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I feel like asking if a man can be a feminist is like asking if a white person can be a civil rights activist or something.
Most of the men I know are feminists whether they realise it or not.
09/18/09
Its kind of buried in the Jez piece, but XY is actively looking for submissions if any would be boy bloggers are interested.
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Also, in terms of equality and self-awareness of bias: how many uses of the word "men" here were understood to refer specifically to straight men, but weren't qualified as such, thereby lumping everyone male into the same broad category?
09/17/09
Obviously, there is much work to be done.
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Duh.
09/17/09
Having said that, my struggles with men and the mechanics of equality tend to be less about equal pay for equal time (and that sort of thing) and more about relationship dynamics. Like, for instance, why am I so often the only person in the relationship willing to work on the relationship? Why am I expected to do all the emotional heavy lifting and adjust to HIS priorities? Why do we always acclimate to his schedule and never to mine? I am thankful that my boyfriends have been pro-equality, but for me, it's such a complicated issue, because the men who identify as feminists are so frequently the ones who refuse to negotiate the nitty gritty of an equitable relationship.
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I try to understand
he said
what will you undertake
she said
will you punish me for history
he said
what will you undertake
she said
"From an Old House in America"
09/17/09
Yes.
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That said, I'm with the OP. If a dude who works against sexist and checks his own privilege wants to call himself a feminist, I am more than happy to welcome him to the club. Fighting sexism is hard, yo, and we need all the help we can get.
09/17/09
To ask all of us, how would we feel if women were the entitled sex?
Part of me says that's wrong somehow. But I know that long after I considered myself a feminist, there were still very sexist aspects to me that I did not know were there until something came along & made me uncomfortable & I was forced to ask myself why it bothered me so much.