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Why Using Alcohol To Lower Sexual Inhibitions Isn't Always A Bad Thing

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Jack_Burton
12/04/08

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Don't overdo it.

A frog doesn't leap from a pan of boiling water, if the heat is turned up gradually.

What happened to the frog?

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Maulleigh
12/03/08

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Since I live in a la-la land of thinking nothing has a hidden agenda, I choose to see the above as innocent. Like, if you order a fosters or Jaegershots on a date, she's going to think you're a frat boy. But if you order a Heineken, she'll think you're refined.

That's my gullible take.
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CollegeBookworm
12/03/08

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I have a weird relationship with this concept. I drink pretty regularly at parties- always with friends, never to blackout, always pretty safely, etc. And every once in a while I bitch to my friends that I'm tired of not having a boy in my life, and that I just want to get drunk and make out with some boy at the next party we go to. Just make out with someone, nothing more.

And I never do. Even when I'm drunk, my inhibitions about that are too high. I'm not sure why.
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barzzini
12/03/08

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Lately i have been drinking more just to ease the stress in my life. The good thing is sex while tipsy is the best kind. Im not crazy about my body so a few drinks helps me forget my inhibitions.
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lunanoire
12/03/08

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I have been allergic to alcohol since 14, so (1) no liquid courage for this shy gal & (2) no liquid excuses. When I tell men this in a dating situation, they usually look disappointed.
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Mkp-hearts-NYC
12/03/08

@lunanoire: Augh. I hate that reaction, but I get it too. I'm allergic too, and realized it almost 2 years ago. It's amazing how many social situations tend to begin with "let's grab a drink"...but fortunately diet coke exists :D
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Meritxell
12/03/08

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Good use of booze to lower sex inhibitions: meet up with guy for drinks after stressful week, laugh all night, drag his drunk ass home and tumble into bed.

Bad use of booze to lower sex inhibitions: get emo over said guy, drown your sorrows, march over to his house and pick a fight for no reason, cry and pass out on couch.

Hoooha!
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labeled
12/03/08

@Meritxell: Can we forget about

the things I said when I was drunk?

I didn't mean to call you that.

I don't remember what you said

or what you threw at me

Please tell me, please tell me why

I'm sleeping with my clothes on...

That song: perfect illustration why I can drink rum, but NOT Bacardi rum.
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hellosunshine
12/03/08

@labeled: @Meritxell: Eesh, been there.
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Tits.McGee
12/03/08

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That Heineken ad, to me, was more about killing first-date jitters than anything else.
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hellosunshine
12/03/08

@Tits.McGee: Off-topic, your avatar is cracking me up, literally LOLing!
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robot ninja spy
12/03/08

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I realized that 200 comments ago I didn't complete my point, which wasn't that the women were divided into Girls Gone Wild vs. Anti Girls Gone Wild camps, to which anyone here would say, "Well, of course, idiot!" But that most people I've encountered IRL are very adamant that the phony Girls Gone Wild version of sexual liberation belongs on the tv and only the tv and advocate more or less traditional values and will insist that underneath it all, you do, too, despite any and all evidence to the contrary.

But like I said, that could be more about where I'm from.
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IngramJocasta
12/03/08

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This is actually what I am writing my master's thesis on!!!! I am proposing the idea that women who engage in greater levels of self-objectification (which includes sexual self-consciousness) are more likely to also engaged in "risky sexual behavior", which includes drinking/taking drugs prior to sexual activities.

I believe that women who experience a lot of anxiety about their sexuality and their physical appearence are often trying to lower those anxieties with alcohol.
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happysquid
12/03/08

@IngramJocasta: that sounds great!
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happysquid
12/03/08

@happysquid: not the objectification, but your thesis.
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gherkinfiend
12/03/08

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Lowering my inhibitions with a few drinks makes me much more likely to have sex with someone...but being drunk makes me so irritating no one wants to sleep with me...
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SisterMaryMartha
12/03/08

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that booze helps women silence that inner voice telling them that having non-committed sex is somehow wrong

What?
Why women?
You assume all women feel this way?
Why not men?
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SarahMC
12/03/08

@SisterMaryMartha: Because there's a sexual double standard that says women who have non-committed sex are sluts whilst men who do it are just normal or studly.
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SisterMaryMartha
12/03/08

@SarahMC: But- do YOU think that way?
do I?
No.
Jessica literally said she believes women have this inner voice. I guess I just don't agree with that.
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SarahMC
12/03/08

@SisterMaryMartha: No, I don't. And I don't think every woman does. Jessica said many women do, which I think is probably true. However, my solution would not be to get drunk on an individual level but to destroy sexual double standards and slut-shaming on a societal level.
Guess it's easier and quicker to get drunk while we're waiting.
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SisterMaryMartha
12/03/08

@SarahMC: oh well there is all that too...yeah, I don't know the sentence just struck me wrong. I guess because it perpetuates the stereotype.
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SarahMC
12/03/08

@SisterMaryMartha: I think it's because Jessica didn't expand on it at all, she just mentioned it and moved on like it's just a natural part of being a girl.
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cubiks rube
12/03/08

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Apparently, Austin is one of the booziest cities in the U.S. and living here, I definitely believe it. After two drinks, though, I just start getting tired so personally, I don't drink much where I would want to use it as a "social lubricant". However, get me a bottle of wine and my SO in my apartment and it's going to be a fun night for all involved!

A side note:I didn't take the Heineken ad to be an invitation to drunken and debauched sex (as fun as that may be) but more tongue-in-cheek observation of the reasons why some people drink
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HereComesMyBaby
12/03/08

@cubiks rube: I swear to God, I drank every day when I was in Austin (when I wasn't in school anyway). Everyone drinks there all day every day! It was really getting out of control.
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hellosunshine
12/03/08

@cubiks rube: One of my guy friends had to move from Austin to Houston specifically for this reason; he was like, when I'm visiting Sixth Street every night of the week for more than a week, it's time to go.
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hellosunshine
12/03/08

@hellodarling!: I'm also applying to grad school at UT, so uh, hope that doesn't affect my schoolwork!
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returnofthemac
12/03/08

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But I guess it depends on personal chemistry.
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BlondeGoddess
12/03/08

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A few drinks do lower my exceptionably high standards, which is good, otherwise I would never have sex.

It's like this Dorothy Parker inspired poem:

I hardly drink cocktails

One or two at the most

Three, I'm under the table,

Four, I'm under the host.

Although the thought: what was I thinking (drinking!) has occurred more than once after one of those escapades.
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BlondeGoddess
12/03/08

@BlondeGoddess: Apparantly, a few drinks (last night) also affect my ability to typ. Exceptionably?
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MizJenkins
12/03/08

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Sorry, but if you need alcohol to have sex isn't there just a bigger problem that you're ignoring? Unless you're schizophrenic those little inner voices (sometimes known colloquially as "instincts") are probably worth listening to.

Also drunk sex makes me hurl.
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