Seeing as how we're in the middle of one of those dark times for political discourse-- an off week for the Daily Show and the Colbert Report-- I was doing as I often do and perusing the archives on those shows for some old favorites. Anyone else want to share favorite bits? We can go to #thedailyshow so as not to clog up the groupthink page.
@Dodgergirl: This is one i was thinking about earlier, because of certain baseball tragedies going on in my life at the moment... from the 2004 DNC, Rob Corddry.
I know this is old news by now and an old article to revisit at that, but I was busy this weekend and now I finally get to play.
Just wanted to update these comments by letting anyone that stumbles across this in the future know that Betsy McCaughey got fired because of this appearance, so, y'know, happy ending
My last word on the subject (for today) cuz my brain seriously hurts:
I hope you all take this opportunity to
1)communicate both verbally and in writing to your loved ones what you would like done medically if you cannot speak for yourself (advance directives not just for old people - think Terry Schiavo)
2) appoint a health care proxy who knows and respects your wishes. This can be any adult except a healthcare provider providing your care. HCPs are legally binding in every state. Otherwise you risk having your next of kin making the decisions. Google '>your state, health care proxy form'. most states have the fill in forms on line - print'em sign'em and give 'em to your health care proxy and your health care provider. (make sure you comply with state laws regarding notarizing and all that crap).
also google 'five wishes' document - it's a good starting point to discuss and think about these issues.
Healthcare cost: $1 trillion. DOD annual budget: $5 trillion ($1 trillion spend so far on Iraq). What would we be prouder of? Insuring the uninsured? Or killing hundreds of thousands of people for no reason? It's a tough call.
The language in the section you refer to is very unclear, in that it simply mentions measuring adherence to plans. However, the way that I took that to be does not mean that patients have to adhere to their plans, but that doctors are measured by how they adhere to the plans set out by their patients. This is an important point, as hospitals have been known to (frequently) disregard patients' wishes, either because the patient's wishes contradict the religious leaning of a hospital, the doctor's personal desires or other family members, whose wishes may be at odds with those of the patient (as expressed prior to being non-communicative).
The idea that the elderly (and everyone) should have end-of-life counseling seems to me a win-win situation: for the patient, who is able to make decisions based on rational thinking outside a moment of crisis, and for the hospital, which in times of crises may end up erring on the side of life support, which once instituted may be difficult for a family to turn off (either emotionally or legally).
@StanleyMinotaur: Something that really stuck out to me about that woman's arguments was that she thought it was bad that the family's wishes could be overrode (overrided?) by a living will. That's the WHOLE DAMN POINT, lady! Family members may want to do everything they can to keep a loved one alive, in opposition to that loved one's living will. This law would stop that from happening, which is a GOOD thing.
I hate that we have to give these people the time of day. As has been said before, if one group says 2+2 is 4 and one group says 2+2 is 6, the correct answer is not FIVE.
Here's the thing... I was actually interested in her point, if she could have been together enough to make it. I would like to know more about doctors having incentives to encourage patients to not only make end-of-life plans, but to adhere to them. It does concern me that a doctor may have an incentive to encourage grandma to stick to her original plan if she wants to change her mind at the last minute... So can we discuss that factor? Free of gesticulation and lace camis and all that?
@BeckyIva: The provision didn't give them *any* incentives to encourage grandma to adhere to an end-of-life plan.
Instead, it only provided doctors with reimbursement should any of their Medicare pateints *want* to discuss end-of-life issues. Otherwise, if grandma tried to ask questions about it, she'd most likely be cut off by her physician, who needs to keep a regular appointment to 7 minutes long if he or she has any hope of trying to even break even under Medicare's current reimbursement rates.
Also, end-of-life planning does *not* mean encouraging no treatment. It means choosing however you want to be treated at the end of life. Want aggressive intervention, ventilators, resucitation, the works? That's an end-of-life plan. Want no resucitation, no ventilators, hospice instead of hospital, or home care? Also an end-of-life plan.
@BeckyIva: My understanding re:adherence is that the doctors are bound to adhere to what the patient decides, not that the patient can't change their mind.
@xay: and @formergr: Thanks. I understand that an end of life plan can mean aggressive intervention, or not, given your wishes. I think that having end of life plans is a good thing, and I think that a doctor's Medicare "rating" or what-have-you (which determines their compensation) should factor in number of patients who have a plan (thus giving them an incentive to encourage plans). What I'm concerned about, that McCaughey was trying to get to on the elusive page 432, is that a doctor's "rating" would also be impacted by the number of patients who adhere to their initial end of life plans. Meaning they would have an incentive to encourage patients to stick to the plans they made when they were healthy. THAT is what I'm concerned about, and what this woman was trying to get to, but she didn't get her point across. So I will do my own research, I guess.
@BeckyIva: "a doctor's "rating" would also be impacted by the number of patients who adhere to their initial end of life plans"
Actually, I believe it means that the DOCTOR has to adhere to the patient's plan, instead of simply doing whatever he or she feels is best for the patient (or his or her billing). However, the fact that the bill doesn't actually specify whether the patient or doctor is the one who has to do the adhering is vague and should be fixed, tout de suite.
@BeckyIva: a doctor's "rating" would also be impacted by the number of patients who adhere to their initial end of life plans.
Initial end of life plans? No, the plan says nothing about that. The point is to incentivize doctors to abide by their patients' wishes—and there is nothing in the plan either forbidding patients from changing their minds, or rewarding doctors who ignore what the patient wants. If McCaughey studied the plan as closely as she claims she's either deliberately misrepresenting its content, or she's dumb as a post.
@BeckyIva: The only reason a patient would not be able to change her/his mind is if something happens to render them unable to make their own decisions. Alzheimer's, dementia, mental disability, cases in which the decision making already goes to the next of kin, or whoever is set out by the living will of the patient. This is the way things already are, the legislation is simply intended to make it possible for doctors to talk to their Medicare patients about it. For reasons as to why this is difficult under the current system, see formergr's comment.
@BeckyIva: I think that's a good thing considering the plan would be what the person wanted when they were competent. People are allowed to change their plans as long as they have the mental capacity to understand their situation and the consequences of their decision. If a person loses competence then a guardian steps in and they are required to follow the instructions (if any exist) that the person gave while competent, to do otherwise would violate their obligations as guardians. Similarly, doctors are required to follow patient instructions provided they were given competently. Doc Personally my greatest fear is that I lose mental competence and a doctor will not follow my end of life plan to the letter, which is to see that my life ends as soon as possible. It's been my experience that health care providers tend to be overly focussed on existence rather than quality of life, which is great if that's what the patient wants, but terrible if it's not.
@BeckyIva: Xay's above comment is really helpful. Adherence, I believe, means that the doctor must abide by the patient's wishes and is penalized (slightly) if they do not. If a patient changes their mind, the doctor will not be penalized... the doctor is only penalized if they do not follow the expressed wishes of a patient. But yes, the bill is poorly worded and excessively confusing on this point.
@norizzle: Well, I think this is what McCaughey is trying to bring to light... That this is poory worded and needs to be revised. Unfortunately, she's doing it in a really cutesy "I'm just a dumb blonde I'm not good at page numbers" way, which makes it easy to criticize her METHODS without listening to her POINT and then no conversation gets had.
@all: I understand that a living will can be modified as long as one is competent. My fear is that, to use myself as an example, while I am healthy I may say "I never want to be on life support," and then, when I see that the end is nigh, I may turn to my husband and say, "I'm scared, I don't want to do this, whatever it takes don't pull the plug on me," but there may not be time to modify the official plans. And then if the doctor listens to my husband, and not my living will, he will be penalized.
Of course, I understand the inverse of this fear, which is that my wishes will be overridden by a doctor's opinion. I think this should be addressed, but I, personally, do not think that this legislation is the best forum for addressing it.
Also, thanks everyone for your thoughtful and helpful comments.
@BeckyIva: Honestly, I was interested in it too and while she wasn't as together as maybe she could have been, i felt as though jon was interrupting (and what was with the obnoxious humming while she was looking for the page?) and being overall way more of a dick than usual. I am his biggest fan, but he was really seeming more FOXish to me than I've ever seen him be. He didn't really LET her make her point.
@BeckyIva: "My fear is that...when I see that the end is nigh, I may turn to my husband and say, "I'm scared, I don't want to do this, whatever it takes don't pull the plug on me," but there may not be time to modify the official plans."
If you are still able to say something like that, you will still have time to modify your plans. These plans only go into effect after a patient is no longer able to express their own wishes. Although it's best to have a lawyer draw up a living will, if you were stuck in a hospital and dying, you could just have anyone write down what you want and give you the pen to sign it, just like writing your own will. It's not quite as good as a notarized form, but it'll do in a life-ending situation.
@ketamineKitty: He was interrupting her because she was willfully misinterpreting the bill, and speaking as if what she was saying was what was written on the page, which you can see as he reads it is not.
@ketamineKitty: Yeah, Jon was being a dick, b/c clearly the whole predesignated point of the segment was to make her look like an idiot. She certainly did not help her cause by bringing out the big binder, as if to say, "Oh look, it's so big! So many words! Too much!" and then not even have her g*d* page marked. Honestly, it was nice of them to post the whole thing online, although I have not yet watched it.
@queenjulie: I realize that there are ways to protect myself, like making my husband my guardian. My point is that I don't think it is clearly worded in this bill, nor do I think that this bill is the appropriate place to legislate on this issue. And in that regard, the Repubs have a valid critique of the bill, in my view. Clearly, their methods of objection are like, SO inappropriate, and muddy their point, and do them a disservice in the long run. But I think they may actually have a point.
@BeckyIva: Not really, because what you're talking about isn't their point. Their point is to misrepresent the language and purpose of that part of the bill in an attempt to undermine the entirety of the proposed healthcare reform.
I don't think Jon needed to do anything to "make" her look like an idiot. Her position is false, it's willfully ignorant, hyperbolic, and based in no facts whatsoever. If you can't back up an opinion, especially with relevant examples and facts, then it is not a particularly well constructed opinion.
While you seem genuinely concerned about the wording, I don't think she is. Nor do I believe any of the Repub's parroting this stuff have anyone's best interest in mind. There are no death panels (unless you count the fact that insurance companies already decide who will and will not get treatment now), this is not going to effect anyone's ability to make, or change their mind, about end of life decisions. As an example, when my Nana was dying, every single family member ended up signing the DNR at some point during a visit because hospitals are so anal about that, and those were her wishes. There's nothing about this part of the bill that's suggesting that you can't change your mind, or that your doctor should convince you to.
At this point, that should have been the end of it, really. But this woman is clearly trying to misrepresent this, and I frankly find it appalling.
@tiredfairy: Exactly. Having watched the segment it clearly states in the bil (paraphrasing here)l that the quality standards bit comes into play for ensuring the doctor's adhere to end of life planning when it comes to LIFE SUSTAINING directives. The guest was intentionally misinterpreting the passage as it was pretty obvious that the measure was put in to ensure that people who requested life sustaining measures were to receive them and if they didn't it would effect the quality rating (likely subject to the particulars of the situations and regulations/practice directives which flow from the legislaiton)
Also, legislation can only be so precise and is meant to be fairly general. It's the courts who are to interpret specific situations based on the legislative intent and case law.
@ketamineKitty: He let her make her point but clearly demonstrated the failure of said point. The whole bringing out the bill was a shtick and his humming was a way of calling her on it.
I'm confused again. Translation time my American friends. In Can. we have Power of Attorney; this is a person legally appointed to over see your personal/health care in the event you cannot do so for yourself. The POA takes care of finances, living arrangements, medical visits and also makes the decision to "pull the plug" as it were. Along with that is a "living will" which is a legal document outlining the level of care or intervention in the event that death is immiment. One can discuss this with their doctor and/or lawyer. But one can also create a legal document independently. This document along with a POA facilitates end of life care. The laws around the issue change from province to province but the process and valididty is the same. Now my questions are (should anyone be so kind): 1. What procedure exists currently?
2. Why would a medical professional be forced to count and report every end of life/ life sustaining discussion?
3. Why would anyone be penalized for discussing end of life procedures?
4. Are living wills (as I understand them) legal in the States?
5. If you have (an equivalent) a POA should that not take of a doctors liability in the event of death?
6. In legal matters the government should be involved and create laws to protect all parties. So why should this be an issue for anyone that the gov't prescribes the procedure?
We have a similar set-up in the States. My husband and I set up Trusts, Living Will and Advanced Health Care Directive after our first child was born. It was no big deal, cost us about $3k for the lawyer.
It varies by state, but is largely similar to what you describe.
2. Why would a medical professional be forced to count and report every end of life/ life sustaining discussion?
They wouldn't be forced to, but right now doctors are only paid by procedure and visit codes under Medicare and FFS private insurance. So talking to patient isn't reimbursed, and they lose money the longer they spend with each patient.
Under the provision in the bill, doctors *could* get paid for discussing end-of-life planning with their patients if the patients want to, so they would count and report this so they could spend the time with the patient and not lose money.
3. Why would anyone be penalized for discussing end of life procedures?
They don't currently get penalized, they just don't get paid for the time spent.
4. Are living wills (as I understand them) legal in the States?
Yes, thought state laws vary I believe.
5. If you have (an equivalent) a POA should that not take of a doctors liability in the event of death?
It should, but I'm not familiar enough with malpractice law to know how often it doesn't.
6. In legal matters the government should be involved and create laws to protect all parties. So why should this be an issue for anyone that the gov't prescribes the procedure?
They're not even prescribing the procedure, just offering reimbursement for it.
@formergr: 1.Excellent.
2. Ahhh...so a doctor might be encouraged to discuss end of life procedures with the patient because they could paid for it. That is a good thing, I should think.
3.Thanks for the clarification.
4. Sounds logical.
5. Okay.
6. That lady is nuts then.
Thank you for your answers I am now much smarter than I began. All I can say is that the woman's argument is rather moot. This is a postive intiative and will help many people.
@johnrhoward: I think jairip meant obtaining the living will and the process of filling it out not the actual cost. Or at least I hope that is what jairip meant.
@ZemarSea Urchin: Yeah, I think there are forms online and such that allow you to do this for yourself without an attorney. I have no idea how easy it is, nor how "bulletproof" it is from a legal perspective (i.e. is it safer to use an attorney, as it is with more complicated wills, etc), but I don't think it needs to cost $3k.
Can we talk about the black lace attach-to-your-bra instant camisole that she was wearing? Was she going to try to use her feminine wiles on the "cute" Jon Stewart to convince him the government will kill seniors?
Also, The Examiner wrote a good piece on the alleged Page 425 (sound to me like the Magic Bullet of the Health Care Bill) which says the following:
"You will notice that Section 1233 is actually under the larger category of "Miscellaneous Improvements" to Medicare Beneficiaries. There is a simple explanation for this. Section 1233 actually provides more benefits for seniors rather than denying any benefits...In reality, what the section does is expand benefits to include advanced care planning so that if seniors want to see a doctor or nurse to, for example, be consulted on how to make a living will they can do so but are not forced to do so."
It is so painful to watch. As a human being who has to be accountable to my superiors at my job, it drives me batty that there are people who get air time on TV who just say things that are blatantly wrong. If i just said the same wrong thing over and over when people asked me questions, I would surely get fired. How do these people function in society?
"But, he's so cute!" she keeps saying. 2 sentences from an op-ed, and a page from a massive bill (still a WIP) that she GETS WRONG. That's all she's got.
And the classic Repugnican tactic: repeat "they're going to take seniors' benefits!" enough times and no one will bother researching the truth on their own. Whose party dipped into Social Security the most in the last 30 years??? Gimmie a fkn break.
Once again, Jon Stewart has shown that he's the most patient man on the PLANET--especially when dealing with people who obviously can't count higher than three. Did she think that page 432 was going to spontaneously "appear" when she opened the binder?
Argh! These "end of life" debates have me raging! What is everyone afraid of? I just lost my father after a long and debilitating illness and THANK GOD he was counseled by his medical providers when he was alert and well to have a living will and medical directives in place. Thank God for hospice. Thanks to all the medical providers who counseled him and his family on options when hopes for better health faded. I am so grateful we didn't have to put him in intensive care on a ventilator for his last few days.
@OldEnough2BYourMama: I'm sorry for your loss, and I wish more Americans had the courage to acknowledge that someday they will die and take steps to decide how they want it to happen.
I think a big part of the problem here is that American culture is so youth-focused that to prepare consciously for death, and therefore to acknowledge the existence of it, is somehow surrendering, and so many people are so afraid of death that they just stick their fingers in their ears and refuse to think about or talk about it.
I thought one of the main reasons people have religion is so they're assured there's something after this life, and that it's not something to fear. I haven't had to be in a situation of making end-of-life decisions for myself or anyone I love, but I'd like to think that I would be confident in having lead a good life and when it's time to go, I'll go.
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Just wanted to update these comments by letting anyone that stumbles across this in the future know that Betsy McCaughey got fired because of this appearance, so, y'know, happy ending
08/21/09
I hope you all take this opportunity to
1)communicate both verbally and in writing to your loved ones what you would like done medically if you cannot speak for yourself (advance directives not just for old people - think Terry Schiavo)
2) appoint a health care proxy who knows and respects your wishes. This can be any adult except a healthcare provider providing your care. HCPs are legally binding in every state. Otherwise you risk having your next of kin making the decisions. Google '>your state, health care proxy form'. most states have the fill in forms on line - print'em sign'em and give 'em to your health care proxy and your health care provider. (make sure you comply with state laws regarding notarizing and all that crap).
also google 'five wishes' document - it's a good starting point to discuss and think about these issues.
Goddess speed, my sisters.
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The idea that the elderly (and everyone) should have end-of-life counseling seems to me a win-win situation: for the patient, who is able to make decisions based on rational thinking outside a moment of crisis, and for the hospital, which in times of crises may end up erring on the side of life support, which once instituted may be difficult for a family to turn off (either emotionally or legally).
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Instead, it only provided doctors with reimbursement should any of their Medicare pateints *want* to discuss end-of-life issues. Otherwise, if grandma tried to ask questions about it, she'd most likely be cut off by her physician, who needs to keep a regular appointment to 7 minutes long if he or she has any hope of trying to even break even under Medicare's current reimbursement rates.
Also, end-of-life planning does *not* mean encouraging no treatment. It means choosing however you want to be treated at the end of life. Want aggressive intervention, ventilators, resucitation, the works? That's an end-of-life plan. Want no resucitation, no ventilators, hospice instead of hospital, or home care? Also an end-of-life plan.
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Actually, I believe it means that the DOCTOR has to adhere to the patient's plan, instead of simply doing whatever he or she feels is best for the patient (or his or her billing). However, the fact that the bill doesn't actually specify whether the patient or doctor is the one who has to do the adhering is vague and should be fixed, tout de suite.
08/21/09
Initial end of life plans? No, the plan says nothing about that. The point is to incentivize doctors to abide by their patients' wishes—and there is nothing in the plan either forbidding patients from changing their minds, or rewarding doctors who ignore what the patient wants. If McCaughey studied the plan as closely as she claims she's either deliberately misrepresenting its content, or she's dumb as a post.
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@all: I understand that a living will can be modified as long as one is competent. My fear is that, to use myself as an example, while I am healthy I may say "I never want to be on life support," and then, when I see that the end is nigh, I may turn to my husband and say, "I'm scared, I don't want to do this, whatever it takes don't pull the plug on me," but there may not be time to modify the official plans. And then if the doctor listens to my husband, and not my living will, he will be penalized.
Of course, I understand the inverse of this fear, which is that my wishes will be overridden by a doctor's opinion. I think this should be addressed, but I, personally, do not think that this legislation is the best forum for addressing it.
Also, thanks everyone for your thoughtful and helpful comments.
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If you are still able to say something like that, you will still have time to modify your plans. These plans only go into effect after a patient is no longer able to express their own wishes. Although it's best to have a lawyer draw up a living will, if you were stuck in a hospital and dying, you could just have anyone write down what you want and give you the pen to sign it, just like writing your own will. It's not quite as good as a notarized form, but it'll do in a life-ending situation.
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@queenjulie: I realize that there are ways to protect myself, like making my husband my guardian. My point is that I don't think it is clearly worded in this bill, nor do I think that this bill is the appropriate place to legislate on this issue. And in that regard, the Repubs have a valid critique of the bill, in my view. Clearly, their methods of objection are like, SO inappropriate, and muddy their point, and do them a disservice in the long run. But I think they may actually have a point.
08/21/09
I don't think Jon needed to do anything to "make" her look like an idiot. Her position is false, it's willfully ignorant, hyperbolic, and based in no facts whatsoever. If you can't back up an opinion, especially with relevant examples and facts, then it is not a particularly well constructed opinion.
While you seem genuinely concerned about the wording, I don't think she is. Nor do I believe any of the Repub's parroting this stuff have anyone's best interest in mind. There are no death panels (unless you count the fact that insurance companies already decide who will and will not get treatment now), this is not going to effect anyone's ability to make, or change their mind, about end of life decisions. As an example, when my Nana was dying, every single family member ended up signing the DNR at some point during a visit because hospitals are so anal about that, and those were her wishes. There's nothing about this part of the bill that's suggesting that you can't change your mind, or that your doctor should convince you to.
At this point, that should have been the end of it, really. But this woman is clearly trying to misrepresent this, and I frankly find it appalling.
08/22/09
Also, legislation can only be so precise and is meant to be fairly general. It's the courts who are to interpret specific situations based on the legislative intent and case law.
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2. Why would a medical professional be forced to count and report every end of life/ life sustaining discussion?
3. Why would anyone be penalized for discussing end of life procedures?
4. Are living wills (as I understand them) legal in the States?
5. If you have (an equivalent) a POA should that not take of a doctors liability in the event of death?
6. In legal matters the government should be involved and create laws to protect all parties. So why should this be an issue for anyone that the gov't prescribes the procedure?
08/21/09
We have a similar set-up in the States. My husband and I set up Trusts, Living Will and Advanced Health Care Directive after our first child was born. It was no big deal, cost us about $3k for the lawyer.
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It varies by state, but is largely similar to what you describe.
2. Why would a medical professional be forced to count and report every end of life/ life sustaining discussion?
They wouldn't be forced to, but right now doctors are only paid by procedure and visit codes under Medicare and FFS private insurance. So talking to patient isn't reimbursed, and they lose money the longer they spend with each patient.
Under the provision in the bill, doctors *could* get paid for discussing end-of-life planning with their patients if the patients want to, so they would count and report this so they could spend the time with the patient and not lose money.
3. Why would anyone be penalized for discussing end of life procedures?
They don't currently get penalized, they just don't get paid for the time spent.
4. Are living wills (as I understand them) legal in the States?
Yes, thought state laws vary I believe.
5. If you have (an equivalent) a POA should that not take of a doctors liability in the event of death?
It should, but I'm not familiar enough with malpractice law to know how often it doesn't.
6. In legal matters the government should be involved and create laws to protect all parties. So why should this be an issue for anyone that the gov't prescribes the procedure?
They're not even prescribing the procedure, just offering reimbursement for it.
08/21/09
The first part of this statement and the last part of this statement contradict each other.
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2. Ahhh...so a doctor might be encouraged to discuss end of life procedures with the patient because they could paid for it. That is a good thing, I should think.
3.Thanks for the clarification.
4. Sounds logical.
5. Okay.
6. That lady is nuts then.
Thank you for your answers I am now much smarter than I began. All I can say is that the woman's argument is rather moot. This is a postive intiative and will help many people.
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Also, The Examiner wrote a good piece on the alleged Page 425 (sound to me like the Magic Bullet of the Health Care Bill) which says the following:
"You will notice that Section 1233 is actually under the larger category of "Miscellaneous Improvements" to Medicare Beneficiaries. There is a simple explanation for this. Section 1233 actually provides more benefits for seniors rather than denying any benefits...In reality, what the section does is expand benefits to include advanced care planning so that if seniors want to see a doctor or nurse to, for example, be consulted on how to make a living will they can do so but are not forced to do so."
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And the classic Repugnican tactic: repeat "they're going to take seniors' benefits!" enough times and no one will bother researching the truth on their own. Whose party dipped into Social Security the most in the last 30 years??? Gimmie a fkn break.
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I think a big part of the problem here is that American culture is so youth-focused that to prepare consciously for death, and therefore to acknowledge the existence of it, is somehow surrendering, and so many people are so afraid of death that they just stick their fingers in their ears and refuse to think about or talk about it.
I thought one of the main reasons people have religion is so they're assured there's something after this life, and that it's not something to fear. I haven't had to be in a situation of making end-of-life decisions for myself or anyone I love, but I'd like to think that I would be confident in having lead a good life and when it's time to go, I'll go.