NO NO NO. The last I heard of her, she was doing well! This is horrible. I hope things change, I hope so hard that things change, and that I could somehow make a difference to her.
She is an absolute inspiration - she may have no idea the impact that she can have on others just by doing what she has done. She is helping to break the chains that held her. Oh, Nujood, I hope that you find something that helps.
@Faster.Pussycat: yeah... i believe a woman should have a right to choose. if you want to show it off, i'm not going to judge you for it. if you choose to stay covered up to protect your modesty, i respect that. i think the real issue many americans have is when they feel women are forced to dress or act in a certain way.
I am uneasy with the implication that because her story got media attention, she should be getting tons of money. This is the world we have made?
I don't want to belittle her personal turmoil. She has been through some intense shit with more poise as a young child than I would show even now. That said, it was the right thing to do to put the money towards educating her. It kind of sucks that after not helping her in her abusive marriage, her family won't help her see that an education could be the life-changing force she wants.
How sad... she needs therapy and a loving environment, form the sound of things, she's unlikely to receive either. I wonder if she really refuses to go to school or if she's ashamed on some level, now that her story is so public of what she may face (judgement) outside of her home.
With so much criticism about the Gosselin children being exploited by the media and their parents, it's compelling to compare them to Nujood. Both cases seem to be different sides of the same coin.
The only silver lining I can see in Nujood's case is that it has the potential to spur some kind of social awareness or political action. I hope this can lead to something positive for her future.
@Mary McCarthyite: I don't think that Nujood and the Gosselin children are comparable at all. Nujood is the victim of a pedophile and also a legal system and a culture that not only condones but, basically, encourages the abuse of children. This is much larger than the question of media attention. Also, the desired impact of media attention was not just money but increasing awareness and seeking justice -- very, very different from the Gosselins.
@Misiula: Yes: you're right. You said it better than me but I guess what I was going for is that Nujood's case puts the Gosselin's "exploitation" into perspective. It is a more serious issue needing urgent attention.
Can you imagine telling your 8yo daughter, "Sorry, can't help you from your husband beating and raping you. He owns you." Barbarism. Respect for other cultures only goes so far. If you ask me, we -- that is, humanity -- is more "confused" than this little girl. If you'll excuse me, this atheist is going to go say a pray for Nujood and her ilk. Really.
P.S. Contrast this with how we worry that our kids in the US are over sexualized.
jesus. here, eight year old aren't responsible enough to walk themselves down the street to school or mature enough to see anything other than a G-rated movie. i can't imagine the kind of like, before and after her divorce that she has to live through.
I've seen some gorgeous abayas being sold on the interwebs. From futuristic-looking ones perfect as winter wok-dresses to dream-worthy embroidered ones.
I'm glad that women in Yemen are getting more creative with them.
This is what I think of when I read all of these "OMG HEDSKARVZ!!!" stories. Abayas can be really fashionable and cute and colorful, but there is this script in the Western mind that keeps on playing that says "oppressive."
@foodandshoes: I'm all for women choosing to wear abayas or hijabs if they want to. When the government mandates that women wear them (or not, as in France), then it is most definitely oppressive.
@BeckySharper: Those regimes are most often oppressive for so many more reasons other than a piece of cloth. I'm primarily talking about here in the west.
I had a negative, judgy reaction when I was in the mall the other day. I was wearing a headscarf (and by nature of the headscarf+brown skin people make a lot of assumptions) and I saw a woman who was veiled. She kind of smiled at me and I smiled and then was shocked when I saw she had her toddler veiled. I have no problem with an adult, but when a child is in head-to-toe cover, what are we really saying here? So, yes, hijab can be oppressive or it can be an example of personal expression.
@foodandshoes: I remember last year we ran something on all the "hijab style" blogs that have popped up within the past few years, the wide range of styles - and of course, as we know, to discuss abayas in Yemen is in some ways a different discussion from hijabs in Iran, or Saudi Arabia. Or, for that matter, France...I think it's hard to generalize either way.
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I give up.
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head - desk (only much closer)
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She is an absolute inspiration - she may have no idea the impact that she can have on others just by doing what she has done. She is helping to break the chains that held her. Oh, Nujood, I hope that you find something that helps.
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I don't want to belittle her personal turmoil. She has been through some intense shit with more poise as a young child than I would show even now. That said, it was the right thing to do to put the money towards educating her. It kind of sucks that after not helping her in her abusive marriage, her family won't help her see that an education could be the life-changing force she wants.
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The only silver lining I can see in Nujood's case is that it has the potential to spur some kind of social awareness or political action. I hope this can lead to something positive for her future.
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P.S. Contrast this with how we worry that our kids in the US are over sexualized.
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I'm glad that women in Yemen are getting more creative with them.
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I had a negative, judgy reaction when I was in the mall the other day. I was wearing a headscarf (and by nature of the headscarf+brown skin people make a lot of assumptions) and I saw a woman who was veiled. She kind of smiled at me and I smiled and then was shocked when I saw she had her toddler veiled. I have no problem with an adult, but when a child is in head-to-toe cover, what are we really saying here? So, yes, hijab can be oppressive or it can be an example of personal expression.
And, btw, I'm an Episcopalian.
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