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08/05/09
The older generation seem to be of the sentiment that divorce has become so common nowadays, because we don't really try at it and give up too easily. I keep questioning my relationship and wondering if a woman would really have put up with all of this and seen it through to the end.
I'm beginning to realize that perhaps divorce is common because it is so necessary. I can't imagine that divorce could feel so much worse than being in a marriage that is on the constant verge of divorce.
I love my husband but he is leading me on a path to destruction - and he's going, with or without me.
08/05/09
I can say this - if you do divorce, you will miss him. It will be strange not having him around. But eventually you will adapt, and it will soon start to seem like it was another life altogether.
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08/04/09
About the topic. Getting a divorce actually improved my health, primarily because I quit abusing drugs and alcohol as coping mechanisms. The only time we got along was when we were both smashed and high, and so I was drinking until I passed out almost every night of the week. That is not good for one's health.
The other thing was that, while the actual divorce was a lot of stress, it was nothing compared to the stress I felt as a regular part of my day to day life. Leaving him meant feeling like I could truly relax for the first time in years.
I'm healthier now than I've ever been, and I know it would not have been possible had I stayed married.
08/04/09
So, I'm selling my house, moving away, and am off to Buenos Aires in the spring to learn how to do the tango. Life is about enjoyment, and I realized sooner rather than later that I backed the wrong pony when I married this dude.
I can't imagine how this new sense of freedom and hope for my own future isn't preferable to staying in a sham of a marriage with a man who was trying to pull me down with him. But then again, I don't know what he'd have to say about this. I suspect that, for him, divorce will be a negative.
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And remember that statistics are only just that: statistics. Figure shit out for yourself.
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Masturbate. Eat pizza. Drink wine. Watch funny movies. Repeat.
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Hey, I've survived TWO divorces. I'm scarred, but still standing.