It would be one thing if she's just a fool, but she's pretty much being quite cavalier about her conspicuous consumption.

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Mine will have a bouncy castle and a mariachi band.

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Every day I grow a little less comfortable judging people in a way that feels values-oriented when it comes to what are primarily aesthetic choices (the Hummer aside, perhaps). I'm done. Blah.

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I find it a bit ridiculous that people are so offended by how much some people spend on weddings. I might think its a bit silly and if they're going into debt a bit foolish, but they aren't harming anyone. In fact, those big huge weddings pump a lot of money into the economy, particularly into the service and retail sectors. Sure, they could give the money to charity instead, but its not like they're out killing baby seals.

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And having gone through the work of planning a wedding(even a small simple one) I really see the sexism in the "Bridezilla" meme. You have to plan a big, important event which reflects on you as a couple and on both families. Most brides have no event planning experience and no help from the fiancee, and yet they have to manage and negotiate with site people who want to make you book the whole weekend, dressmakers, printers, caterers, florists, all looking out for themselves and their bottom line. Meanwhile, you have to get on people to R.S.V.P. when they want to just play it by ear, parents who want to let their kids run wild, guests who have beef with other guests, parents who want to do things their way, and you have to manage all this. Basically, you have to BE A BITCH to get your wedding. And that's okay. I don't at all regret the things I was assertive about. I do still regret having let people walk all over me about some things because I was afraid of being a bridezilla.

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There are many self-professed classy people out there who really have no idea what classy actually means.

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Actually, I feel "entitled" to have an opinion on any wedding, because I'm human. Jeez!

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People who put things on to the internet are open to people looking at what they have put out there. If you post ANYTHING on the internet there are ways to track you down, no social networking profiles needed. If you have facebook profiles and tag your friends photos, your whole album is now open to not only your private friends, but now every friend of every person you tagged.

One of my good friends writes a column for an online paper about art. You would not believe the cruel things that people write about her and her writing. And if she makes the move to remove hateful comments she is further criticized.

I tell all my friends, there is a seedy underbelly to the internet. If you don't take steps to protect yourself you are vulnerable. But bigger than that, just be proud of whatever you are doing and don't pretend that it is anonymous and no one will know about it. If you post anything who cares what other people think. If you had fun and chose to document it, who cares what other people say?

That woman's wedding was a bit tacky (to me), but you know what? She looked happy, her family and friends looked happy, and you can tell everyone had some fun that day. They are nice photos and she shouldn't care what other people think. Isn't a wedding supposed to be about your own personal meaning, anyway? She had the day of her dreams and who cares if I giggle about it later?

(I do not in anyway think that tagging her photos with malicious comments is okay. I follow the hiking rule, enjoy it and leave no trace.)

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