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Internet Spawns Pro-Cheating Movement! Or Not.
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05/09/09
Don't worry, I'm probably just an evolutionary mistake.
And PS: I absolutely agree with some other posters: If you are against marriage for whatever reason, just don't get married.
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Although I will say to those in an open relationship where everything is on the table, I have no problems with you. You don't want to be monogamous, you shouldn't have to be and you should have your choice. I should have mine to not be with someone who won't give me what I want...a monogamous relationship.
05/08/09
Time for a masthead change, anyone?
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This isn't true for open, poly types as much. But for cheaters...usually they take away from their current relationship, time or energy, to spend in the other one.
05/08/09
Shit, people. Just get married and agree to be non-monogamous. It's simple. Then you can "cheat" without being an asshole.
05/08/09
AGREE THAT YOU WILL BE SNEAKY WHEN YOU DO IT.
A marriage is just an agreement between a couple. The terms can be whatever you like...
"Honey I like philandering. So I'm going to sneak around and have affairs, and pretend you don't know about it. Is that ok?"
"As long as you don't mind if I bring home my other boyfriend once or twice a month."
05/08/09
I am angered by this.
Again, unsavory.
05/08/09
I've seen a wife cheat, and it was her lack of openness (in terms of sharing and talking about problems etc) in what was once a happy marriage that caused her to seek attention elsewhere. I don't believe she married her husband with a view to being dissatisfied.
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I personally think this ethical rule applies to all "declared" relationships, marriage or not, but especially to marriages since there is a formal promise made there.
And of course, I don't think there is any one definition of "faithfulness" that should apply to everyone as a blanket rule. It's more about betraying the agreed-upon parameters of the relationship.
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Wanting to have your cake & eat it too? Aside from the practical legal/financial benefits of marriage and the fact that many people still consider being married a prerequisite for having children, there's an emotional appeal to the home & hearth/lifemate aspects of marriage. But lifetime sexual fidelity to one person is also unappealing to many people. Cheating is a (selfish) way of having both sexual freedom & the benefits of marriage.
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Be a grown up and either have an open relationship, which works out quite well for some folks, or just don't commit to one person. There, end of problem. Unless you like/get off on the fact that you are cheating someone's trust, then that is just assholery.
05/08/09
They're not talking about infidelity/open relationships, though. They're trying to justify LYING, BREAKING AGREEMENTS, and SNEAKING AROUND.
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"I don't think there is any one definition of "faithfulness" that should apply to everyone as a blanket rule. It's more about betraying the agreed-upon parameters of the relationship."
It's the lying and betrayal that's the problem.
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