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12/15/09
I mean, when Dexter had HIS car accident, there wasn't NEARLY all this drama, and that was on Showtime!!
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Same old story. Management wins. Every time.
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It's no one's job to hand you a "knight in shining armor" (news flash - they don't exist) and it's certainly not up to the parents of your "knight" to give you money if he passes away.
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You marry a person and you marry into that family. There is nothing that says his/her family owes you anything. Even if she had been his wife, his parents in no way owe her a dime.She should have been beneficiary on his life insurance policy for situations like this. And if they had divorced, should his parents give her money? No. That's between her and her husband.
I'm really sorry she lost someone she loved in such a tragic way. However, marrying a person or being engaged to someone in no way makes that person's parents resposible for her financial well-being.
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@all - Oops. My mistake!
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yes, I'm horrible.
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It'd be slyly, brutally awesome, I swear.
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No, I believe this is called being a "mistress." See Madame de Pompadour for reference. Girl did the exact same thing for the King of France.
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Marriage is an important part of getting ahead. It lets people know you're not a homo. A married guy seems more stable. People see the ring, they think, "At least somebody can stand the son of a bitch." Ladies see the ring, they know immediately that you must have some cash, and your cock must work.
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I really cannot get past that excerpt. I understand that in the arena of public opinion, Elin has been painted as the elegant, delicate Grace Kelly-type, while Rachel is the over-processed, trashy Playboy-sort, but still. Why must (almost) every article I read about her, take swipes at her physical appearance?
Her photos have been splashed across news outlets the world over and at this point, my grandparent probably know what she looks like, so why take the extra print space to slap her across the face for being "surgically-enhanced" and "no runway model"? It just seems like such a nasty way of insinuating that she is trashy without having to say so directly, and it leaves a foul taste in my mouth.
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It's really just an attempt to belittle and take down a woman, who in our society is valued for her looks.
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I don't know that I'd choose to spend so much time focusing on her looks if I were writing the articles, though.
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I agree it's shady business, but the tut-tutting from people in the tabloid industry who need these stories to thrive is dishonest at best.
Society sets up a system in which women can succeed by selling other women or sex, then blame them when they succeed for perpetuating the system. It's a double win for the patriarchy.
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And not in a good way.
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You know, I can see totally changing the way you look after experiencing something like that. It just puts you farther away from it.
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not only do i feel connected to this girl, i was this girl. i see her as the person i used to be. a strong female on the ice, surrounded by boys but holding my own.
from the ages of 6 to 15 i played boys ice hockey. i was the only girl in the locker room, but i dressed with the boys until around high school. the years i was in the locker room i felt connected to the team. i was in on the jokes, i felt like one of them. However things became much more complicated when i was confined to a separate locker room (and if one was not available, the womens bathroom-- yes that is true.) I wasn't part of the team anymore. I was the girl who was just along for the ride.
You must understand how frustrating that is. Though i knew my teammates would have my back. a lot of the time, fending for myself was the only option. I was called a bitch, slut, cunt, anything you can think of.. that's what i was to the other team. I would get hit from behind, jabbed in the side. After awhile the only option is to fight back.
I punched many a boy in the face.. THE FACE. i even broke a stick over another ones stomach. and no matter how awful that sounds to the average person, it was the most exhilarating, liberating experience i've ever had.
Women are socialized to be subservient and docile in the presence of men. but when i was on the ice, i was acting in the exact opposite way.
i am SO sorry this is so long. i've been waiting for a post like this to share my views with all of you. I am a feminist above all, and ice hockey gave me the confidence to be a strong minded female, and for that i will forever be grateful.
(there is so much more, i could really write a novel.. but i will spare the details. sorry for the sappiness!)
12/08/09
NO. Guns are bad, regardless of who is holding them.
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There are many other purposes for alcohol.
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What that projectile does is determined by the person who initiated the movement of the trigger.
There are many purposes for a gun as well. However like with most things, people disagree on the value of those uses, and when it's convenient for them, people sometimes ignore some uses altogether.
12/08/09
Really, please tell me of these other purposes.
.... I should probably point out that I'm up to my neck in a paper on the impact of the global arms trade on child soldiers. So I may not be as receptive to other perspectives as I ought to be at the moment.
12/08/09
Food Hunting and recreational shooting are the primary legitimate uses that people frequently like to ignore.
Also, isn't the global arms trade mostly SKS's, ak variants/clones, FN FAL's, CTME, various bolt actions, browning hi-powers, various soviet and Chinese surplus, and god knows how many American service rifles we pumped into various coups and proxy wars?
12/09/09
The US is the biggest manufacturer and exporter of weaponry. Hands down. The pervasive gun culture we have in this country is exported worldwide, manifesting itself in the most horrific human rights abuses possible.
Hundreds of thousands of children have been abducted from their homes in Uganda, Mozambique, Sudan, Sierra Leone, Burma, and countless other places. In many cases, the deciding factor as to whether these children would be forcibly consripted into an armed group was whether they were big enough to pull the trigger on an AK and carry it.
The proliferation of small arms makes conflicts last longer and makes them more fatal. When the weaponry runs out, wars tend to stop.
If you think this is an acceptable price to pay so you can have a pretty gun hanging from your ceiling, or so you can shoot at targets for fun, then there's nothing I'm going to say that can convince you.
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Additionally, the massive Soviet manufacture of AKs was largely due to Cold War arms stockpiling, for which the US is at least partly responsible.
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It seems blind to ignore that the wielder bears the ultimate responsibility for how an object is used.
Look these atrocities are just going to happen regardless of whether guns exist. If it isn't guns it's going to be crossbows. Not crossbows? Then blowpipes and poison darts. Eventually, violence will regress to fists and feet and people will still kill each other.
On a side note, I grew up close to a natural Orchard. My big sister and I got attacked by a big alligator that got through the fencing and into the house grounds, if dad wasn't around with the shotgun I don't think things would have turned out very well.
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I'm also well aware of where most if not all of the AK-series weapons are from.
If you have the time, I'm quite curious to see stats or a breakdown of the firearms used in these conflicts.
Also for the record, I've had a long standing belief that the United States shouldn't be pouring weapons into unstable regions as a form military aide.
The guns we have given Mexico for the "war on drugs" are already biting us and them in the ass.
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A majority of my arms research came from Small Arms Survey, [www.smallarmssurvey.org] , which is what Human Rights Watch cites when it comes to weaponry. There's a ton of information on that site, including individual country surveys.
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Some atrocities are going to happen no matter what, but most eight year olds are physically incapable of killing someone with their bare hands, or even with a stick or a knife or a crossbow. They just aren't strong enough. Give the kid a gun, and he's just as deadly as any other person. Yes, some people are going to kill each other regardless. I just have a problem with it being so easy for children to do so.
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That being said, the culture in hockey even if it's a no-check league is to be more physical, if only because it's the nature of the game. Unlike soccer, you have protective gear (so hits and shoves don't really hurt), and are taught to use your body as much as you can (legally).
Because there is a lot of blocking, pushing (like when you are defending the net), lifting of sticks, etc, it can be easy sometimes to get riled up, especially if a team is particularly chippy. Even though it's not allowed, I've been antagonized to the point where I snap and retaliate. The worst I've done is take a swing (only once ever), and a couple of other times I've shoved, or even pulled someone down with me after they (illegally) hit or tripped me.
So what she's doing is a natural reaction, though the ref should have stepped in waaay before it got to that point.
12/08/09
that said, it's commendable that she held her own. in a contact sport like hockey, especially with male counterparts, she's gotta be able to hold her own.
12/08/09
I've had refs admonish me for cursing under my breath during a game because it's "not ladylike" (I am 30 years old, btw).
Oooh, made my blood boil-- penalize me for cursing because it's against the rules, if you want, but do NOT tell me what is and isn't ladylike. It's sexist, and none of your damn business to begin with.