hear hear, i cringe at the cool moms who try to be friends with their daugthers and let them do anything. When you're older yes but especially during your teen years you need someone that listens to you/is there for you but is also able to put you in line.

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If my mother EVER said that she loved her spouse more than me, it would have really hurt me. We never had much but she always put us first, and you know what, she did it without bitching. She made the choice to have us and she loved us unconditionally. She thinks she made mistakes but she made me the strong woman that I am.

Having said that, I am not sure that I am capable of the sacrifices my mother made. Which is why I will probably never have kids. It's one thing to give your kid junk food or be late to pick them up from school, lose your temper, etc. But going ON AND ON about loving your spouse more and being more or less indifferent to your kids just seems....awful. Or, maybe I'm missing something completely.

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I really hate when "refreshingly honest" is just code for "really, I'm kind of an asshole." I didn't come away with a new perspective on what it means to be a "good" mother anymore than I would've if she would've wrote an essay about how she liked one kid more than the other, or how she thinks one of her kids is kind of funny looking.

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