<![CDATA[Jezebel: speaking out]]> http://tags.gawker.com/assets/base/img/thumbs140x140/jezebel.com.png <![CDATA[Jezebel: speaking out]]> http://jezebel.com/tag/speakingout http://jezebel.com/tag/speakingout <![CDATA[Angelina Jolie Pleads For International Intervention in Darfur]]> Today, Angelina Jolie writes for Time, "Friday is a defining moment in the history of justice." Why? Because the U.N. Security Council is getting the (obvious) results of the International Criminal Court investigation into Sudanese President Omar al Bashir.

She writes:

The evidence the prosecutor has presented is clear and compelling. Millions of people have been displaced; hundreds of thousands have been killed and, at the center of it all stands Sudanese President Omar al Bashir who has been indicted on seven counts of war crimes and five counts of crimes against humanity.

One of those crimes, in fact, is the use of rape as a weapon of genocide, which is the laws first use.

Jolie also talks about what continues to happen at the world's attention ebbs and flows from Darfur.

More than 250,000 people from Darfur have lived destitute lives in refugee camps in Chad for six years now. Camps with more than two million internally displaced persons inside Darfur are even worse. Thirty percent of those displaced are school-age children. Girls leaving the camps are raped; boys leaving the camps are killed.

The problem, of course, is that we haven't seen fit to do terribly much about it.

The U.N. Security Council, Jolie says, can choose to intervene after the prosecutor's presentation, or it can sit idly by and allow Bashir to continue killing his own people and thumbing his nose at the international community.

According to the UN Charter, the Security Council exists "to promote the establishment and maintenance of international peace and security." If the results of the Darfur investigation which they ordered don't merit their active engagement, what does?

Today the Security Council member states will be faced with a simple decision - to embrace impunity or to end it.

As they are considering Bashir's fate they are also considering their own.

They are also considering the future of all the residents of Darfur, who Bashir continues to attempt to exterminate.

The Case Against Omar Al Bashir [Time]

Earlier: Darfur: When Assault Becomes A Case For Genocide

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<![CDATA[Miss California Official Goes After Intolerance By Name]]> Miss California USA co-directors Keith Lewis and Shanna Moakler spoke to the press less than an hour ago regarding Carrie Prejean's contract with the organzation and how she was seduced into violating it by NOM.

Lewis ranted about NOM President Maggie Gallagher's use of Prejean in an advertisement that probably violated Prejean's contract with the organization and her use of a woman who was unprepared for the firestorm that would result from her collaboration with NOM — and then he called out Gallagher's use of Prejean's image (and copyrighted footage from Miss California USA and Miss USA) to raise money for an organization that spends 42 percent of its budget paying Gallagher's salary. The whole thing was sort of awesome, but the best bit is above left.

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<![CDATA[Tim Gunn Calls California's Prop 8 "Abhorrent"]]> As many of you know, Californians will go to the polls on November 4th not just to vote for elected officials — they will also be deciding the fate of same sex marriage in the state. If Proposition 8 passes — some polls say it well could — same sex marriages will be made illegal. Tim Gunn, who knows all (except the exact web address for No On Prop 8), thinks it's abhorrent that some people would like to take rights away from others. So do I and, for the record, I would totally gay marry Tim Gunn. Clip above.

No On 8 Lead Is Eroding In Polls [LA Times]

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<![CDATA[Violence Against Teen Girls: It Happened To You, It's Happening To Them]]> On Friday, we posted a quick item about abusive teenage boyfriends and ways they sabotage their girlfriends' birth control in order to get them pregnant. We had no idea this issue was so close to our readers. We want to mention the story about teens dating safely on CBS News today, but we can't even start without acknowledging those who shared their horror stories. Commenter Skinny Bone Jones wrote:

So, in the 10th grade, when my boyfriend punched me in the face standing next to my locker during the end of lunch for breaking up with him and refusing to listen to why I should get back together with him, not one student (and there were plenty around, believe you me) jumped in, or offered to help, even after I was alone. Magically, there were no teachers around. This is at a "high-end" public HS in a suburban town in the Bay Area. Stunned, I got on a bus and went home.
My mother told me, years later, that yes, she noticed the little cut-out article from a teen magazine screaming "10 Signs You Might Be In An Abusive Relationship!" taped onto the mirror in my bedroom. And yes, she also had more than an inkling of why I was crying myself to sleep every night. But! Some lessons, she sighed, I needed to learn all by myself. (Yes; she's still a cunt. Sad, sad, sad.)

I was pregnant by the end of the 11th grade, yo.

Mock the cycle of violence all you want, but to a 15-year-old girl who's simultaneously in the throes of her father's sentencing for being a pedophile and comforting her mom on the side of the freeway instead of the other way around, I suppose I was just holding onto my "first love" because there was nothing else to hold onto, actually.

After that, I surgically isolated myself from all of my friends, but stayed active in extra-curricular activities and college prep classes and continued working 20 hrs. per week; I'm really fucking lucky that I was a total goody-two-shoes and didn't fall into drugs or alcohol, that my nasty little addiction was comprised of things like medals, solos, straight As and certificates.

Anyway, if just one adult - maybe even an older kid - had pulled me aside, looked me in the eye and said, "Real love doesn't make you feel like this, it doesn't do this to you," it would have made a difference.

She was not the only one. Many other commenters chimed in.

Persephone:
I had an abusive boyfriend in high school who pulled this exact shit. Basically, getting you pregnant is a way to keep you under control and dependent on them for the rest of your life. He raped me and held me hostage so I couldn't go to the cops, and, after a few days, let me call my mom. She told me not to bother coming home since I had "run away" and he held me while I cried, saying he would be all the family I would ever need.
SarahHeartburn:
Watch out for guys who give you sob stories about how many abortions they've had to "live through" or some such shit. It just doesn't happen by accident that often. Serial impregnators exist.
Cheri:
I went through this in the 11th and 12th grade. With my mom going through a nasty divorce my much older than me boyfriend manipulated my vulnerable mind in the worst way. I was also held hostage in his house, subjected to many a slap down and was knocked up twice before I graduated high school. Finally I found the strength in me to break free of the abuse. It took a few visits from my precinct but he finally left me alone.
AtatvistiCat:
I went through this in the 11th and 12th grade. With my mom going through a nasty divorce my much older than me boyfriend manipulated my vulnerable mind in the worst way. I was also held hostage in his house, subjected to many a slap down and was knocked up twice before I graduated high school. Finally I found the strength in me to break free of the abuse. It took a few visits from my precinct but he finally left me alone.
Broad:
when I told my mother that my controlling, emotionally abusive boyfriend raped me, her exact comment was, "Well, you HAVE had sex with him ..."
Collegecallgirl:
When I was 17, I was dating a much older man who basically oozed evil out his pores. Aside from raping me and knocking me unconscious during sex, he once confessed to me that he pressured me to have sex without a condum in hopes that I would get pregnant and be unable to leave him. Didn't work!
Back to today's CBS News article: It basically states that having a circle of friends and dating in groups leads to support and guidance. Teens are more likely to report (and one assumes, suffer) abuse when they are isolated from their circle of friends (boys and girls). Unfortunately, it's a small study, of 20 teenage girls from two Massachusetts high schools. So do you truly think that girls with tightly knit social groups are better off? And what do we do about the girls who are not in groups, due to shyness or some other condition? How do we keep the "outsiders" safe?

Friends May Help Teens Date Safely [CBS News]
Ealier: Kids Today

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