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Tue Dec 1
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I find it odd that based on a broken back window, this whole scenario of an abusive Elin Woods has been created in the public mind. People at my job are talking about her like she clearly must be a batterer, which is really unfair. It's not as if the cops rang the doorbell and found Tiger with facial wounds. He had just been dragged unconscious from a crashed car. Why are people so eager to heap blame on his wife?
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Then I remembered it's also a shitty person. :-/
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Someone needs to 'Shop this onto an ad stat.
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"Who is that awful blond woman? Why are they talking in veiled metaphors? I'm switching to QVC."
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On the flipside, domestic violence in which the woman is the aggressor is a real thing, too. And, in fact, the same societal values that make it "easier" to discuss male violence against women, make it relatively "difficult" to talk about female aggressors. (Hence the awkwardness above.)
Patriarchy. It's not just bad for women.
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Maybe I'm off track, but that's what I thought PS was trying to say. But I don't agree that privacy is inherently misogynistic, just that we shouldn't allow abusers to pull their victims in to a web of secrecy and shame.
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Anyway, in the abstract, I don't like privacy because I find that it constructs a curtain around individuals that isn't usually helpful. Privacy usually implies secrecy or shame, and, to take your abortion example, I don't think that abortions ought to be secret or shameful, and I think so long as they remain within some kind of "private" sphere they will remain so.
So the problem I have with privacy generally is that it casts certain behaviors out of the realm of discussion, and I do find it inherently misogynistic because what has traditionally been defined as the private sphere - i.e. choices about reproduction and interpersonal relationships - has kept certain phenomena (abuse, etc) out of the light, and more importantly, somewhat outside of critique.
This gets into a lot of more complicated issues about the degree to which feminism can or should depend on individualism and whatnot but maybe I'll stop here for the moment since I seem to have freaked everyone out.
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As for the domestic violence issue, well, here's the thing. People shouldn't be violent to anyone, full stop. But I do get tired hearing about "double standards." Domestic violence against women often isn't taken very seriously either - witness the general "I'm sure Chris Brown didn't mean it, let's not rush to judgment" reaction from peer celebrities. I can't remember what the View people said about that incident - I hate the View - but why is there always this handwringing about how "violence against men" isn't, in particular, taken seriously?
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I think there needs to be more public discourse about "Wow, doesn't it suck that after all these millions of years, this is still how so many of us choose to respond to our anger and frustration? Why is this still acceptable? Why is it so hard for us to break these patterns? What is it in our culture that allows this behavior to be, if publicly demonized, still somewhat latently acceptable?"
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It is also in our nature to shit on the front lawn and run around naked, and I think that those two acts elicit more universal derision than domestic violence, which is sadly seen as commonplace. I find that more than a little fucked-up.
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once some have rationalized that women can hit men after discovering infidelities (or that violence against men by women is less important an issue), then some will rationalize that men are to hit women if a woman hits her man first (the CB defense people seem to have taken) and well, u've got a whole mess.
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Khalid Sheik Mohammed (aka Ron Jeremy's doppelganger) will be convicted, terrorists are not going to bomb the courts, secretive information that would effect our troops will not be publicized, and everyone needs to shut the fuck up.
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the fact is, though, that people are more easily scared of people that happen to look different than us (imo, any way) and other people like to take advantage of that to stir the pot.
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