<![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> i'm a total snooper, and yes, it is bad. you find things that are completely unrelated that you read things into; which is why i've sworn off the snooping and made my bf change all his passwords and not tell me them (counseling might also help, but ya know)...he knew i was a snooper btw, from the beginning, and never had anything to hide.
HOWEVER, i trace it back to a day when i was never a snoop, and i was computerless and email addressless (always used my aol one while in college and someone had hacked our account) and i had ordered a necklace offline and sent the receipt to my exboyfriend's account w/ his knowledge and permission. sitting next to him, i ask him if i can see if they updated the shipping status, pull up the outlook, and in the viewing pane is an *extremely* graphic cybersex conversation he had had with a girl. no clicking, no nothing, just there. needless to say, i flipped. i had never really been betrayed before, and it sort of scarred me for life. hence the honesty w/ the current bf and the password changes.

onesong

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> my bf is so busy that he ask me to look at his mail to see if he got any mail..so yeah I guess I can't suspect about mails when he doesnt even care himself

lurleen

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I hope my husband never snoops in my email. He would find out how much I spend on perfume.

Neopatra

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Ptarmigan: That's why I always break up via telegram.

B

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Dear gawd. Please tell me no one has ever texted "I can haz breakup?" :(

Xylo

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Anyone who thinks an email or a TM is an acceptable way of breaking up ought to have "pathetic loser" tattooed on his forehead.

24-7

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> and this is when you send them that email that says that they contracted an std haha

adina

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> So now I'm hearing people break up via their MySpace page. Changing their status to single apparently lets you know they've dumped you. Yeah, that's classy.

PICKLES

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Go Like Hell Machine: True. My boy recently left up an email he wrote to a close girlfriend back right before our break-up. She's his best friend here, other than me, and we were worse than on the rocks at that point. It was a response to a birthday present she'd given him, and it was profuse in superlative compliments. I should have resisted reading it when I saw it - not only because it wasn't right, but because now I can't shake the feeling that he might prefer her, despite the timing and circumstances of the note. You don't need to see those things. Grr bad bad bad. Am going to be so virtuous in the future.

jammiriffic

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> My last girlfriend read my journal, which contained some really old love letters to another girl which I wrote drunk and (wisely) never sent. I kept them because, frankly, I forgot I had them. She read them and our entire relationship never recovered, primarily because they weren't dated and she couldn't ever get out of her mind that they could have been more recent than I asserted.

So, I guess the moral is snoop at your own peril.

Go Like Hell Machine

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Generally, snooping is wrong, wrong, wrong. But, if a spouse or significant other has been caught cheating in the past I think its ok to check their emails and cell phone to make sure they are not repeating past behavior. But, really the cheater should be told that that they may be checked up on. I guess that may not qualify as snooping.

marykick

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> For some reason I don't feel anything's wrong with looking through the bf's e-mail every once in a great while. I mean, if you're not obsessively checking it and accusing him of stuff, why is it harmful to glance through it just to see what's going on in his internet life? I also feel like whether it's ok or not varies from relationship to relationship.

I will clarify that I've only read a couple of e-mails from females when he left his acct. open, cuz I'm jealous and insecure. Tho he's given me his password before I refuse to remember it cuz it makes me feel better.

Maybe I do it because he doesn't really write personal e-mails to anyone. Most likely I have serious boundary issues tho.

Marscinema

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I've totally email snooped on boyfriends before. No, its never okay and I never felt good about it but I proved my case that my boyfriend was trying to hook up with other women, so I didn't feel too bad about it for long.

DarlingMagpie

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I had to force my boyfriend at gunpoint (j/k) to get his own email account. He didn't seem to think he needed one when he could just have all his junk sent to mine. Derp.

SoakedNSinamyn

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I also snooped in a guy's email after I confronted him about cheating and got the heartfelt/shocked denial, in tears, "I would never do that to you!". I spent months wondering if I was going insane; he was a fantastic liar and totally made me feel like it was my crazy trust issues that were the problem, not his cheating scumbag-ism. (Has anyone ever seen that movie "Gaslight" where Charles Boyer makes Ingrid Bergman think she's losing her mind? It was just like that!)

Amazing how many of us there are. But really, like someone else said -- when a guy you love uses that to manipulate and take advantage of you, and you don't know wtf is going on, what do you do?

pink-india-ink

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> No, I don't think snooping is ever appropriate. If you don't trust somebody enough to given them their private space, you are either too possessive or are with the wrong person. Neither are good.

I personally wouldn't break up with somebody via IM or e-mail, unless we were long-distance and they were planning to visit. I'd rather spare them the pain and the expense.

(That said, I've been with my boyfriend for four years and hope to never have that problem in my life.)

LaGiulia

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @LaPeliroja: I SAID THIS TAKEOUT IS PORNOGRAPHIC! AHH, my hip!

Ptarmigan

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I broke up with a guy via IM once. In my defense, I waited until he paid me back the bail money I fronted him after he got arrested for having a bag of weed in his car (which, incidentally, he asked his passengers - 18 year-old-interns at his job - to "hold" for him once he realized the cops were going to search the car). Also, he was boning half of the tri-state area on the side, but would get jealous when I didn't return his pages within 10 minutes (yes, pages. I am a hundred years old). So, you know, total douchenozzle = text message breakup. Or, in my case, IM.

dirtyfez

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Scoregasm: Ugh, yeah, that's definitely shitty.

major disaster

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I just broke it off with a guy but we weren't boyfriend/girlfriend and hadn't even had sex yet but he got real mad and said he was glad we didn't have sex if I was one of those people who broke up by text. Yikes!
It was only by text cuz he had a blackberry. I actually emailed him.

Maulleigh

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @erie: I would be the last to judge you since I did the same thing. He wasn't abusive per se, but he was a complete commitment-aholic. The relationship would go fine three weeks out of four, and then he'd completely disappear. Just flat disappear. No answer to emails, phone calls, etc. It drove me out of my mind.

And even though he'd always come back, I just decided I'd had enough. So after he did the disappear-reappear thing one last time, I told him not to bother me again. That triggered a flood of emails, calls, for weeks, but by then, the fever had broken. We haven't spoken in over two years, and it's just fine. I don't let guys do that to me any more: I tell them straight out that I don't need to talk five times a day, but I need an open line of communication. They generally get it.

brendastarlet

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @KidPresentable: Muchmusic got that scoop.

lisas

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> *snorts* This reminds me that my father always checks my mother's email account for her. It pisses her off but my mother isn't very tech savvy so she doesn't know how to check her email for herself.

Breaking up via email or text message is so childish. It seems like something a high school boy would do because he doesn't have to balls to confront his girlfriend.

Bohoinparadise

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> When I had suspicions that my ex was cheating on me, I put on my big girl pants and asked him flat out. He very persuasively said "NO! I would never do that to you!" A few weeks later he left his gmail open on my computer and lo and behold, an email from another woman that was less that subtle about having sex w/my ex. I agree that snooping is not awesome, but what do you w/the lying bastards in your life!?

Agrado

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Ptarmigan: Can you say that louder in my earhorn? I can't hear you over that racket!

LaPeliroja

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Well, of COURSE more women go snooping in their man's email - clearly they have much more to be suspicious about!

aristotrash

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @LaPeliroja back in the days before the word email was even coined, I think.

LaPeliroja

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @major disaster: No, I definitely think you and petuniacat have extenuating circumstances. I'm probably a lot bitter from a guy who treated me like crap and then broke up in a really shitty way over the phone as the cherry on top. It's just really disrespectful if two people are in a relationship that they mutually agree is exclusive and then one callously breaks up over the phone. GRRRR!!

Scoregasm

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> In my twenties (I am telling on myself here), I had to dump a boyfriend straight on his ass when he opened the mail that I had in my car as I was driving. He had no compunctions about it whatsoever. I was highly irate. He really sealed the deal when I found out a week later that he had asked all my friends, sibs and finally my parents to BEG me to take him back. What a f'in crybaby.

LaPeliroja

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Jessica I agree! Its also NEVER okay to go into someone's email and send a message supposedly from them in an attempt to embarrass or humiliate them in a public forum.

Just sayin, but I'm bitter and have wine.

Trashtastic

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> My husband and I have a joint email account. Then again, we both have private individual accounts as well. The joint one is set to receive bank account info, Netflix updates, etc. Then we both access it from our private/personal accounts via POP (me) and IMAP (him). Also, my incredibly old grandmother and technologically stymied mother email our joint account rather than emailing us individually.

Basically, the joint account is a catch-all for emails that should be directed to both of us and concern both of us. We don't "share" email, but if asked if we had a joint account, I would answer yes on a survey. Maybe that sort of thing accounts for some of the couples with "joint" accounts?

Annie

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I don't snoop because my motto is that you deserve what you find, so if you feel the need in the first place that is probably saying something. I also believe we are all entitled to our privacy and would HATE if I found out my hubby snoops. IF he did he would die of boredom. Lastly, I know we are both pretty bright so if I were going to cheat I would not do it on an email he even knew I had and I'm pretty sure he would do the same.

denises_24

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I like my breakups done in an old timey way. Example: via phonographic.

Ptarmigan

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @lolainblackglasses: Someday, dear Lola! Someday! Then we can be neighbors and all will be right with the world...

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Erie: No, that is a really, really good reason to break up with someone over email and anyone who judges you will have the hammer of Jezejustice descend upon them. And good for you on getting out.

exelizabeth

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I once looked at the text messages in my bf's phone, not to snoop, but just because it was... there, and we've been together 4 years and I never had. And I got bored after like 2. They were with his ex girlfriend who's a friend now, and I know they text a lot. Which he tells me. What's there to snoop about?

exelizabeth

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I broke up over email. The guy I was living with abusive and we had been arguing and breaking up for months. After awhile it was him getting angry and dumping me and I would just say "fine" in an even tone and then he would get all weepy and weird and beg for me to take him back. When I finally moved to another state for a job I dumped him over email. I didn't want him to have my new number. Go ahead and judge me.

Erie

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Not that I'd want one, but I'm assuming joint e-mails are generally not the person's ONLY e-mail account. I can see how it would be useful to have one if you wanted an address to give to family members for all their baby picture/(good) forwards, etc. My bf always forwards the interesting NYTimes articles his sister e-mails us, and pictures of his nieces and nephews, etc. Though, hitting forward is not really difficult. Wow...my comment is starting to bore me...

I would have no compunction about snooping, but my bf and I trust each other so much it would be pointless. If I were in a different situation, I just wouldn't care about how immoral it was. :)

goldengirl11

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Hello-o?! Girls wouldn't snoop in emails so much if guys didn't hide stuff in a secret email account so much. Not that I think snooping in email is a good thing. In my (vicarious) experience - you only find out stuff you didn't want to know or you jump to the wrong conclusions reading stuff out of context. But seriously - if guys weren't hiding stuff in their email, I think the temptation would be gone.

I couldn't snoop even if I wanted to. My fiance is the type that never keeps any email: he reads, responds and trashes immediately. Whereas my inbox is a disaster...

distractedbyshinyobjects

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @major disaster: UGH what a weanie. No two dates does not quantify dating. I once had a guy I went out with a few times call me from a limo on speaker phone with his buddies listening and tell me he was coming over, as in a booty call (we actually had not slept together yet). I asked him in my dazed sleepy way " are you asking me if you can come over or are you telling me you're coming over?" The answer was "I'm telling you". WRONG. I ended it right there over the phone, on speaker phone, in no uncertain terms. Hope his friends enjoyed that part of the conversation too.
Yeah consider yourself lucky. I hope you call blocked after the second call.


PICKLES

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Scoregasm: Question, though - what does breaking up really mean? Obviously if there's a serious relationship, anything but in person is shitty. But I once told a guy over the phone that I didn't want to go out anymore, after having gone out with him twice, and he laid a huge guilt trip on me over it, saying that he deserved to be told in person. I was all WTF? We went on TWO DATES! We didn't even kiss! There was no relationship!

Was I out of line? The more he went on (he actually called me back a second time to plead some more - it was kind of pathetic), the more I knew I dodged a bullet, but still, I don't like to think of myself as a bad person.

major disaster

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @eseleth: A lot of older couples I know have them, and I just know by the signature (and content, usually) who it's from. And I just make sure to either write their name in the greeting, or reply to an existing string between me and whomever.
But I don't know that I'd ever want to have a joint email. Not because I have things to hide, but because I kinda like privacy. The emails between me and the girlfriends aren't big scary secrets, but I don't know that future hubs needs to know every intimate detail of our friendships (or their sex lives). Like not pooping in front of each other, some things are better left alone.

FourInchHeels

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> My boy and I were always using each other's computers and passwords, so we got used to haphazard looks at the email. I never had anything for him to hide; I wouldn't have cared at all if he'd felt the need to pry. Which is probably why, when I saw something suspicious during one of those haphazard glimpses, I didn't feel too much compunction about checking it out. And I was right. He was flirting it up with some other girl. Which I'd suspected, but when I put on my "big girl pants" and asked him he denied it so convincingly that I utterly bought it.

The sad thing is that, of course, that girl didn't cause nearly as much harm to the relationship as the two-way lack of trust the lie and subsequent snooping caused. I hope I'll never fall into that mistake again.

jammiriffic

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Scoregasm: Yessssssssssssssss and do it respectfully. Any other way and you're just a douche.

BowlingForDollars

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I do not believe in snooping through someone's email, let alone personal belongings. I would not want someone doing that to me, so I don't do it to anyone else either. Yet, in a stable relationship I would not care if they checked my email and such, but not with the intention to spy or squeeze some information out that they think is in my personal accounts. If you have a problem, have the balls to talk directly about it. If not, those people probably should not be in that relationship to begin with.

somaholiday

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @LaComtesse: Heh, I don't know, but it wouldn't surprise me if they did. Of course I love them dearly, but they are a little schmoopie sometimes.

I don't know, no matter how much I might love a guy, I need boundaries.

major disaster

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Is it bad that I want say it's OK to break up via email just to keep "Crap Email from a Dude" alive? But in all seriousness, I think email is a shitty way to dump someone. It's a way for you to have an essentially one-sided break up conversation, which I find cowardly. Plus, email does not always convey nuances and subtleties that are easily understood in face-to-face conversation.

Political Party Girl

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @lawlessly: I just read that today!

SarahMC

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Joint email acounts? What? Why? Huh?

This seems like the dumbest idea ever. I mean, it would be pretty damn confusing to get an email and not know if it was from the guy or the girl. And if they want to share things, they could just forward them to the other person's separate account.

onefishtwofish

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @BinderClip: Aw thanks, that's my little one when she was actually little and not a big kitty all full of her bad self.

I have one gold binder clip. I refuse to use it on anything that might fall into someone else's hands. All the rest are black.

petuniacat

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @lawlessly: And I believe that he was in Vegas screwing around on her at the time. So maybe she could get a pass on that one - but then again she seems to think her Mom screwed him so maybe she's just nuts. Hmmm. Nuts it is.

sybann

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @notaclevername: Word! I am a firm Mac user, my boyfriend has a PC clunker. Mine is sooooo much prettier.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Depends what they mean by relationship, I guess. Obviously if you're in something long term, you should do it in person. But if I've only been on 5 dates with a guy, I really don't want to get all dressed up and take a cab downtown to find out he isn't feeling it. I don't care much about him at that point, and I doubt he has anything very meaningful to say anyway.

And yeah, as you can tell by the post, I've broken off a couple of short term relationships over the phone or by email.

onefishtwofish

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> No. It's not my morals so much as the the fear that I might find something. But, I wouldn't find something so.....yeah...no.

Archetype

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @ccchild: Heee - at least they HAVE email. If it weren't for my sister and I this would be my Mom.

sybann

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @LaComtesse: Just so you know, every time you mention your apt., I am soooo jealous. :)

Rebecca, in China

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @LaComtesse: Not only do I not want a shared e-mail account, I don't want a shared computer.

Heck, even my GRANDPARENTS have separate e-mail* addresses, and they're...well, they're really old.

*I should note, however, that they're really tech-savvy and had a computer, the internet and a cell phone before anyone else in our family. But they're also cheap and refuse to upgrade from dialup.

not.a.clever.name

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @petuniacat: Ha! When I was signing up for an account, I kept coming up with cool usernames but they were all either taken or got rejected, so I just typed in BinderClip out of total frustration (b/c it's the first thing I saw on my desk) b/c I thought the signup was broken, and of course the name went through. But I'm glad you like it! I would give you my binderclips if I could. But they're just plain black.
p.s. I like you username + pic too. I love the kittehs.

BinderClip

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @major disaster: ... yeah. that's just totally weird. are they among those couples that poop in front of each other?

@lolainblackglasses: Yeah, if my husband ever suggested a joint email account, I think I would laugh him out of our apartment.

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Unless you are talking murder or child abuse, no. However, I've done it, and the main reason you shouldn't do it, is, as your Mom always told you, you are never going to find out something good if you go snooping around.

olivia2.0

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @lawlessly: Now, I am not an authority on the B, but I seem to remember a video of him reading the text message.

BAngieB

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> This guy that I was semi-dating, you know that stage before you're officially dating and when you're just flirting, gave me a password to his iTunes account so I could listen to something that he had sent me. He made the mistake of saying 'well now you know the password to everything' so I found out his email address, and read through his emails. I went away on vacation a week later and during that time, he hooked up with two other girls, both who I knew, one who was a friend and he decided to email all his friends about it. I can't say I regretted snooping.

TropicalParadise

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I'm thinking of breaking up with my psychiatrist via email ... not OK? I just don't want to deal.

bernadette500

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @BinderClip: I agree about joint email accounts. Not every last thought needs to be community property.

I love your username. Binderclips are my favorite office supply. Love them. I wish my work would not be so cheap, and get some in pretty colors.

petuniacat

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Breaking up via email or telephone is just shitty. But I know people who have gone all ape shit when someone breaks it off too, so I can see somebody having the fear to do it in person. I think breaking up is shitty in general even under the best circumstances.

I have six different email addresses. It's not to hide anything. It is to keep myself organized, keep my shit in it's proper place. Good luck if someone can figure it all out and snoop. And if they can do that, can they please tidy it all up a bit for me. For that matter, my purse needs to be cleaned out too.

PICKLES

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @lawlessly: Yeah, KFed was in the middle of an interview with MTV(?) when he got the text. It was all captured on camera.

KidPresentable

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @LaComtesse: Yes-- couples I know with joint (friend's parents) never had their own to begin with. None of my married friends have a joint email account. But the (younger) kind of people who would, I probably wouldn't be friends with anyway.

Rebecca, in China

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I feel no shame in it, especially since I had asked him to check my email for me when I was lost (on my way to an interview) and needed to make sure I had the directions right - and he went through all my emails from years back and read them. So... no. No, I'm totally glad I snooped.

AnnieGetYourFun

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @BinderClip: sorry, I meant downpayment. Yeah, I'm not the financial one in our relationship...

BinderClip

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> The notion of joint email account give me the serious heebee jeebies. Hell, a joint bank account that we recently got gives me the willies, frankly, but it's for special occasions (a mortgage).

BinderClip

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Sorry, Jessica, I disagree. Some guys are fantastic liars. I dated a dude who swore up and down that he was faithful, no matter what my suspicions. It was only when he left his email open that I was able to get into the (several) fake accounts and realize that he was dating THREE other women. It's amazing he had time to work, honestly.

AnnieGetYourFun

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @LaComtesse: My brother and his wife are both under 30 and basically have joint email. They do actually have separate accounts, but they each check each other's email. Everyone else in our family thinks it's totally weird.

major disaster

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @BAngieB: Just read in that Rolling Stone article that Britbrit asked for le devorce from Kfed by text. Was this already common knowledge? I had to read that sentence a few times to make sure I'd gotten it right.

lawlessly

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Josie-Boe-Bosie: That sucks, man. But, well, didn't he already know he was a lying douche? I would think he would at least know the first part, if in hardcore denial about the second part.

Having roomed with a cheater/snooper combo all I can say is snoopers usually makes the cheater feel justified.

Inkymonkey

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I don't want to read my boyfriend's email just because I don't want to know how much money he really spends on newegg...and duh, because I'm not an untrusting nosy nancy.

RudyWaltz

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> The 25% of couples with a joint email account are probably all over 50 and didn't grow up with email or even incorporate it hardcore into their professional lives. My grandfather (69) is a lawyer and still doesn't know how to use email. If I want to send him a quick message, I have to send it to my grandma's email account.

An email break-up... yeah. No. Phone break ups are crappy enough, but, in the case of, say, a long distance relationship, at least MORE acceptable (seriously, if you want to break up with someone you are dating who lives in No. Africa or something, you REALLY gonna fly out there for that?)

And no, it's not acceptable to snoop on an SOs email.

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> My parents have the same email address. Of course, they also have the same phone line; get this: the phone is stuck in their house, attached to a wall! They can't take it outside, to talk in their cars or in line at a store! Crazy, crazy old folks.

ccchild

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> @Scoregasm: I broke up over the phone with my last boyfriend. I called him after he had told me after a year of being together that he 1) never wanted to have children, and 2) could never be with someone long-term who wasn't as Christian as he was. He wanted to take me out to dinner to finish the deed. I wouldn't let him - I wanted to stay in the comfort of my own home, in my sweats, bawling into my own pillows, thanks very much. If he'd wanted, I suppose I would have let him come over to break up with me, but he didn't bring it up and since I didn't have anything particularly nice to say to him, I preferred that he stay away.

petuniacat

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> My douche ex read my e-mail (still don't know how he got my password) and ended up screaming, "Who's Keith? WHO'S KEITH?" Keith was my new boss. I was less angry than baffled, because I don't have anything interesting in my e-mail account, so he must have been triple-time jealous reading into every emoticon and sentence.

bloislane

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I'll own up to reading someone else's email, but not my significant other. It was someone who was already an ex-boyfriend and he had given me the password - he asked me to check something for him while he didn't have access to his email. I couldn't resist the temptation to read a couple other messages.

*ducks*

Jayne

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> im guilty as charged (Im a snooper)..they dont call me nosey josie for anything! besides it proved to my exhusband how much of a lying douch he was when I hacked all his shizz..(he was dumb and kept EVERYTHING the same password!)I think if u have ur suspshuns go 4 it...but who the fuck am i?!?!

Josie-Boe-Bosie

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Secretly invading someone's privacy by snooping is also invading their trust, even if you suspect they might be doing just that to you. Two peas in a pod, I say.

Also, I don't have a problem with breaking up over e-mail if the relationship is not that deep.

theladyvanishes

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> This title was misleading. I thought you were going to crap on dudes for sacking their gf's via email - instead you unloaded on us for snooping. I feel like a kid who was tricked into eating a fiber cookie and now I'm left dealing with the mess.

ThisMilkIsBad

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> My boyfriend has my password; I can figure his out. There's nothing in my e-mail account for him to be worried about. He doesn't know the right words to search for ^^

But I do have two e-mail accounts (no, I don't know why I have two) for misc. e-mails like facebook/myspace shit and j.crew free shipping e-mails. He only nominally knows about their existence. Don't know if that counts as "secret" but...

@Scoregasm: WORD.

not.a.clever.name

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Spy on someone rather than confront them? Guess what you gonna find, doormats!

Either way, you lose.

Inkymonkey

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> You should never snoop in someone's e-mail simply because you probably don't want them snooping in yours.

A friend's mother just hacked into her account and now they're not speaking because of what she read. But she totally deserves it for sticking her nose where it doesn't belong!

sidneyprescott

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> For a bona fide serious relationship, only in person. But if it's one of those kinda-not-really-seeing-each-other-sometimes things, then email is fine, I think (read: I'm guilty of this).

Jayne

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> i think your relationship is in trouble if you feel the need to snoop in the first place. PERIOD.

bananaballs

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I think it's shit to not break up in person in most circumstances (obviously there are some exceptions). No phone, no text messages, no email. Suck it up and act like a goddamn grownup.

Scoregasm

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> I don't know. I think if you find out your guy has playboy pictures as the wallpaper on his Iphone, you may dump him by any means that is most expeditious.

Pinkosaurus

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> If someone feels the need to search through my shit, then we don't know each other well enough to get married.

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[33% Of Boys Are Okay With Breaking Up Over Email]]> Dude, you can't text message breakup.

BAngieB

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