<![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months" - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months" - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This looks like another case for Dontdatehimgirl.com, which, second to "Crap Email from a Dude" is the best revenge.

lauramac1976

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Everyone needs to stop thinking of AIDS as a gay disease. AIDS just loves that kind of ignorance.

Hunter_Suicide

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> You don't fuck another woman's dude. Period. Yeah, this dude's a phenomenal dick on monumental dick scale. This doesn't negate the fact that you never fuck another woman's boyfriend.

And, while we're at it, where along the maturity scale are we when we're sending important interpersonal communiques through MySpace? 12?

rowingrowingrowing

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @richcreamerybutter: union pool was the first bar in brooklyn i ever went to...seven years ago. teeming with the same type of guy. last place on earth i would ever want to meet a guy unless i was already friends with him.

rednrowdy

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @original_lynne: Hold up. How does one tell that someone is looking at their myspace page by way of IP? I mean, how can you tell what IPs have looked at a particular page?

boobaloob

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Totally a crap email from a chick. What an undermine-y bitch. James is, of course, a giant flaming asshole, but dear god--Kelly! Girl's got issues.

Kelly is so a friend of mine: lived with her BF for 4+ years while she paid most of the rent and bills because he was a broke-ass "artist" who couldn't and wouldn't hold down a job enough to pay for his own hairgel. He'd flirt with girls right in front of her. Lots of MySpace retardo-drama. She finally drew the line when she found out the latest person he cheated on her with was a guy. A much older sugar daddy who was his "mentor". Snort.

KidPresentable

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> omg! i totally got an eerily similar myspace message a few years ago! not quite as long as this one but the gist was the same. though i had only been with my boyfriend for just under a year at the time and he doesn't sound like this jackson pollack artist guy (more corporate lawyer asshole type) but ack, flashbacks. the message even started the same with the "i thought that you should know..."

Agrado

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @thelizisawesome: holy guacamole! I had a HORRID ex that did the whole proposal thing to me when I caught him red handed cheating. WTF is wrong with guys!? Really. Geez. It was only my desire to not spend the rest of my life in jail that saved that jerk's life.

RE the whole myspace thing...that is awful to post that like a coward. However, I'll totally chip in for the billboard outing her scumbag (hopefully, now EX-)bf as the jerk that he is to prevent him from getting any dates ever again. That is justified.

BrainyHistorian

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @flackette: Maybe I should be flattered but the girls my Xs wind up with are not as pretty, smart or strong as I am, and often terrible spellers. My baby's father has one now who draws hearts and circles over her i's and can't spell her way out of a paper bag, plus she loves lists and leaves them on his fridge, to let me know that she is marking her territory. She went too far, and left a word processed - so spell checked! - list in my daughter's bag and she stepped over the line there! She buys Coach bags from eBay at ridiculous prices, so I leave lots of info around about starving, homeless children who could live for several months on the price of one of her purses. Unfortunately, I, too, am not perfect, sigh.

MadameO asks - WWOD?

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This reminds me of a girl I knew who was knowingly sleeping with a dude who had a girlfriend. One day she told me she decided to end it because his girlfriend is so "nice" and she felt "bad" (although she didn't feel the need to send her a nasty Myspace).

The time to morally object to sleeping with another woman's man is BEFORE you DO it, Bitch!

Fashion Police

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> The sentiment would be fine without the ridiculous details. I was dating a guy a while back and in the midst got an anonymous ecard from a chick telling me that I'd come into contact with a "cheater" who had likely given her chlamydia. I'll be damned if the week before the man in question had abstained from sex due to a "nasty UTI." Motherfucker. Never knew who sent the card, but it was done in a way entirely unoffensive and without malice.

winowino

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I know for sure I'd rather have someone tell me via email instead of "I have something very important to tell you!" so I can freak out about the possibilities for the remainder of the work day.

Union Pool! This place is unlike the other bars in the area perhaps because of its proximity to both the BQE and train. It attracts a particularly wretched kind of artist/musician/international trash. However, if you're female and need an ego boost, the attention can be an instant pick-me-up...just realize most of the men here are not "boyfriend material" and you'll be fine.

Also, my worst experiences have been with artists (not musicians).

richcreamerybutter

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @bojgen: I know, right? My husband was like, so anyone could have given that to her? And called her back and told her to fuck off. She better hope we never encounter one another in a dark alley.

LoSpaz

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @ZeldaBlue: Not architecture, "experimental architecture". What is that? I don't know, because it doesn't even have a wikipedia page.

SarahMcL

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @ZeldaBlue: I totally agree. But nobody is addressing the real questions here: where can we enroll in Experimental Architecture school? And what kind of grad school did the guy flunk out of? Can one flunk out of an MFA? Has anyone found the myspace page? And was the guy's denim fine Japanese selvage or the usual pedestrian fare?

SO MANY QUESTIONS!

MyrtleWilloughby

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> The architecture student got wind that James was "cheating" on her too and wrote this as revenge!

ZeldaBlue

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @baa: This chickie said she was pregnant, too (she wasn't).

I never speak to the ex either. Can't say he ever tried to call, but still. It was easier that way.

evier

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @flackette: Ah, yes. I think the part about being left for another girl that bothered me the most was finding out that she used text-spelling in emails and IMs. "ur so cute" .... how could he have even liked both of us??

jammiriffic

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @tallyhoe: True that. Though there's also a passive aggressive breed of such a cunty other woman...in my case she was reaching out to me because 'she was worried my ex - who had also already dumped her ass, mind you- was so distraught at our break-up (read: having to couch surf after I kicked his sorry ass out on the spot) that we should "band together as two women who loved him to SAVE HIM." Yep, you read that right. Man, she was a psycho.

CandiedViolet

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Lymed: Right.

bigleggedwoman

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Alohamaid: for me, it's the element of lying. if this girl making the claim (and at this point, it's a claim not fact) is lying, it would be easier to spot if the information was told in person than in an email. people can say anything in an email.

@Lillian Hellwoman: i like your mom and plan on using that statement to many young ladies that i know.

rednrowdy

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @esmemurphy: Oh, I mean to aim my contempt at the girl sending the myspace bomb, not the girl receiving it.

esmemurphy

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @badmutha: I'm pretty sure we can still get AIDS via unprotected sex with anyone.

bigleggedwoman

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This "girl" is a total clueless bitch. Go to your dr. or the free clinic and get an AIDS and std test, idiot. And stop being such a drama queen. People like this are why I am soooo glad to be over the hipster bullshit and no longer dating. I mean an "experimental architecture" student with unsafe sexual proclivities. How edgy! Now where is my barf bag?

esmemurphy

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Dude, do not date guys who wear double denim. This is not even some superficial bullshit-- denim-on-denim is indicative of larger social and psychological problems, for real.

Neutralize

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> just reinforces my decision to always wear condoms whether i'm in a monogamous relationship or not. you never know if your significant other is 100% faithful. the only sure thing you know in this world is that no one is perfect.

bess marvin, girl detective

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This person isn't concerned; she's vitriolic. Yeah, the guy is obvs a douchelord who needed to be called out, but a concerned person doesn't rub the affair AND the possibility of an incurable STD in your face. Yuck.
It sucks how all of us seem to have one of these stories. I was the "other woman," although I didn't know it at the time. One day I get a phone call from dude's fiance (News to me!), a "med student" who informs me that she has cervical cancer, and then accuses me of passing HPV to her through him. She "just wanted to let [me] know that [I was] a danger to my sexual partners." Girl? Do your research. I was with him for a couple months. If you've had HPV long enough for cervical cancer to develop, then I'm definitely not the culprit. Also: I'm not an idiot. Condoms are my friend. She just wanted to hurt me, when really she should have been focusing all that bile on him.

prettyish

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @nenasadije: Not sad. Me too.

hellodarling!

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @flackette: HOLY.HELL.

there are some crazy bitches out there.

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @LoSpaz: Ok, if she accused your husband of giving her HPV, she is not only a horrible conniving bitch, she's pretty damn stupid too. Unless you've only ever slept with one person, it's pretty much impossible to tell when you picked up an HPV infection or from whom. This includes any instance of sex with a condom, since the current prevailing belief is that condom use lowers your risk of contracting HPV by 70%, which is good but obviously not a guarantee of any kind. Add to that the fact that they normally only test women for HPV if they have abnormal pap smears or obvious genital warts, and you have a recipe for major timeline uncertainty. And the reason they don't test you for it unless you have an abnormal pap smear? Nothing can be done about it unless it does cause cervical dysplasia, and plenty of people have it without ever knowing or experiencing a side effect, so there's no point in scaring you when no cure exists and you may never need treatment for side-effects anyway! I mean, I'm not advocating not sharing your health status with people you've previously slept with, but a little perspective on the issue makes her look pretty damn ridiculous for trying to slander your guy and needlessly scare you.

The Boyg

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Macloserboy: Got to agree to some extent.

I used to think that all my friend's BFs were major losers undeserving of her heart until I really really listened--and realized my friend actively sought assholes trying to fill some unresolved shit. Her BFs are assholes, my friend is screwy in the head, and I'm exhausted. Rant over.

Sophie needs Sensodyne

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Hey, I got a letter like this once, minus the part about getting tested! It was from a charming girl who said she "did not approve" of how my boyfriend had been sleeping with her while still officially in a relationship with me, but was happy to be with him and they'd be getting married soon. Of course, this probably meant that he was breaking up with me n stuff. I figured they deserved each other at that point.

She also couldn't spell, which offended me the most.

Flackette is a Red State Elitist

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Well yeah she's creepy and he's creepy and they all sound like dirty cunts, but I'd rather hear from a crap MySpace message than not know. So there's that.

LookyLoo

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @noseriously: That is soooo cool. I'm going to take fencing lessons just so I can say that too.

lisas

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @lojo1714: good for you, and this--(Oh and the other girl when he cheated on her AGAIN, peed on his couch to get revenge"--made ME laugh out loud too

marie123

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Neon.Wonder: There are good men out there. It does no one any good to make sweeping generalizations, though I know it's tempting, and these stories don't help.

Also: what "double denim"? I keep picturing Dexy's Midnight Runners in their denim painter's overalls, and wonder how she stayed with such a douchebag for 5 years.

BeSarcastic

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Artful Slinger:

Personally, I hope they named the child after me. Since it was perhaps fighting over me being "such a vindictive, obsessed psycho" that led to the make-up sex! Haha.

So glad I got them out of my life. Cause if I hadn't have gone straight to her, he'd still be trying to stick himself into me. And I'm aware now that's some effective sperm...

original_lynne

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Holy hell. What a bitch!

Kittenish has gone to the dogs...

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Note to self: Call Zoltan, Get with Hal ASAP

chelotoyou

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @SarahMC: I get that he's an ass. Agreed. I think they're both assholes.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Ugh...something similar happened to me a few years ago after my bf left me for a human petri dish.

Luckily I've been healthy every since, but I feel for this poor girl.

Just proves what my mother says about when even smart girls get STI's, it's not because they slept around, it's from someone they trusted. Fuck.

Lillian Hellwoman

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @badmutha: Huh? A man can get HIV from a woman. It is easier to pass HIV and other STDs from a man to a woman or man, but that does not mean that women can't pass on HIV.

Lymed

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> My college BF cheated on me but had the balls to tell me. OK, no, the guilt was eating him alive. I am glad that the cheatee did not insist on meeting me face to face to tell me, because I would have had to defend my honor with a duel. Which would probably kill her.

I was a fencer in college. The BF and I just broke up, probs because I would have killed him in a duel as well.

noseriously

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> One of my best friends found out her boyfriend was cheating when a girl he'd been talking about visiting in a different city sent her a MySpace message. She then looked in his phone and found texts between the two of them, so she was sure it wasn't just some jealous chick making stuff up. They'd had what seemed like a great relationship up to that point and our group of friends was all really surprised he did that. He begged her to take him back but she held her ground. I'm very proud of her.

KittenFluff

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @RyanB: I think the better question is when will Kelly get some balls and cut them both up.

@original_lynne: I hooked up on the reg with a dude at college who i found out had a gf at home. i had no serious feelings for him, but was upset he would lead his chick on. long story short, i ended things, got a real man and i ended up iming - since i didnt know this chick and she was hours away from me - and telling her that her boyfriend cheated on her with me and i am sure that he will find another girl. she didnt believe me...surprise, called me the worst names in the book and stayed with him while he fooled around with 4 other girls. after a preg scare with one of them he wised up and broke his gf the news. she actually emailed me thanking me

ArtfulSlingerBARACKED THE VOTE

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @hamburgerhotdog: For sure, but it certainly drives home the point. If she already knew and hadn't left him yet, well, I guess I'm just a little less sympathetic then.

scuttlebutt

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> My now-husband got a phone call before we were married from an ex he hadn't been with since we began dating a year before that. She said she had just found out she had HPV, and was pretty sure my husband gave it to her, and shouldn't I be tested too? It was such a low blow from an obviously jealous ex (the same girl also emailed Husband on our wedding day to beg him not to do it) and this has the same ring to it. Only with the obvious escalation from HPV to AIDS. Being a bitch under the guise of "helping."

It's obviously a crap situation for all involved, but girl could be a bit less mercenary, you know?

LoSpaz

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @rednrowdy: well maybe its just a personal thing but I'd rather find out via email than in person. In person would just seem like publically humiliated was added to an already shitty situation.

Alohamaid

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @AndYourLittleDogToo: Seriously! If you insist on mention an incurable STD via myspace mail, why not herpes or HPV? Both are unpleasant to think about, but they won't leave you wondering how you will scrape together the Magic Johnson-esque funds for the retrovirals that may be the only way to lead a semi-normal life (not to mention tell your family, have sex again, have kids, or anything else you were planning to do provided you can afford the needed drugs).

Better yet, now that you've dropped one major bomb on her, how about letting the poor girl worry about her own possible viruses?

The Boyg

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @baa: Wow, congratulations. That takes a serious will of iron, and you've got it. Good riddance, eh.

zivah

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> All this hearing of men cheating is really depressing me latley. I am losing faith that there's anyone left to trust out there...

Neon.Wonder

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @QueenCanada: My God, that is terrible.

noseriously

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @evier: It isn't unfamiliar to me either, though I wasn't married thank goodness. I had the other woman call me and say she was pregnant. Several STD tests later, I knew I was in the clear.

I never returned a single phone call from that asshole again, and immediately sold every thing he ever gave me. I am ruthless about cutting this kind of drama out of my life.

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Whoa, I have been in the "other woman" position but was not aware of the "girlfriend"'s existence until after my relationship had ended. I probably would have contacted the gf about what an cad her (our?) boyfriend was if I knew how to get in touch with her. I would have just been blunt and straightforward about it and not included a lot of unnecessary details like this chica did.

margotenenbaum

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This girl is totally jilted. She thought he was going to leave his girlfriend for her. He didn't. She's pissed and using whatever ammunition she has against him.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Well...once upon a time I fooled around a guy unwares he had a girlfriend. I found out, was pissed off, he lied and said they were broken up...I fell for it, and for him a few more times. Finally, the truth came out. I didn't think I was the only one he was sleeping around with either...so I went ahead and wrote the girlfriend a letter. Albeit, one that was correctly spelled and punctuated, and without gratuitous caps or suggestions of STD tests. She originally thanked me, then wrote me back suspiciously. The boy told her I was obsessed with him and trying to break them up...Sadly she fell for it. On the plus side, right after this he got her knocked up! They have lovely child now...And she is checking my myspace page (i can see your IP, bitch), because he moved back to this area and is probably up to his old tricks again. However, I am out of touch with him, so who those tricks are being played on...I do not know.

But I stand by the letter I wrote her as a gesture of a female trying to save her heartache and uh...getting knocked up by a cheating asshole! Oh well.

original_lynne

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @scuttlebutt: She probably already knew, and her "favor" was overly enthusiastic and overly detailed.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @ceejeemcbeegee (just debatin' not hatin'): Seriously? That reminds me of a Golden Girls ep where Blanche got Rose a PI for her bday. Rose used the PI to follow around Miles and hilarity ensued until Rose figured out Miles was having a tummy tuck (or was it a face lift or a butt job?). But really - do you use the PI?

blubirde

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @zibby: you totally made the comment of the day with that one - my cubicle mate is wondering what I'm laughing about

kitsune

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @ceejeemcbeegee (just debatin' not hatin'): You are so bad ass in every way.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @BeAgrestic: All of me is very angry. But then that's just the way I am when confronted by abject stupidity.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I think we can all agreed that this "other woman" did "Kelly" a favor in writing this email, even if it was a particularly cruel favor. Kelly now knows that her dude has cheated on her and is likely to cheat on her again in the future. If she has any sense, she'll get the hell out of that apartment and that relationship ASAP. If she doesn't, then it's no one's fault but her own. Disregarding the STD issue, which is of course a very real and very serious issue, "Kelly" will definitely thank God for this woman many times over in the years to come.

scuttlebutt

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This is why I have a PI on retainer.

ceejeemcbeegee

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Archetype: Well she's obviously a shitty woman in the first place so there's no chance she was gonna be all respectful about it. It's a crap email for sure but it's crappier that the cheater cheated.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Goodness gracious.

SBJ

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> AIDS is NOT an emailable topic. WTF is wrong with people?!

AndYourLittleDogToo

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @SarahMC: I agree. I am not sure I'd even want to know about the infidelity if this is the way I had to find out (ok, I would rather know than not at that point) but telling a dude's girlfriend that they talked about her and all of the crap stuff he did...that she slept with him in the girlfriend's bed while she was away.... that was unnecessary and therefore a real low blow.

lodelasea

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @BeAgrestic: Yeah I would say she was maybe trying to be helpful were it not for the all caps. She's trying to fuck the dude over.

type_slowly

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Macloserboy: I don't think the crappiness of the recipient is really all that relevant to the enjoyment/commiseration I get out of CEFAD(C)s. It's the universality that's appealing, plus they're funny. In short, context is unnecessary and a TOTAL BONERKILLER.

For me.

lisas

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Moe, no! i'm not sure which is worse, implying that straight guys can't really give you AIDS,("how shitty does a straight dude have to get...") or implying that only in truly outlandish and bizarre circumstances involving a sexual deviant that it would be a risk. we really are forgetting the risk AIDS presents to each and every one of us.

slowtraincoming

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @SarahMC: I think I am a masochist because I would really, really want to know the "in your bed" stuff and that he told the girl details of his sex life with his girlfriend.

But I suppose not everyone would want to know this shit.

rocknrollunicorn

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I feel like she could at least have the respect to write a letter with correct spelling and grammar, if she has to write this kind of letter at all.

Improvident_Lackwit

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Straight up evil.

LeggoMyEggo

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I met my boyfriend at the Union Pool. I'm going to go hide in secret hipster shame now.

SusieDerkins

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @tellmeagain: "I was dead at the time!"

Eddie Izzard makes everything better.

cate3710

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Woah. Girl needs her head checked - going on for months behind this girl's back pulling this bullshit, and she only mentions it when she finally realizes she's being used as much as the guy's girlfriend? And then tossing out a totally unnecessary bit of scaremongering? The mere outline of what happened would be more than enough, and most of us with half a brain don't need to be reminded to keep close tabs on our sexual health, particularly when you find out something like this. I'm amazed at how pathetically deluded some people can be...

Although I am totally curious as to what bizarro thought process led this girl to suggest that she could've given the girlfriend an STD, rather than worry that it might've happened the other way around. Perhaps the same one that led her to think this dude was actually worth going after when he treated his girlfriend in such an obviously shitty manner.

The Boyg

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @lojo1714: You sound pretty great-- it sounds like those two lunatics deserve each other. The peeing story reminds me of a story my boyfriend has about his ex, who got mad at the cat once and decided to pee in the litterbox. It worries me sometimes that he could like both of us, since she sounds so clearly insane.

tell Dolly Parton again

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This is not unfamiliar to me. I got a call in the middle of the night from a girl my husband-at-the-time had dismissed as extremely fat and stupid. She called to tell me they had been sleeping together for 5 months. Just thought I should know, ha ha! But it wasn't a love thing, just a sex and drugs thing so that makes it all OK!

I got myself tested that week and kicked his ass to the curb.

evier

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> my roommate recently did something like this and i am honestly conflicted as to the motives other than to fuck up the dude's relationship. having been on both ends of this type of situation, it's just best to stay out of all that drama nonsense. it does suck though. five years. gross.

calitexican

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Macloserboy: oh, how true.
@RyanB: also true. saying something like this in person is the best way, not some weak-assed email.

this may sound really awful of me, but i would still question the validity of the girl's claim. for all we know, this girl could have written this after being infatuated with the guy and wanted to stir things up, regardless of whether she ever had a relationship with her. if i was the addressee, i'd be wary of all parties involved.

rednrowdy

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @noseriously: Definitely not the way I found out - via Facebook.

QueenCanada

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Ewww. Cheating chick is gross for even being with him. Kelly chick is gross for staying with scumbag that long.

gabelle

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I agree the email is shitty, but James is the true villian and, written with malice or not, I'd want to know this stuff.

Ugh I can't believe she spent 5 years with this guy. Some of these stories make me so, so happy I am single.

rocknrollunicorn

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Total crap. The attitude is completely "Do what you will now that I'm done with him, and know that I have intimate details about you guys that I can use to my advantage and will if I feel like it." It's a power play, and girls like this make me shudder and want to break things.

zizzlepop

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Alohamaid: @SarahMC: No. A woman would have sent this other woman a message telling her that she needed to speak with her about something important. Nothing about that message (or the mode in which it was sent) was womanly or adult.

Sorry, that's not girl-on-girl hate. That human-on-human hate.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I keep reading this line over and over and don't get it? Someone explain please...

"how shitty does a straight dude have to get a girl seriously worried about AIDS?"

itsnotaskirtfool

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I will say that she incuded some really unnecessary details in this email - just to be a jerk. She and the dude belong 2gether.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @blondegrlz: Ditto to that. Methinks the writer is secretly hoping she'll have this guy to herself if and when the couple breaks up. Tactlessness speaks volumes.

pandorasmittens

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @thelizisawesome: He proposed marriage?? That is awful, but also hilarious. It's like the Eddie Izzard bit about kids lying to get out of things-- "I was on the moon! With Steve!"

tell Dolly Parton again

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Sorry for the complete lack of clarity in previous comment - my authors are trying to drive me crazy today, and apparently have succeeded in lowering my IQ a good 20 points or so.

L-dizzle

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Alohamaid: I agree. She womaned up and sent the message, immature a venue MySpace may be.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> was the ALL CAPS really necessary?

puritanicalish

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @L-dizzle: Should she tell his wife? Is that even a question? Of course.

Poor woman - dog dead and crap 11-year boyfriend secretly married to another woman.

zivah

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I was once the "other woman" in college and had no idea until the gf called me crying one night. She had gotten my information off his computer and cell and just wanted me to know that he was with someone, as well as a third girl. I had just gotten tested so I told her I was okay, and then we hatched a plan to get back at him. Basically she told him she had herpes (she didn't) and I said so as well (again a negative) he flipped out, told his mom, and she took him to get tested. The third found out as well (we both told her) she flipped out on us and stuck with him! To this day now (about 8 years later) the now ex-gf and I are still friends and last we heard the other two were both still nuts. So sometimes it isn't always girl on girl hate, sometimes it somehow doesn't turn out to be the end of the world. (Oh and the other girl when he cheated on her AGAIN, peed on his couch to get revenge. The ex gf and I could not stop laughing at that!)

lojo1714

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Macloserboy: I love your succinctness.

ceejeemcbeegee

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I was all kinds of confused and thought it was a dude who wrote this...who had cheated with Kelly's bf. But whatever. Regardless, the tone of this message is way out of line. What a doucheknuckle.

summerwheatley

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @DorothyZbornak: agreed.

moonagirl

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This girl is obviously a bitch, there is no reason Kelly needs to know that he told his other woman what she was like in bed.

But I'm not going to judge her for telling Kelly on MySpace. If my boyfriend was cheating on me, I sure as hell wouldn't want her to tell me face to face. Email is fine, I can then freak out in private and not end up hysterical on the subway.

And I'd be grateful she told me, whatever her reason. Obviously Kelly's friends weren't going to tell her (someone had to know her bf was living with some other girl while she was out of town).

clevernamehere

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @westendgirl: My alterego from across the pond, I salute you!

westvillagegirl (exiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @badmutha: hmmm, good point?

Dear Blond Diary

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This isn't even a CEFAD. Where's the bad flowery prose and weird metaphors? Where's the clear personality disorder? Where's the insanity that makes CEFAD's so terribly funny? This is just sad.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> God, this is thank god I'm single day, yes?

This morning on the way to work I was listening to this woman on the radio telling a similar story: She got into grad school or a residency program her in Massachusetts, so she and her boyfriend of ELEVEN YEARS decided to do the long distance bit for two years. This week she got a call from a kennel out in Colorado (or wherever he lived) saying that her dog had died, but they couldn't reach her boyfriend to tell him.

So she calls his parents, and they inform her that her boyfriend GOT MARRIED TO ANOTHER WOMAN - three months ago.

Apparently they were supposed to go on vacation together next week, and no, he wasn't planning on telling her then either.

So the call-in question of the morning was should she tell his wife? Discuss.

L-dizzle

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> What the hell? I guess in a way the girl was doing the other one a service, but...damn.
Also, who dates a guy wearing double denim?

theladyvanishes

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Alohamaid: I would think the first sentence about how they've been having unprotected sex, in capital letters, would take care of that. He's an asshole and she is too.

DorothyZbornak

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @zivah: *isn't*

zivah

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> My sister's friend was being cheated on and when they told her she refused to believe it and stayed with him. He was a cop who dealt drugs, so total douche anyways.

mepo

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @RyanB: I agree: all she needs to say is this happened, you need to take care of yourself. The rest is rubbing salt into the wound she knows she created.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Dude, the girl who wrote this email is a total bitch. Who lives with another girl's man, IN HER BED, while she's out of town? The context of that line leads me to believe that she knew that he was still with Kelly at the time.

crunkjuice

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @blondegrlz: Exactly. And, I have been privy to people who live vicariously through Myspace and other social networks. It seriously weirds me out when people choose to communicate in public, online. It just reeks of immaturity and social....retardedness.

I have also been the Other Woman, and you're right. This chick was purely motivated by her own ego. I hope The Girlfriend keeps this in mind....

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I believe this is what I would call motive. While she thought the other girl should know about James and his cheating ways, she took pains to make sure Kelly took the brunt of her vitriol. And she knew that he was cheating on Kelly the whole time. And she sent this on myspace? Motive and mitigating circumstances, y'all.

AbbyNormal

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This was sent just to get back at this asshole. The writer and the dude belong together. Run Kelly!

stacyinbean

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I think it was fine for this crap girl to let her know that James was scum, but I DON'T think it was okay to do it in such a bitchy, evil way. No need to make a bad situation even worse for someone (not to mention, all of that extra detail - such as "he's told me all about your sexlife" was cruel).

marin79

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I would stab this cunt with such a fervor. She's the worst kind.. the backhanded, unapologetic, waiting-to-watch-you-die-a-little... BITCH.

tallyhoe

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @blondegrlz: no, I think you are absolutely right! This email seems mean and insincere. The very least she could have done would have been to get an AIDS test BEFORE sending the email.

Little Shit!

BeAgrestic

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> is it totally sad that i dread this same thing even though i absolutely and completely trust my fiance?

nenasadije

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Wow. Agreed that this is not out of the goodness of his/her heart-s/he's pissed at the dude and trying to stir up some drama. Poor Kelly.

Hooplehead

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Archetype:
She's a bitch.

End of.

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Yeah this is totally mistress girls revenge on douchey dude after he dumped on her. The "Take care of yourself" is a real kick in the teeth.

hatepaperdoll

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Wow, not an email you ever want to get. She seems to be taking pleasure in it too. Girl sounds like she needs more than a check up herself. And knowingly sleeping with someone's partner, that shit's low.

mepo

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> UGH! I mean, thanks for the heads up, but what had to happen to make this girl decide to come clean? What kind of shady little...yick!

NoInheritance

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Alohamaid: I agree. sort of. She was lied to as well by the bastard.

gold_gato

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> There's definitley some ulterior motives at play. Why would she be having unprotected sex with him if it's oh-so-casual? She sounds like a jealous underminer trying to scare the other girl away. And, the guy is a cad, but that goes without saying.

STICKSnSCONES

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> were the caps necessary?! Jesus! It's bad enough the poor girl got cheated on. Part of me is really angry at the chick who wrote this.

BeAgrestic

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Are there any good ways to find out that your long-time boyfriend is a cheating, demeaning shit?

noseriously

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Archetype: Ditto ditto ditto.
I have been the "other" woman, and the only reason to tattle, especially with this "for your safety" bullshit, is when you get pissed at the guy and want to fuck up his life. Otherwise you find out he's a lying scumbag and just cut him out of your life.

Ok, I'm cynical, maybe she really is sincere. Maybe.

BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Ow, humanity

Dear Blond Diary

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @RyanB: oh true that, this is pure and simple a revenge email to get the guy dumped, BUT, I'd still be grateful to hear the truth from SOMEONE. I still think most of the hate should be directed at the guy not at the other woman, that other woman never promised you shit, HE betrayed her trust.

Alohamaid

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Girlfriend, I would also check the well-being of any bunny rabbits that you may own.

westendgirl

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Holy shit.

And as far as "I have not had a test in over two years and so I cannot say that I am safe"- then fuck you. What the fuck are you doing having unprotected sex? James is a lying waste of your time, and clearly a scumbag, but you're a fucking moron.

I hope "Kelly" tests clear, and then gets some serious therapy for what clearly seem to be unhealthy relationship issues. 5 years with that guy? Gross.

hortense

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Are we sure that the "other woman" was a woman? 'Cause if it were a dude, it might make more sense about the AIDS thing and them not being monogamous. Sorry for Kelly either way.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @DorothyZbornak: I think she's just trying to reiterate how shit the guy is and get him dumped.

Alohamaid

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Alohamaid: I don't think the email would be crap if the chick had written it only after finding out that she wasn't James's only woman, or something, but it was definitely written to make Kelly pissed and not to protect her. Otherwise why the comments about how James told her everything about Kelly's sexual preferences? That doesn't protect anyone, that just makes her mad.

Obviously the dude is a prick, but that doesn't mean this email is a crap one.

zivah

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Wow. This sort of thing actually happened to a friend of mine. She got an email from a girl who'd been fucking her boyfriend for 7 months (the "Other Woman" didn't know she was the "Other Woman." I believe she saw some photos of him and my friend together at his alum dinner or something). My friend confronted him about it, and he proposed marriage. Like that'll help! Ugh. UGH. That was just terrible.

thelizisawesome

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> What kind of jerk would send such a worrysome email without getting herself tested first? Seriously, it takes ten minutes and you don't need to add insult to injury by being not only an asshole, but a lazy one at that.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> This guy must be one hell of an artist.

zibby

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> @Alohamaid: Yeah but if she was so interested in Kelly's well-being she wouldn't have went on and on about all the shit the guy said to her about Kelly. She would have also asked to meet in person.

She was writing it to make herself feel better.

RyanB

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Totally the dudes fault, but this girl knew he was involved with someone else, knew personal details about her etc, and continued to fuck him? Unprotected? And then wrote this ridiculous email when she was done with him? Whoa. I would cut a bitch.

Rhody

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Um, Union Pool. That says it all.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Answer to question number one - yes. Not only is it a good idea, it is the only responsible thing to do.

How creepy that she "doesn't know if she is safe"... go get a test, sillyhead! Knowing is half the battle!

dayglo

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Is it just me or are far too many of these Crap Emails actually water seeking its own level. It's one thing for a brief relationship to an asshole, but when you start logging in years, you're not longer the victim as so much part of the problem. As General McAllister said to Murtaugh, "There are no more heroes anymore."

Macloserboy

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> I'd say she was trying to be helpful were it not for that "IN YOUR BED." She's just being a cunt.

DorothyZbornak

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Whoa. I say the mistress girl was right to tell the girlfriend girl, but that doesn't mean she doesn't SUCK for waiting until she got mad at scumbag dude to confess.

(Why doesn't mistress chick get tested, if she's concerned? That part makes me think she's just trying to break up James and Kelly and that she may not be done with James...)

zivah

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Ok I may get flamed for this but I don't think the email is THAT crap. The guy is crap and sure what she did was crap but uh I'd want to know, and do you think mr. wonderful is gonna fess up to his girlfriend himself? Stop the girl on girl hate and let's focus on the BF here.

Alohamaid

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> WHAT A NIGHTMARE.

lesspopmorefizz

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> oh my Zeus Jezebel, way to confirm every girl's secret deepest fear. Sheesh.

katieb: in charge of the war on the poor.

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> 1) I HATE Mysapce. Learn to communicate like a human, bitch. Send her a message asking to meet up. Don't be a pussy!

2) That message was written purely for herself. She could give a shit about this dude's girlfriend.

3) I HATE Myspace.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> oy.

dvs

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> So giving the chic AIDs was ok when she thought artist boy wasn't going to marry her? WTF

battleaxonista

]]> <![CDATA["James And I Have Been Having Unprotected Sex For The Last 2 Months"]]> Shouldn't this crap girl go get herself checked? Her "plea" seems a little counter-intuitive

RyanB

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