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I dated a pathological liar my freshman year in college. It really hurt me, so I don't think we should heap scorn on these guys for getting sucked into her world.
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And I swear to god, the next time we went out... I was standing there, mid-date, whilst dude got a lap dance from a tiny Asian girl. They asked me if I'd like a ride to the next bar with them, though, which was polite. I declined.
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a coworker of mine is asian and is honestly creeped out by white guys (and in her retelling, it's almost always white guys) who go out of their way to seek her out at public places because she's asian. she's not an attention-whore at all and usually just hangs with her friends. funnily enough, she is only attracted to asian men.
i heard about a term for white guys who only date/sleep with asian women - rice kings - and told same coworker about it. she found it to be hysterical and spread it among her 'asian mafia' pals. it's hysterical because it's TRUE.
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I lived in Williamsburg and never really noticed this. But I will say that in terms of racial equality/harmony, it doesn't get much better than the Burg.
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I don't find areas that gentrify rapidly and increase segregation, to be on solid standings in regards to race.
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Its wonderful to be the change you want to see in the world but in the case of the "Viet homegirl" even if she said no the guy would probably move on to the next Asian woman willing to fufill his fantasies.
In order for change to be made, all of the white men in the world who believe Asian women are submissive would have to change their mind. If she said no to the unsolicited gifts she wouldn't be changing the status quo.
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Your lady keeps these whiners talking. Not that they are in the right, but... seriously. She knows what they want. It's an unspoken assumption that she allows them to keep going with, and no amount of nice purses will make it so that she didn't know what they were trying to buy from her.
I say no to gifts like that, because I'm not naive nor do I like to take advantage of other people's stupidity. That your friend takes these gifts and plays the wide-eyed "Oh but I don't give them anything in exchange" as if she is oblivious to what they're trying to do or what it says about their perception of her...gah it kind of upsets me.
I don't mean to be unkind. But it's not nice.
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I understand we have to be (semi)accountable for how we are treated as individuals, but the existing power structures in society make it extremely difficult for one to just wake up one day and decide to change stereotypes about a group or change existing structures that reinforce stereotypes. Sure, Rosa Parks stood up for what she believed in but she also had the backing of a heckofalot of very socially powerful black activists and not so socially powerful lay people. Strength in numbers 'won' with regards to the black civil rights movement, but we still ain't where we need to be today due to power structures that are OUT OF OUR CONTROL.
I'm not saying we need to buy into "crap stereotypes" but the act of the Viet homegirl is not buying into them... she's just socially powerless to change the status quo with just the denial of gifts.
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I have no other interest in Asian fetishes or cultures really. If a guy was like me and just didn't really care...just liked some stuff from there or was colorblind about it, that's one thing.
But- preferring the culture and also having some kind of weird fixation on women of that culture, that dehumanizes them, is a double-creepy thing to see.
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He's dating an asian woman, who thinks he might be gay, and explains to him that she's worried he's his "last stop," and that she's been one before.
The theory goes that because women have more "boyish" figures (slender hips, smaller breasts), they're the last ditch attempt of closeted gay men to have a relationship with or be sexually attracted to a woman.
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Thinking with the big head ALWAYS pays off.
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At least "pathological liar con artist" is an alternative to "lotus blossom butterfly" and "ninja kung fu dragon queen".
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So many choices for my future daughter!
/sarcasm to the maximum
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