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09/30/09
Its different from every person. I am always horny but after standing in at a gyno clinic and seeing all the STDs live, it made me very very selective. When you kiss someone's lips and you find the one that always tastes perfect, right when they wake up, they always smell divine ...well, that's it for me.
A kiss is worth a thousand dates. You taste it, you smell it.....maybe its due to my unusually powerful sense of smell. Or the fact that I have PCOS so my testosterone levels are higher then they should be...but that is me. Most women like their men to smell like soap. But, if its the right guy...I want smell them. I want to smell their boxers. I well....maybe that's my fetish.
09/30/09
Turn-ons: I like men who look like women. Haha! And I like women who look like men. Androgyny is where it's at for me.
I like nice hands and hips.
Longish hair - any style is fine.
A great laugh/shares my sense of humor.
Likes animals and can admit how cute baby animals are.
Open to new ideas and new experiences.
Able to keep a level head when disagreed with.
Has many platonic friends of multiple genders.
Thoughtful and conscientious of others.
A little shyness.
Able to effectively communicate wants/needs.
Turn-offs: People who use being honest as an excuse to be an asshole.
Smelly, sweaty, unwashedness - specifically, armpit and genitals. If I can smell you through your pants, a little hygiene check is in order.
Machoness.
Competitiveness and jealousy.
Gender-based chivalry.
Axe.
09/29/09
turn-off: Axe
09/29/09
It's because I'm heterosexual and I like the penis and I like when it's my boyfriend's who is awesome in bed.
Case solved and closed, thank you.
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09/29/09
So do they take queer women into account?
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09/29/09
If you can't see how sex with an actual person might be different or more enjoyable than a solo romp with something battery-powered, I'm pretty scared for humanity.
09/30/09
09/29/09
-non-freaky facial hair
-accepting my Rolling Stones obsession
-forearms (i can't explain it but every guy no matter what body type has sexy forearms)
-chest hair (not gross amounts though)
-openmindedness
-observational skills
-rugged, yet still has GREAT hygiene
-personal style (not necessarily stylish or interested, but who will wear something other than a polo or sweats everyday)
-looks good in a suit (even if it only gets worn once a year)
-not a cat person (dogs ftw!)
-someone who isn't afraid to call me out on my shit and doesn't get defensive when I do the same
-Isn't a jackass, but can be johnny knoxville for me when i need him to be
-and lastly someone who will look me in DAMN eyes!
But honestly I'm to the point where I'd take someone who's my height and lacks a current drug problem.
09/29/09
09/29/09
oh, it's so great especially when they have on a long sleeved and they roll the sleeves back to their elbows! Drives me crazy for some reason!
09/30/09
Oh do I love chest hair. LOVE it. So masculine. So sexy. So much to run my fingers though.
09/29/09
09/29/09
I am still waiting for one. Heh. Good thing I'm happy single, eh?
09/29/09
09/29/09
When I'm stressed and preoccupied by shit that has to get done (no matter how trivial that shit may seem), I just can't get in the mood.
So consideration and all that goes with it (cooking, cleaning, offering me a beer), are a big part of foreplay.
Also- sometimes I wish dudes would make out a little longer rather than jumping into the nudity right away. Maybe it's a weird leftover from highschool, but whatev.
09/29/09
09/29/09
And I'd be happy to feed a considerate male like a goose on a foi gras farm.
09/30/09
09/29/09
I assume most people would give me the eyeroll, like its SO obvious.
But really? Why do men have sex?
I have sex because I WANT to. It feels good and makes me feel like I've accomplished something, ha ha.
What's a turn on?
Aggression, dominance, men that are ultra confident, great bodies, amazing teeth, tattoos, motorcycles...ah the list could go on and on.
I really think I'm a gay man trapped inside a woman sometimes...
09/29/09
This man has sex because he enjoy it, because my girlfriend enjoys it, because its a way to express the feelings of closeness to a partner, because its cold out and as atheists neither of us had anything else to do on sunday morning.
What's a turn on
Intelligence, and a sense of humor with the self confidence to show them. Long legs, Assertiveness, self respect, respect for others, glasses, the little bits of peach fuzz body hair that some women have, and so on.
09/30/09
And oddly enough, except for the motorcycles and men part, we have the exact same turn-ons. _
09/29/09
in my defense, i'm in my early 20s
09/29/09
God, I'm so bad about that.
09/30/09
Ah, I was the same way at 21. Now I'm 27. You probably like that because you have your whole life ahead of you and want to experience it! That makes perfect sense.
09/29/09
What we want out of it: Orgasms
Can I have some grant money now?
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09/29/09
I'm pretty sure this is not going to happen. For one, I'm pretty sure most women are not as turned on by powerful late-Romantic/modern orchestral music as I am. Likewise, a lot of the things society dictates as what women find "sexy" in men (tans, six-packs, lots of stereotypical masculinity) I am not all that interested in, to be honest.
09/29/09
I am really turned on by guys playing the cello.
09/29/09
09/29/09
big strong unmanicured hands that don't look like they're afraid to get dirty
varying degrees of facial scruff, depends on what the individual face can carry
accents of almost any type
musicians
witty, quick with the comeback
animal lover
pleasing vocal tone
people who can look me in the eye with a relaxed expression
hair and hairstyle that is touchable and not "done"
"blue-collar" worker
my husband
turnOffs:
mindless subscription to ideology without exploring it deeper, personally
loud big mouths
people whose eyes dart everywhere when they're supposed to be talking to me
hunters
racists/ sexists/ haters of all kinds
small hands
short little fingers
hair and hairstyle that i can't touch because it's too "done"
drunks
suit and tie office men
09/29/09
09/29/09
now, if that "important work voice" has a certain tone that's a sort of easy chocolate sound, i can always focus on what he wears when he's not at work!
09/29/09