<![CDATA[ - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[ - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[]]> @clevernamehere: Sorry, the story is 100% TRUE, I am the victim. Many pills will dissolve quickly when put into an alcoholic drink. The waiter who happens to be 6'6" saw the entire incident happen. I had no clue, until the police showed up. And when the drinks came back from the Colorado Crime Bureau's Forensic Lab posistive for Valium, it was and is obviously 100% true. The Victim.

nmkdesign

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @crushdmb: But he knew what medications I was taking and he also knew that Valium in combination with what I was taking plus alcohol is a LeTHAL combination. The Victim!

nmkdesign

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @vonnegurl: The only reason anyone mentioned my education was to warn others that it could happen to "ANYONE", a doctor, a lawyer, "anyone", whether they are educated or not. It was not stated for you to make the assumption that I assumed I was smarter than he was or smart enough to know better, obviously I wasn't. I just wanted EVERYONE to know that they too can be a victim, you don't have to be mentally ill, retarded, slow, or dumb. THAT WAS THE POINT!!
The Victim

nmkdesign

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I'm the "VICTIM" in this story. I KNOW that there are other local women in the Colorado Springs, Pueblo, and/or the Denver area that have met this guy Robert Psaty or Bob Psaty on either "Singlesnet.com" or "eHarmony.com", both sites to which he admitted belonging to for more than two years. In fact I was informed by the legal counsel at "Singlesnet.com" that he was still on their website until February 19th during which time he was still in contact with 9 other people, one of them was a man. He was finally kicked off of the site when someone on staff saw the newscast on KKTV and reported it. I DID NOTIFY THE WEBSITE 'SINGLESNET.COM' BACK IN JANUARY A FEW DAYS AFTER THE INCIDENT. I GAVE THEM HIS USERNSME, REAL NAME, AND A POLICE CASE NUMBER FOR THE INCIDENT. Unfortunately, the response I got back was that the Police Department must contact them in order for them to do anything. Like the Colorado Springs Police Department or any police department has the time to contact all dating websites this guy is a member of.

ANYONE WHO MET THIS MAN FROM THE INTERENT AND FEELS SHE/HE MAY BE A VICTIM, but perhaps cannot fully recollect, or is too embarassed to come forward because they can't remember, PLEASE COME FORWARD. Others already have. Currently this case is in the District Attorney's office with no DA even assigned to it. This guy, Robert Psaty, the accussed, was once arressted for holding a female guard prisoner with a stun gun at the State Prison in Centennial, he got a 6 month deferrred sentence for that incident, which meant that as long as he did not get caught for six months he would have no record. Obviously this is how he was able to get his current job as a counselor at the State Mental Health Hospital. He chose me because I was honest about my health history and the fact that I had been on SSDI. He also knew what one of the medications I was taking was and because of his career he would have known that Valium and that drug taken together, especialy with alcohol, is a LETHAL combination. This guy has to be put away for good. His current defense is that "I", the victim, gave him the valium to put in my drink, please/!?

Please email me at "nmkdesign@comcast.net" if you think you may be a victim. Put "POSSIBLE VICTIM IN BOB PSATY CASE" in the subject line please. Let's make sure he is put away for good this time! Nancy McGrath

nmkdesign

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I know probably no one will ever comment on this again, but because I wasn't a member the day this was posted, I must say something. FUcking FREE BAIL!!!???!!! Are you kidding me!!!! Something horrible must happen to him. I swear his horoscope next month will be SO WHACK!

sobermonroe77

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Is it too horribly cynical to suspect the waiter put the valium in himself, then "caught" the "offender?"

OK, pretty farfetched. But you never know.

TallDave

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: right because the risk to a handful of girls who get dosed counteracts the affects to everyone else's (including the bar staff's lungs). I lived in France where (or at least they hadn't yet) banned indoor smoking and I lived on antibiotics because of it. A LOT of people have smoking sensitivities that crop up in ways that aren't so obvious. In my case it just trashes my immune system leaving me vulnerable to every infection on the planet. Let me tell you, a 104 degree temperature as an adult? Not fun. I moved back to smoke-free NYC and literally just stopped being sick overnight.

LibidinousSlut

]]> <![CDATA[]]> He's got at least 26 pieces of FLAIR! Cool guy, tho.

Kristable

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Luckwouldhaveit: We could just call it the Colt Haugen Award.

Neopatra

]]> <![CDATA[]]> This guy is a HERO and that's all there is to it.

linkura

]]> <![CDATA[]]> You know, I never really thought about it aside from being polite, but a lot of times I offer to snag the drinks and people decline. I never really thought about it from this perspective before.

Bartender, please leave the caps on.

Not that they can unfortunately.

Tenno

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @dontbogartthewine: To say nothing of choosing Ruby Tuesdays as a destination for a date!

thatgirlinnewyork

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Good for this guy. I have a bit more faith in humanity today.

Aaryn

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @HeatherNumber1: Desperation meet the pharmaceutical industry. If you can't get 'em, knock 'em out. It's emboldening some guys to take risks they wouldn't have before.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> BE CAREFUL IN NEW YORK!

There was an article on NY1.com about a number of women getting "roofied" at bars recently... wtf?!?!

astralgirl01

]]> <![CDATA[]]> How depressing is it that several people here have drink spiking stories (and I have a few of my own)? That there are that many guys who think drugging someone is somehow acceptable, and likely don't consider themselves rapists? Ugh.

HeatherNumber1

]]> <![CDATA[]]> This is why I am paranoid about accepting drinks from strangers. That being said, I now have a tiny crush on this waiter. Doing the right thing is very sexy to me.

xay

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Gingerlime: Maybe. I recognize that this may be wishful thinking on my part.

braak

]]> <![CDATA[]]> what a nice boy. i'll bet his parents are super-proud.

Charlotte Corday

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Do you think this scenario will make it into the next training video for Ruby Tuesday?

Sasquatch

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: I think I really love you after that post. I have often wanted something like that too. Brilliant idea.

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @sumac: Um, I eat at Ruby Tuesdays. I like the salad bar. I can also take my kids there and we can all find what we like, and I can have a drink at the same time.

I am neither a rapist, football player, or an accountant. Geeze.

That said, I would be so proud if that guy was my son, brother, or boyfriend. So incredibly proud. I like the MWLT idea.

ItchykooParker

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @TheGintheCity: You are crazy to leave drinks unattended in NYC bars. Some dude managed to roofie my drink when I lived there - in the 20 minutes before the friends I was meeting at the bar showed up. When they got there, I was apparently acting like a lunatic. I barely remember anything. Fortunately my friends took me home, so I was safe. But it scared me silly and I've been paranoid ever since.

zivah

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: Did you ever go by NEWTOJEZEBEL? I know I have asked you this before but you never responded.

I still think you are an elaborate hoax being put on by the Gawker commenters.

If not then ummmm...sorry.

SouthernComfort

]]> <![CDATA[]]> "How many others would have looked the other way without saying anything?"

I know Braak will disagree with me, but I think most people would have. Good on you, hero waiter!

Gingerlime

]]> <![CDATA[]]> first of all he's a u.c.c.s. (university of colorado at colorado springs) student. secondly, the incident happened in early january and they're just reporting it now due to the fact that they were doing lab testing and what not. thirdly, the douche who did used to be on the florence city counsel or something...yuck.

cyclopticcupcake

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Kudos to that waiter. How many others would have looked the other way without saying anything?

crazydiamond

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Taigan: EW. And just...ew. He looks like a child molester, and we KNOW he's a rapist (or at least a wanna-be). EW.

snarkhunting

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Good boy! Good boy!

zivah

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Taigan: Now see? Thats why he had to drug a chick to have sex with...Dismiss the charges! This man clearly suffers from ButtAssUglyitis and the birth defect of Soulessness. Where is your compassion, people???

Trashtastic

]]> <![CDATA[]]> awww i love this guy!

heyo

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Here's the winner himself, ladies, courtesy of KKTV.


Taigan

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @badmutha: It happens. A LOT. When asshats get around to insulting your intelligence and get really ugly...Finger-snapping always irked me.
@Leiakat: I don't think you need to worry at all. You don't need to tip obnoxiously or even chat them up. Just treat 'em like people. Which I feel sure you do. =)

Trashtastic

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: Ha. You're hilarious.

TruculentandUnreliable

]]> <![CDATA[]]> omg (basically) this same thing happened to me! i was waiting tables one summer and had a table with a reallllly sleazy looking guy and a girl and it was obvi a first date. she was drinking cosmo's and when she got up to go to the bathroom, he ordered her another and said "make it really strong, i want to get lucky tonight" i told the bartender what he said and she made it a virgin cocktail. hopefully we saved that girl from that sleazeball!

erggggg

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @westvillagegirl: Yeah, uh, I've noticed that shit, too.

TruculentandUnreliable

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: Your humble opinions are basically random words strung together. Think, THEN type.

katastic

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: Whhhhhaaaaaat? Where the fuck are you pulling this from? How does this pertain? Are you high? She could've left the table for ANYTHING. How many lives a year do you think a ban on smoking in restaurants saves?
Arguing with you isn't even worth it because you are TOTALLY IRRATIONAL. THINK, THEN TYPE.


katastic

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Obviously the date wasn't going well if he had to do that. Stone him!

cindel

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @kataroo_kangaroo: Child, I used to live in SC, although I am now in NC. You don't have to tell me. I feel for you retroactively!

I felt like my head had been emptied out and replaced with painful sand. That's the best way I can explain it.

Reading all these experiences makes me want to bring a sippy cup into the bars and never, ever put it down. I swear. Or do as one person suggested and drink at home. I'll start dressing like later in life Mae West and never get off my satin draped bed.

rokenrolzombie

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I just want to second (third? fifth? fiftieth?) the proposal for a regular "Guys We Love" post -- waiter dude would definitely be on it. What he did is what a REAL MAN would do.

Crazy Broad

]]> <![CDATA[]]> i wanna date the waiter hah

adina

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rokenrolzombie: the worst part was the hangover- i had never felt so horrible in all my life, and it was the day of graduation rehearsal where they made us sit in the hot sun for 3+ hours in may in south carolina. i was out of commission for a solid 2 days.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @crushdmb: No kidding. This was a girl who was so sheltered at 28 that she once asked me how you knew if you were straight or gay, and what was sex like. I felt like her mother at the bar sometimes, constantly watching her, slapping her hand and screeching "STOP telling people you're a virgin! No, he does not actually want to show you any etchings, get back over here!"

But of course, my tough trash-talking "super street savvy self" STILL left my drink unattended at a busy club so. I consider myself pretty careful but hey, it can happen to just about anyone who's not on constant alert. Frankly feeling you must be on constant alert is alternately depressing and frustrating!

rokenrolzombie

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Good boy.

SallyJ

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @crushdmb: True. I think attempted rape is a lot more likely a charge, and would be a potentially useful charge to get someone put away on.

Especially if he gets charged with regular, for real rape, instead of some watered-down date-rape crap.

braak

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: this is not wasting any energy on. Second execution nom right here.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rokenrolzombie: oh my gosh, tell your roommie to NEVER take pills from strangers or people you don't trust! there's only one person i know of that i trust enough to take the pills he gives me (that and i know what xanax and soma look like).

and yeah, doubt it was xanax. you would have been relaxed and happy, quite possibly very sleepy, but it seems GHB is most likely. :/

little stripes

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rsr26: OKaaaay. Well, you need to be VERY careful about how you put things. People could get the wrong (or right?) idea that you're an apologist asshole. You especially want to be sure that you're not wrong. Because the Jezebels of this world will call your ass out on it. We all love a dialog, but you almost never do anything but make excuses for wastes-of-space like this ass.

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @crushdmb: Yeah I have kind of thought the same thing (having now taken Xanax)It didn't seem like it'd react that way with a few drinks. More like GHB, according to people I know who like to abuse them some prescription drugs. Or good old fashioned roofies. The sad part is, my roommate was REALLY very naive and almost took some of the "Xanax" he offered cause she'd never had it. Ug...

Also I can't read, I thought the main article person had gotten jail already, but nope, that's the previous incident in SF where the guy got jail. Still, um, yay for that one. D'oh.

rokenrolzombie

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rokenrolzombie: I've had booze and Xanax together before (shush lol). I seriously doubt you would be barfing, and I doubt, unless it was a super high dose, you'd be that affected after only 2-3 drinks. Something tells me it was something else and that is scary :(

little stripes

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @HoneyLush: let's just say it was an "forcible, improvised- tattoo/brand-on-the-ass-with-a-red-hot-wire kind of place. with lesbians, some of the hot variety and some of the Big Nurse variety" Yay!

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Birdie: That's it! I tried looking in SFGate for it but couldn't find it. At the time I lived literally two blocks from there.

I really hate that bar and the food and service was really bad, but after that I'll go a little easy on them. I'll wait for an hour for my food if you don't let people put drugs in my beer.

yourbffjill

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @westvillagegirl: i was just trying to say that the fact that he's out on bail means he has, in fact, been charged with a crime. Someone was saying they didn't think he would be prosecuted- but the fact that he's been let out on bail shows that he has, at least, been charged.

The guy is scum and should go to prison, assuming he's guilty.

rsr26

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Same thing happened in San Francisco. Two bartenders noticed and took the glass away from the woman, pretending that something was wrong with the beer.

Then they saw the guy put two more pills in the woman's glass. They pulled her aside and said to to the guy "You're date's over, mister."

The guy--who worked for the school system--got 6 months in jail.

[www.sfgate.com]

nameredacted

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: yeah i mena, im fucked cause i dont have insurance. i am not in good hands :(

ineffable.me

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Trashtastic:

Or access to your credit card information, for that matter. I used to work at Blockbuster (the horror...the horror...) and we had to fire a service rep who took the credit card information from a nasty customer and wreaked some serious havoc.

In all fairness, though, the customer in question was a complete douchenozzle.

Anyway, good for the waiter! May his life be filled with blowjobs and ice cream, for they have been earned tenfold.

caffeinequeen

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @westvillagegirl: yowza! meant to say "what he normally WRITES" ... see I get typoey when I'm pissed off.

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> this kid is a fucking SAINT. seriously, he is amazing for calling it out for what it was, attempted date rape.

at my university, an entire room of kids could see somebody slip something in a girl's drink and nobody would do a thing about it, except call the girl a "stupid slut" if she tries to report the crime later.

thank god some of us still know to do the right thing.

wedropscience

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @kataroo_kangaroo: That is exactly what it was like. I'd had maybe two three drinks (and I'm solidly built like a peasant, and Irish, so you know that won't do it alone). Next thing I know, I'm throwing up in the parking lot and its two or three hours later. Apparently I went from zero to trashed in no time. I really don't know what he put in there, but he was CLAIMING he had Xanax. Whatever it was, I know my hangovers and that was not a booze hangover. Very scary. I'm glad your friends were watching you too!
Honestly before that I really thought it didn't happen much. Now I know better. And I'm glad as hell other people in the bar were watching the folks in this article. It's just one more thing we have to pay attention to.

And he got jail. YAY!


rokenrolzombie

]]> <![CDATA[]]> mmm cheese fries

nikaoh

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @westvillagegirl: oohh I didn't see that, I hope they were stern, mean and creatively cruel

honestly I think he should have a lightening rod tied to his pathetic self and strung up near a radio tower to await his fate in a lightening storm/tornado/furious natural disaster. along with all the other douchewads who try to pull this shit.

HoneyLush

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: thumbscrews! I don't know why, but that made me crack the fuck up!

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Oh goody, I have a date this weekend.

edgyspice

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @SarahMC: Yep, he rides his fucking calvary right in to make sure we aren't, gasp, making rash decisions about the attempted rapists' rights. I don't even think what he normally rights can be considered "discourse" ... it's like he has to keep putting us little girls in our little pink places. His new avatar isn't fooling me.

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: LOL, yes. But unless that happens, I really doubt it was going to be attempted murder, anyway. Even if it was, he will NEVER get charged with that (unless they find that kind of stuff, as you said). And if he WERE charged with that, he'd never be convicted. Which means he'd be on the streets again, no conviction.

little stripes

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Aaaaaand that's why I only drink at home!

Great guy, tho. We need more guys just like this one.

veraikon

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I had some shit put into my drink once, the people that were with me saw some dude doing it and didnt tell him to stop. The bartender kept feeding me drinks but wouldnt let me go anywhere. Im guessing the guys plan backfired- I got so fucked up I was of no use to ANYONE.
OH! the reson why the bartender made me stay at the bar is because the people I was with LEFT ME THERE.
Long story short- I dont really have any friends now.I pretty much hiss at people if they approach me lol.

Seriously, its not!

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rokenrolzombie: i was a victim of a drugging- i remember the beginning of the night, and then i vaguely remember at the end of the night my best friend basically dragging me home and yelling at the guy who drugged me to "Get the fuck away from us before I call the cops on your sorry ass you complete asshole fucktard." She caused enough of a scene that the guy left us alone, but he also disappeared and we couldn't find him to tell the coppers. My friends knew something was totally off because I'd only had 2-3 drinks and was acting completely ridiculous and not in a good way. I felt like hell for the next 2 days.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I am so glad that my regular hang out is a dive bar, I know all of the bartenders and other helpers, and almost all of the regulars. If some douche tried this, he'd get his ass kicked by a bunch of bikers and cowboys. And it wouldn't be pretty. And no one would call the cops. Dive bars, ftw.

little stripes

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @crushdmb:

I believe it was mentioned earlier in the thread. Because one doesn't know how drugs will interact with a person, and she could have been on other drugs, it is not unreasonable to think that she may have had some sort of reaction that could have led to death.

Also, if the prosecutors lead with Attempted Murder, then they can bargain it down to less but still more than whatever crime drugging someone unknowingly is.

rachystyle

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @NefariousNewt: I'm keeping my eye on you...

Lady Skittlehattington

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @crushdmb: Well, I think that depends on what the authorities can figure out he was trying to do.

If they go back to his house and it's filled with all thumbscrews and vats of acid and shit, I think "attempted murder" might not be unreasonable.

braak

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @westvillagegirl: It's a thread about attempted rape. What did you expect?

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @hamburgerhotdog:

Just a theory. Violent crime spikes in the summer time because of longer daylight, more people outside etc. If more people are clustered outside smoke, I think it is not unreasonable to say that there will be a rise in muggings etc. And girls leave their drinks unattended in lots of cases, but with smoking bans you can't take your drink outside, so you leave it and then shit happens. But it is just a THEORY. I am not saying it is FACT. JUST MY HUMBLE OPINION.

rachystyle

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: Attempted murder? I know this guy is an ass and should at least get attempted assult or a similar charge, but attempted murder? Er, no.

little stripes

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @ineffable.me: They would make me so much happier if they didn't end with, "Oh, by the way: buy some insurance."

I am genuinely afraid that peoples' sense of right and wrong is getting tied up in the act of purchasing products.

braak

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Scoregasm: or they don't want to mention it because it could cause an uncomfortable conversation!

@hfree: that should be the tag for this story.

missbheave (is not convinced)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> oops, bad link. try this:

[www.sfgate.com]

Birdie

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I'd like to buy this man a beer! It's nice he doesn't consider himself a hero it's also nice that he's on TV. I wish we'd put more people like this on TV.
1. It makes people more aware that things like this happen. My Mom was really hard to convince that something like this happens commonly.
2. It's always nice to hear a story that ends better than "Her body was found later in a ditch".

Little Time Bomb

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Here is a link to a news story about this with the dude's picture:

[www.kktv.com]

Great to know there are still some decent people left in the world.

riptshin

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rsr26: You said: "But all defendants, even slimeballs, are entitled to reasonable bail."

You're right, you weren't IMPLYING that bail is always granted, you were stating it. Don't try to backtrack now. And you can go somewhere else if you're going to keep quasi-defending this dude.

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rachystyle: Uh, no. Not so much.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: those insurance commercials!!! i love them. i have teared up with them on more than one occasion.

ineffable.me

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I once heroically (and unknowingly) drank a drink drugged for my roommate. She was a socially inexperienced virgin who had a bad habit of telling every creep at the bar about how she was so very virginal, attracting the ultimate in bar perverts. He'd been trying to give her pills all night, and she kept saying no. WELL long story short, he put them in my drink by accident as they were all clustered together on our table while we danced. So I was the one safely puking in the parking lot later and not remembering jack about the entire night. And where's my parade? Where is it? *fist shake*
No, seriously, I'm glad it was me who drank it. He wasn't after me so my friends just dragged me home and I had the mother of all chemical hangovers. We put two and two together the next day.
So you can't leave your drink, ever. Seriously. Not even with a ton of other drinks when you're five feet away.



rokenrolzombie

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Archetype: Yes.

If I had a billion dollars, I would start a non-profit organization dedicated to restoring peoples' faith in humanity. I would make a cable news network that just showed stories about people doing good things for each other, and periodically I would run commercials that are like all of those insurance or coke or Volkswagon commercials that are about people being nice, only they would just be about people being nice.

braak

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @yourbffjill: Here's the link to that story. The asshole put drugs in her drink TWICE. It was a waitress and a bartender who saved the woman:
[www.sfgate.com]

Birdie

]]> <![CDATA[]]> was the guy who slipped his date the pill a CU student as well? Because that would SO not surprise me.

But, rock on waiter guy. Nice move.

Sev

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Lady Skittlehattington: I have powers far beyond those of mere mortals... but I must use them for good, or the occasional cheap laugh.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> My younger brother went to CU Boulder, and he told me that his female friends would only drink beers they opened themselves (even at bars) because roofies were so rampant. He thinks I'm crazy to leave open drinks sitting around in NYC bars. (He also thinks I'm crazy for going on internet dates, but that's a whole 'nother story).

TheGintheCity

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @westvillagegirl: I didn't mean to imply that bail is ALWAYS granted. But there is a constitutional right to bail.

rsr26

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Situations like this are partially why I am against smoking bans. I just feel like girls get wasted, leave their drinks to go smoke, and then is it is roofiepalooza. Of course this happens anyway, but with the bans, it is causing more movement, lack of attention etc.

Also, while I don't think they could get any rape charge to stick, I hope they do charge him with attempted murder.

rachystyle

]]> <![CDATA[]]> How fucked up is it that we can't even enjoy our depressants in public anymore without worrying someone is slipping us stronger, more potent depressants?

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Scoregasm:I'm a guy, and I think most guys would do the same thing. And I also think good guys would not feel it necessary to go on TV to get congratulated. Doing the right thing is not an exceptional act for a man or a woman.

Reminds me of a very good line Nicole Kidman says in "To Die For": "What's the point of doing anything worthwhile if nobody's watching?"

angstrom

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @kataroo_kangaroo: And I was just going to say I'm annoyed at myself for not being able to tell if he's a gay or nay. Although that horrible shirt should've tipped me off.

FrankieButtons

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Here in CO, a friend of mine got dosed with Ketamine and ended up in the hospital a few weeks ago. Fun times.

Go Like Hell Machine

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: Yeah, I am often not that positive either.....

But it's nice when a person restores your faith in humanity....if only somewhat.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @bowleserised: "put" not "but". I should stop typing today.

bowleserised

]]> <![CDATA[]]> The fecking BAR MAN but GHB (?) in my friend's drink in some crap hole in Soho. Luckily she was there with her husband. Enough to make you stay at home, isn't it?
Maybe (yet another) blind date safety precaution could involve arriving early and telling a nice waitress/waiter what the situation is so they can see if you start acting weird.
But the thought of taking even more precautions makes me tired.

bowleserised

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @NefariousNewt: Wow, way to take my smart assed comment and turn it into a public service message. You're just mean. :)

Lady Skittlehattington

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @ineffable.me: the best we can hope for is that the court system will make an example out of him. unlikely, but there's hope.

titania1285

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Restoring my faith in humanity...at least for this hour.

I wonder how long he had to plead with his boss to do something...

AthertonMerriweather

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Appropriate justice, country style...castration OR a tree and a rope. We'll be nice today and let the low-life choose!

AGreenEyeDevil

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: That's why I wear a Superman T-shirt under my normal clothes.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Archetype: Well, also true.

I'd actually like to think that most men and women are simply good people, but I don't have the numbers on that.

braak

]]> <![CDATA[]]> holy crap this happened at a bar down the street from my apartment last year. some guy slipped something into a girl's beer when she walked away. the waitress wasn't totally sure what happened so when the girl came back the waitress brought her a new beer and said something about the keg being low. girl got up to make a phone call and the jerk did it AGAIN. so they called the police and the guy was arrested. crazy.

yourbffjill

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @braak: But also, some men, like women, are simply good people.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Trashtastic: Ugh, you are going to make it impossible for me to eat out again. I inspect my food like crazy already.

That being said, I say thank you A LOT when eating out. That, plus my mistaken 50% tip the other week, should earn me some good karma.

Leiakat

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rsr26: Um, once again you are mistaken. Many defendants are not granted bail, depending on the circumstances.

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> It's interesting that, in the article, they mention that because the woman has three undergraduate degrees and a Master's degree, she thought she was "too smart" to get into a situation like this. Also - family restaurant! Which goes to show, creepy fucked up men are everywhere and they will prey on anyone, regardless of your educational background.

@Seriously, its not!: Agreed - if only being decent wasn't so newsworthy.

vonnegurl

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @HoneyLush: No, like the ones in Reform School Girls. Not that I, ah, saw that or anything....

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Scoregasm: I think that a lot of guys would not ignore it.

You see, secretly, almost all guys want something like that to happen around them, because then they can do something that they know is unequivocally Right, and thus become heroes.

braak

]]> <![CDATA[]]> A fucking cockpunch, is what. Stupid fucking asshole. Stabby!

buggeroff

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Lady Skittlehattington: My suggestion is if you're going on a blind date, try to find a way to go on a double date with people you know along. Better safe than sorry. If not, at least try to have someone you to stay in contact with throughout the evening, so that if they suddenly don't hear from you, they can push the panic button for you.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Lymed: @badmutha: @NefariousNewt: I hope so. I mean, yeah, you guys are probably right. I just dont have any faith in the system anymore.

omg, did i really say that?

ineffable.me

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Trashtastic: Word, sister. My FIL is constantly shitty to waitstaff, and I am sure he has ingested all kinds of sick stuff as a result. Pubes in your salad, anyone?

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @hamburgerhotdog: Was it a hot drink?

Leiakat

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @hamburgerhotdog: Nevermind, just looked and there's both a liquid and injectable version, but both would be pretty hard to conceal or administer.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Its kind of annoying that this is considered a 'hero' thing to do- I wish it were a NORMAL thing to do.
That being said- this boy is a fantastic person :)

Seriously, its not!

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @bigleggedwoman: In psychology it's known as "Bystander Syndrome". Usually it applies to large groups where something occurs and people mill around but no one takes action, because each one feels someone else will. But it works on the micro-scale too. I think it depends on how comfortable you are with yourself and your personal level of altruism.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Lymed: You may be right, but I know bartenders who have had THEIR drinks spiked by customers. Fucking frat boy animals.

HeatherNumber1

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Hamsterpants: add in the 99 and Bennigan's, and yup, that's the true Axis of Evil right there.

cupcakesofdeath

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Possible solution. Only drinking out of sippy cups with the lids firmly taped on before you go to the bathroom. When you return to the table, quickly dust for fingerprints. So brilliant it just might work.

Lady Skittlehattington

]]> <![CDATA[]]> This is why I don't go to Ruby Tuesdays or any of the various flair-filled chain restaurants like Benigans, Applebee's or Butt Fuckers. The people that eat in them are ex-football players turned suburban accountants. And rapists.

sumac

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Lymed: Right, they have him on attempted assualt in the least. If her lawyer is smart throw in attempted murder, as drug reactions can cause death, to get him to plead to the assualt charges.

Then throw a parade for Haugen to encourage others to be as vigilant.

Leiakat

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Well, she should definitely be able to kick him in the balls as many times as she wants, and then twice more for good measure.

TheFormerJuneBronson

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @NefariousNewt: That doesn't sound stupid to me or obvious either.

Many people would be afraid of confrontation and I think that holds 'em back in these situations. So it really pleased me to see this.

bigleggedwoman

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @LoveNoelG: um, I think I'd go for attempted murder. Who knows what this creep had in mind. One would be as easy to prove as another.

westvillagegirl (exhiled in chicago)

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @clevernamehere: it *is* admittedly a little sketchy since diazepam/valium comes only in a pill form that would require crushing and not easily dissolve into a liqiud. Admittantly, the pills are quite small but it wouldn't be as easy as, say, opening a capsule.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @BrutallyHonestBabes: It's nice to hear that you're that kind of friend. My girlfriends are fiercely protective of me as well.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Awesome. I'd totes hit that.

special_boots

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Hamsterpants: I worked at Chili's and Bennigans in college. You are CORRECT. *cowers under the bed* Don't tell them I told you!
@MsDirector: Most wait staff is heroic just by taking the damn job to begin with. People can be supreme assholes, yo.

I will impart this wisdom, however: Don't fuck with people who handle your food.

Trashtastic

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Do they have the "If you see something, say something" subway ads in CO nowadays? Yay Colt! You make us proud!

Though ladies, seriously: a blind date decides on Ruby Tuesdays as a first date? Shouldn't Colt have noticed something was wrong immediately?

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[]]> An apt punishment for douchebags like this? The Most Dangerous Game, with some angry Jezzies doing the hunting.

Jerseylicious

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Jiboo: There was a photo on GMA - must be a way to access that online.

bigleggedwoman

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Is that the lady sitting next to him, or a newscaster?

Total weirdness. I hate creepy drugsters. I was in a group of five women last Friday talking about drugged drinks, and four/five of us had our drinks drugged (although only one had had any interaction with the drugger post-drink) and two of us were 99% sure the bartender was behind the drugging. Weird, eh?

the.bleach

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Archetype: You beat me to it. Most people turn a blind eye to anything that doesn't directly affect them, no matter what it is.

LBB

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @rednrowdy:

SMART cookie! Me neither.

BrutallyHonestBabes

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Hamsterpants: Did someone say "nefariousness"? I can't believe I almost missed that...

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Appropriate punishment? Roofie him and set him loose in the Yard.

I was out with a GF once at a hotel bar, went to the restroom, and she was crazy when I got back. Agreed to go to a guy's room upstairs for "pizza" about 10 minutes after meeting him. I said no way, told him to F off, and dragged her out. An hour later she could not remember the event at all. Soooo scary. It took us a while to figure out he must have spiked her drink.

BrutallyHonestBabes

]]> <![CDATA[]]> this is why i never ever get up to use the restroom when any drink is on the table. either get your own drink directly from the bar or use the restroom before you are seated or after you've eaten dinner and the check needs to be dropped.

colt's mama should be proud.

rednrowdy

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @clevernamehere: He also works a mental health counselor working with patients who were found nonguilty due to pleas of insanity. Just the person you want working with the mentally ill...

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I bet the waiter totally reads Nancy Drew novels and is always getting caught up in this kind of mischief. If it wasn't for you meddling kids, I could have gotten away with it! I might be combining Nancy Drew and Scooby Doo?

Ptarmigan

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @bigleggedwoman: I know it sounds stupid (thank you TSA and DoHS), but if you see something, you have to say something. It's too easy to stay aloof and not get involved, because of the potential embarrassment if you're wrong.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @hamburgerhotdog: You would be surprised how many really fucked up people work in the mental health field.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[]]> After some facebook creeping, it appears Colt the miracle waiter has a girlfriend, or at least a girl he seems exceptionally happy to be next to in his profile pic.

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @ineffable.me: If the guy is free on bail, then he's already been charged with something. But all defendants, even slimeballs, are entitled to reasonable bail.

rsr26

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Hamsterpants: Not that the waiter in't the bomb. I just EXPECT nafariousness at these places.

Hamsterpants

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @TheOtherJen:
an island with a hellish climate?? and prison guards like in Shawshank Redemption?


HoneyLush

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I was on anothr site last night and some guy was saying this case had to be a lie, it is too hard to mash up pills, no waiter would ever notice this, and the police wouldn't do anything. A lot of people agreed with him, which was depressing.

As a bonus, the guy on bail is a former city council member. [www.thebostonchannel.com]

clevernamehere

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @ineffable.me: I don't know about that. You can't exactly get away with slipping something in someone's drink. Especially when you have an eyewitness and a positive test for a controlled substance. And if it turns out he got the Valium illegally. You can bet that because this story made national news, this case will end up under a microscope.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Hamsterpants: But they serve potato skins! It's my vacation treat.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Rock on, Colt! Nice to have a male hero for once! I believe this is Feel Good Thursday....just stay away from the McCain Thread. Yikes!

Trashtastic

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @lola82: Is it wrong that all I can picture is Joey from Full House doing "cut it off" hand signs?

PinkSoxHat

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I would hope nobody would ignore it. It happens in reverse too. Guy I knew got slipped a mickey.

=( Though once I did laugh when a couple i know slipped a friend a Viagra at the bar. He left quickly, and yes I felt bad later since it possibly could have affected him.

Tenno

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @ineffable.me: I believe that now there is all this publicity, he will get more of what he deserves. Public outcry and all that.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Woohoo!

sanibelly

]]> <![CDATA[]]> What's really sad is that this guy was so cocky that he thought he could brazenly do this in front of a waiter and not be called out.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Yes, let's start the counterpart for Email from a Douche, and nominate Colt Haugen for GWLT (Guys we'd like to thank).

Luckwouldhaveit

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Oh lord, check this: Robert Psaty (the perp) is employed by the Colorado Mental Health Institute in Pueblo...

Good god.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[]]> At Ruby F-ing Tuesdays! What the hell?? Strangers are terrifying enough anyway, but if someone is brazen enough to try to drug someone in a brightly lit restaurant where there are probably little kids around running back and forth from the buffet line, then I don't think I want to leave my house too much anymore.
And the guys's out on bail? I say his punishment should be, him being forcefed that Alli weight loss/butt leakage stuff in jail for a long long while.


dontbogartthewine

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Ugh. Awful.

katastic

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I find it both horrifying and really uplifting that this is the second story I've heard like this in recent months. Horrifying re: creepy daters, uplifting re: heroic wait staff. At least both stories ended well.

MsDirector

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @LoveNoelG: Yes! Can we see a photo of this douchebag, as a starter? It could be like a Jezebel PSA.

Jiboo

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @ineffable.me: He'll be prosecuted. There are laws making it illegal to drug somebody without their knowledge. In the myspace incident, prosecutors couldn't determine any laws that were broken.

Plus, there seems to be clear evidence and a witness. He will probably plea down to a lesser charge though.

Lymed

]]> <![CDATA[]]> This just reinforces my belief that Ruby Tuesdays, Applebees, Chilis and TGI Fridays are insensate evil.

Hamsterpants

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Cut it off.

lola82

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Scoregasm: No, but I don't think it's specific to men. People tend to ignore shit when they don't want to stir the pot (like seeing a child slapped in public or hearing a neighbor screaming).

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @kataroo_kangaroo: I suspect there will be a line.

NefariousNewt

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Thank you lordy Jeebus. I hope she tipped well. (Ok, I'm going to hell)

eleanorstrousers

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I think any rapist, or even wannabe rapists like this guy, should all be flown to an island so they can rape each other.

TheOtherJen

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Scoregasm: I don't think most guys would ignore it. But I have a suspicion there are some bartenders who see it happen and don't say anything.

Lymed

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Free on Bail. Nothing will ever happen to this dude. If the parents from that girl on myspace are out hanging out and so are all the dudes that rape women in the military, i cant imagine that they will prosecute someone for putting valium in their drink.

sigh.

ineffable.me

]]> <![CDATA[]]> @Scoregasm: No, I thought that too. Or maybe we're both just horrible cynics. But seriously, I feel like a lot of people, men and women, would ignore it and try to rationalize not taking action.

Jerseylicious

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Who knew someone named after weapons and malt liquor could be such a hero?

hortense

]]> <![CDATA[]]> That's funny, I can't step foot in a Ruby Tuesday's without a valium.

hamburgerhotdog

]]> <![CDATA[]]> You go, Colt Haugen! More like him, please.

Appropriate punishment for the turd? What's the max sentence on attempted rape? And of course, publicise the hell out of his name. Put it on banners behind airplanes and shit.

LoveNoelG

]]> <![CDATA[]]> And he's cute. Very refreshing.

ArtfulSlinger

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Angelina can take the day off; my faith in humanity is restored. Will someone please send Angelina a pizza and tuck her in for a nap?

myrtlebeachbum

]]> <![CDATA[]]> aaaaaand my faith in humanity is restored.

for now.

RiverGirl

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Some day we should create a Jezebel "Everyday hero men we love" list. This guy would be on it, along with that high school kid from yesterday. Well done sir!

hfree

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Wow. Good for this guy. I can't help but think that most guys would ignore this. Am I too much of a cynic?

Scoregasm

]]> <![CDATA[]]> thats awful beyond words

PopCultureSavant

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Good job! He also stated that he didn't consider himself a hero. I appreciated that. We all need advocates when we are in danger.

bigleggedwoman

]]> <![CDATA[]]> I bet she totally blowed him as a "thank you".

BAngieB

]]> <![CDATA[]]> This happened here in Colorado. They met through a dating service in Colorado Springs. They didn't even say internet dating service, just dating service. *shudders* Maybe I can date the waiter?

Le Kangourou de Kataroo

]]> <![CDATA[]]> Go Buffs!

I'll have to visit Ruby Tuesday's when I'm home as a thank you.

SeraSera

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