly conjure explicit pornographic images about every woman he saw.

Not to make excuses for douchebaggery, but there actually is a biochemical basis for "chronic male horniness."

DirtyThirtiesDenizen

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @roodles: Precisely. Oh, the poor mens must sperminate everywhere so their DNA lives on. Blah blah blah, shut up!

Nobody points out that, if that is true, women have the same need to secure exceptional DNA for their offspring. The guy they are with might not be "biologically" the best.

So who could blame us if we wander a bit looking for the strongest, fastest, smartest male specimen. Of course, it's all for breeding purposes, therefore subliminal and women can't fight it.

JaneBadall

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Keep in mind that this "chronic male horniness" is something this guy THOUGHT he'd succumb to but didn't. His wife was the one who cheated.

So I'm not sure where all this hate is coming from.

CuffLinks

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @saysaudrabarkley: You know what else is bullshit, though? This "men aren't intellectual" stuff that comes up on these posts.

Not every male is a douchebag. My dad, my boyfriend, my best friend, and several male readers on this site are very evident proof of this.

hortense

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Gundam_Halo: No worries. Carry on!

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: How in the hell would you know that if someone's sex life is suffering so is their relationship?

SinisterRouge

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SarahMC: Yep! There is huge truth to what you say here. What many people miss is where they ask their partner how they can help alleviate the problem, because so many people cannot openly discuss sex. If your sex life is suffering, so is another part of your relationship. At that point both parties need to step back and figure out how to re-adjust their lives to alleviate whatever it is that is harming the individual with the problem.

For many men lack of interest/low sex drive is a stress/diet issue. So, helping a person change their diet/lower their stress level (as a couple) will go a good way towards fixing things. It's just that there's a lack of good quality two-way communication between people. Fights are not always bad, sometimes it's just how how people communicate. We're raised in a manner these days that teaches us to avoid and shun conflict. Which means we don't enforce our needs and boundaries when choosing a mate.

If you have to write your feelings out in a blog and give your mate access to read them, then do it. Just find a way that works.

It isn't that women don't have high sex drives, it's that they're oppressed into thinking it's bad to have it.

Thank you for posting that.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Like Sarah Mc said, you are totally ignoring the socialization factor. And I know lots of girls in relationships where they have the higher sex drive, guys just don't tell other guys that.

Like Xavoc said, women just don't have to pay for it. If a man wants to see boobs, he's generally going to have to pay. If I had a burning desire to see cock, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't take me more than five minutes on a street corner to get some guy to whip it out. If I wanted to get laid in the next hour, all it would take is a phone call or a posting a Craig's List. You'd most likely have to pay for that. I think constantly avaliability, makes this kind of behavior just unnecessary for women.

clevernamehere

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: Oh man, I need to start qualifying my posts with 'j/k' at the end of them from now on. I said on my next post I was joking. Go back to beating up PeteRR.

Gundam_Halo

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Men are intellectual? Seldom, but they do need to take responsibility for their wandering dicks. The "boys will be boys" bullshit should be buried once and for all.

saysaudrabarkley

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> This claim is how Joseph Smith started polygamy within Mormonism, y'all!

vivresavie17

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Remember that Almond dude from the other day who was all, "OMG, I have a Dude Self and a Dad Self? And back when I was only the Dude Self I looked at all celebutantes as fuckable nonsense? And now that I've procreated, I TOTALLY AM NOT A DOUCHE ANYMORE? Because I'm a dude? And I have a PENIS? And these sort of things are INCONTROVERTIBLE evidence that all dudes have URGES? Also, penis?"

Which is weird, because the men I prefer to spend my time with are perfectly reasonable human beings who don't let their dongs do the thinking. I'm a woman, and I have all kinds of urges. F'rinstance, I have a strong urge to shut down my workstation right now, go home, and have margaritas. I'm not going to ACT on that because I am a GROWNUP.

Sheez. Can we all just act like humans? With cerebrums? In the year 2008? Male or female, we all have responsibilities and the ability to reason, and we don't have to act on our every urge. There's no "chronic male horniness" any more than there is "chronic god I don't feel like being at work right now" or "chronic I'm going to skip this busywork and go eat cake."

tscheese

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Exactly! I mean, it couldn't have anything to do with the centuries of male dominance and socialization of women not to own their sexuality.

JennaW, Internet Tough Girl

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: You are ignorant.
The existance of all those things you listed is evidence that our patriarchal society provides a lot of sexual outlets for men whilst very few for women. There is a HUGE sexual double standard. And if you read Jezebel often you'd get a lot of stories about boyfriends/husbands with low sex drives and/or lack of interest in sex. The women are quite frequently the partners with the HIGHER sex drive in relationships.

I am not saying it's 50/50 equal, but nurture is as much to blame as nature when it comes to how the sexes express their sexuality.


SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Gundam_Halo: Let's put this in a perspective you can understand.

Women can have sex whenever they want. It may not be with whom they want, but they can have it. They are the deciding gender in whether or not you get laid.

Now, apply that reasoning to anything you say to any woman you might want to have interested in seeing your penis. You'll go a long way to keep this in mind.

Having a penis, is not a blank check to want to fuck everything in sight. Real men have standards that they adhere to and abide by. If you do something to violate those standards, it's your fault, and you openly accept the consequences of that action.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Xavoc: @clevernamehere: Good points, both of you, and duly noted.

deserter

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @deserter: I agree that when someone cheats, the cheated on needs to look at their own behavior, but I think a lot of that is "how did I make such a bad choice of a partner?" There are people who would never, ever stray. There are people who know monogomy wouldn't work for them, so they don't do it, and then there are people who cheat.

clevernamehere

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> I had thought the qualifier "generally" covered my statement sufficiently. Of course not every man is hornier than every woman, but the evidence for men being hornier is self-evident.

Strip clubs, massage parlors, escort agencies, street level prostitution, gloryholes, and of course porn, are providing a product consumed overwhelmingly by men. That product in many cases is illegal, so the consumer risks fines, jail time, and the social stigma of being caught. When it isn't illegal, it's generally expensive.

Where is the concomitant evidence for women being so driven by their sex drives? Not to mention women can go through periods when their sex drives disappear. This can happen to men, commencing generally when they've died.

PeteRR

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @myrtlebeachbum: If you're really that desperate to be able to fuck other people just marry someone with multiple personalities. Duh!

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> I've seen every kind of hooker going--classy hotel incalls, quickies, all nighters, girls who are brilliant and totally together and are just doing it for a year long lark and extra cash, siliconed strippers who show up totally high and bore you with their coke rant, and others keep telling you they are about to graduate school and quit the biz, only to see their online ads for years to come. Mostly it's fine, sometimes a blessing, sometimes depressing a little, but I love the simplicity of it.

I'm sorry, what part of that isn't depressing again?

Dez.demona

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @funnyface: Ah, I see. Just a tip from an old married whore. Carry on.

myrtlebeachbum

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @myrtlebeachbum: You just made me giggle and blush.

He HAS one, he just doesn't let it make all his decisions. Much like his dick.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @deserter: This statement is a bit akin to blaming Spitzer's wife for Spitzer spending $4400 on a prostitute.

Regardleess of why she cheated, or how, she still broke the covenant of marriage that she had agreed upon, and he had not. There is nothing there at all to lead you to believe that he was the cause of her infidelity.

Even if he hadn't been meeting her needs, or whatever. She didn't end the relationship first before going elsewhere.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SouthernSatine: @mbprice: Fetchez la vache!

@myrtlebeachbum: Did you ever know that you're my hero? You're everything I wish I could be...

MsDirector

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @clevernamehere: I do mostly agree with you... perhaps I didn't present it that well.

How I feel about it is: Yes, it is her fault for cheating, and she shouldn't be absolved for that; it is her responsibility to live with the ramifications of her behavior.

However, even with an event as sucky as being cheated on, it can and should ideally serve as a reality check that gets you to think about your own behavior. I am not saying it is his fault, but I don't think cheating occurs in a vacuum, either, and I think it rarely happens in an entirely happy relationship (although there are always exceptions.)

Ultimately, I don't think that his attitude will serve him well in future relationships, and I don't think it offers a good example to people struggling with these issues who may read this article. That is the reason I am criticizing him.

deserter

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @lolacat(ΩΜ): lol. I think men want to believe they are hornie* as justification for when woman turn then down. It's not THEM, it's the female sex drive of course. *puke*

Rebecca, in China

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> He sounds like my ex-boyfriend. My ex-boyfriend claimed he just hung out with another girl while the 2 were naked. Then again he also quoted "Free Bird" before all 3 break-ups (the first 2 I was obviously using poor judgment to take him back)

BoredButNoLongerInNH

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Rhody: me too! was he also a chronic-drinker with a mother complex and bad taste in shoes?

mynamebackwards

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SarahMC: That's true, but it's also true that the few johns who apparently do have a problem with trafficking - and who call in tips - represent a rather large proportion of the tips authorities receive. This may, of course, say more about the difficulty of enforcing anti-trafficking laws than anything else.

zivah

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @HeatherNumber1: you said it sister. The must-follow-where-penis-leads defence It's a total panacea for all sexual problems, it rationalizes rape (you provoked me with your dress and teasing), adultery (temptation drove me to it or "I know you're 9 months pregnant but I have needs too!"), even pedophilia of priests occasionally (I was celibate and had to release my sublimated urges onto alter boys). Men are supposed to be the most rational,powerful creatures on this planet and they're completely at the whim of their junkage? Don't believe the hype, ladies.

roodles

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @myrtlebeachbum: You my dear are a true southern lady.

BlondeGrlz

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: You're really not helping this discussion.

Either you do, or do not keep your dick in your pants until an appropriate time (and partner) is available, and willing, to tend to your needs in return for you tending to theirs.

The sheer number of women who are raped and/or abused is staggaring, so stating that you can't help it, because you're male, really isn't a valid excuse in their eyes, and the eyes of anyone male who bothers to educate themselves.

Throwing your life, relationship, whatever, away for a night in the sack with random person is a pretty pathetic and selfish thing to do.

Plus, I can guarantee I've met women who are far hornier than you, that still exercise control daily because they respect themselves, and their partner/s.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @mbprice: You said swallows...I know I hate myself, too...

KittensMcgee

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @myrtlebeachbum: HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! You dirty bitch.

Lady Skittlehattington

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @funnyface: If your husband doesn't have an asshole, y'all are missing out on some wicked good fun, trust.

myrtlebeachbum

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @goldenmonkey: Well, you know what you want, and I'm sure you make it clear, so that's fine. What I'm saying is, I don't expect my husband never to sleep around. I do expect him to stick around, though, till death do us part. And if he breaks that one I'll get out the pinking shears.

Miss-Pringle

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @deserter: I'm not willing to point a finger at this guy as the reason he cheated. Once you do that, you have to point the finger at everyone who is cheated on as partly to blame- including the overworked mom who isn't always up for sexy time because she devotes so much time to caring for her kids and never wants him to help.

When someone cheats, its their own fault. No one can drive you to it, its your own choice. Sure, there are reasons, but at the end of the day you made a choice to break your promise to be faithful and that's your responsibility.

clevernamehere

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @katastic: You just combined the greatest things in the world: Snark and Robots!

NerD!!!

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> I love that when it comes to relationships or even going about their day, men claim they are slaves to their dicks. But when it comes to high ranking positions in government and business, they don't dare let women emote all over the place.

HeatherNumber1

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Miss-Pringle: Monogamy strikes me as one of civilization's stupider ideas.

And guess what, Adam Sachs! Chronic horniness afflicts ladies, too! As a sufferer myself, I can tell you that CH is not, as you claim, a disease of the brain, but of the body. The "disease" for which so many of your bretheren want a get-out-of-jail-for-free card is called Refusal To Take Responsibility For Your Actions. And it's not a disease at all. It's just laziness.

cassie-la-barraque

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Dude, in the future follow these simple guidlines: Type, read, re-read, erase, think about what you just typed, try again, delete and enjoy the other comments. I promise, the less of a douchtard you come across as, the more enjoyable the site. Food for thought.

THE hoi polloi

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SouthernSatine: I fart in your general direction!

mbprice

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: We don't understand boy words like "general," "average," "longer," and "broader." See above for tips on reframing your argument in terms of Jennifer Aniston's chocolate love-kitten.
Meanwhile, could you explain more about how sexual attraction works? Because that is outside of our collective feminine experience.

bisitun

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @deserter: Thanks for bringing this up. I got all benty-benty over the CMH thing that I glossed over the cheating part.

Miss Smith Drank Your Vodka

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @mbprice: African or European? Sorry, I couldn't resist.

SouthernSatine

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @katastic: I guess your boyfriends really know how to push your buttons, then!!!

Ya know... cuz you're a robot...

I'm done.

mbprice

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Miss-Pringle: I don't even require marriage for sexual fidelity. If you want to be fucking other people in addition to me, stay the hell away from me. Problem solved! And I did actually sort of "cheat" once. That was a terrible experience. Anyone who gets caught and does it again is a serious scummy heartless motherfucker. I mean if you see the aftermath and continue to behave that way...there's something severely wired wrong in your brain.

goldenmonkey

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @funnyface: I'm planning on doing that as well-with mine of course.

Brigit

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @zivah: Sadly, there was a survey published by The Guardian last year that revealed a shockingly low number of johns / potential johns cited "knowing she'd been trafficked or forced" as something that'd deter them from hiring a prostitute.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> Preface: I feel kind of bad for this guy, because his wife cheated on him and all.

But maybe, just maybe, it had something to do with the fact that he didn't recognize her as an equal human being subject to the same urges as himself, and treated her sexuality as something ever so much less important than his and not worth satisfying? Or maybe it could be his sense of entitlement and the implication that he deserves some sort of medal for not giving into his primal urges?

I'm just saying, maybe his wife is just a complete bitch, but more likely than not he needs to take a look in the mirror, which he will never do if this overblown analysis of his incredibly generic problem is any indication.

deserter

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU for posting this. I too read that article and couldn't believe the douchieness in the beginning. Sometimes I feel like men think that our vaginas are put there for their pleasure and child birth. I can't believe the shock on men's faces when I tell them 'Yes....sometimes a woman just likes to f*#@.' Its as if the world as they know it comes crashing down.

JouJou

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> I never, ever lust after other men when I'm in a committed relationship.
In related news, I am a robot who can type.


katastic

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @Sophie: I am obviously sleep-deprived and can't write for nothing, but too lazy to correct.

Sophie

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @SarahMC: that is douche personified, if I recognize correctly...isn't he that guy who had the Glamour blog that went all to hell?

misstr-ASSshan-ASS

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Really? You have got to be male. How long have you been celibate? Do you wanna know about the things I do the Ciaran Hinds in my head at night? Wanna compare horney notes. Cuz' I think you may be wrong.

lolacat(ΩΜ)

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: Hi, my name is Fact. Have we met yet?

Miss Smith Drank Your Vodka

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @roodles: Science being tainted by culture? Shocking! That never happens. I think a great testament to how powerful the human willpower and culture in curtailing women's sexual needs is amazing. There's a reason God made the female orgasm so difficult to find: In my experience I've kept looking for that shit like its the Holy Grail but once I find a partner that can make me orgasm, I hold on to him. Without culture, too many women would be running around searching for thier own Orgasm Partner. Or become lesbians.

Sophie

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @zivah: He has a penis. It comes w/ the territory.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @NefariousNewt: Um, you look like a robot. But that doesn't negate the comparison-- think about it.

andBegorrah

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @PeteRR: the longer I go without a douchebag the happier I am! And 'scuze me tool, women get horny just as much or more than men. Check out recent studies.

sybann

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @zivah: good point.

i guess i've only ever heard the same rationale from johns-- convenience and control. which says something very fucked up about their attitude to women.

Charlotte Corday

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @ineffable.me:
Don't forget asking men "What are you thinking". That one never get's old.

T. L. Morgendorffer

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]> @nicebrownboy: Puhleeze. Shiny things, my cozy bed, and Twix bars.

lolacat(ΩΜ)

]]> <![CDATA["Chronic Male Horniness" Is Not An Excuse For, Well, Anything]]>