<![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @GoodMorningAngels: Sorry. It means you articulated your point eloquently and I roundly agree. Better?

(It's the netspeak those kids are using these days. ;-))

Rooo sez BISH PLZ

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SleeplessNights: I don't know; I've lived in both the UK and US and I don't find British men that much more whiny about strong women specifically. The machismo is just different and it grates depending on what you're used to. I've always felt that British men are much better at giving and taking banter from women, for example, whereas the American men I encountered tended to get all wounded and snappy if a girl outsmarted or outwitted them. I've felt more at ease as a smart and unabashedly assertive woman in the UK than in the US--though of course the Brits are far less comfortable with assertiveness in general than Americans, which causes its own problems.

rah29

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Hamsterpants:

Yep, that is pretty much it! I lived in Britain for MANY years, and men either want to take it back to the 1950's TODAY (or in fact, never left that decade ANYWAY) or they expect you to stand on a chair and give them a lapdance if they agree that society is sexist.

My husband sulks and becomes impotent for days if I openly disagree with him. But I decided last week to divorce him, so it's all good now.

SleeplessNights

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Hmm, wonder what Kelis would have to say on this subject.

jess3

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I've been called controlling.

The thing they don't account for in these whineramas is why these independent and masculine he-men are choosing relationships with these succubi in the first place. The answer: mommy issues and a need to be dominated. But then, if they called it like it is, they wouldn't get sympathy from their mates (friends), they'd be accused of being pussies instead.

Whiny men? Just shut up and take your clothes off.

Stabby McStabberson

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Xavoc: But, see, in my experience the women on Jezebel *aren't* exceptions. Sure there are dumb girls, but I would say without hesitation that most of the women I have met in my life are well-informed, interesting people. To be honest, I find it really insulting when I'm told (as I have been many times) that I, or any of my friends, are not "like other women." And why? Because we don't dumb down?

I'm not trying to attack you, I'm just saying that that very attitude (from men and women)--"the women here aren't like other women"--is part of what perpetuates the stereotypes of dumb, unassertive women.

snarkhunting

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Haha, I say that every time somebody calls me bossy. "Fuck you, I'm ASSERTIVE"

GatorGirl

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> This is boring but important--- 2000 people is a statistically viable sample size. A survey of 2000 (properly, randomly selected w/o bias) will have the same results as a sample size of 2 million.

apple2gs

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Well, that's all very interesting.

Sometimes, though, I wonder if some folks, in their hurry to make up for being historically silenced and oppressed, overcompensate by developing an utter inability to admit that they might be wrong about something.

I mean, I'm all for people with strong personalities. But isn't your personality supposed to evolve? Are fluid identity structures superior to calcified ones?

braak

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @GoodMorningAngels: Let me clarify the above to head off an obvious complaint: I DEF think tons of women have "limited emotional vocabularies" as well. My point was more about suggesting that men have a particular problem when faced with a strong woman, because they've often had very little opportunity to learn a productive, egalitarian mode of interaction with women. (For that reason, I am VERY skeptical of all-boys education, but that's a different kettle of fish...)

GoodMorningAngels

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Le Kangourou de Kataroo is reading this sexy blog.: Isn't it amazing how much guys don't know how to do that? I think this actually speaks to blueberrypancakes' point about even the well-intentioned guys lacking the wherewithall to deal with a power structure other than one in which...they have all the power.

In college I dated a dude (who I met in a women's studies class... I'll leave that issue aside) who used to get withdrawn when we were having problems, and say I was imagining things if I asked about them--and when I called him on this pattern, he actually tried to say that I liked him precisely because he was "challenging." When I suggested there was a difference between being "challenging" in a productive way, and just being "manipulative," it was like a light bulb went on above his head... He had been trying his best, but literally the only two routes he could perceive were total capitulation, or being manipulative.

It was kind of sad to see how EXTREMELY limited his emotional vocabulary was...

GoodMorningAngels

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Yeah, well, the never wrong thing, my kids may have inherited that from me. j/k

I think we are more in agreement than not. Just a semantics thing.

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @It'stheRooo: I'm either a bit thick or a bit unhip (or...both)... but, is that a good thing or a bad thing?

GoodMorningAngels

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Xavoc: When men are trying to save face, they don't make a distinction between that to other men. I can't say I haven't done it, but I know that I work very hard not to do it.

Good to hear. I cringe when I hear a man complain about his wife. My dad used to complain about my mom all the time, but I knew the truth: he loved her bossiness and he'd be crying like a bitch if she'd ever left him. I just find it highly disrespectful to diss your spouse to your friends, be it hubbys about wife or wife about husband.

ceejeemcbeegee

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @haguenite: I was having the same problem when I tell guys about my businesses, so I started saying I was a teacher (which isn't technically a lie). Yeah, it's horribly un-femme of me, but a sista gotta eat. ;-)

ceejeemcbeegee

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Xavoc: Well, that's a damn good reason if I ever heard one.

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @nellicat: @ItchykooParker: I am all about nurturing and cuddling. I was referring more to solving a child's problems for them and failing to prepare them for life. AND, teaching them they can do no wrong/are never wrong.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Le Kangourou de Kataroo is reading this sexy blog.: It's code for "you see thru my bullshit, and since that's all I have in my arsenal to get laid, that scares me".

ceejeemcbeegee

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Well, that a new 'un. Stop the presses! People required to behave like civilized grown-ups in order to function in society. Not fair! I feel "handcuffed" by the requirements of society that I go to work every day instead of following my heart by sitting in front of the TV playing Jak and Daxter with a bottle of Coke and some Salt and Vinegar pringles. Stupid society.

...which they say American scholars have termed a "menaissance."

Marin Frist from Men in Trees is the most reputable American scholar they could find?

Dalinae

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blackbirdfly: Eh, there are good reasons why I'm divorced, that is simply one of many.

Yeah, really the best thing you can do is state up front that you need the guy to tell you in no uncertain terms if he feels that you are being unfair or "bitchy".

@snarkhunting: Most of the women I've found on Jez tend to be a different breed of female. They have strong informed opinions, work hard to educate themselves and others, and actively want to better themselves. I'm not suprised that men find a good number of them intimidating. It's because they're quality women worth dating.

@andBegorrah: You'd have to duck a bit lower than 5'2" for that I think.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @andBegorrah: My brother gave me that same line, without explaining what the hell it meant. He just said if he weren't my bro, just a dude, he'd be very intimdated by me.

Cafezinha

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: AFAIK = as far as I know! Right? I got one!

One of these days I'm going to decipher this internet/text speak you kids have been using lately. Until then, stay off my lawn!

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: @nellicat: Right. I see where you're coming from, SarahMC, re: the negative connotations, but I was thinking more on the lines of nellicat's interpretation. I do not like spoiled kids either.

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Not if you're an egg.

If "coddle" = "spoil," then yeah I can see where you're coming from. I think Itchy and I read "coddle" as more like "nurture" and "cuddle."

nellicat

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @snarkhunting: I know. I'm 5'2" in my Chucks, fucker; what, are you afraid I'm going to headbutt your balls?

andBegorrah

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Xavoc: No, I don't think it is. Just look at how many women here have been called intimidating. I've been told repeatedly that men find me intimidating because I'm too smart/self-assured (that's fake, by the way)/reserved/successful. So maybe *most* men don't think that way, but I think it is fair to say that a whole hell of a lot of them do.

snarkhunting

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @ItchykooParker: Coddle has a negative connotation, AFAIK.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Xavoc: My personal favorite was, "If you won't get me pregnant, I'll just go out and find someone who will!"

Don't worry. I can assure you I would never, ever under pain of death say anything like that! Wow.

I think having an understanding from the beginning of the relationship is a good idea. Actually, I'm trying that now since I am sort of in the beginning of something. I've already explained to him how I feel about this and he has explained some similar things to me. So we'll see.

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @andBegorrah: Ugh! I've been told that, too...which is hilarious, because I used to be very, very intimidated by, oh, everyone. I guess being small and smart = OGRE WHO WANTS TO EAT YOUR BRAINS.

snarkhunting

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @haguenite: I disagree. I know plenty of teens that I think are wonderful people. I agree that people can and do change, sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. And I never said I already won the race. I realize that life is a long road. It's not over til it's over.

But I do think very highly of quite a few teens, several people I know in their thirties - well, as a matter of fact, I know a lot of people I would consider to be 'great' people. Not perfect, but great. So I guess we'll just have to disagree on this one.

I hope your little sister's situation gets better.

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Did I say that I do that? No, I don't. I take coddle to mean give extra affection/support. A cushion from the hardness of the world sometimes. I still give a lot of hugs - you'd be surprised how many teen boys stop getting those so much from their moms and dads when they're no longer "little boys". I talk - and listen - like what he has to say is worth listening to. And I have always asked that he do the same for others. I treat his sister the same way.

Maybe I just attach a slightly different shade of meaning to "coddle". I haven't taught him that 'his shit doesn't stink'.

@nellicat: I concur with you. Neither my son nor my daughter expects any sort of special treatment from the world. They are very respectful of others, including me. I deserve it, and they know it.

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @andBegorrah: Try it on flatbread, it has magical healing properties!

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @ItchykooParker: No offence, but you can't tell from a 15-year old if they're a great person. You can't even tell from a 30-year old if they're a great person. Kids and people change, sometimes as a result of their parents' parenting and sometimes because shit happens (for better or worse).
I'm sure your kids are darling, but don't... egh... failing miserably at coming up with an English proverb for this... What I'm trying to say is, don't try to proclaim yourself the winner of the race when you're nowhere near the finish.

And why, of course I'm not projecting a little sister's crazy situation on your family. Why would I?

haguenite

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blackbirdfly: It's a tough one. If I'm upset enough to feel angry, I will often remove myself from the conversation until I'm calm enough to respond rationally.

But, basically she stated up front at the beginning of the relationship that if she starts being rude/snippy/angry that I have her full permission to say, "Yeah...so could you please put the bitch away now? Kthanx!"

Provoking a man to get a response isn't a good thing. My ex would do that, to the point of saying outrageously inflamatory things in an attempt to escalate when she was losing an argument. My personal favorite was, "If you won't get me pregnant, I'll just go out and find someone who will!" To which I responded, while laughing, "You do realize that requires you to actually sleep with the person right?"

Good times.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> A couple of days ago my sister told me that she's regularly chatted up in bars, but that the men who approach her usually take off within seconds of her answering the question "what do you do?" (answer: she's a doctor).
And these aren't British men. It's a sad, sad world.

haguenite

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Just so you all know, I plan on referring to my period as the "menaissance" when it gets back on schedule. And I will intimidate the fuck out of any guy who makes an "ew" face.

andBegorrah

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @GoodMorningAngels: For the win.

You do newscasts, too? :D

Rooo sez BISH PLZ

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> It's true.

Men are from Mars
and Women are from Venus

Now, excuse me while I go read my Cathy comic collection and watch General Hospital.

meaghan2k

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blueberrypancake: Yep. It is a confusing world out there sometimes, all the way around, no?

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blackbirdfly: something about it minus the d. Fucking sleep deprivation.

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Xavoc: Yes, I see your point. It doesn't say anything good about me that when I don't get a response from a boyfriend during an argument (in cases where I think he's entitled to respond), I will continue to provoke him just to try to get some reaction.

Don't worry, I'm single. Ha.

I have a big issue with passive agreesiveness though. I can't stand that shit. If I've done something to piss someone off, then they need to say something about itd, dammit. I'm not going to try to read someone's mind.

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @ItchykooParker: So you overindulge him? I'm sorry I don't think it's going to help any kid to teach him his shit don't stink, or that he's entitled to everything just for being born.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Talk about whiny babies...ahem.

SBJ

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @ItchykooParker: I do, too, but I also try to make sure my children know that the world is not their mama, that they are no better or worse than any other person on the planet, and that they have the responsibility to treat others (including their coddling mama) with respect.

I will admit to finding it sometimes difficult to parent a son. More difficult than parenting my daughter, on most days.

nellicat

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: I don't put people in boxes--I'm with you, believe me. But lots of people aren't super bright--men and women. They still perform gender roles, though not consistently and often in contradictory ways. I'm not saying these men are right, I'm saying there are reasons some men feel this way, and progress is making sure everyone is on the same page.

reader123

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: I coddle my sweet baby boy (who is 15). I also teach him to respect others, fulfill his responsibilities, and be a decent human being.

I coddle him, and my daughter, without a doubt. Everyone needs coddling sometimes. They have both turned out to be great people.

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: That sounds like a rather big generalization. Perhaps the bar for intimidating is low for some men, or many, but not all.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> The bar for "intimidating" is very, very low. It includes knowing a thing or two about politics, reading a lot, being good at basketball, earning a good salary...

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @ceejeemcbeegee (just debatin' not hatin'): My best friend has a "bossy wife", and when I expressed concern about it he simply smiled and said to me, "She is a good influence on my life, and while I know that she can be overbearing at times, she also keeps me on a very even and successful keel. She makes my life better by being who she is."

There's a difference between "bossy wife" and a woman using a man as a doormat. When men are trying to save face, they don't make a distinction between that to other men. I can't say I haven't done it, but I know that I work very hard not to do it.

I give out a lot of relationship advice to men who are afraid of their mates. Basically, they love their women very much, but do not feel comfortable or capable of standing up to them when the woman is wrong or treading upon a personal boundary.

The advice tends to be, "Man up Nancy. Being afraid of your mate is destructive to the relationship. Define your boundaries, define yourself, and realize that there is a point in which she ends and you begin. Roles may change, life may change, you will change, but you still need to have a sense of self."

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @MsDirector: Hamlet! Now that boy is a pansy. Walking around the house all day moping about not having the balls to kill his uncle.

reader123

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I too was told the reason I was long single was due to being 'intimidating'. And if by intimidating you mean having a brain and a mouth and using them, then yeah, so the hell what? I'm thoughtful and intelligent and not intentionally hurtful, so if y'all don't like it, tough! The Pole-tastic BF recognizes I'm the brains, so it's all good.

jezebelacious

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @nellicat:

I know a guy who was ditched by his first wife, who was tall, strong, beautiful, intelligent (she had her grad degree first and a wonderful job).

Then this guy went to law school and decided it was time to get a wife made to order: he had her get a boob job (from an A to a C), make his dinner on time every night, give it up whenever HE wanted it, and now has pimped her out to a midlevel job so he can continue his dream of buying houses that he can't afford on his salary alone. New wifey was happy to go along with it all because she finally "got a man" who was going to be "rich someday." (I'm not kidding, that was her quote.)

I didn't think cartoon women existed.

Sadly, they do.

beeble

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @nellicat: You definitely need to reinvent the wheel every time you enter a new relationship. I just mean the little stuff, like going to the grocery store. There are probably hundreds of gendered interactions we have every day that we don't really realize. For example, lets say I'm in a grocery store and I see a guy about to lift a heavy rack of cans off of a shelf in front of me. Do I give him a hand? Maybe, if he's struggling, but I don't assume he can't get it himself before he starts to lift it--that's like me saying "from the looks of you those cans are going to be too heavy." But if it's a woman I might be inclined to help her immediately. That's probably a bad example, but I can't think of anything else at the moment. The point is sometimes we're on autopilot.

reader123

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blackbirdfly: Again, this harkens back to men not knowing where to draw the line at enforcing boundaries. Are they simply being male and not understanding, or has an important line been crossed.

The metroization of men wasn't a bad thing, but there were quite a few omissions in the handbook. Most notably on how to strike the balance between being strong and still show emotion.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Xavoc: Every guy I know that complains about his "bossy wife" secretly LOVES it. They just bitch, bitch, bitch to their boys to save face. But they KNOW their bossy wives keep them organized and sane.

ceejeemcbeegee

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @NefariousNewt:

Awww...aren't you a charmer?

beeble

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @reader123: Yes I understand it just fine. And I disapprove. It is wrong to put people into boxes based on their sex. That's all I'm saying. People who struggle with that for whatever reason need to get over it and stop blaming women for breaking out of their boxes.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @reader123: Maybe I'm not sure of what you mean by coast? I mean, I've been with the same guy for 5 years now, and it just seems to me that our "roles" are quite fluid.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Hel-lo! This is Hasslecrack's problem.

ceejeemcbeegee

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Gingerlime: Sing it, sister.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @JRae: *Gasp!* But my husband, Colin Firth is British!

@KLondike5: I'm with y'all on that. It makes me wonder what's wrong with a guy if his ex-girlfriends were all meek or demure or something. At the same time, I also have serious questions when a guy stays with a girl who is horrible to him for an extended period of time. I think I like for people in general, male and/or female, to stand up for themselves and I totally fucking hate it when ANYONE allows themselves to be walked all over like a doormat.

I have ended quite a few relationships because I couldn't stand the fact that the guys seemed to give me way too much rope. They LET me be mean to them. They sat there and took it. I find that very unattractive.

Yeah, that's kind of messed up.

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @reader123: If I get to pick my role, then I want to be Hamlet. =)

MsDirector

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Well "fuck 'em" yes, but understand them too. Have you ever been in a working group of mostly women and seen them unconsciously look to one of the few male members as the point person? Or watched a group of lost tourists cross the street in Manhattan with the tallest male leading the way? These things still happen, and for the men and women who don't read jezebel that shit's a little confusing. Hopefully one day each person will carve out their own identity--burly and woodsy, effete and intellectual, epicurean and tidy, irregardless of sex. But we ain't there yet.

@funnyface: You never coast a little?

reader123

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @cuteasabutton: My mind is suddenly filled with an image of a woman cornered on the deck of a ship surrounded by pirates... "We likes 'em feisty!!! Arrrrrrrrrrrr!!!"

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> BOOOHOOOOOOOO!!! Sadly, there is a phalanx of men who live in fear that women with power will treat them as badly as they themselves have always treated women.

Gingerlime

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @cuteasabutton: Yeah, I get, "I love that you say whatever you want! It cracks me up!" Really? I'll crack something else up too, buddy. Your face.

meaghan2k

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @PhDork: What do you mean? I have read your comment at least 10 times and still don't have a clue what you are saying.

marybanjo

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @THE hoi polloi: I should clarify before I go the way of rsr yesterday: I'm lucky enough to be in a situation where I can put in very little work at my "job", but we can still pay our bills. My fiance is trying to finish her masters and it only makes sense that if she doesn't have to work and is able to devote a large portion of her time to school, she should. As a result, I cook and clean most of the time and she busts her ass in the study. Not ideally what I'd like (I'd love to spend more qt with her) and different from when we started dating, but this is what is needed at this point of our 'ship.

sorry for being longwinded...

THE hoi polloi

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: I don't think it is a genetalia issue. I think it's that men don't know when to enforce important boundaries in regards to their lives. Sure, they express it as a genitalia issue, because they're frustrated (for right or for wrong), but really it's their own failing.

Male or female, standing up for who you are and the things that are important to you is an aspect that many people fail at. Men in my generation and younger are being raised to effectively be afraid of women. If you're afraid of the person you're dating, then you're the problem in the relationship. If you cannot view them as your equal, and demand to be treated like one, (let alone actually BE one of your own accord) then you're screwed coming and going.

Those men? The ones whining about having a bossy wife? They're not able to stand up to their wives when they feel they should be doing so, and it's their fault. They're letting the woman walk all over things that are important to them.

As for men calling female bosses bitchy? Some women are bitchy, most are simply trying to do their job.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @mepo: Word. Nothing torpedoes my opinion of a man more than if he chooses bimbos or meeklings as partners. I don't care how brilliant he might seem to be, if he has terrible taste in women, I have no time for him.

KLondike5

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @reader123: Actually, yes you DO need to reinvent the wheel every time because "the wheel" is made up of individuals who want/need different things. What worked for me and my last partner probably won't work for me and my current partner - we have to find our own way and relying on past experience or, even worse, gender stereotypes to find our way for us is a recipe for disaster.

nellicat

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Tocsin: I don't have much sympathy for men who fear being labeled "women." Oh, they don't want to be grouped with that sub-human group women. Men who can't identify with women aren't worth shit.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> What bothers me about this study is the use of the word "bossy". I mean, I would define a bossy woman to be someone who makes decisions for her boyfriend, tells him what to do, insists on having her way all the time, etc. Well, duh, no one would want to be in a relationship with that type of person, male or female! But CLEARLY these men have a problem with women who make decisions for themselves, stand up for themselves, etc. That's not "bossiness", that's just not being a doormat!

blueberrypancake

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC:
I think, not in defence of these Menainsance (I'm bloody well not checking how that's spelt) blokes, some of it comes from fear of identifying with certain roles.

Few men willingly identify as feminists because they're afraid of being perceived as girly by their peers for it, it's a case of us entering - hopefully - an age where gender defines roles less and less, or it should, just that people and their views are having a hard time catching up.

In all honesty I've been hesitant so embrace certain aspects of who I am as a person for fear of being ridiculed for it. Well right until I discovered I really don't give a fuck what other people think - that solved it. Folks have a hard time wrapping their heads around the fact that they aren't two dimensional and not everyone perceives them as such.

In the end, everyone wants to be accepted by someone and people are afraid of getting rejected.

Oh and pricks. There's lots of pricks in there too. That should probably be factored in.

Madness (Possibly Sparta, maybe baggy trousers.)

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @reader123: Um, if you want to "coast" good luck ever having a real relationship with a human woman.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @THE hoi polloi: Yes, I agree.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @reader123: There need to be social expectations for functional adults, but as far as gender roles go, fuck 'em. Just BE YOU and don't complain that there's not a clear instruction manual for "being a man."

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @mepo: My ex husband is marrying a woman with attributes that, in earlier days, he told me he despised in women. He is getting off on being her "knight in shining armor" and apparently after being married to a shrew like me he no longer wants a woman who works full time, uses her education in her career, considers herself a feminist, and is well-read and intelligent. His fiancee seems like a decent enough person, but she really & truly is like the opposite of me in so many ways.

nellicat

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blueberrypancake: You know, I think I agree with this; I definitely know a handful of well-meaning men who want to do the right thing, but the only models they have lead them astray...

Unfortunately though, I think this "good-faith confusion" is the minority reaction... in my experience at least, the "misogynistic rage that anyone would challenge their entitlement" is far more common. Sigh.

GoodMorningAngels

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> "According to the survey, men hold other men who speak their mind in high regard - the likes of Jeremy Clarkson, Jeremy Paxman, Bob Geldof and Gordon Ramsay. Their biggest hero is Churchill."

Go ahead menfolk! speak your minds, I actually want you to! Just don't expect me to sit by meekly. If what you say demands that I point out the gaping logical holes or the obvious stupidity in it, I will do it.

I should not have to behave as though I am less than what I am in order for you to feel good about yourself. If that's what your manliness depends on, then you must not have had very much in the first place.

The Boyg

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: If I get to pick my role then I totally want to be batman. That being said, don't you think that the game needs some rules? Individual men and women can't reinvent the wheel every time they enter a new situation (ie conversation, working partnership, etc). Sometimes you need to be able to coast. Sometimes I feel like saying to the universe "what are the 5 things I need to do so I can get some sex, get some beer, and get some sleep?"

reader123

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Dude, British guys are messed up, I've noticed they in particular seem to have more issues with modern women and changing gender dynamics than most men. Remember that study on here about how women are more turned on by men who help with chores and stuff around the house? It was a British story, and the comments from the men on that board were completely immature and outrageous (along the lines of "we work all day to pay the bills and then have to come home and do more chores in order to get sex?" and "why can't women just act like they do at the beginning of the relationship?")

JRae

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Can't your role in any relationship be based on what is best for the relationship without making the other person feel used and/or unappreciated? I only ask because my role in my current 'ship changes often, but it has to in order for us both to accomplish all we want, yet still have a "happy home"

THE hoi polloi

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Hamsterpants: For the win!

Benevolent_Dictatrix

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I am always turned off men who chose weak female partners, it lessons their true intellectual capacity in my eyes.

mepo

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @meaghan2k: Noooo, that's the reason you don't have a collection of halfwit mens. Which is a good thing, because you can't sell them out of your truck for cash.

noseriously

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> They obviously don't run 'Madmen' on that station because the old world was a place of disattisfied, working men with a heavy reliance on alcohol to get them through the day. Really what's changed?

mepo

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @cuteasabutton: My thoughts exactly. I'm not changing for shit. I'll make a few adjustments, but for the most part, I'm not going anywhere.

meaghan2k

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @meaghan2k: Oh yeah and I also get the "My aren't you a feisty one!" comments.

Cuteasabutton

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Why do people get so bent out of shape when "their role" isn't defined for them based on their genitalia?
Your role is whatever you want it to be, regardless of your sex. Only those who are insecure, weak and unsure of themselves need to be told what to do according to their sex.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @meaghan2k: My response exactly. I always get told to turn it down but why should I? I am who I am and not changing it for anyone, end of story. If it means being single until a guy who can step up to the challenge comes along then so be it. I have noticed though that younger guys seem to handle it a lot better than the ones my age (Im 30)
@Le Kangourou de Kataroo is reading this sexy blog.: Im definitely not still in love with him, but my ex loved the fact that I was so strong in my convictions and opinions and thought I was the smartest girl he had ever met. Unfortunately he turned out to be a total douche and now lives in Australia. Sigh.

Cuteasabutton

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Sure, be manly, I don't give a damn. As long as "manly" doesn't mean being sexist, oppressing women, or feeling threatened by female professional success. So go ahead, "manly" it up.

zivah

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @rocknrollunicorn: But women don't tell other women it's "their role" to do x, y and z because they're ____. Living with another person is hard; everyone should do their fair share. It's SOME men who seem to think they should have all the power simply because they are men.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @rednrowdy: Yeah, I use my boyfriend like a whiteboard. "Hey, will you remind me to X?" "If I forget to Y, will you remind me?" Maybe I should purchase an actual whiteboard.

That said, I second everything people have said here. "Bossy" obviously means "standing up for herself and talking back." My bossy ass learned by the age of 15 not to date boys who wouldn't argue with me.

Blue Skies, Golden Sunshine

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: Oh no, unconditional love from one's mama is a beautiful thing. But when a person becomes mature they understand that everyone else is not their mama.

Totally up to the little princes of the world to man up.

KLondike5

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @rocknrollunicorn: Oh, I know. I have had trouble with female roommates as well. But it was more like, general laziness than some confusion about their "role" in a household. Men definitely don't have a monopoly on slobbiness.

I guess I was talking about more than just who does the laundry. Bigger issues are potential mixed messages about women's role in society as a whole. Even feminists can't agree on things. We lament that there aren't more women CEOs while supporting the many women who drop out of the work force. We argue that we have more to offer than just sex while simultaneously dancing on tables and being filmed for Girls Gone Wild (ok, most of us probably object to that, but the point is that women are seen regularly doing these types of things) I can understand some of the confusion.

blueberrypancake

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @NefariousNewt: My husband also never had a problem with strong women. As he said to me once, "If I fell in a ditch when I was running, I know you would come find me right away."

noseriously

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Tocsin: Outdated views? As a gentlemen of this sceptred isle, and I think a speak for most of my peers, a woman's place isn't in the home - it's wherever she wants. As long as the washing up and iron gets done ;-).

philanthropissed

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> "Menaissance"? Really?

That's just stupid.

MsDirector

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @NefariousNewt: But you want, oh man do you want to. *Do it do it do it do it*
See that? With the bossy? Now I'll never get a man.

andBegorrah

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @GoodMorningAngels: Well put.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Don't like "bossy" women? Try taking care of your shit without having to be told... "why is my chick always bitching at me about wet towels on the bathroom floor?" Cuz you neglected to hang your towel up after your shower...

THE hoi polloi

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I personally appreciate strong women. I've never been attracted to a woman who isn't able to stand up to me, especially when I'm being a jerk. I guess that's why I like writing and commenting on Jezebel so much.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @rocknrollunicorn: I would totally buy that theory. I lived with my sis, and we were always at each other about dishes in the sink, etc.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I say, Fuck 'em.

triggerhappy

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @andj: "Emasculating" pretty clearly just means, no longer getting to exert their will over 51% of the population. Sounds to me a WHOLE lot like white folks complaining that anyone else is taking "their" jobs. Um, just because you managed to maintain [violently enforce] an exploitive system for long periods of time does not actually mean you have a natural entitlement to the privileges of that system.

GoodMorningAngels

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I doubt this is about "bossy women." It sounds like they don't like what they see as new roles in general. Men have always been bossed around by the woman of the house when it comes to domestic stuff--both of my grandmothers were definitely bossy. My bet is that it's more about the kinds of things they can say in the office, etc.

reader123

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: I could make a joke about galaxy formation... but I won't.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> If I have boys, I intend to have a quiet talk with them about 15 years old:

"Honey, you know I love you very much and I want you to be happy, so I want you to know that if you want to have a happy crazy sex life with your wife, you need to clean the house. Every week. And never bring it up. It really is that easy. It really is that simple. You remember your mama told you that."

noseriously

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> i don't like guys bossing me around and i *hate* it when i feel like i have to boss a bf around to get him to be responsible. it's not about being manly, it's about being adult and getting shit done. i also really don't liek the whole "oh welcome to the club, we've been dealing with this for 30 years" mentality because, i don't think it's really relevant to the conversation. opens a big can o' worms. guys who are this easily emasculated obvs have issues. is there really nothing else they can whine about?

Colleen07

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @effeteaesthete: Heh, that sounds just like Mr. Afin. Bossy is fine with him as long as sh*t gets done.

Afin

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blueberrypancake: I live with my sister and we have similar issues involving vacuuming and dishes. It's not a man thing, it's an adult thing. Like, respect for the person you live with.

Given the state of our place, neither of us has any respect for the other, but that is another story.

As someone who has always lived with women and never with a boyfriend, I am frequently amazed by the things men and women seem to think are gender issues in a marriage or partnership. They are basic living-together issues!

rocknrollunicorn

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Tocsin: True. Add in 'losing the Empire' (which I've never heard a UK female lament, of course) and you have some very passive-agressive chaps (and some agressive-agressive ones).

Plum-Pie

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @cuteasabutton: my favorite ex boy that i'm definitely still in love with a little was awesome about not taking my shit. i mean, yes, some things he'd give into me on (i knew i had him when he'd tell me to put away my eyes), but for the most part he wouldn't take my crap or feminine wiles, or at least put up a good fight before giving in. we were actually equals in our relationship. le sigh. now he lives in hawaii and is frustratingly rational about how a long distance relationship wouldn't work and only end in us despising each other, which is true.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Jerseylicious: Stars on your knees! From Eastern Promises! Naked knife fight!

Stars are making me giddy, y'all.

not.a.clever.name

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @cuteasabutton: I was told once the reason I don't have a boyfriend is because I'm too loud and I intimidate men.

Oh well. Tough shit.

meaghan2k

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: Oh TOTALLY. I have no sympathy for men who blame women for the fact that can't be assholes and tell chauvinist jokes. But I do think that is legitimate that some men are having trouble figuring out exactly what their role should be, how they should interact with women, etc. I know it seems so common sense to people like us, but I guess some less thoughtful types can't figure it out. But yeah, like you said, placing blame on feminists is not ok.

blueberrypancake

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> You have to live by our rules because WE ARE RIGHT.

What the fuck is so hard about understanding that? Women are better. Men are inferior. It's science.

meaghan2k

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> OMG Jessica, I could kiss you for this post

kittycatcarlyle

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @keldo:HA, that's hot.

One of my new hires has been pretty flirtatious, and I just feel like it's SO too bad that I can't go there... if he's into women in positions of authority, it might actually work out!

GoodMorningAngels

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blueberrypancake: It would be more productive of them to blame patriarchy rather than women themselves, you know?

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I'm not into emasculating men, but if masculinity depends on having women be subordinate, then I guess we're at a crossroads.

What's emasculating anyway? Having to change half the diapers? Being asked to pick up carrots on the way home? Having a woman boss? Hm, tough stuff.

andj

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: I just noticed my star today. Is this like flare?

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Le Kangourou de Kataroo is reading this sexy blog.: Amen to that. Im tired of being told that I'm intimidating, stern, opinionated. If I was a man it would just be accepted as part of my personality and not commented on at all. As for the "demands" we are making of them? Is equality and humanity asking too much of some men? Note I said SOME.
And I agree with you Jessica, men and women should fulfill their responsibilities equally.

Cuteasabutton

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: I just noticed mine now too! It's like I joined a gang, and the star means I survived the initiation process.

Jerseylicious

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Lady Skittlehattington: @Le Kangourou de Kataroo is reading this sexy blog.: @funnyface: @a.clever.otter: I think it is because we all socked it to rsr yesterday for his un-fun comments. But I like it too. Whatever it means.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> yeah, and I'm not terribly fond of whiney misogynistic cowards. So I guess we're even.

Paxilrose

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Ok I do think men can sometimes be confused by what is expected of them. Their roles in society are different from their fathers' roles, so they can't always rely on them as models. Also, I do think there are a lot of mixed messages - women saying they want to be respected for their brains, Girls Gone Wild, powerful women running for major political positions and shooting for the C-suite of major corporations, women still dropping out of the work place to rear children, women still wanting to settle down and get married, women flaunting their one-night stands, etc. I could see how this could be confusing, I guess.

This isn't an excuse and it's bullshit if they see feminism as an assault on their manhood. But like, I don't know. I try to make it very clear to my fiancee what I expect from him in our relationship (I enjoy cooking, but don't expect me to do your dishes. I appreciate when you vacuum the living room, but I am not going to give you a gold star for being a grown up, etc.). I think to some less thoughtful men, they have a hard time navigating the changing roles.

Not saying that I feel sorry for them in any way, but I think it might be an issue out there.

blueberrypancake

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Eh, they're British men; I'm now going to argue this is all a result of living on an island for far too long.

Honestly, Britain is pretty disconnected from the rest of Europe - well at least Scandinavia which is the only part of Europe that matters anyway - so something like this doesn't surprise me. I've got bloke friends from Blighty who are just fine, but some of their views are frighteningly outdated.

Depressing.

Madness (Possibly Sparta, maybe baggy trousers.)

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Leiakat: Um, I don't really know what they mean. Or how you get them. Or who decides. They are truly a mystery, like the disappearing sock in the dryer, or how the Thermos knows when to make some things hot and some things cold.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: mine showed up today. i didn't have it as of 2 am this morning.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blackbirdfly: I remember that one! Rosanne rocked.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Leiakat: As far as anyone can figure out, when you hit a certain number of comments you get starred. Which is why so many of us have them : ) (seriously- over at DSPN there's like maybe 1 person, because they don't really discuss in the comments). They're like our whore diamonds, kinda.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: Nope, got it today. I suspect that it's either the # of comments you've posted or the # of followers you have. However, I feel like they're the points on Who's Line-totally random.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Once again, I am SO GLAD to be shacking up with my self-proclaimed feminist boyfriend.

Jerseylicious

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: I just noticed mine today. It's making Jez look really pretty like the Fourth of July which makes me think of fireworks and beer and cheeseburgers so I am a happy otter today.

@Leiakat: No one knoooows. It's a mystery!

not.a.clever.name

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Hmm, I don't like being bossed around or bossing someone around. I just want to be equal-give or take...

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> The men I know these days want a challenge anyway. They like strong, independent women...yeah, I guess you could say "bossy". A girl who caters to your every whim is just too...easy and uninteresting.

antiheroine

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: Clearly we all bullied some man into giving us stars. Or flashed our tits or something.

Lady Skittlehattington

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @Macloserboy: that is ALWAYS what they mean. it never means being able to express themselves intelligently. it always means "i want to not have to use a filter when i say things and the outside world may consider it offensive or lawsuit-worthy".

@effeteaesthete: i truly cannot stand that. my ex boyfriend used to do that. "please remind me to fillintheblank". i could see doing that with a boyfriend that i lived with, but i never lived with him. it's like, dude - you have a blackberry. put a reminder on that thing and set an alarm. it's not hard.

rednrowdy

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: I know I must have missed the memo, but what do the stars mean?

Leiakat

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> There are a whole bunch of them! Have y'all had these the whole time?@funnyface: @blackbirdfly: @SarahMC: @a.clever.otter: @Le Kangourou de Kataroo is reading this sexy blog.:

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @andBegorrah: the worst copout excuse ever. one of my top qualities in a guy is that he must be able to not just handle me (and I know I'm a complete handful), but also challenge me. Shouldn't be too much to ask for, but apparently it is.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: I've been trying to figure it out all morning.

But I like it. It's pretty.

not.a.clever.name

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Isn't it less about being scared and more about bothering to put up with the bossy old cow?

philanthropissed

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @SarahMC: SOME guys. Let's not generalize half the population. I'm sure the fact that many of us headstrong Jezzies get laid on a semi-regular basis proves that not every single person with a Y chromosome wants to control those without them.

not.a.clever.name

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> aw, Roseanne.

J.D.Regent

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I'm bossy cause then shit gets done. Also I hate the phrase 'disenfranchised men', it reminds me of the biology teacher I had who kept telling us to 'mind out' and to be careful not to upset the boys cause 'they were losing their accustomed place in society'

beastybeatsy

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @badmutha: Damnation! WHERE did that star come from?? I just about swallowed my tongue when I saw it.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Screw any man who has a problem with "bossy" (which we all know is just whiny man speak for strong, confident, and capable) women. Or better yet, DON'T screw them and leave them to a life of sad celibacy.

My guy loves my strong, confident, capable self. He wouldn't have me any other way.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @blackbirdfly: Oh, and one of the best lines ever from Roseanne was in an argument with Dan, during which he was trying to prove that he helped out around the house. This is not exact quoting, mind you, but close:

Dan: "You want me to do the dishes? FINE! I'll do the dishes!"

Roseanne: "Ohhh, but honey you just did the dishes sixteen years ago!"

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Menaissance = a return to the Dark Ages followed by hopefully the Apocalypse, cause I sure as hell don't want to live in that era

Ptarmigan

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> I'm a bossy woman and most men I know can't handle it. FWIW, a 2,000 person sample is very respectable (though the survey subject is not) - it gets you below a 3% margin of error.

QueenCanada

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> @hatepaperdoll: Love! He's also never disrespectful, cuz his momma taught him that.

GeorgeFayne

]]> <![CDATA[Boo-Hoo: Some Men Are Afraid Of "Bossy" Women]]> Guys don't like women they can't control. Full stop.

SarahMC

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