<![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad - Jezebel Comments]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I was on a wedding board while I was doing the whole wedding thing. Every bride on the board said she'd picked gorgeous dresses that all the girls would want to wear again, and it was *never* true!

One bride had picked floor-length, $450 velvet gowns with trailing medieval sleeves for her outdoor, Lord of the Rings theme wedding in August, and she was absolutely adamant that the dresses were beautiful and perfect and her maids would wear them for the rest of their lives.

Fatwetdog

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My bridesmaids wore dark green velvet & crepey column dresses (Christmas wedding) by Liz Claiborne when I got married in 98. They were pretty ok, but the best part...... I got them off the clearance rack at Marshall Fields. $30 each- I kid you not. Score!

I used the "you'll be able to wear it again" line with my sister, and she was like, "Ummmm... for $30, I don't care if I ever wear it again!" Good point.

Diane_Court

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @sequined: totally agree -- I don't get it when the chicks get sooo wrapped up in matchy matchy pastel hell, as if being fascist about color implementation = classy photo output. Just because you chose pink roses or blue hydrangeas for your "flowers" doesn't mean your 'maids need to look like a walking flower farm. Better to choose a neutral color for the dresses.

arirang

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I had one attendant. She wore a dress she had worn as a bridesmaid at another wedding, and then she wore the same dress again at her sister's wedding. SO what? It looked great.

arirang

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Which is why I had zero bridesmaids!!! AGGGHH!! The drama. I could never, ever have dealt with it. I am also really confused in general about the whole bridesmaids dress phenomenon anyway. WHY would you want to flank you in the same exact dress?! why? what is the effing point?!

BraidMyHair

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> This is why I'm glad I'm Indian. All my bridesmaid (if I get married) will be wearin' rockin sari's that stand the test of time.

MakeMeSmile

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @choomama: I agree. I also think that some things that sound semi-cute in theory just look stupid on five women standing in a row. Like all things sea foam green and periwinkle.

sequined

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @blondegrlz: Yep. Church looks like it's been hosed down with Pepto Bismol.

Much like those Hooters dresses above.

Rooo sez BISH PLZ

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> For my brother's wedding, I was told to get a blue dress in any shade and any style except floor length since it was going to take place on the beach. I bought a cute dress and spent 5 days in Puerto Rico. Awesome wedding!

hildegaard

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Everyone keeps insisting that brides pick hideous bridesmaid dresses in order to keep the spotlight on them. I contend, however, that some just have fug taste when it comes to weddings. They've been deluded since childhood into thinking that everything wedding-oriented has to be froofy and pastelled. As a bride-to-be this upcoming summer, I've mentally vomitted on so many hideous dresses, flower arrangements, and the like that I've become convinced I'm missing the bridal gene.

ChooMama

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @currerbell: I'd rather wear the most hideous taffeta concoction than be a grown woman forced to wear a boa.

descend

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I liked the approach my friend took when she got married. She picked a line of dresses that had the color she wanted and let her attendants pick the most flattering styles. Everyone looked fantastic and the color--papaya--was flattering to all of the girls.

As the one giving the reading, I got to pick my own dress, which made me happy. Actually, my boyfriend and I did the reading together. Our friends had maxed out their attendant numbers, what with relatives and college friends, but wanted us involved so they picked us to do a joint reading for them. Our choice, with their approval.

We did a spoken word rendition of "I Got You, Babe".

jitterpup

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @ineffable.me: HAS to be Playboy, because as Barbie taught us, your thighs have to be the same diameter as your ankles to be a Cowboys cheerleader.

rhinestonedarling

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @blondegrlz: It has been TOO LONG since I've seen a Steel Magnolias quote here. Seriously, this made my late-night-at-work.

kellyhelene

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Topsyjane:

OMG, thank you for mentioning Dress Barn. That made my day. (The reasons for which are entirely outside the scope of this topic.)

KimberleeJ

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bonnilicious: The perfect wedding colors are Blush and Bashful.

BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Topsyjane: People like that, I say, may your divorce be even more expensive and ridiculous than your wedding is.

Which, in that case, sounds hard to beat.

lalaland13

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I think I'm just going to pick the fabric and color and then my aunt offered to sew whatever my maids want out of it... I'm hoping that will save them some money and they can have some fun designing their own dresses? Does anyone out there who has been a maid think this is a terrible idea for some reason I'm not thinking of?

distractedbyshinyobjects

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> What bullshittery it is being a bridesmaid. On one hand, you're so important to them, the couple couldn't IMAGINE not having you there as a part of the mostest specialest day of their lives! But make sure you don't look too good and UPSTAGE the bride. Because she will cut a bitch.

The FUCK???

A friend had a tantrum when her sister turned up in a dark blue strapless dress to her wedding. And this was from a 6ft tall bride in a ivory satin vintage dress with a 10ft long train, full veil over a tiara and leopard print stockings in clear plastic stripper spike heels. She had herself to blame because she suddenly changed 'anything you want' to 'not white, not black, no pastels, no metallics, no sleeveless, not above the knee, not below the ankle, no slit skirts, and no patterns' two months before the May 1st wedding. By that time, nothing fitting that description was in stores except poor fitting eyesores with make-up stains and I ended up with a 75% off bile-colored monstrosity from Dress Barn.

Brides-to-be, if you are THAT insecure that you feel threatened by any halfway decent looking female as a bridesmaid, just make all your 'friends' wear trash bags with no makeup, greasy hair, barefoot, with unshaved legs and mustaches. Or burkas! Or maybe, save yourself the trouble and money and just ELOPE (with a side-order of intensive psychotherapy). KTHX!

Topsyjane

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @ineffable.me:

Hey if this was a Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader wedding, the hair would be WAY bigger.

texashotpants

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @titania1285: I'm also in a September wedding with chocolate brown dresses. Fortunately, we get to pick our own dresses. Unfortunately, the bride's sister in my case is a 6' tall natural redhead who's gorgeous, so we're all going to be stumpy little brown gnomes no matter what we come up with on our own.

seresy

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @lalaland13:
Isn't everyone fat by the wedding industry's size standards? I wear a 14/16 and ending up having to rock two sizes up and then alter the fuck out of it.

If I ever get married, I'm gonna be a hussy bride and wear either red or a delicious shade of mango. Fuck white. No. seriously. Last thing I wanna look like is an inside out peppermint patty.

dandelionbrowne

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @lalaland13: Lol, "Even Hooters waitresses find love"...classy! Unlike those dresses. WTF are those, satin rompers? Is that for-fucking-serious a fuschia satin romper?

redrover189

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I'm a control freak, with a side of OCD. I opted for matching dresses, but let the girls duke it out amongst themselves. I SUGGESTED colors, but did not mandate. I feel it worked well. I opted for comfort all the way around really (the guys didn't even wear ties cuz who wants something that tight around their neck?)

I appreciate the "pick a color and let the girls pick their own dresses" take on this issue, but I've never been to a wedding where they managed to pull this off in a way that made it look cohesive. But then again, who the hell am i to say? Its your wedding, do what you want (as long as it's not hot pink. or hotpants, for that matter [scowls at Britney])

What's_Your_Poison

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Mizprickers: What IS it with wedding planning and colors???? I get the "what color" question more often by friends and family then any other question!! The only thing i can think to recommend to them is that, It's Napa, outdoors, september, on top of a mountain estate. Black may cause heatstroke. Strapless will require a sweater after dusk. Heels may invoke broken ankles. Stain-loving wine will be drunk copiously. Food will be eaten in hopefully large quantities. But then i get the "are you more into strawberry pink or rasberry pink?" questions which just make me pull my hair out. I am tempted to tell everyone ALL the wedding photos will be in b/w, but that may stir up more issues.

bonnilicious

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Cisslepants: Hot damn girl, you're shaped like me. And that means, you're prolly shit out of luck as far as finding a good strapless bra goes. The last time I had to strap my girls in, I totally rigged something involving a tube top and ducktape...

redrover189

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Speaking of how difficult it is to find a dress that flatters five different women...
a friend of mine recently told me that I get to help her choose our bridesmaids dresses for her wedding, not because I'm her favorite, but because I'm her "most difficult to fit" bridesmaid.

"Two of the girls are really skinny and will look good in whatever. One of them has a similar body type to yours but she's more proportionate because she has boobs."

WHAT THE HELL! Way to make me thrilled about your GD wedding.

sequined

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @BeAgrestic:
I, too hate the idea of being a bridesmaid. I was my sister's Maid of Honor and she's the only person I would do it for. I hated it every step of the way, but love her immensely and demonstrated it by wearing a column dress the color of rancid baby aspirin. I picked it out myself so I'm partially responsible, but they don't have many options for the thickness.

If I ever get married, I'm not doing it. It's unfair to expect your friends to shell out ridiculous amounts of money to celebrate with you and look awful doing it.

dandelionbrowne

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I was a fat bridesmaid. In my mom's wedding though. OK, actually I was maid of honor. Really small wedding, though. So that saved some of my bride-damnit, pride.

That's the fattest I've ever been in my life. After that, I lost 30 pounds, and since then have hovered between a net loss of 20 and 30. So I'm almost exactly in between where I was in high school and where I was at for the wedding.

I'm still not thrilled about where I am, but even a net loss of 20 feels a lot better and prettier than where I was.

Oh gosh, I made this wedding post all about me me me me me me. I sound like a bride.

And seeing that pic makes me happy that even Hooters waitresses find love. Or maybe it's especially Hooters waitresses that find love and then have other Hooters girls in their party.

If I ever get married, I want a dress that looks like a tasteful nice bridesmaid dress. Not one that's all white and stuff. Or so I say now. Anyway, I want simplicity.

lalaland13

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Dudes, just say no to the madness and commercialism of weddings. I got married for less than $200, and no one had to wear an ugly dress.

jessicarabbit

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> the Vera Wang maids cocktail #9 is described as "Lame cocktail dress with sleeves & black elastic detail at waist with grosgrain bow". Even the caption writers know it's lame!

emmyjane

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @hamburgerhotdog:

OMG can someone please find one of these and scan in and post all the pictures????

TheOtherJen

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @ BONNILICIOUS : Same story with my family. Their first question after I told them we were getting married was: "What are your colors?" Uhhhhm, comfortable? Is that a color? It really didn't matter and it made everyone uncomfortable. My in-laws ALL wore black. Some kind of mini-protest? We'll never know...

mizprickers

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @rednrowdy: I said "yeah, I told you that when you sent me the link online, looked at them in the store, and in a last ditch phone call hoping to change your mind before I plucked down $140!" (not to mention another $60 plus shipping from Bravissimo in the UK for a strapless bra since no one in the US seems to think F cups need or want strapless. go figure.)

kellyhelene

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Nellicat: I got invited to one of those but my only bridesmaid dresses were awesome-- one vintage '50s black cocktail with a dramatic portrait neckline, one simple jersey drapey knee-length job in a lovely (for me) Prada-ish green shade. Nobody believed me. Thank you girls for letting me wear those!

Lizawithazee

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Actually, I should add that my dress was made from a vintage pattern, so my sister/maid of honor decided to do the same thing, and she looked gorgeous and has totally worn the dress again.

TwoScoops

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I told everyone to wear a light color, as long as it wasn't white, and to make it somewhere between the knee and mid-calf in length. Bridesmaids didn't match, so why should the dresses? It was still a pain, though, since the ladies seemed to want a lot of hand-holding through the process.

TwoScoops

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I'm so glad I've only ever been asked to be in one wedding. My bridesmaid dress: a red and gold cheongsam, which could have been a disaster but ended up working surprisingly well for all of us maids. Not something I'll wear again, but far superior to poofy pastels.

LBB says YES WE DID!

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @poptimist: Light up? Platform? Heels?

WOW.

lolly71

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I'm evidently in the minority here, but whenever I've been in a wedding its like being asked to be in a play or something and the dress is my costume. But, its like community theatre where I buy my own costume.

Mando323

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Mando323: Well, I mean, it's my special day!!!! I expect all my girls to fit in the $700 size 00 orange tafetta dress I DEMAND and DESERVE!!! Now help me put on my tiara!!!

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I am just thinking it is such a weird tradition. I mean, it is the only event in the world where the hostess is given a pass to pick out the clothes of her attendees (some of them) and to make them pay for the privilege of wearing them. I mean, there is "the black and white ball," or theme parties, or black or white tie designations, but that isn't at all the same thing.

I always refuse to be a bridesmaid when asked. People, unsurprisingly, have stopped asking.

notbetty

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I'm going to be in my SIL's wedding later this year, 4 mos. postpartum. I'm already in what I like to call 'wacky size land' with a pair of 34DDDs. God only knows what size they're going to be when I'm nursing!
She's on the other side of that issue, and is more concerned with how much boobage she can have sewn into her dress. I had to tell her that totally strapless is NOT POSSIBLE for me from a structural standpoint. Spaghetti straps are not really much of a help either.
Any recommendations on a convertible strapless bra for the ridiculously sized? At least she picked out a color that I look awesome in.

Cisslepants

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @TeenageGangDeb: Actually, I'd like to get you guys hip to the Memphis haute cuisine: Jack Pyrtles. We be eatin fried liver biscuits and drankin Steel Reserve tallboys.
The wedding cake will be Magic Shell on the outside, orange flavored cake, with a liquid Alize' center. Who says money can't buy class?

BiscuitDoughJones

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @athertonmerriweather:
Once I heard that part of the preview, and I wasn't looking at the screen, and I swear I thought it was a man impersonating a woman.

undomesticgoddess

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I had a little bit of a hard time getting my (two!) bridesmaids together... they were my cousins who I love dearly but are Goth. Normally this would be no problem whatsoever but it was an outdoor wedding in May - I asked them to choose "appropriate dresses in the same shade" and they looked at me with blank fear.

They actually asked me to choose the dresses for them and I didn't do the greatest job; I am shorter and very fair and they are both 6 inches taller than me with cranberry red and jet-black dyed hair. I tried my best and the dresses weren't horrible, but they weren't exactly flattering; I felt bad, but I did try to give them the option. Oh well. My wedding was awesome anyway.

bob

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @blondegrlz: That is true. Also, don't lie, it was really fucking hot at your wedding and there were horse flies. But the hangover I had the next day trumps pretty much everything. Ever.

sarrible

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Nellicat: It was! Everyone loved mine though (I've only got one REAL bridesmaid dress) and kept asking me how recently I wore it. Um... like 5 years ago. My cousin and I have good taste.

spamanda

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Queensian: entirely agreed. that said, are those ZIPPERS on those hot pink concoctions?!?

onesong

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @BiscuitDoughJones: Lemme guess ... catering provided by the HoJo? All the popcorn shrimps and strawberry lemonades a new bride could want?!

Will there be those re-used milk gallon gallon jugs of grape flavored daquiri from the drive-thru daquiri hut?!

DREAM WEDDING!

TeenageGangDeb

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> i'm going the way of the bitch for my wedding. i pick the dresses and they are going to be ugly as sin. but i'm also paying for the booze to help them forget they look like moldy ambrosia.

Emotastic

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My best friend shoved me into a horrible, horrible "sateen" knee-length BRIGHT ASS SHOCKING PINK $20 dress from Target. I begged her to let me buy all the bridesmaids dresses (she has two sisters as well) and she refused. My mother called it "cruel", it was horrible. I had to put my foot down when she suggested wearing light-up platform heels (and shes not a stripper), instead we got stuck with sparkly thongs, ugh. Worst.wedding.ever.

poptimist

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MGB: "I'm fat, not deaf, bitch."

nellicat

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I've worn some god damned ugly bridesmaid dresses in my time but they weren't nearly as ugly as what went down in the fittin' room. Also, for one wedding several years and seventy pounds ago, I distinctly remember when we were placing our dress orders at the honky bridal shop and the woman who waited on us explained very loudly and in front of the other women and the bride: "Now, YOU will have to pay an upcharge for the EXTENDED SIZE. You wear a LARGER SIZE so there will be an upcharge because of the EXTRA MATERIAL needed to make your dress."

I've probably never wanted to pinch somebody so badly in my life! Fat tax, indeed.

MGB

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @funnyface: My Charleston wedding was in AUGUST. For which I am officially insane - although by some miracle, it was only 75 with 0% humidity.

BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @kellyhelene: ha! gotta wonder what the size 18 sister said. "no shit sherlock!" furthermore, how weird would it be to hear from your sister "yeah, sorry about the dress...because you look like crap in the wedding photos".

rednrowdy

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Die bubble dresses, DIE!!!!!!

mynameisrio

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Here is my bridesmaid story. Horror story: My best childhood friend asked me to be her maid of honor and I , begrudgingly, said, "Ok...yeah." This was bridesmaid job #9 for me. I live in another state where the other four bridesmaids live in the town where the wedding was held... our hometown, population 8,000.

My friend, Jane, told me what color & cut to get. Upon seeing my reflection in the big-ass bridal shop mirror, I shuddered. There I was in all my "robin's egg blue" glory. The cut? A short, sleeveless dress. Sounds fine unti...

The wedding day. All us bridesmaids were getting our gear on when the room suddenly fell quiet. The other four girls were elegantly draped in long, classy, butter-yellow, tank dresses. I just looked like a slut in some sort of Romy & Michelle" inspired frock.

Jane, the bride says, "In big cities, the trend is to have the maid of honor stand out from the other bridesmaids with a slightly different dress." Yeah, okay honey.

Everyone just smiled and thanked God they weren't me.

The big talk of the town was what a slut I had become since movingng to the "big city."

nicoolio

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @spamanda: Aw, man, what a great idea for a party: wear your worst old bridesmaid dress. That would be a hoot!

nellicat

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @hortense: A Sixteen Candles reference. Nice!

Jamie Sommers

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Make It Work: The line about "family planning intentions" made me LOL. I'm still on the pill right now because my best friend told me she'd kill me if I'm pregnant at her wedding in April.

BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @blondegrlz: Heck, depending on the month in Charleston, sometimes I don't even want to wear CLOTHES.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> J.Crew's sizes go to 16 -- for anyone who needs a size larger than that you are SOL.

Mando323

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @a-dubs: @a-dubs: Last year we had a wedding near my parents house; my husband packed the car and forgot the dress I was planning on wearing. The way I saw it -- I could spend my Saturday morning at the mall and buy (yet another) cocktail dress, or wear my 10-year-old prom dress that was still in my bedroom closet and watch college football before the ceremony.

Never have I been so glad my mom wouldn't spring for the pink satin number with the feather boa. I even got a compliment, which wholly made up for the fact that my boobs apparently haven't grown since i was 17.

TakeBackWhatYouSaidAboutThor

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My cousin was my MOH. I told her "Get something blue... it's outside, so don't wear heels." When she got married years later, I was in her wedding. She said, "Here are the dresses I like, choose one in red." Easy enough. Unfortunately we did have to get the gawd-awful dyed-to-match shoes. Um, no I'm really NOT going to pay to have them dyed over in black. Sheesh.
Also, one of my friends eloped but they had a big party. Her mom called everyone and asked them to wear any old bridesmaid dresses they had. Some of them were HORRIBLE. One girl's brother had a camo wedding. Yikes.

spamanda

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @sarrible: Ha! You only say nice things because you knew I'd read them.

I'm maid of honor in a wedding in April and I got to pick the dresses. The bride didn't want the groom's sister hating her forever for picking something strapless, but it's springtime in Charleston, who wears sleeves?!

BlondeGrlz is having a BlondeBoyz!

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I was bridesmaid to a friend and her mother made the bridesmaid dresses. They were fine - they could have been a lot worse, and she had her work cut out because the other bridesmaid and I couldn't have had more different body shapes if we tried. However! I have a tattoo on my left upper arm and this friend has such a vehement hatred of tattoos that I never dared tell her about it. Yet somehow, somehow, I got through all the dress fittings without her or her mother noticing the tattoo.

cricketchicka

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @marvel girl:

Yeah I think that works well...I tried the tactic of getting the dresses from one designer I thought everyone would like but it was a bit of nightmare lots of unflattering silk garbage bag type dresses that season.

miele

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My sister got her wedding pictures back.

She then called to apologize for the dresses.

Apparently putting her size 18 36F sister into strapless periwinkle wasn't a good idea after all.

kellyhelene

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @a-dubs:

I can still sort of fit in mine, though the bustline is too tight (the girls have grown in the 16 years since prom), which is awesome. Sometimes I put it on and OD on nostalgia, Annie Potts Pretty in Pink style.

Purple velvet with black crinoline lining....what's not to love?

As far as the wedding dress, the only other person I know who hated their wedding dress at the time (not just in retrospect, which happens a lot more), is my mother in law. She was pressured to wear her sister's wedding dress.

KimberleeJ

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Bless my little sister for letting us bridesmaids pick out whatever dresses we want, as long as they're blue and "not too skanky". The bridal party has large differences in height, body type, age and disposable income, and this way we each can get something we like and afford. I need to remember this if I ever get married.

onefishtwofish

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I think bridesmaids dresses are unwearable post wedding not so much because they're always ugly but if you get them from a company/seamstress that specializes in them they have that cheap costume-like construction. They just never seam like real clothing to me.

miele

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @teapartys_over: I never understood why bridesmaids are forced to abandon their own style either. I had "bridesmaids" ranging in age from 14 to 46, so it would have been ridiculous to put them all in the same outfit. I told them the color range I had in mind (shades of blue), agreed on knee-length and neutral shoes of their choosing, and let them take it from there. Everyone got to have their own style and we all looked great!

galaxina

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @TeenageGangDeb: Don't forget the cutouts! Oh yes, there will be cutouts. You'll also each be receiving an American Apparel white thong with a portrait of Luther Vandross silkscreened on. [artfiles.art.com]
You're welcome.

BiscuitDoughJones

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My clever buddy blondegrlz had her maids pick out separates from David's Bridal in the same color. It's a rather nice lavender, and I didn't feel horrible in it. Of course, three and a half years later it's in my closet, unworn since, but that could be because I a) dropped a Cornish game hen in my lap at the reception and b) tore the hem dancing. Not a bad dress, though.

sarrible

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: I agree with you on how expensive they are, but when I went dress shopping for another wedding, I was floored when they were asking $200 for a polyester piece of crap! At least the JCrew ones are made of better material (and usually lack that boning which in a badly-made dress will come undone and start stabbing you)...

bellethellama

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bellethellama: Those spanx that are seamless (the $60 ones, not the $30 ones) really does make the tightish areas of the dress look super smooth.
[www1.bloomingdales.com]

No brah though, for me at least. I did buy those ridiculous boob petals, though it's supposed to be 90 degrees on the beach. may just chuck those.

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @type_slowly:
THANK YOU. I HATE that "hot hate sex" line. It doesn't even make sense. I've actually been wondering why Jezebel hasn't commented on it before!

amandahugnkiss

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @baa: Mine was discontinued too--the Caroline halter in ivory, naturally. I'm trying to figure out what to wear under it--any suggestions?

bellethellama

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @KimberleeJ:

I am 13 years post-prom and still have it in my closet, too! It's surprisingly still hot...

a-dubs

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> If we can't have hideous bridesmaid dresses, what are we supposed to use for Halloween costumes?

A.Twafeletta

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @brendastarlet: though I have to say, the J-Crew dresses were EXPENSIVE!! Like, up to $300! You'd think you save money going the mall-store route, but not so much! Fortunately, my girls got discounted ones for $80.

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I'm more bitter about what I wore to my own wedding than any wedding I was an attendant in. I wanted to wear a raw silk two piece shirt/top in green, but both my husband and my mom and my SIL flipped out at the thought of me not wearing some version of white. I shouldn't have given into the pressure (I was 22!), and obvs husband has since apologized profusely, but I still get whistful looking at my beautiful green dress in the closet.

I really did hate my wedding dress, which is sad. On the upside? I loved my prom dress, it is also still in my closet.

KimberleeJ

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I worked in a bridal shop while planning my own wedding, and sweet merciful crap is there a lot of bad taste out there. I chose a tea length black Jenny Yoo dress for my girls (not exciting, but who can't wear black again?). I could go on for hours about how much I hate brides and their maids. I once stood with a bride for an hour and a half debating between two shades of sage green. Both hideous. In taffeta. With a full length skirt.

amandahugnkiss

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @westendgirl: my dress was the cheapest one at the most expensive store in town. Cheap doesn't have to be awful: J. Crew has some pretty bridesmaid's dresses, and I think even Isaac Mizrahi made some for Target.

brendastarlet

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @lolkate:

Yeah, obviously making the trip is a big expense. But sometimes it's still cheaper than those fancy Vera Wang dresses (my aunt spent $5000 on hers). I was living in Hong Kong at the time, so it was easy. Best part is it doubles as a cocktail dress, so I really can wear it again...hooray.

I had an ao dais made in Hoi An for about $35 bucks, too. Love those Vietnamese tailors...

a-dubs

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> all i know is when i see a bad bridesmaid dress, i first feel anger at the bride and then a little satisfaction, since obvs. they chose the bad dress so as to make themselves look better and keep the attention on them. alas, but not so, since all the guests can't stop staring at the horrific dresses the bride chose for her friends (!!!!) to wear.

only been a bridesmaid once and the dress was nice. haven't worn it since, but it was a nice dress.

rednrowdy

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: I'm already working on the screenplay.

sumac

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bonnilicious: I know! No matter how many times I said "I don't care" my dear friends just didn't get it. It was like they were waiting for me to go bridal on their asses. I think I kept it pretty cool throughout, though.

LadyNo Fondles Sweaters

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @stoprobbers: Drive-by argument. Gets 'em every time.

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bellethellama: It's been discontinued now, but it is the Avery silk cross-back dress in ivory (natch). I got it for something ridiculous like $80 and paid just as much to have it altered.

[www.fashionisspinach.com]

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I just picked the colors for the wedding (gem-tones) and told my bridesmaids to pick the color that looked best on them, and then find a dress that they liked. I didn't even see the most of their dresses until the rehearsal, and it all turned out really well. One girl was even able to reuse a purple 'maids dress that she'd worn earlier that summer for a wedding...it was cute, but definitely could only be reworn in a wedding. But the rest of them - I would have worn any of their dresses to a cocktail party in a heartbeat. I like to think I'm a good friend. :)

HarlemSnowflake

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> When I got married back in the mid-80's....anything you saw was absolutely horrendous. I ended up telling my sister to just buy a dress that she liked, and told my other sister to do the same for my niece.

My maid-of-honor/sister walked down the aisle in an emerald green wrap dress that did justice to her voluptuous figure, and my niece ( Loren- from here @ Jezebel) was in a cute grey silk little girl dress. Awww....what cute little dimpled knees she had!

I should really dig up that picture and post it....LOL!

meanmommy

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Um, I thought 90% of those Vera dresses were absolutely adorable and kind of things I want to have all year round so I can just, y'know... wear 'em.

I disagree! *runs*

stoprobbers

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Pinkosaurus: AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!! "I'll have the see-thru copper lame one-piece spandex bridesmaids' dress, plz."

TeenageGangDeb

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> i had one maid - my best friend - and she got to wear a black cocktail dress with a simple sash that matched my color. she looked fantastic and she can wear that dress again and again. meanjeanne ain't so mean afterall?

meanjeanne

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> There's some Web site that sells convertible bridesmaids dresses, so you pick the color and they pick how they drape it. They all look kinda the same, but kinda not and they all look good. I think I got it from Daily Candy?...

You're all reminding me why there are approximately 7 people on this planet I'd be a b'maid for. And I'm kind of relieved that one is gay, two have sworn off marriage forever (and are my parents, anyway) and the other four don't seem to be interested in a wedding any time soon.

not.a.clever.name

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @a-dubs: lol, this really only cuts costs if you're already planning to be in southeast asia. but i got an incredibly nice (non-bridal) silk dress made for me for all of $35 in hanoi...

lolkate

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MissSmithDrankyourVodka: @Pinkosaurus: : All of those ideas are so, so f'in good. I think maybe I'll have wicker baskets shaped like bonnets with baby's breath in them
@badmutha Exactly, who doesn't appreciate the opportunity to add a giant straw hat to their wardorbe?

hatepaperdoll

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @athertonmerriweather: THANK YOU. Everytime I see the promo I think to myself, no straight hot guy would ever quip "what was the theme? Humiliation?" Stupid movie. Stupid stupid stupid movie.

spiderpug

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @baa: Me too! Which one did you pick?

bellethellama

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @a-dubs: Oooooh, thank you.

lolly71

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @biscuitdoughjones: Does American Apparel have a bridesmaid's line?

Pinkosaurus

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bonnilicious: Wow, that's going to be fantastic. I long to move back to Northern California one day. I think the wine country is the most gorgeous place in the US.

MegSpencer

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Hot tip: on your next trip to S.E. Asia, get your wedding dress made. I helped design my wedding dress and had it hand made in ivory silk for $300. Can't beat that.

a-dubs

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @KLondike5: The mix and match idea is actually an old one, but one that's coming back into style. You can find reference to it in a 1922 Emily Post etiquette book. There's really a lot of good stuff in there, especially this gem:

"When a poor girl marries, her wedding must be in keeping with the means of her parents. It is not only inadvisable for them to attempt expenditure beyond what they can afford, but they would lay themselves open to far greater criticism through inappropriate lavishness, than through meagerness of arrangement-which need not by any means lack charm because inexpensive."

fizzyg

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @lolkate: alas, they didn't. ive been a bridesmaid thrice and a maid of honor twice - i will NOT make my gals go through the horror. They are there to enjoy my special day, not dread it :-)

dirtybee says we bee obama jammin

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Awesomest bridesmaid dresses ever: [www.simpledress.com]

You choose the fabric (silk, a million colors) and the hemline (below the knee or long), and your bms choose the style that best suits them. My maids looked hot.

And we sprung for open bar, so they made back there money there.

a-dubs

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My bridesmaid's dress for my brother's wedding was pale teal moire taffeta. It made me look like Ethel Merman. So I conspired with the alterations department to take off the giant bows from each puffed sleeve, and had them tack down the ruffle around the neckline. At the wedding, my sister in law looked me over and said, "Something's wrong with your dress." I said, "This is how I got it from the store." If you look at the pictures, I am 30 percent less poofy than the other five bridesmaids.

brendastarlet

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @biscuitdoughjones: Nooo! Does this mean I have to wear a doo-doo brown taffeta atrocity with lace, beads, frills, and bows?!

TeenageGangDeb

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @TeenageGangDeb: I'd steer clear of the taffetta dresses that are currently there, but there aren't many of them.

@redrover189: I loved that Romi went the crazy route since he had immunity--and I would also rock that dress out if someone made it for me. And your dress seems like it was really cute! I did the whole Audrey Hepburn as Holly Golightly look--black silk column, lots of pearls, hair up in a simple do (and no tiara).

bellethellama

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I think, unless you have very fashion-conscious friends, most of us just don't care enough to be picky. It's not their wedding, you know? I know I wouldn't want to be bothered shopping for the right dress, especially after the first wedding or two. As long as the choses style wasn't ruthlessly unforgiving, I couldn't be bothered. And budget is a big part of it. I think a lot of brides don't give enough consideration to that.

To illustrate, I asked my friends to pick their dresses (with general limits: plunging necklines or super trendy cut would have looked really out of place), and they didn't seem to care that much. I like to think they appreciated being asked, since, again, all body types and also all skin and hair tones.

But they all converged on a black, strapless, A-line cocktail dress.

stepone

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @athertonmerriweather: The part that gets me is when she tells the old lady she can't wait to have hot hate sex with strangers. And I think this point has been made before, but I can't believe she tried to call Judd Apatow out on being sexist while starring in that piece of trash.

@MsKenney: Aw! Pretty and tasteful! Everyone looks smashing!

type_slowly

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I would like to be able to surf that Ugly Dress site except the design is so colossally terrible that I can't.

Smackdown

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @athertonmerriweather: @GreekGirl: @titania1285: @TheGintheCity: Thanks everyone! Now I feel like a lame attention whore. But yeah, fun day and I think the girls looked great because they were, in fact, comfortable in what they were wearing. My sister-in-law stood on my husband's side and she was more comfy in a dress with straps. "Fine. Just make sure it's a similar shade of brown. Show me ahead of time."

@bellethellama: Thanks! And navy will be really nice.

@sumac: Thanks! And yeah, floor length is a very nice look, but no one will wear that again and they tend to be more expensive. So unless one can find a floor-length dress for, like, $50, I encourage brides to go for a tea length. Sorry you got stuck with a lovely dust-collector, but maybe it will motivate you to go for that Oscar...

LaComtesse

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MJones: I'm at 6 too. How many tote bags do you have with your initials on them?

TakeBackWhatYouSaidAboutThor

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @biscuitdoughjones: SEAFOAM GREEN!

lolly71

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @blackbirdfly: jcrew is the only way to go. hell, my wedding dress is from jcrew.

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Help wanted: Be my maid of honor.

TakeBackWhatYouSaidAboutThor

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Sadly, I thought those were strapless jumpers with shorts, so on opening the post I realized it wasn't AS bad as I thought. Scary!

stacyinbean

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> AMEN! I've been in 6 weddings and if I hear, "You'll totally wear this again..." one more time I will explode into a thousand little bits.

MJones

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Minesbigger - i live in Marin. We're getting married at a friend's place in Angwin, on top of Howell Mountain. I LOVE Calistoga. Calistoga helped convinced me to leave NYC and move west.

bonnilicious

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @dirtybee: Should I ever get married, I will be sans maids as well. Also, my aunt (who fills the role of mother in my life) will be able to wear whatever she likes, so long as it's not a hideous mother of the bride dress.

petuniacat

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I got a pretty dress out of my sister wedding. I had to throw a fit and hold my breath to do it, but if you ain't afraid of making an ass of yourself, it is possible to get a pretty brides maid's dress.

mymanicpixiedreamcatsnores

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: So lovely!

DorothyZbornak

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @TeenageGangDeb: I'm still thinking of putting my guys in the carayziest sins ever committed to cloth. For fun. Just like, "you want the open bar? Then you must PAY!" BEWARE!

BiscuitDoughJones

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I feel kind of bad about the dresses I picked for my maids about 1.5 years ago. The style was flattering, but they were basically turquoise, and I know they'll never be able to wear them again. I should probably apologize to each of them personally.

I'm a bridesmaid in my SILs wedding. I feel basically "meh" about it, and I know we're all going to look like corpse brides in our black semi-copies of the wedding gown. The whole trying on of dresses was insane and demoralizing, and I really felt for the one maid who was at least 10 sizes larger than everyone else and kept cracking awkward jokes.

I'm convinced weddings are insane. INSANE.

funnyface

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> The only wedding I was ever a bridesmaid in, the bride had us all wear whatever dress we wanted as long as all the colors we wore looked good together. And it turned out well. None of us had to wear an awful color or an awful fit. We were all different shapes and colors, so it was the best situation, and it turned out looking really good.

marvel girl

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bonnilicious: Hey! I grew up in Calistoga - are you from there or did you just get married there?

MegSpencer

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @TeenageGangDeb: I think J. Crew is the way to go too. That's what I wore in the last wedding I was in...the black Sophia dress. And I can definitely wear that again.

blackbirdfly

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @LadyNo: I ended up with four too because my husband had to have both best friend plus both our brothers. It would have been more, but I made him demote them to ushers. Then I dumped two of my best friends...because bitch got jealous because her bf hadn't proposed yet and with the other friend was making my life HELL. So I had to scramble to find two more bridemaid. Luckily in the end made me closer to his friend's wife and reconnect with a good college friend. Guys don't get that it is a big deal to ask someone to be in your wedding, at least to me.

Leiakat

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I was a bridesmaid in the last wedding I went to. At least the shiny red strapless monstrosity only cost $100. It went to goodwill right when I got home :)

And I just told my sister to buy a dress for my wedding. She's happy and I'm happy with that arrangement.

skittlbrau

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My BFF did the 'pick whatever you want in black thing' and gave us red feather boas to wear. We all looked like ourselves, I wear the dress all the time, and I have reused the boa for boudoir funtime. For my hitchin', I just had one wing-lady and I just asked her to wear something vaguely pin-up-y or rockabilly. She looked adorable - even went and got pin curls done!

@LadyNo: you made me choke on my smoothie! groomzilla!

currerbell

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @biscuitdoughjones: For real, the J. Crew tip sounds like the way to go with your deal. There's NO WAY your sisters could pick anything too skanky/bedazzled/ridonk that way.

...Or is there?

TeenageGangDeb

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> The only thing worse than a bridesmaid's dress that's too expensive is one that's too cheap. My well-meaning friend said she would buy our dresses (how nice!) and then proceeded to buy 5 identical apple-red dresses from the JC Penney sales rack (oh my fucking God!) I don't mean figuratively from the JC Penney's sale rack, I mean literally. from. that. rack. 65% rayon + 35% acetate = 100% shame.

westendgirl

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> This is one of the only reasons why I'm not hugely depressed that I seem to be the only person I know my age who hasn't spent the last few years attending or being in weddings. I can't afford to spend more than $100 on a dress, period.

MegSpencer

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @NefariousNewt: It really does.
When it comes to my friends though, they know how I am about weddings. I only had one friend whose feelings were hurt that I wasn't super pumped about being in her wedding.

It's just not my thing. Maybe it has to do with having divorced parents?

BeAgrestic

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bonnilicious: HEH - reminds me of the conversation I had with my grandparents.

"What do you want us to wear?"
"um...clothes?"

I honestly don't give a shit, as long as they're there.

lolly71

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: Beautiful bride! You all look so happy and cute!
The dresses look great...

GreekGirl

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @Pinkosaurus: OMG that is the best! I can just see it - that is great. Summer weddings in Texas are always fun, everyone sweating and squinting into the sun, and then getting way to drunk b/c they are hot and thirsty. Great!!

badmutha

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bananaballs: SO cute! I want to see more pictures!

StupidFace

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Burgundy satin with a sweetheart neckline, puffed sleeves, a v-yoke and a full skirt. I couldn't even make it into a Halloween costume, but I'm sure whoever picked it up at Goodwill is more creative than I.

lolly71

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> Conversation with my one attendant regarding her dress:
MOH - what do you want me to wear?
ME - something comfortable and cute. It's Napa outside in September - 85 in daylight, 50 at dusk, so think comfy.
MOH - what does that mean? I've been a bridesmaid 12 times and i've never heard that before. Knee-length? tea-length? tafetta? silk? strapless? boat-neck? what color?
ME - wow that's a lot of questions, uhm, color? uhm? not white? seriously, i like greens, blues, pinks, oranges, browns, purples and all, but really whatever you feel cutest in. what's tea length?
MOH - you're killing me.

bonnilicious

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I was wrapped in various shades of taffeta throughout 6 of my friends' weddings. Oh, I suffered so.

I think everyone should elope, which is what I would do if I could get married.

BowlingForDollars

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I've told all of my friends/family that my bridesmaid services have been retired. It's an honor and shit, but no. After purple, yellow, and fuchsia dresses (I'm a fair skinned redhead) I am done.

LucyTuzy

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @mocena: i think someone paying for their bridesmaids' dresses is the most polite thing. i ain't gonna pay for a vera wang. i can barely afford groceries.

titania1285

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @AndYourLittleDogToo:

That's exactly what I did. My ladies were such a huge range of sizes & body types, I'm like, this is absurd. I just gave them a color (darkish jewel toned blue, or the closest they could find). They all looked great, and amazingly, all of them re-wore the dresses, because they were just nice dresses., as opposed to bridesmaid dresses.

The worst I had it was being a bridesmaid and having the bride yell at me because my shoes didn't exactly match the color of the dress. Unreal.

KimberleeJ

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @hirotalksalot: It's hazing. I was put through hell, now it's your turn. Now only if we can get a Tori Spelling Lifetime movie out of this thing.

WaltzingMatilda...same McCain, less filling!

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: Your pictures look adorable--so nice and autumnal! And everyone looks comfortable and happy! Because black washes out my MOH, I'm going with navy dresses, and my bridesmaids had 3 choices to choose from--one emailed me last weekend thanking me for picking them, because in another wedding she has to wear a satin column in some God-awful color that makes her feel like a sausage.

bellethellama

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I didn't make my girls do that, I picked three colours and let them do whatever the hell they wanted. They all ended up picking pink in different shades and they looked awesome. They aren't dresses that most of them will wear again, let's be realistic, but at least they fit and were all different. Also, at the end of the day, my saint of a mother paid for their dresses, which I'm sure helped.

mocena

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I told my girls that I had chosen a certain color (a very nice blue) and then let them go crazy and choose any style of dress they wanted. I think they appreciated it.

KitWisdom

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @DorothyZbornak: my sister had to wear an irredescent silk satin (strapless) dress to some wedding a few years ago. i love her, but she must have looked TERRIBLE. we both have pink cheeks, so purple just does not cut it. we look like a bruise.

titania1285

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> My sister was a bridesmaid and had to wear a teal satin and black lace off-the-shoulder full skirted monstrosity. It looked like a disney version of a wild west bordello and everyone smelled by the time pictures were taken because it was so hot and the dresses did not breathe at all. That was my favorite ever.

Pinkosaurus

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I will admit I chose my bridesmaid dresses, gave each girl veto power. I went with a cobalt blue v-neck, which looked great with the different skin and hair colors. Plus it could be later shortened into a cocktail dress. My maid of honour is very modest though, so I gave her the color and she selected her own dress. My goal was happy bridemaids spending as little money as possible.

No one at my wedding was suffering poofy or bright pink.

Leiakat

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> If you have a free bar, I will roll up in there wearing whatever the hell you want. Odds are I'll end up puking all over it so....

pantycrickets

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @bellethellama: Ahh! I hated Victoria's dress too! It was so "Forever 21/Boston Store Junior's section". I thought it looked mega-cheap. I get that Rami's dress wasn't typically teenager, but it was unique. I totes would have worn that dress to prom...

But then again, for my prom, I bought a vintage dress and dressed up like the 1960's 'Enchanted Evening' Barbie ([www.angelicdreamz.com])
But that was also during the period where 2-piece prom dresses with cut-outs were popular...

redrover189

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: Lovely dresses on you all! You made a smashing bride.

I do take umbrage with the "you'll wear it again" idea though. That's what I was told the last time I was a bridesmaid and wore a very beautiful ballgown length strapless Vera. I felt and looked great in it, but unless I'm nominated for an Oscar at some point in my life, I will never ever wear it again.

Your maids, obviously could wear theirs again. That phrase just makes me cringe because it's been used the three times I've been a bridesmaid and it's never been true.

sumac

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> "Amazing. You make someone a bridesmaid, and they shit all over you."

hortense

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: very cute. very, very cute.

titania1285

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> @MsKenney: Ooh! Your dress was beautiful!

TheGintheCity

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I think the bridesmaid's dress thing is (slowly) dying out. Just like it's difficult to find fruitcake in the stores at Christmastime nowadays -- there have just been too many jokes about how awful it is for it to continue unabated.

I think the trend is now to specify a color or family of colors and let the maids/matrons pick their own styles. Likewise, I hear more about groomsmen just being to asked to wear a suit in a certain color - usually navy or charcoal.

KLondike5

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]> I'll have 2 bridesmaids - my daughter and my best friend. They have totally different body types and tastes, so the idea of dressing them the same way would just be cruel. I'm sending BF a few pictures and a swatch from my dress (it's not plain white) and a note saying "general idea, run with it."

lolly71

]]> <![CDATA[Bridesmaids Dresses Will Always Be Bad]]>