I've been there. I worked for a company that sent its manufacturing to Mexico. Round after round of layoffs. People being called into the office and coming out crying. Always worrying that you'd be next. The last of us finally got the axe on Christmas Eve. Merry fucking Christmas. Fortunately for me I ended up getting a much better job, but it was horrible to go through. I feel for them and everybody that's out of work. #americandisposables
Poor Ware. My mother is from Ware, and that town has always been struggling. That area of Mass always seems to be on the brink of total eradication, never seeming to keep up with times. They're pulling for a casino in nearby Palmer for jobs. Sad that it's come to that. #americandisposables
@CurtCole: Hell, even pictures of thriving factories remind me of that fact (esp. after I worked on an assembly line one summer in college). Plus, jobs that allow us to take Jeze-breaks are kind of automatically awesome, aren't they?
@CurtCole: Hrm... whilst I understand coming from that viewpoint I believe complaining about your job is your responsibility as a worker. If you don't complain it allows the big-wigs to take advantage. #americandisposables
@hellosunshine: I feel like a while back people were tossing around the idea of some sort of Jezebel employment-networking type deal - where people could share advice/openings/give recommendations. It might be cool to try to start that up again.
Now it would be easier because of our nifty tags! We could do it all under #unemployment
Megan, I am so sorry you appear to have been with the male version of me after I came back to the US. I'm very lucky and glad my girlfriend is still with me, that I'm gainfully employed (in a radically different field, children's psych, which has led to a total change of heart about my ultimate career goals and plans for med school!). This lends support, in an anectdotal way, to Baron-Cohen's autism as "extreme male brain," as I have Asperger's syndrome and am female, I suppose. Er, I suppose it lends support, not I suppose my gender. Actually, no, both of those things.
As someone who's struggled with depression, I can attest to the importance of having a loving and understanding partner. I can also attest that no amount of love and emotional support is going to fix someone who isn't willing to put any effort into being fixed.
Women often misinterpret the signs of depression as anger towards them
No. You can't "misinterpret" anger. The anger might be because of depression, it might be a symptom of depression, but it's still anger. The person who's doing the misinterpreting is the person who doesn't understand their own symptoms and treats their partner like shit instead of figuring out what the hell is wrong. It's not your job to decipher the reason's he's acting like an asshole.
My boyfriend has gone through two unemployment spells and yes, he got withdrawn, grumpy, resistant making a real effort to find something else (cause he might fail), and played video games all the time. I was supportive, sweet, told him how great he was. You know what got him off his ass? Telling him I was not happy, things needed to change and that I was tired of paying all the bills. Yes your partner deserves your help and support even after being laid off, but sometimes they also need a kick in the ass. (Sidenote: he now has TWO jobs).
I'll just quote jezzie rixatrix from a former post - it's brilliant and relates to this very well
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I do NOT understand this double standard - men are superior but easily threatened? Pick a side, stick with it. Either they're macho warrior men who hold the keys to the universe or they're precious egomaniacs who need to be coddled and coerced by women, but you can't have it both ways.
@roodles: And we get saddled with the flipside of that coin. We're irrational and flighty, on the one hand, because of our ladybrains. But at the same time, we're somehow the naggy, responsible killjoys who love things like commitment and balanced checkbooks.
How are we both flighty and responsible fuddyduddies?
i had fun wasting a few years of my life pushing/dragging/carrying my now ex-bf through nursing school, doing everything but attending class and taking tests for him. imagine my joy when i was editing a paper for one of his senior classes and read the sentence "i got through nursing school despite having a girlfriend, a job, and family obligations." yeah.....despite. too bad he doesn't have a girlfriend to find him a job and get him to move out of mom and dad's now.
This isn't 1950, and I never expected my husband to be the breadwinner. Maybe I'm the exception or something, but I always planned to work, I got a professional degree, and I actually expected to earn more than my husband. Well, it took 4 months to get a residence permit that allows me to work, I still don't have a professional licence 3 months after that, and no one wants to hire me, not even for temp or call centre work. I don't understand why my feelings right now would be worse ore more understandable if I had a Y chromosome. These aren't male or female feelings, these are human feelings.
Where's my sex on demand? Why doesn't my husband sit there quietly and wait to be spoken to? How come we share the blame for our marital problems? How come men are entitled to all that just for being unemployed, but I'm not?
I know it was only one tiny part of the article but I am so sick of every fucking advice column telling women to have sex with their boyfriends/husbands.
As if I need to be told? I love sex. Hell, I want it more than my guy does. These columns always go on and on about how "men need sex" as if women are robots with no hormones and no "needs".
Just once I would like to see an article that acknowledges that women are sexual and that guys aren't always in the mood.
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I'm very glad you got to fall up though. #americandisposables
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#groupthink
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Now it would be easier because of our nifty tags! We could do it all under #unemployment
#groupthink
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No. You can't "misinterpret" anger. The anger might be because of depression, it might be a symptom of depression, but it's still anger. The person who's doing the misinterpreting is the person who doesn't understand their own symptoms and treats their partner like shit instead of figuring out what the hell is wrong. It's not your job to decipher the reason's he's acting like an asshole.
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07/13/09
I do NOT understand this double standard - men are superior but easily threatened? Pick a side, stick with it. Either they're macho warrior men who hold the keys to the universe or they're precious egomaniacs who need to be coddled and coerced by women, but you can't have it both ways.
And I co-sign...
07/23/09
How are we both flighty and responsible fuddyduddies?
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07/23/09
Where's my sex on demand? Why doesn't my husband sit there quietly and wait to be spoken to? How come we share the blame for our marital problems? How come men are entitled to all that just for being unemployed, but I'm not?
07/23/09
As if I need to be told? I love sex. Hell, I want it more than my guy does. These columns always go on and on about how "men need sex" as if women are robots with no hormones and no "needs".
Just once I would like to see an article that acknowledges that women are sexual and that guys aren't always in the mood.
07/23/09