<![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married? - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married? - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> my first love, who i broke up with when we were 21 and 22 is getting married this year (we're now 26 and 27) even though i love my current boyfriend, i find myself dreaming about my first love all the time. even though i broke it off, i don't think i'll ever really be over him, but we're different people now, and i would never do anything to interfere with his happiness. life is weird. you just learn to live with a little heartache i guess.

lemonader8

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @zivah:
commenting Ok, I was with my ex for four years, married for two, and we have a beautiful daughter. We had a friend who was going through a rough relationship and let her come stay with us while she worked things out. Come to find out, she was working things out with my husband. I left him after I found text messages and pictures proving they were having an affair. The divorce was final the beginning of January, and I just found out the other they're now married. And he's taking care of her kids, instead of his own.

ArdelisHapfink

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> What does it mean if your ex is happily married to and has a brand-new baby with someone great (and maybe you realized how great he was when you found out about her through your cyber-stalking), but wouldn't leave you alone even though you asked him to repeatedly? And what does it mean that he wrote me two hand-written letters essentially begging to remain friends? I am perplexed, sad, devastated, and bummed that I am so very single.

ubetterwork

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Just got pics from my ex-boyfriend of him, his wife, their brand-new baby boy, and his parents glowing while holding the new grandson. Hurt like a mother even though I've known for a long time that he got married to the woman he got with 4 months after we broke up. The ex-bf and I were crazy in love, but with a lot of fear and doubts about our long-term compatibility. We broke up after a very intense year together, a year in which we talked about marriage after 4 months together (don't laugh). I first found out about him being married from his MySpace profile. I then totally cyber-stalked to find out all the information I could about his wife. Turns out she's pretty cool (from what the Interwebs tell me), but dammit if that didn't f*** me up real good for a long time.

Still hurts bad, especially when I see him happily holding his baby.

Oh, and did I mention that he kept calling/emailing me, even when I asked him repeatedly to leave me alone, and that 6 months ago he wrote me a 2-page letter to break the news of the marriage/pregnancy to me while simultaneously saying he was "the bad guy in our relationship" and that he still hoped we could be friends. This was the 2nd hand-scrawled missive to me in 2 years. Some mind-f***ery on his part, and lots of over-sentimental self-pitying and "I'm so sad I'm single" on my part.

ubetterwork

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex, who I was married to for a grand total of seven weeks before he freaked out and "wasn't ready to be married", married his next girlfriend. The girlfriend he swore he was only friends with, who he denied was living in our old apartment after I moved out, who was making up gossipy shit about me when they really were just friends and he was dealing with the separation, and who was, most importantly, willing to deal with his drinking and his non-working penis.

I found out while I was driving. My mother tentatively mentioned it, and I started laughing so hard I had to pull over for a good 5 minutes. It hurt a little, but what I felt was mostly relief that it was her (they've since had a kid) and not me stuck in that life.

Me? I moved to Europe and just married a really great guy. I wouldn't have met him if it weren't for the ex. I still consider sending the ex a thank you note...

seresy

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @lauramac1976:

A similar thing happened to me. I dated a guy off and on for 2 and a half years in college. Even though he was my best friend and first love and my first, we just couldn't get it together. There was always something...his ex girlfriend who he didn't want thinking that we had messed around while they were dating, the other random chicks that he would date during our "off" time. It was CRAZY!!

I finally gave up on the whole thing and told him never to speak to me again and he graduated and moved away (to my hometown, no less). A few months later, I find out from a mutual friend that he is engaged to this younger chick (about 18 or so) that he had known for only a few months.

What made it so bad is that we had kind of started back talking occassionally and he had never once mentioned the seriousness of his relationship with this girl. Needless to say, that hit me like a ton of bricks and I thought I would die.

The next year he called to invite me to the wedding (which I skipped). Even after they got married, he still called me from time to time (never the other way around)on V-day, holidays and random times to complain and vent about his unhappy marriage and I did take a little satisfaction when I would hear a twinge of jealousy or interest in his voice when I would talk about my dating life..."serves him right for picking this chick instead of making it work with me when he had the chance" i thought to myself.

It took me a long time to get over him but I finally did it.

So, when ex guy called me last year a month before my wedding (that I hadn't bothered to tell him about) to tell me that he was finally divorced after 3 years, the only things I felt were sadness for his situation, happiness for myself and my wonderful hubby to be.......and a teeny little bit of schadenfreude.

bluebelle

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex did. I was glad. I hadn't felt shit for him since we broke up. We had been living together and had also talked marriage at some point, but we didn't go through with it and it was fine, at the end of the day.
He loves his wife and he's really happy.

LaGiulia

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @CorporateTool: Better a round of ex-boyfriend facebook stalking than stalking the current boyfriend's ex-girlfriends. I am pathetic.

greenglass

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Archetype: I'm the same. Glad to hear I'm not alone.

It's self-preservation.

greenglass

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @RemoteCommander: I completely agree with the "winning" feeling. My bf of two years and living together and major life planning broke up with me in a really nasty fashion and less than a month later started dating someone else. I feel like he "won" the break-up. Even though he was really REALLY effed up and made me so unhappy that I thought I was developing major psychosis, it's hard to think that someone else is living my fantasy life with him.

Of course, said new girl is so homely that a friend of mine saw her and thought she was a man. I, on the other hand (at the risk of bragging), am going to the best grad school program in the country in my field. Maybe he "moved on" faster, but I win at life. That said, if her marries her, I will lose my shit.

thelizisawesome

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> This prompted me to look the loser ex up on myspace. Yep, still a loser. Phew. Dodged that bullet. The other one? Even though I know that if I married him I'd be living in backwoods Louisiana with six kids at 28 years old, I still kind of miss him and wonder once in awhile if he ever thinks of me and says, "Wow, she was pretty awesome. I shouldn't have been such an incredible moron to dump her."

TheCityGirl

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Why does it seem like there's been an inordinate number of breakups lately? Is it the time of year, or what? Luckily I'm not at the marriage stage of life yet, but I'm sure it's gonna suck once I/he gets there.

srslyallie

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex and I "went on a break" after almost six years together. The FIRST WEEKEND of our break, he drove up to Canada to hook up with a broad he met on the internet. As soon as we had broken up for realz, he asked her to marry him and they were wed about 3 months afterwards. Suffice it to say, I WAS PISSED. Not because I still loved him, but because during the last year or so of our relationship, I was throwing myself a grand martyr pity party: if I left him, surely he would kill himself or something! SURELY! I was supposed to move on first, dammit!

Drinky O'Drunkerton

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I broke off an engagement with a wonderful guy at the age of 21. My family was extremely upset with me and hoped that we would eventually reconcile. Everyone finally "saw the light" when he got engaged to a brand new girl three months after our split... I always said he just wanted to be married, not married to me specifically! Guess I was right!! Suck on that, doubtful relatives!!

GotNickel

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who fears this situation. It hasn't happened to me yet but I have a feeling it is coming soon. For me, I think part of the potential freak-out from finding out the ex is getting married is that I "loosened the jar" (I love that expression)and somehow played a hand in something that could really hurt me. And the other part is that if he is getting married, then he must have finally found somebody, and I haven't yet. I have a hard time understanding why he should be allowed to be happy when I am not.

Pseudonim

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My first love got married over the summer and while it stung slightly when I first found out, I was and am very happy for him. We were great together then, but we wouldn't be a great match now. He's still the best man I have ever dated and I know that neither of us will ever forget one another. I'm satisfied with that.

Ms. Pants

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> once i was crazy in love with this dude who just kept chipping away at my heart, first by cheating on me with his ex, then other stuff... but i still had feelings for him.

then he got married -- i was SHOCKED -- until he sent me wedding pictures and i saw that their wedding was in a rec center or something, with plastic chairs and plastic table covers and just...so...tacky

yeah, i'm over him now.

dashenbka

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I dated and lived with a guy for awhile. I wanted to marry him, he didn't want to commit yet, so I broke up with him. I was so disgusted with him. He had actually told me at one point that I was "The One" because "thats what they say in the movies, Brooke". Meaning, he never meant it! I didn't have very warm fuzzy feelings for him after that. Fast forward a year and a half, I was married and pregnant. He emailed me to say hi, I told him that I was married and happy and with the best guy I had ever known. He emailed me back saying I was still the best person he knew. I felt bad for him and it made me kinda angry. He gave me a lot of anguish when we broke up. When I met my husband I felt so much relief that I hadn't married my ex, but it still didnt change that he totally stomped my heart to little bits.

BrookeD

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> This summer, I will be seeing my HS Sweetheart for the first time in almost 10 years. He's Mormon, I'm not, so it never would have worked out, but he got married about 5 years ago and when I found out, it felt like someone had punched me in the chest.
I'm TERRIFIED to see him at our 10 year reunion. It won't help that I'm still single and he probably has 2-3 kids.
Oh, and also I cried on my college ex's wedding day, earlier this year. He met her while he and I were having a resurgent sex-fling and married her barely a year later.

TheGintheCity

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I'm now on my third ex getting married, having babies, and, well, you know, just existing without me. Coincidentally, they all married the girl they dated right after me. To say that this series of events has made an impression on me is an understatement. Luckily, I have great friends who hold my hand when I get drunk and cry about it. So far that has only happened twice, after two recent breakups, and I let myself indulge in a couple bottles of wine and self-pity. I think it's healthier than stalking. Maybe.

AshMas

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @jennmerr: I dunno, but I wish I felt the way you do!

robyns

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I'm on the other side. My current boyfriend is the greatest. He is planning on getting a ring for me soon. He has one of those horrible exes. She broke up with him and has a new boyfriend that she lives with but still thinks she can control my bf. She is going to freak out when he tells her that he plans on marring me. And I know that he is worried about telling her. (they were high school sweethearts).
I agree there is a slight feeling of sadness when an ex gets hitched. But honestly ... and I'm not just saying this, I would be happy for them. It didn't work out with us, I'm happy as can be in my current situation.
I think its my bf's ex that makes me so angry about this topic. UGH GO AWAY! I just want to say that she is a dog and got an STD last year.

BondGirl

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @freestylewalker: My bf, who I've lived with for three years, was previously engaged but they called off the wedding a number of months prior to the big day. This was how he told me that there was an ex-fiancee in his past--a week after we were dating he said no one had ever been this nice to him and that included the person to whom he had been engaged. Consequently, I've never really cared about her existence, even though I know they get in touch with each other about twice a year. People have exes, and it's a rare thing for someone to have been in a long-term relationship and thought (in the good times, I mean)that they wouldn't end up spending their life with this person (married or committed). Just because I hadn't been proposed to officially didn't mean I hadn't been in a similar position.

But then again, I'm also one of those weirdos that is good friends with both of my serious exes, so I guess I'm a bit abnormal in this area.

nuttycakes

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> my first love, whom I'm still friends with, recently got married to a very sweet girl. I was invited to the wedding, but didn't go, for no other reason than that it felt weird.

oddly, when I heard he was getting married I felt a sense of superiority. Like, ha, ha, your life is over thanks to marriage, mortgages and at some point, kids, while I can still do whatever the eff I want.

am I the only one who feels that way or am I in denial here?

jennmerr

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @LipstickLibrarian: Yeah its been two years and I still feel terrible. I decieded not even to try and tell her. I figured its better if I keep my mouth shut.

@telecomic: I'm sure you and Dodia did the right thing if you felt strongly enough to break up with them and did it.

I just broke up with my bf. I guess you could call it too much "noise". He wasn't treating me right. But in the quiet times he was sweet. It sucks.

hammerimissu

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I found out my most recent ex is getting married via a Myspace bulletin last month. She's getting married to one of her coworkers who is pretty much the exact opposite of me in many, many ways. This is also her third engagement out of her last four boyfriends, me being the only one to not go down that path.

She bought me a stuffed panda as a gift, and I'll look at it from time to time, wondering if I made the right decision in letting her go. The quiet times with her were fantastic. It's the noisy parts that brought forth so much static.

telecomic the big dumb dog

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Dodai,baby. Get over it.The man's moved on.You had ur chance.Yall broke up.Keep ur pride and move on!Not just physically either.

constancescott1990

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @mepo:
The first 'love of my life' suffered a psychotic break and has been hospitalized for the last 7 years with doesn't-respond-to-meds schizophrenia. I haven't seen him in 5 years bc his family wouldn't put me on the visitors list. I think seizing every moment you have with a person is best way to approach every relationship, friendly or romantic.

Snicker-snack

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @lauramac1976: That's it. That's exactly why. When my boy and I broke up last fall, I found out days afterward that he'd already met another girl, was infatuated, etc. I'd been really in love with him, and the pain of realizing I meant so little to him that he could instantly move on absolutely blindsided me. He was over her with in a month, of course, and in love with me again within two months. Sort of a microcosmic version of the far more intense thing a lot of you have gone through, but you explain it far better than I ever could. I felt, and still feel, sometimes, though he's gone through tortures to win me back, that somehow he didn't really value or respect our whole first relationship.

HOWEVER, my only other ex is in a long-term relationship with a new girl. I was happy for him and relieved for myself when I found out, not because he was a douche or anything, but because I didn't love him. I hadn't appreciated the love and caring he showered me with, and I was glad he'd found someone who would. I rather think they'll get married. He'll want to tell me himself, I'm sure, and I think I'll be thrilled. I'm either over someone or not at all, apparently.

jammiriffic

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> After two tumultous years, one abortion, and that slow sad process of falling out of love with one another (while still dating), my ex and I called it quits. Six months later, he was engaged and two months after that, married. I was devastated, not because I still loved him, not because I had any illusions as to what our future would have been like (miserable), and not because I wanted to get married. I didn't understand how someone could move on, seemingly permanently, at such a fast clip. It devalued the two years we had and made a mockery of all the pain that was associated with it. I was deeply pissed that he was over it (concretely, it would seem) while I was still processing the end of the affair.

FYI, in the end, they divorced.

lauramac1976

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @hammerimissu: Wow, that sounds just like my story!

Ex dumps me, then begins seeing mutual friend; a few months later he starts cheating on her with me. Fast forward a year and a half, and I find out on MySpace that he proposed two days before our last tryst, and didn't have the balls to tell me himself. There were tears, and some hyperventilation.

I actually tried, twice, to tell her about his cheatin' ways, but her head is so far up her ass she can't see shit, let alone what's right in front of her face.

LipstickLibrarian

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> what a timely post. I just found out last night that my first serious boyfriend is getting married in DAYS, and I literally cried about it. and then felt guilty for even being sad or caring because I am engaged myself and so endlessly happy.

I guess it hurts because we were friends for so long even after we broke up, even throughout each other's new relationships. But as soon as he started dating this girl he completely broke off all contact with me with no explanation other than that he "didn't feel like explaining to her" who I was.

kills me that I'm no longer important enough to hear about these exciting events in his his life, but how cool is it that my own guy can comfort me when I'm sad that my ex is getting married? he's a keeper.

yourbffjill

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I dated a bit in high school, nothing serious. I couldn't care less about most of them, except my very first boyfriend. We stayed friends and I wish him the best, but we were 14, and not in love.

That said, there are two boys that I did love. The first, there is no way we could have worked out. I hope he is out there somewhere living a wonderful and happy life. We parted on good terms.

The second love... he deserved better than me. I know that now. I am really glad he didn't marry the girl that came after me, but I was sad when I heard he and the next girl didn't work out. My ex is a wonderful and beautiful person and more than anything I hope he gets everything he wants out of life.

When he gets married I will be happy. It will mean that I didn't scar him too terribly (he's still willing to talk to me, so that's a good start at least) and because I loved him (and still do, but I'm not in love with him), his happiness means the world to me.

I would just like to get married first. Not likely to happen, but it would be nice is all.

Dawnzzle

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @hamburgerhotdog: Jar Loosener! Nice, I'm going to use that one when my last boyfriend gets hitched. So far I've had four serious ex-boyfriends get married right after they broke things off with me. To add insult to injury, they had all said more than once that they're NEVER getting married. Now I realize they meant they're never getting married... to me.

I was only really hurt by the first one. We had a volatile on/off relationship for three years, then he gets engaged to another girl in our department after dating her for a MONTH. And I just read they've been married eighteen years.

I'm only pissed when I see them years later and they act like they're setting up a booty-call with me, before mentioning the wife and kids. Or when they set up a dinner date, only to find that it's part of their 12-Step Program.

Topsyjane

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> my puppy love got married almost 4 years ago. Part of was just shocked he married. I think he wanted to lose his virginity.
my first real love is still single. i have been married now for almost 2 years which a little one (1 yr old) and he and i still talk. It pains me at times to hear his voice. My heart still skips a beat when he laughs. But I love my husband.
My first love had 6 years to marry me. i chased him and stood in his face and cried and screamed for him to make his choice to marry me and he did nothing. That was his choice.
He is that type of guy who when you finally think you're over him he calls. He flirts. He says things that melt your heart.
He calls every once in a while and a couple times when drunk he tells me he hates he let me go and he still loves me and he measures every woman up to me.
If i didnt love my husband and think i married my soulmate i would have jumped at the chance.

SpicyTamale πβɸ

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> if my ex got married to the girl he's dating now i would probably email her all the shit he's said about her to me in the past

ie: she smells bad, she's ugly, she's obnoxious and spoiled

adina

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I had a relatively stress free and kind divorce. (I am of the firm opinion that some relationships have experation dates!). This was made far easier because he moved back to South Africa a year after the seperation. We are still in contact and only wish the best for each other. We even gab about our relationships. And, patting myself on the back, when he realized that his rebound relationship chick was a total tramp (grabbed another guy's package while he was in the same room!!!), we had a very deep conversation about the incident. And the following day he broke up with her. A year of so after that he fell in love with a truly wonderful woman. The new wifey and I emai!!!! But I must reiterate this is made easier as they lives on another continent!!!!

BUT...............When they married, I needed to see the pictures.........because I needed to see if she was better looking!! Well, well, well, I win hands down!!! And her dress.....the tackiness was off the charts. Guess I am human after all!!!!!!!!

BeachLover420

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @done_and_done:
No, sadly, it does not seem to hurt less being married already.
@Beanfish: I was in an LTR situation, and I broke up with him for similar reasons...either way you'll probably wonder what it would have been like if you'd chosen the other path. At least, I do.

robyns

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @etubrute: That's freaky.

On an unrelated note, I love your avatar pic. Yay for penguins!

cate3710

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @peliroja: I occasionally check on a few of my exes that are in serious relationships to see if it has changed from 'in a relationship' to 'engaged'... On the day it does, there will probably be drinking, even though I would not want any of them back.

@megankills: I actually prefer my exes to date someone cooler than me (or at least someone I like) the next go-round. I think it's something about validating my taste in men, maybe? (This doesn't apply in the cases of exes that I dislike, but those are a minority for me, since I generally stay friends with my exes.)

cate3710

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I have been with my guy for almost 3 years and will be with him for life, but I still get sad that my high school bf is happily re-coupled! It's so stupid, he wasn't even nice to me, but I guess it's just those nostalgic feelings of a "first love"? I dream about him (non-sexually) ALL the time.

AHH! that stupid "ex-factor" show just came on MTV.

fashionably-challenged

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @cate3710, @etubrute: And they just added some other privacy controls, too.

broad

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @etubrute: It depends on what privacy levels people have selected. If someone limits profile visibility to friends-only, it's hard to stalk them. It can also be limited to people in their network (school, job, or regional) or be available to everyone. I'm not sure what the default privacy level is at this point.

cate3710

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I don't even need an ex to get married; just finding out they are dating someone new sends a sudden, yet thankfully short, pain in my heart.

Unless they begin dating a fat girl with bad roots like the last one. I win by default.

megankills

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex strung me along for about 2 years and eventually I left because he cheated. Alas, I started dating my hubby and got engaged. Meanwhile the ex found out that I was engaged and quickly hit the internet to find a bride. He "beat me to it" which annoyed me, but I didn't feel a bit sad (except for her because I hear she gets to deal with the crap I did).

denises_24

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Oh wow. This all rings so true for me. I'm married now but I still think about my ex. Totally similar situation to Dodai. We were exceptionally happy and madly in love. Then I graduated from university and broke up with him.

Exactly the same reasons: too young, wanted other things, blah blah. This was 13 years ago. I feel guilty that I still think about him - and even more so when I found his girlfriend's updated Facebook profile recently - of her pregnant belly.

Why oh why did that freak me so much? I've had loads of boyfriends and relationships since then. I'm now incredibly happy and settled with my husband. He's a gigantic sweetie. We're planning to start baby-making soon. So why the urge to vomit when I realise my ex had impregnated another woman?

I think I genuinely miss him. We're no longer in contact and my one fear is that he's completely forgotten about me. Or worse, he's labelled me as "his crazy ex".

(Do I pass the first post audition??? This is the first time I've wanted to say something as Dodai's words resonated so strongly with me.)

SpookyWitchInASexyDress

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex left me for the White Hen clerk, in the town we both worked for at the time. I came across his wedding pix online (via a tip from a friend), and had a huge laugh at the whole thing. She's 10+ years older than he (and looks it!), and she has three slutty-looking daughters, who I'm sure he'll try to tap when he's done with Ma. All of his white-trash dreams are coming true, and I couldn't be more happy to be away from him.

Freeeedoooommmmmm!!!!!!

fddb

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> ps: my ex called his DAUGHTER my name!! (she's 2 yrs old now) I have an unusual name & it freaks me the f*** out!

etubrute

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I know this makes me weird, but I'm more concerned about my current BF's exes than any of my own. Mine are all dead to me, but I pray for the days when HIS ex finally moves on.

thebeerbitch

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I have a really dumb question: how do you stalk someone on facebook? i thought you had to invite each other as friends to see full profiles? I'd really love an answer to this as ALL my exes are married. Thanks in advance. x

etubrute

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Gretchen: not even a small town...I'm from a city in the northeast. Just a straaaanggee coincidence!

rosalita

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex and I still kinda have feelings for each other, but for me, it's in the "aw, you were my first love" way - I'm happily dating and living with the man I want to marry. However, both the ex and I have agreed that when the other one gets married, the unmarried one is going to freak out juuuuust slightly. With copious amounts of alcohol. He just broke up with his girlfriend of 4.5 years, so I'm hoping I'll win this race ;)

hellodarling!

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> The one thought I had when I found out my ex was getting married? Total and utter sympathy for his new wife.

flyoverstate

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I love Jezebel and everything, but when you end a post with questions like that (How about YOU, ladies?), it makes the blog sound like Glamour magazine.

inhershoes

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Beanfish: That was how my parents felt--they met when my mom was 16 and my dad 17, and married when they were, I think, 21 and 22. Wound up with a severe case of "what if?" syndrome and divorced...only to get married again a few years later after playing the field and realizing they actually had it pretty good.

snappletree

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @jeska: I wish I could adopt that philospy too, but the sad fact is that the two exes who went on and got engaged (one is now married with two kids) left ME.

I'm actually glad that the one who is married isn't married to me, I think I dodged a bullet. He cheats on her incessantly and I loved being able to say "told you so" to the woman who stole him from me in the first place.

The other I was still in love with when he left me, and for a long time after. He broke it off with me, began dating someone else (who was already acquainted with both of us) two weeks later, proposed soon thereafter but dumped her a couple of years later because she was a nut job.

Am I happy that both of these women have suffered? Definitely. Is it a horrible thing to be feeling? Probably. Do I care? Not really... but I think I ought to. What happened to girl power?!

eigne

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> No, but I just ended a four-year relationship, and this guy I was with probably would not have hesitated to marry me if I had been ready to. I'm willing to bet that if he's not with someone else already, he will be in a few months, and within a year he WILL be married.

Jadoremonchat

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> having recently broken up with the boy, I been mentally preparing myself, and my friends who will be in charge of the care taking and double shots of tetetequila, for when my ex bf gets snatched up by a big boob-ed, barbie-nosed, carmel skinned goddess -cuz that shit is gonna sting like no other. i'm hoping preparing for the worst will be my best shot. he's the pro marriage, pro chitlens, pro soccer mom and dad type so i know it'll come soon enough.

I even have a list in the works re: reasons why this girl's life with him will be not so perfect, so far BAAADDDDD oral sex and low low selfesteem top

carlangus

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @cate3710: Haha, speaking of Facebook, I only recently got up enough courage to go on to the "other woman's" profile and see her "in a relationship" status with a profile picture of the two of them. But the best part was, I survived. Which I wouldn't have been able to do a year ago when things went splitsville.

Funny how the internet makes this whole situation better/worse at the same time.

peliroja

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Turnstyle: Hell, I wigged out last week when I found out (on Facebook, if we must be honest) the guy I've been crushing on the past few months is interested in another chick. And I'VE NEVER MET HIM IN PERSON.

That is to say, I feel you.

broad

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @dirtyfez: I second the "dodged THAT bullet" feeling. I have one macho-stalker-controller ex; I only hope that whenever he does marry, he will not to make another woman as miserable as he made me. Or maybe she'll just be the type to like that shit, who knows.
My wonderful high school sweetheart though - I hope he marries someone who rocks his socks. I have guilt about this because a) it was hard on him when I broke us up b) I'm really happily married now.
If I hadn't met my husband, and nice-ex got married, I'd probably be anguished over the "what ifs".

Peripheralvision

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> With eyes that big, I'm surprised she didn't see this coming!

kirida

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My first lurve and I split because he wouldn't leave the college town when I went to NYC. Well, of course, after I left, he finally made the big move, and became a very successful art scene guy. It really ground me down a bit, because we really loved each other and it was just timing that messed us up. And yeah, I am totally envious of his glamorous life.

Rationally, I know it wouldn't have worked, so it's all good. But Dodai really captured that feeling so well. It's a weird pang in a spot you didn't realize you had.

Or maybe it's just ego.

huffyb

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @rosalita:
Small town? That kind of thing happens in our (red)neck of the woods. Everyone is related to/divorced from/in-laws to/dates/dated someone that you know. After 16 years here I am no longer amazed.

Gretchen

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @raphaela: Ummm, that cannot be coincidence. Maybe strong, ridic strong, subconscious revenge fantasy, but no coincidence.

ginger_t

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Alipaps: my ex/son's bio-dad has a total of 5 kids now. I can't say I ever batted an eyelash at any of it. And it never hurt me in any way when he hooked up with his (now ex) wife. Although, I used to THROW UP if he called me, or even if I just saw his name on my caller ID. That's how douchey he was. One time he called right after I ate a lasagna dinner...Uhhhh.

sarabadara

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Crazy ex- I break up with him when he bails on me on the 1st anniversary of my brother's death. After a couple of months of him calling/e-mailing/begging/apologizing, I decide to give him another chance. We start dating again and 4 months later I find out he's living with his ex-gf. And they're engaged. (Don't ask how I didn't know this, cause I STILL can't figure out how I missed all the REALLY obvious signs.)
They break up 6 months late and it's back to 'you're the love of my life/calling/e-mailing/begging. I'm already dating someone else, but since my bf lived across the country, my ex thought it didn't count and wouldn't let up.
I find out that during this time, he has let ANOTHER of his exes move into his place, with the 1 (of 3) child she is allowed to have custody of.
A year lfater, he cheats on this chick and gets another girl pregnant. Dumps her almost immediately and is now currently engaged to someone he knew in HS.
They don't make them much douch-ier than this guy.

Truth? Even though I want NOTHING to do with his psycho-ass, it hit me like a ton of bricks every time I found something out about him. EVERY TIME.





Alipaps

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> How did I feel when my ex got married to the girl he was cheating on me with when he broke up with me for having too many guy friends? Elated. It's amazing how happy you are when you dodge a bullet.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @blondegrlz: S'okay, lady. Target dramas are high-larious for the most part, and the crap e-mail he sent me was wallow-tastic. He had a head cold, he saw me with The Dude on the Mortgage, and sent me this missive about how he was alone, had a head cold, and I should be doting on him.

It was awesome. Even TDotM laughed and laughed.

howdybeep (runs with monkey wrenches)

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Oh, and to answer the actual question: An ex of mine started dating an old friend of mine, someone I'd known since junior high school, and eventually married her. I didn't care, why would I? They're better suited to each other than we ever were.

louveciennes

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex is marrying my BOYFRIEND'S EX!!!!! It's weird. But we dated years ago so not as weird as it could be...

rosalita

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Didn't Jennifer Wilbanks invite the entire town to their wedding? That makes her sound like a crazy drama addict, and the subsequent freakout makes her sound like a childish idiot who can't deal rationally with the consequences of her own terrible decisions. Mason dodged a bullet.

louveciennes

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex got married. Doesn't stop him from trying to hook up with me though...

[Expletive Deleted]

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I had one boyfriend marry the girl with whom he cheated on me. That sort of hurt, but he was already in my "Dead To Me" pile for cheating on me, anyway. Anyone of my other ex's who have gotten married haven't affected me at all.

GodOfBiscuits

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Beanfish:
Your situation almost perfectly describes mine. I will have been dating my boyfriend for five years in September, and we starting dating when I was almost 19.

The question is, where do we go from here?

Super1984

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> The minute you break up with someone, it's just a race to see who's in a happy relationship first. Whoever marries wins, I guess.

noneandonly

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @bigleggedwoman:
I was married to a good man too, and had the same song running through my head. It was a case of we were both too young. We had been friends forever and intended to remain friends, until he remarried. New wife could NOT stand the fact that we still liked to talk every once in a while even if it was about literature, politics and other stuff she thought was "boring". The fact we had done this since sophomore year in high school didn't change her mind. He had to stop calling (all of 3 times a year - she couldn't handle that!) and I haven't heard from him since.
There is, however, someone from his area that continues to try to get my email address from my professional union. Coincidence? Or maybe a future dilemma?

Gretchen

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I think with normal people, the ex getting married can be hard. But Jennifer Wilbanks wasn't a normal person, and frankly I hope she IS losing it over his marriage.

Bindarra

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I found out my first love/HS sweetheart is getting married a few months ago. I broke up with him Jr year in HS, however, our relationship was never really over until Valentine's day 2007. He started dating his now fiance a couple months after we broke up. But we did the whole secret hooking up thing off and on for about 3 years. I wanted to date around and saw her as a holding place. Eventually I decided I was done being the other woman when he called to tell me he loved me on Vday, before he had even called her(they had a long distance relationship). I brought up how I felt and he took the "I wanna have my cake and eat it too" stance. Instead of convincing him to pick me over his confessed rebound girl, I told him to never speak to me again. I've missed him in varying degrees since then and when I found out about their engagement I think I might have thrown up a little in my mouth. Mostly I'm fine with it but sometimes in moments of weakness I will check out their wedding website, which is pretty vomit inducing(esp. their engagement picture's in his college baseball jerseys). At least I have managed not to post anonymous "He's a cheater" messages on the website's guest book. The one good thing about stalking the website is I found out that they are getting married at the Embassy Suites. Real classy.

piecederesistance

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @LaFemme: Deep breath! I think the comment you're referring to was about a blog, not Facebook, so it had different tracking capacities. As far as I know, there's no way for someone to figure out who's being looking at their FB profile.

cate3710

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Blue Skies, Golden Sunshine: The one that hurt, weirdly, was the friend with whom I had an "emotionally intense," close friendship during high school. It was complicated, there were lots of feeling, and senior year he started dating a friend of mine--his first actual girlfriend and the only girl he's ever kissed--and they got married when we all graduated college in '06. I was there with my own boyfriend, and I'm happy for the dude and certainly don't want him for myself, but it was definitely odd. I don't think it helped things that six months earlier he'd broken the engagement off for a few days and I encouraged the breakup pretty strongly, which I think his wife probably knows. I didn't bother much making a secret out of the fact that I thought they were making a mistake, so it was that sense of dread for them combined with a tiny, tiny pang of "I guess he really doesn't love me the most anymore."

Blue Skies, Golden Sunshine

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I masochistically read the marriage license applications in our local newspaper to see if my "I'm never getting married because marriage is a capitalist construct" ex has changed his mind with his current girlfriend. Because irony and I are old friends.

On the other hand, I know my current significant other told his ex the same thing, but talks pretty casually about marriage now with me. Did she break him in, or is he just emerging from the "Dude" phase?*

*Dude phase- "Dude, I hate marriage, and kids, and when girls are too serious and anything that keeps me from keepin' it real and being a dude." Otherwise known as having a penis and being between the ages of 23-30.

lacey in ak

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> WHAT IS THIS PEOPLE CAN SEE IF YOU LOOKED AT THEIR FACEBOOK PROFILE STUFF????!!!! Sorry to scream, but someone said that and I have to know if this is true because I stalk my exes there and would be very embarassed if they knew that...

LaFemme

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I'd like to be the better person, but if my ex-husband ever got married again, after saying he didn't like being married and was too selfish to be married, I'd probably be even angrier about my debacle of a marriage. Even though I'm much better off now, it would still be rage-inducing.

If the ex-boyfriend that I'm still friends with got married? I'd be overjoyed for him and still weep into my pillow a little. He's just that awesome and sweet.

boozyj

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> dodai, no truer words or questions have been asked. I've been with My boyfriend a few weeks shy of a year. Even though he's great, I know I don't want to be with him for.ev.er. I wonder sometimes if I'll ever have that exact moment with him that you just described with your ex. le sigh.

KitKatC

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> this makes me want to cry. thinking about this happening to me is so upsetting.

cocojack

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> First boyfriend has a wife with a bun in the oven. He is 23. His wedding photos are on Facebook, they were hella cheesy, and all they made me feel were relief that I chose something else for my life. And then my friend from high school and I made fun of him for like an hour.

Blue Skies, Golden Sunshine

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I just found out that my ex is engaged, and strangely, while I could have cared less about his life in the three years since our breakup, it filled me with unholy rage. Why? immediately after we broke up, I realized I was so happy to be rid of him I was practically euphoric. I never actually conveyed to him that his behaviour was ass-like and emotionally manipulative and the stress-related illness I suffered was actually related to this behaviour, so I was just glad to be rid of the guy. After I'd had some time to think about things I realized, with relish, he'd probably have a hard time finding someone who'd be an attractive, unedeucated fundamentalist christian baby-popper, the model he'd wanted me to emulate. Now he's found such a girl, who, at 21, can probably be molded in this image with the help of his forceful personality. Yeah, it's none of my business and we don't even live on the same continent anymore. But...ugh. Is it bad to want to subscribe him to gay and lesbian rights e-newsletters because it would piss him off, three years after the fact? probably yes.

takeitasred

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @CorporateTool: That's what I like to tell myself.

cate3710

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @DorothyZbornak: My ex searches for girls who look like, act like, and are interested in the same things as, me.

But that's OK. I have a type. I think most people do, and search out people who fit a certain fantasy of their "ideal."

On the matrimony front, I will be emotionally crippled for probably a month or so when the guy I fell totally, insanely in love with (but never dated) gets married.

Turnstyle

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Broke up with Emo-eeyore (nearly three year engagement friendly relationship) five months ago for Mr. Frog. Never admitted that I left him for someone else to avoid giving him reasons to be more emo. While I felt like a ton of guyliner had been taken off of my shoulders; Emo-eeyore tried to commit suicide twice after I left, and spent most of the past few months in a mental institution. He met a woman there, twice my age (Him 34, me 23) wheelchair bound, with a brain tumor and a bunch of other unfortunateness. I still feel a little pang thinking about them getting married before I do, even though when I look at all the factors, I know I'm being ridiculous.

ChezLait

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @cate3710: At least it means that you're doing SOMETHING right. Right?

CorporateTool

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> i'm the one left behind and still getting over the split due to distance and no marriage is going on, just a new dude for her (her in my case). comments about being happy for the other person are encouraging but hard to work through now. she's my first love and all i can do is see how it unfolds... it sucks, man.

h.caulfield

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Pinkosaurus: same here. The crap weasel I dated before my hubby's is still single and pathetic. What sucks is I loved him and saw past his tiny penis. If he was to get married I would laugh. He totes isn't mature enough.

SpicyTamale πβɸ

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @rocknrollunicorn: Actually the nifty literal 69 symbol (rolled 90 degrees) is the sign for Cancer, which I am, and which is why i would never NEVER get my symbol tattooed on my body. Scorpio is an m with a little fishhook at the end.

kellsbells

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Relatively speaking, my divorce was mostly drama free. The ex has remained a part of my life. We share details and advice on our new relationships. HOWEVER, he recently remarried and I used all my feminine wiles to obtain his new wedding photo's. Why you ask? So that I could evaluate whether the new wifey is prettier, etc. Shallow, perhaps......but boy oh boy did I love the fact that she has nothing on me....And her wedding dress......tacky tacky tacky. Tee Hee!!!

BeachLover420

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @CorporateTool: I'm young enough still that I'm not necessarily the last stop before marriage, but I am something of a boyfriend trainer, it seems. One of my HS boyfriends is engaged to the girl he started dating after me; my first college boyfriend is still dating the girl after me (and I'm willing to bet he will propose once he's graduated from law school); other guys that had commitment issues, etc. went on to have good long-term relationships. I'm glad I seem to have left the boys better than I found them, but dammit, I'd like to keep one for once.

cate3710

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @I, SBJ, A Fucking Dyke: Be nice to howdybeep, she's having a shitty week.

@howdybeep (oh, look -- a monkey): If you need people to talk to, or an imaginary cupcake - or hell, a real cupcake - join the Jezebel Facebook group and I will sent you dem.

BlondeGrlz

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Beanfish: I feel you on that one. On the one hand, I had plenty of crazy dorm-room hook-ups, and was heartbroken (though ever so briefly) when my last 2-year relationship ended. Now, I've been with my current boyfriend for a little more than a year, and he's just wonderful, but if we broach the topic of marriage in a year or two (i.e., when I'm 25 or 26), will I feel like my 20s were too damn steady? At the same time, I also know that watching him marry someone else someday would rip my heart out of chest, regardless of the way things ended.

Also, my favorite ex, with whom I still good friends- we didn't work out because of youth, geography and general external circumstances- is honestly looking to settle down for the first time in his life, and he's currently in a happy relationship. I'm fairly certain that he'll tell me he's engaged within the next year, and I know it'll make me feel sick in the pit of my stomach, but I also know that I'll be delighted for him. Without a doubt, he'll wince if and when I marry as well.

jigglyball

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @RemoteCommander: I agree- I met my first love at a week long 'nerd camp'. He was from Maryland, I was from Nevada. I cried the whole plane ride home. I don't know if he's dating or not, but I will most likely cry when he gets married.

lemurlady

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @rbdfoxes: Marriage is a three ring circus. You have your engagement ring, your wedding ring, and your suffering.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @merci:
you are probably right but it just made it sting a little more having to find out the way I did. We still had limited contact and he knew that he had devastated my world when he cheated. I guess I thought the gentlemanly thing to do in the situation would have been to give me a heads up that it would be announced to all of our friends via an email with a picture of the couple looking happy and in love a little less than 5 months from our break-up.

lbug

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @broad: "ain't going to leave her husband," is what that was supposed to say.

broad

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I'm cool with one of my ex-boyfriends, but while we were together, he would occasionally talk about his ex, and actually made it sound like she was a bit unstable. Nevertheless, when we broke up, he went right back to her. He and I stayed friends, though (we always genuinely liked each other as people, and the break up wasn't nasty, just sad). Now, after 6 years of stringing her along, he's finally marrying the long-suffering girlfriend. When we were together, the one thing I couldn't abide was that I never came first in his life -- his mother did, always and forever. I KNOW for a fact it's been the same thing for this girl. When he called to tell me, I was overwhelmed by emotion and actually teared up a little, but then was pretty much at peace with it. He's a cool guy and can be very kind, but it would never have worked. I already did the whole "Should we get back together??" agonizing, and the answer was definitely NO.

I'm actually more sad FOR him, because I honestly don't think he's the marrying kind. I still talk to one of his friends, and when he called me to talk about the engagement, he said my ex had implied that his arm was twisted. So yeah. Maybe some pangs, but no regrets on my side for sticking around and enduring his wishy-washiness.

cautionarywhale

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex ended up marrying rebound girl. That smarted, but my ego more than my heart.

whoneedslight

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> One ex (who I dated for a couple months my freshman year of college) called me up out of the blue years after we broke up to announce that he was engaged to a preacher's daughter. I couldn't have cared less, but I wonder to this day if she knows how many teenage prostitutes he frequented on his tour of Asia. Heh.

I didn't know that another ex had even gotten married until his current wife contacted me (again, out of the blue, hadn't talked to the guy in years) to ask if he had physically abused me. Turns out, he had the cops called on him for spousal abuse. Bullet dodged!

And finally, a third ex with whom I hadn't spoken in three years saw my fiance and I at a local bar. He proceeded to have an wailing emotional breakdown and was dragged outside by his friend.

Those people who claim you always carry a special place in your heart for past flames? Liars.

Gumbina80

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> For me, I think it depends on how badly the ex treated me. When I found out my shitty ex was dating a stripper 14 years younger than he with two kids last summer, I flipped my shit (though not to him). Shockingly, that relationship didn't last, which made me laaaaaaaugh and laaaaaaaugh. (Oh, and he's still "in love" with the married woman he's been seeing for the past 5-ish years. Hasn't figured out that she

The guy I thought I was going to marry in my 20s, though? I was remarkably cool with it, even though had I found out a year or so after we broke up, I'd have probably died a little inside. At the point I'd found out, I'd finally come to terms that we'd have never been a good couple and that truthfully, better her than me.

broad

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I hate marriage, so I'd probably be happy that they found someone who shared their same goals in life.

I don't fuck around - if someone is going to try to derail me into what they want out of life, they have to go and I won't miss them at all.

But speaking of which, I should go home to my SO, who has been nice enough to do the stay out of my way thing this past week without complaint...

gluecake

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @DorothyZbornak: Is his wife your long lost twin? 'Cause that's what it sounds like. I'm pretty sure I saw this story on 20/20.

JessicaLovejoy: Wanton Trollop

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @lbug: if you're not still in contact with him, it's probably for a reason. and you broke up. he has no obligation to tell you that he's getting married and vice versa.

merci

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> And my second to last ex called me for a booty call one night when I was in town. And thought "Why not? Its like recycling." Low and behold I look at his myspace a couple days after and he is ENGAGED!

I felt like a dirty whore. I really went back and forth if I should tell the girl what happened. But I never did. And now they're married.

hammerimissu

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @howdybeep (oh, look -- a monkey): Target drama! Oh noes! Don't cry! Shh, shh, shh.

Skinny Bone Jones

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Great timing, I'm going to my ex's wedding this weekend.

emptee_head

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I found out about his wife and beautiful daughter at Christmas and cried. It was eleven years after I dumped him, and I cried.

Oddly enough, that same Christmas, the other ex saw us in Target and sent me a crap e-mail that I forwarded on.

And now, if the separation sticks, I fully expect the dude who's on the mortgage with me to not only get married in an elaborate ceremony to some random nubile 20 year old girl, but to have six kids immediately.

And now I'm crying at work. Seriously.

howdybeep (runs with monkey wrenches)

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I have no exes. I have no guys who are still not over me. I'm starting to feel like my boyfriend will never marry me because he secretly still prefers the vapid pretty girls he used to crush on before we started going out. And one day I'll get fed up and dump him and then he'll seem sad but two months later be engaged to some girl he's currently "just friends" with, one of his many girlfriends that he talks to obsessively, and he'll invite me to the wedding, and I'll be miserable. Jezebel, today is my insecure day for the week, and you're bumming me out. I hate my life.

Fortunately, we're a bit young to have widespread marrying amongst the friend groups; that would just about finish me off.

jammiriffic

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @jenalicious: The reason I broke up with my high school sweetheart is because I knew we'd end up married by 21 with two kids and I'd be living on Navy bases for the rest of my life, which is not a bad life for someone who wants it, but I didn't. When he gets married (which I figure will happen sometime soon), I hope I'll be happy for him (which I am now whenever he tells me about his girlfriends), but I have this deep feeling I'll be sad. It's hard to think you could have loved someone so much and really thought you'd spend your life with them only to realize you won't, the love is gone, and they found it with someone else. But whatevs, I'd be more upset if I found out my ex was getting divorced, because then there's a chance he'll come crying to me again and I ain't havin' none of that

AnnaWintwhore

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I was engaged and called off the wedding and broke up with the guy about 6 months before it was supposed to occur. My ex-fiance lives in my neighborhood and i see him and his new wife and thir dogs every now and again and we say not a word. I don't feel bad that they they got married, I do feel bad for her though. One of the biggest reasons for me calling off the wedding was that I felt that he could have been marrying anyone, it didn't matter that it was me. Everything seemed to be done for the sake of appearences, not our impending marriage. That and he was a pathological liar to the extreme. When I heard of their engagement about 6 months later, it pretty much solidified the fact that I totally called it. Bullet dodged. Good luck new wife lady.

manos: the hands of kate

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My college boyfriend got engaged at the same time I got engaged (almost to the day), but he got married in August and I'm not getting married till next month.

He had a beautiful simple wedding on her parents' farm, and my wedding is turning into a three-ring, multi-city, multi-country...HELL multi-continent circus. Complete with lots of family drama. That's what I'm jealous of.

Three words of advice: Elope, elope, elope.

xo

rbdfoxes

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I found out through the internet that me ex got engaged. I was caught off guard and thought it was just another dick move on his part not to warn me that I would be hearing this.

Would you rather find out through other ways, friends, family etc.. or hear it straight from the source?

lbug

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> I do still love me ex and I would be heartbroken. But he treated me terribly and was mentally abusive and mean. So maybe I would feel bad for the new wife.

hammerimissu

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> One thing that keeps me feeling kind of smug about my exes getting married is the 50% divorce rate.

And knowing those assholes, they'll end up in that demographic.

jeska

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @nothanks: Oh hai. You can haz punkshooayshun?

Skinny Bone Jones

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Two of my pretty serious exes are now married; considering they're both pro-lifers working on their respective Christian armies, I'm not terribly worked up over it (one of the guys tried to take me to a Justice for Life rally on a surprise date). I have hot sex with my boyfriend.

legendaryfunk

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> my ex just got engaged at christmas and i really felt nothing which was strange as we had a pretty intense relationship always thought the girl hes ended up with was a moron anyway- probably because im (finally) in a good place with my current boyfriend and a large ocean is inbetween us so thats also good!

nothanks

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> It helps to have only terrible exes so you can feel sorry for their future partners. But you still have to go through the terrible part to get to those good feelings of emotional detachment. Eh, love hurts.

LisaMc

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> i only have two exes. both got married, and my hs bf has two very cute kids with a really awesome woman. he actually dated her before we even dated, so i certainly never felt that i had some kind of prior claim on him.

the other one, though, got engaged ONE MONTH after we broke up and married the girl (that he met on friendster lol) like three months later. i was momentarily pissed and then suddenly realized: 'oh. he IS fucking crazy! no WONDER he broke up with me!'

and also, a number of our mutual friends took bets (which i don't think he knew about) on how long it would last. i think the marriage topped out at four months. so i just ended up just feeling sorry for him. that said, we are not friends and never will be, 'cause i don't roll like that.

merci

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My "great but not in the right place to make it work" ex got married, had a kid, bought a condo. That I handled fine. What pissed me off was when he suggested I settle down and build. wtf. I haven't talked to him since.

veej

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> 2 years ago me and the ex broke things off. He was a jack ass but when he got engaged 5 months later I almost had a mental breakdown. This was a man who got a little nervous when we got past the 6 month mark thinking that meant we had to get engaged. I guess I just was not the right girl for him as he was also a cheater.

Best of luck to him and his new bride

lbug

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @LaComtesse: I was (and I guess still am?) The Other Woman as well, even though it didn't make quite as much sense--the "ex" was a "best friend" who was planning on marrying my man once we finished college. She told me this on the way to the mall on a very ill-advised shopping trip where I was just trying to be the laid-back girlfriend of five weeks getting to know someone who was important to him, and oh yes--we were 19. We stayed together and they grew apart over the subsequent years, but she would keep showing up unannounced at his parents' house over breaks and, after exchanging pleasantries (but never asking if I was still in the picture or not), would see if he was interested in sleeping with her. Which he wasn't. And now I'm very curious to see if she knows we're getting married.

bellethellama

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Both of our exes periodically hound us like their sad little lives depended on it, and it's very obnoxious. We cope buy making fun of them.

@hamburgerhotdog: You are a dirty nasty and I will have none of your filth.

Skinny Bone Jones

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Every man I have ever dated has proposed to the next woman he dated, and most of them married.

I think the term is "jar loosener". I'm used to this shit, it doesn't even faze me anymore.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> One day last summer, before I went over to my weekend job, my mother asked me to pick up her copy of her community newspaper, bring it to my boss, but not to read it. I was like, "Mom, WTF?!"

I could only assume that the wedding announcement of the boy I was in love with in high school was in there, and sure enough, it was. His wife wasn't all that cute and he had gotten fat.

I think of him fondly every once in a while, but then I remember that we had never even kissed with tongue and that if I'd married him I'd be living in Minneapolis right now.

wolf biter

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> God, I wish my ex would get married. Or just date. Because he's still single, I feel like I can't even be honest about my status on Facebook. When you're the dumper, it's definitely better if the other person meets someone else first. Much less guilt that way.

hotpotatoes

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> Damn you Jezebel, you just made me stalk my ex. I just sent him a Myspace message.

p.s. does anyone know how to Facebook stalk? I can't see his profile without letting him know I'm looking. Damnit.

BlondeGrlz

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @done_and_done: ya know, it doesn't. when my high school/early college sweetheart gets married, I'm going to be heartbroken. And I absolutely 100% love my husband. but, still...

monkeymama

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @LaComtesse: I think we're the same person.

rockmusic

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @LaComtesse: Now I'm blushing. So, do you still have a BFF, cause I've never had one...

sarabadara

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @Sugarless: In my case, I didn't call up the ex and tell him (or talk to him at all, because I had already quit talking to him)... he heard through mutual friends and then proceeded to contact me with a lot of "boo hoo, now I realize what I took for granted, I'm all alone" nonsense.

Legalese

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex-husband married the chickie-babe he cheated on me with 13 months after our divorce (she was seven years old when he and I married 13 years before). Even though I had been remarried for a month (to a man who is everything my ex is not), I still wanted both of them dead.

I have never met her, but even now, five years later, I still want to kick her ass. I wish misery, pain, and divorce on them both.

Any yeah, I should "get over it", but what can I say? I'm a petty and vindictive, yet sentimental, chick.

fresca2u

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> @sarabadara: I hear ya, sugarcube.

@chelotoyou: a mean girl indeed!!

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[How Would You Feel If Your Ex Got Married?]]> My ex-husband got re-married before me and called to tell me about it. I was glad...now the cheating bastard would FINALLY stop calling me. Seriously...it's good when they move on.

CakeNotCookies

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