<![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse" - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse" - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @baa: No insight beyond the fact that I read the NY Post (I like pagesix! I admit it!) and the custody fights those two have are perfect tabloid fodder. It got to the point that the judge basically gave them both a time out and told them to think about the child they were in court fighting over - I think it had something to do with the kid's birthday party.

And she seems to think she's entitled to quite a bit from the ex gov... to wit:

[www.nypost.com]

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz:"And more sadly, why do many wives decide to have children with selfish and self-centered people who expect the woman to do all the changing and adjusting?"

Women are women. For this you really, really need to read alot of books about women, women and hysteria, women and sociology, women and the role of feminism and so on..

My dissertation was actually on this-and I still don't have the answer which is fun! and sad but still fun cause you can learn more and more and more....

Just email me and I can email you some really good fem stories that will answer your queries BIG TIME... :)

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz:

why does it invariably have to be the wife who makes the biggest sacrifices? And sadly, the answer most often is : because the husband simply won't and the wife feels too guilty to ask for what she is entitled.

And more sadly, why do many wives decide to have children with selfish and self-centered people who expect the woman to do all the changing and adjusting?

We have some SERIOUS agreement here. I have a funny, semi-related story: Right after I had my son, I went to the pediatrician (female) with my MIL because my husband couldn't come with. My pediatrician had had a baby herself only 3 weeks before me, and my MIL asks, all shocked, "Who has your baby?!?" (Seriously, had she never heard of daycare? I was mortified.)

And my pediatrician said nice and calmly, "My husband does. He's staying home with our children." You could have scraped my MIL's jaw off the floor. But it was a reminder for me of how different the generations are.

So I guess my point is that I absolutely think women shouldn't shouldn't automatically opt out of the work force, presuming they have the financial means to do so.

Anyway, I apologize again for sounding shrill. I think I jumped the gun.

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...:
Thank you.
Well, I was saying that I don't think Eliot Spitzer deserved any of the sacrifices his wife made for him. You said earlier:
"So my point is: Husband may be an asshole, but wife may have had him in her peripheral vision when she made the choice to take care of the kids. Does that make sense?"
It sounds like you're saying that making sacrifices for the children is not a waste at all. Sure. And I'm saying why does it invariably have to be the wife who makes the biggest sacrifices? And sadly, the answer most often is : because the husband simply won't and the wife feels too guilty to ask for what she is entitled.
And more sadly, why do many wives decide to have children with selfish and self-centered people who expect the woman to do all the changing and adjusting?

Crazydogggz

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz: WORDY McWORD:

"A woman may call herself 'strong' and 'enlightened', it doesn't mean she really is that way. Rhetoric is a poor substitute for the real thing. And the real thing risks criticism and labels such as 'ballbreaker' and 'hairy dyke' which most women fear and loathe."

Beautifully put.

Gingerlime

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @ baa

What's the inside story?? What do you know we don't? Why do you feel she was erm, completely innocent in the situation? I'm reeally curious...

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @haggardprincess: Can't speak for Spitzer's wife, but I'm pretty sure Dina didn't know her husband is a Gay American. Her divorce battle has turned into a war of attrition, with their poor daughter often serving as the cannon fodder. The conduct of both parties in this case leads me to believe their relationship was not open.

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Artful Slinger: You are absolutely correct, while Jim McGreevy is not what I would call an ethical person he did resign as the office of Governor. Yet in her divorce filing Dina felt she should be able to continue to live the life she had become accustomed to as the governor's wife. Last I checked gay or not, once your husband is no longer the governor you lose the perks associated with being the wife of the governor. She really should keep quite and work things out for their child.

I understand that a wife is entitled to half, but is she also entitled to half of something that is no longer his to share?

chargernj

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @proptersnark: She's certainly getting a lot of play as the expert on wronged political wives.

I figure she has every right to do as she pleases. But me? I'd be on a beach, drinking a margarita and trying to forget I ever met Jim McGreevey. Just sayin'.

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Hey Crazzydogggz (sorry, no reply button showing right now):

This is in response to your 4:28 comment.

I apologize if I made it sound like I was responding to Silda ("some random lady") and her situation. I truly, truly was upset only about your comment - - and the LAST part of your comment, at that - - where you said that, "I am saying that she made all these unnecessary sacrifices for someone who didn't really deserve them. "

Like I said before, I view children as worthy sacrifices, that's all.

And I also want to apologize for making it personal. I'm feeling jumpy today; perhaps all the douchery we're seeing on the 'nets?

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Hate Matt Lauer.

Stumbelina

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Dina gave an interview on ABC, too. She's certainly getting a lot of play as the expert on wronged political wives.

proptersnark

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz:

Here's the part I said I had a problem with:
People with a limited sense of identity make choices that are about sacrficing their own interests way too much. Not saying that Silda is a weak woman or anything. I am saying that she made all these unnecessary sacrifices for someone who didn't really deserve them.

I just feel like it's unfair to say someone staying home is sacrificing his/her interests for the spouse. What if they are sacrificing those interests for the children? Isn't that a worthy sacrifice?

(BTW, I feel like that makes me sound like I'm aiming for martyrdom or for someone to pat me on the back. I'm not. I really am trying to speak generally here.)

So my point is: Husband may be an asshole, but wife may have had him in her peripheral vision when she made the choice to take care of the kids. Does that make sense?

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...: Also, what does an innocuous comment on some website about some random lady you don't even know, have to do with you defending your personal choices and major life decisions to an anonymous stranger on the web?

Crazydogggz

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I think there is a huge stigma with women admitting that they don't have it all under control, they don't have it figured out and they are not comfortable with themselves and their choices. And I think many women are terrified to admit that they regret many of their choices and they are not confident strong women who know it all and get it all. A woman who admits that she doesn't know who she is or what she wants risks being labeled as weak, wimpy and indecisive and as a betrayer of feminist values.

Crazydogggz

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Can I just say that I think we need to quit judging these women on a choice they made. We don't know the whole story. We don't know what kind of agreements they might have had behind closed doors. There are many people that share nonmonogamous relationships. Why is it so hard to believe that both these women might have known what was going on & supported it for one reason or another?

haggardprincess

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...: A lot of women who stay home with their children HAVE lost their sense of identity and do make unwarranted sacrifices because they feel uncomfortable asserting their rights as people with brains and hearts and passions. If that was not the case, stay-at-home dads would not be a small minority.
I am surprised that you thought I was talking about ALL stay-at-home mothers when it was quite clear that I wasn't. Your anger is unwarranted.

Crazydogggz

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Does anyone remember when Matt Lauer was kind of cute and NOT a total douchenozzle? Or is that all in my head?

AnnieGetYourFun

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @rantmagazine:

And if i'm proven wrong, well, all the better...I'd rather be wrong the right in this instance..

Fair enough. I feel better now...off to gawk at Djimon...

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @AthertonMerriweather: Well, yes, of course.

This is the Patriarchy, where anything men do is OK as long as they don't do it to another man.

Because women, like all things, are just there to conquer and use.

I'm just going to not talk, and type and text the rest of the day. Otherwise I might end up on TV with Silda and Dina.

Rooo sez BISH PLZ

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Enthusiasm...Curbed: BINGO

sabbaticalplease

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...:
Yeah, I do see what you are saying..I wish this discussion could be of more 'trust worthy' women who ARE in similar situations, like this commenter mentioned women in developing countries etc...who have less of a major 'self obsessed and aren't I cute pretty with my pearly whites and my waspy father/mother who got me in to columbia'..

Yeah, everyone deserves a fair trial but I will stay very cynical until I'm given more evidence then what I've read and researched that says otherwise then the above. And if i'm proven wrong, well, all the better...I'd rather be wrong the right in this instance..

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @briardahl: It's too late, we're already too busy discussing Spitzer's kinks...

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @RosePetalPlace:
Or, if one takes exception to the phrase "losing their identity" maybe it's more apt to say their identity changes -- it's less about "who am I, what do I want, etc." and it begins to revolve around the role of wife/mother i.e. taking care of others. It's not an insult, it's the (perhaps sad) truth. Fortunately, I think lots of things have changed so that today it's much more possible for women to try and maintain their distinct identity as a woman while still taking on the roles of wife, or mother, or CEO, or nun, or whatever the hell else she wants to do. But it hasn't always been that way, and it's still not that way for lots of women.

I like "identity change" much better, and I don't get the sense from what you're saying that you believe a woman who stays home is making a sacrifice for her husband, per se.

And also, Crazy-what's-her/his-face didn't say which generation he was talking about, so as a Gen Xer, I did take offense.

I do appreciate you weighing in, though. ;) (And I hope that didn't sound dismissive, because it wasn't meant that way!)

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...: (BTW I have a great deal of respect for the choice you've made. I'm sure it wasn't an easy one. To paraphrase what some famous person said, there's no better contribution you can make to society than a well-loved child, so more power to you.)

RosePetalPlace

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Matt Lauer is a fine one to prattle on about infidelity--or should we ask HIS wife all about the subject?

whatever

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...: It didn't read to me like an assumption that all married mothers have no individual identities. It seemed more like a lament that lots of women do lose touch with their sense of self when the roles of wife and mother kind of overtake their lives.

RosePetalPlace

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @rantmagazine:

I will always stick up for women and identity but these two are shady...

OK, fair enough, maybe I'm making this too personal. But I still resent the implication that a woman working at home isn't somehow fully cognizant of the choices before her.

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> What pisses me off about this is that people are more concerned with why his wife stood by him than by the fact that HE is the one who broke the law. WTF?

AthertonMerriweather

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...: I don't think it's particularly inflammatory to lament the fact that many women, particularly our parents' generation and older, do kind of lose their sense of identity once they get married and have kids, particularly if they are in the role of primary caregiver and don't have work or activities outside of the home. Or, if one takes exception to the phrase "losing their identity" maybe it's more apt to say their identity changes -- it's less about "who am I, what do I want, etc." and it begins to revolve around the role of wife/mother i.e. taking care of others. It's not an insult, it's the (perhaps sad) truth. Fortunately, I think lots of things have changed so that today it's much more possible for women to try and maintain their distinct identity as a woman while still taking on the roles of wife, or mother, or CEO, or nun, or whatever the hell else she wants to do. But it hasn't always been that way, and it's still not that way for lots of women.

RosePetalPlace

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> What I want to know is if Spitzer Swallows (as Jon Stewart so lovingly called him)'s wife really encouraged him to not resign. I saw the headline online, but didn't find the story.

Sigh. I can't believe he's even thinking of NOT resigning. Even if he's not a criminal, he's' an idiot.

lalaland13

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...:
It's not that we aren' or well I aint, I guess I'm exhausted at sexism-and don't get me wrong I still fight but with this situation, I feel she is a real bad example for 'women with no identity'? Her and Dina play the 'innocent' victim in this twisted political game that they have and I'm sorry but they make ME look bad. They make us seem as if we are pathetic so y'know if that means Matt ens up thinking what he does-it's to people like them..

I will always stick up for women and identity but these two are shady...

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz:

Ok, since you have a lot of people agreeing with you here, I'm going to try to follow Macloserboy's advice and breathe.

Here is the part of your statement I have trouble with, just to be clear:

People with a limited sense of identity make choices that are about sacrficing their own interests way too much. Not saying that Silda is a weak woman or anything. I am saying that she made all these unnecessary sacrifices for someone who didn't really deserve them.

What I want to say, and I hope I say this calmly, is that just because someone is staying home with children does not mean she/he has a limited sense of self. Full disclosure: my husband is working and my baby is napping in the room right next to me here. I worked for 6 years as an elementary school teacher, a job I *loved* and still miss. I went to graduate school for 2 years. I made a fully informed decision about what I was doing when I left work and I resent the implication that a woman who stays home with her children has a "limited sense of self," since I also know several stay-at-home dads who I think you'd be loathe to lob that same charge at.

This decision sacrifices my interests only with respect to my former job. It does not sacrifice my interests with regard to my child or my family, however, and I hope you didn't mean what I think you mean.

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz:
And the real thing risks criticism and labels such as 'ballbreaker' and 'hairy dyke' which most women fear and loathe.

We use "fucking dyke" 'round these parts.

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz: A-fucking-men.

PhillyLass

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @reader123: Have you read Crappy Hour today?

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Macloserboy aka Client #9:

It's a question, though yes, there's a little issue in suggesting that just because a woman is married with kids she has no identity. That's a nasty assumption.

Thank you. I cannot believe other people aren't jumping on this. Maybe my comments aren't coming up? Because otherwise...seriously?

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I think there may be another issue here, that of the "political partnership." I don't know much about spitzer's wife, so this could be waaay off, but in countries where women generally have a harder time coming to power it's often helpful for them to associate strongly with the men in their lives for a foothold. This happens all the time, from Sonia Gandhi to Hillary Clinton. It's a shitty system, but for ambitious women sometimes it's a necessary evil. So what do you expect them to do when their husband's cheat? They can't abandon their political team just because one teammate can't keep it in his pants.

reader123

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @AthertonMerriweather: Awesome.

Some jerk I know tried arguing last night that she shouldn't be surprized and all politicians cheat on their wives. Unfortunately, most, probably not all, do. He then argued that they were all using their husbands to launch their own careers.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Xavoc: Sanity warning: if Jezebel commenters keep rolling with the penis-abuse posts, you're totally going to get cock-torture perverts in here looking for action.

briardahl

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz: I meant I hate when women say they are sticking together for the children. Those three girls need to see a strong woman in her mom. I think she also needs to be the opposite of Dina, since that woman can't keep her mouth shut. We get you are pissed - I'd be pissed too. But airing dirty laundry all over the place only hinders you and your children.

ArtfulSlingerBARACKED THE VOTE

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> An appendage? Like a shrimp-shaped skin tag?

AthertonMerriweather

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz: Yup. This is the inevitable result of teaching girls their role in life is to play second-fiddle to a man.

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @TaraIncognita Doesn't Do Press Conferences with Cheesedick ...: Breathe, breathe...

It's a question, though yes, there's a little issue in suggesting that just because a woman is married with kids she has no identity. That's a nasty assumption.

Macloserboy

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I'm surprised she didn't grab hold of his appendage and wrench it so hard that he pees around corners now.

Xavoc

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz:
sad but true....

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I am saying that she made all these unnecessary sacrifices for someone who didn't really deserve them.

And as for this, keep in mind that people who choose to stay home (a sacrifice) with children aren't just doing it for their spouses. Sometimes they do it for their children.

JESUS.

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I would love to see one of these political wives really get up and say something when shit like this happens. There are some things I can forgive, but, high-class prostitution ring? Sorry Governer Douche, I gotta run! And hey, Matt Lauer, what do you base your identity on? Do you even have an identity? Ay, me duele la cabeza....

shelovesyou

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Crazydogggz:

Isn't that true of well...many (not of course, all) political wives? And isn't that also true of many wives in general?
How many women, married with children, truly have a sense of who they are and what they want just for themselves?

I really hope you are joking here.

Can someone take this one for me? I need to calm down before I type out a response.

Tara Incognita

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Asking the question "don't some women take on the identity of their husbands?" is not really the same as saying that some women take on the identity of their husbands. And even if it were saying that, what exactly is incorrect about it? Some women certainly do tie their identity to their husband's. I don't think it was that douchy of a question.

The split screen thing is another matter...

PrairieGirl

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Artful Slinger: Actually I think she should put her own needs over those of the children.
Doing things for the children is vastly overrated and serves mostly to look like a martyr in front of the world while spewing silent toxic resentment at the kids at home. A happy fulfilled mother is better for the children than an unhappy insecure one.

Crazydogggz

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Maybe she already knew. Cuz if it were me, you couldn't get me in the same room with my husband on the day I found out he was doing prostitutes with no condom. She looks stoic. I would have steam coming out of my ears. Or I'd have at least been bawling. Or both.

Maybe they stopped loving each other years ago but are just going through the movements, and she's taken care of monetarily so she's made peace with it?

madktdisease

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Poor Dina, her case was still worse then Silda's ..I mean maybe they should have had her on with Star Jones to discuss how easy it is to marry a gay man.

angryblackgurl

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I think the difference between Mrs. Spitzer and Ms. Matos, is that Silda seems to have her own life and Dina loves being the center of attention.

Most women who have been so "horrifically embarrassed" try to stay out the spotlight, but this woman loves playing the victim card. What Silda does is her own business, but I hope she puts the needs of her children above the needs of anyones career.

ArtfulSlingerBARACKED THE VOTE

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @nadarine: Haha that would be pretty memorable to serve divorce papers at the public shaming press conference...If I'm going to be an appendage of my spouse or whatever, its going to be a steel fist right right in the balls if they do something that ridiculous.

KathrynwithaY loves Joan Collins

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @westvillagegirl: No, she left that job after the kids came along and Spitzer's career took off. She works part-time now at a non-profit helping with fundraising.
I am surprised to see so much disagreement with Matt Lauer. What if he had made this statement about Laura Bush? I suspect there would be a lot more agreement with him because Laura is after all a Stepford wife that liberals love to hate.
But politics and superficialities aside, liberal and conservative women alike both face equal crises of identity because there is so much entrenched unacknowledged sexism in child-rearing.
A woman may call herself 'strong' and 'enlightened', it doesn't mean she really is that way. Rhetoric is a poor substitute for the real thing. And the real thing risks criticism and labels such as 'ballbreaker' and 'hairy dyke' which most women fear and loathe.

Crazydogggz

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I had a discussion with my husband last night and told him if he's ever having a press conference to admit he used expensive hookers, his ass is standing up there by himself.

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @jeska: Even that - perhaps especially that would be preferable to being the simpering sidekick who remains silent while the man apologizes.

warmaiden

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> What is Mrs. Lauer famous for again?

hillaryhasbeenton

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @nadarine: Yay! Me too. We should offer to throw a stabby party for any political wife willing to speak her mind in public. And maybe for refusing to wear a steadfast color like blue.

warmaiden

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @warmaiden: And I hope sincerely that if one of them do someday, I hope they tell the public to shut the fuck up and quit telling them how to handle their family crises.

jeska

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> so, his WIFE is the appendage he used to screw the hooker?

Hope she came.

trixiebellefifi

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @Lady Skittlehattington's Publicist: Can't we just execute him already?

ThisIsWhy...

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Isn't that true of well...many (not of course, all) political wives? And isn't that also true of many wives in general?
How many women, married with children, truly have a sense of who they are and what they want just for themselves?
Take it further: are girls ever encouraged to find out who they are and what they want for themselves, even as children? I see little girls as young as two be discouraged from even wearing what they want or eating what they want while little boys get a wider array of choices and more freedom to make those choices from their parents.
Notice that Silda left her high-pressure job for the kids while Spitzer went on to greater professional heights. People with a limited sense of identity make choices that are about sacrficing their own interests way too much. Not saying that Silda is a weak woman or anything. I am saying that she made all these unnecessary sacrifices for someone who didn't really deserve them.

Crazydogggz

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @KathrynwithaY: word. I'd be filing divorce papers, ideally to have served to him AT the press conference. I would NOT be the supportive appendage in any way. I'd be the violently thrashing, stabby appendage.

nadarine

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @mepo:
I don't think that's what he meant...

Look, not ALL women but guys their are so women who still willingly get themselves in this situation, were they LIVE for their husband and what their husband stands for and when it all goes to pot-they don't know what to do at all...

I can see his point and before you all scream, my evidence can only be drawn on parents relationship and what my mother keeps on saying ALL the time to me...even after he died and we asked her why she put up with it all...and she pretty much said something like Lauer..

Do I respect it? No. But this happens..

rantersparadise

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Shut up, Matt Lauer. You're on notice. One more asinine interview like this, and you'll be on that list with Ann Curry and Jodi Applegate.

Lady Skittlehattington

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> It

KathrynwithaY loves Joan Collins

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @mepo: I think that having a wife for some political men is a way to show the public that "Hey, I'm normal and a well-rounded family man! I'm certainly not out nailing hookers!"
Very sad for the "appendage" involved.

KathrynwithaY loves Joan Collins

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> I'd be more willing to say these women had their own identity if one would take her identity to the mike and speak the fuck up.

warmaiden

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> isn't matt in the process of getting divorced? maybe he's just being a douche and projecting?

Enthusiasm...Curbed

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Matt, I hardly think Silda "based [her identity on her] spouse's identity." For fuck's sake, she was a PARTNER at Skadden, Arps. Possibly the largest and most consistently profitable law firm in the country.

westvillagegirl (exiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> @BAngieB (Ya'll? I'm On Notice): Ha! Still can't believe you are on notice. Fair dues for keeping posting.

mepo

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> An appendage? Really?
If I was in that situation, I wouldn't show up to the press conference. Period, end of story, fend for yourself Political Husband. I'm ouuuttttt.

KathrynwithaY loves Joan Collins

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Ok so not only are the wives 'failing to satisfy their husbands' and completely to blame for their prick husbands affairs but now they they don't even have their own personalities. Gah

mepo

]]> <![CDATA[Lauer On Spitzer: Some Political Wives "Become Almost An Appendage Of Their Spouse"]]> Mrs. Spitzer is not the appendage he needs to worry about.

BAngieB

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