I once punched my ex boyfriend smack in the middle of the face while asleep, as he tried to snuggle. The cause of that was a dream I was having, about him burning me with live power lines. He found it very funny in the morning.
It is a miracle I haven't kicked the boyfriend yet(we don't live together, though). When I was small and my brother and I had to share a bed on family vacation, I literally kicked him in the face. We were lying the same way, so my parents were really unsure how it happened. I flail and kick, and steal the blankets. I also have conversations in my sleep.
The only sleep disorder I have been diagnosed with over the years is insomnia, though.
Also, I wish I could EVER sleep like the couple pictured in the image above. Look how sweet and cuddly and airy-yet-warm and perfectly meshed they are. It looks so restful and comforting.
Whenever I try to snuggle up to someone like that, there is snoring, drooling, overheating, sweating, flailing, and blanket-stealing involved. NO ONE actually sleeps like that. NO ONE.
@tscheese: Yeah, even if it starts out all sweet and cosy, it ends 10 minutes later with numbness and screams of "Get off my arm!! You're crushing my arm!!"
that's what i thought too, and how horrible this really might be for the couple in the article. suppose they've been cuddelbugs for the last 40 years or so and now all of a sudden they can't sleep together anymore? can't they medicate the man somehow? of course i didn't read the actual article...
my partner and i are cuddlebugs in bed and i can't really sleep if he's not in bed with me... i keep waking up. he's the same way.
@tscheese: My husband and I come close. I have to be touching at least some part of his body and he can no longer get to sleep without his hand clutching my hair. Granted, we don't wake up cuddling, but we go to sleep cuddling then shift in the night.
Ahhhhhh, I was diagnosed with that in high school. Except no violence for me, but I'd wander around at sleepovers waking people's parents up and telling them Buddha was coming or dumping out the contents of cereal boxes. I was a popular kid to have over. Luckily, it only lasted about a year and a half.
@the.bleach: Oh my! My sister had this as a little girl. She would walk into my parents room, weep about something, stop, then turn around and get back in bed. She also did this every time I babysat. My favorite she did was walk over to me and say "I'm very mad at Chris*." "Why Grace?" "He has a very strange cookie." *pause. Walked back to bed.*
The husband punched me in his sleep a couple of times in the early days of sharing a bed. I always blamed it on a slightly paranoid disposition ("the ninjas are out to get me" mindset) and his elite martial arts training ("the ninjas can't get me if I get them first" mindset).
He has settled down. Now he just runs marathons or has the occasional dream disco.
I did this for the first time two nights ago. I had a nightmare in which I was trying to get up off the floor to get away from snakes, and my husband's leg just happened to touch mine. I kicked him really hard, with both legs. I don't know who was more surprised.
Strange. My dad always claims my mom's the violent one - I totally don't blame her, though, because she smacks him until he rolls onto his side and the snoring becomes tolerable.
I am a very, very light sleeper who often has difficulty falling and staying asleep. Stories like this make me increasingly firm in my conviction that I will never, ever be able to share a bed with a partner. Punching during sleep? I would probably ban someone to a cot for turning over!
@MissMaple: I am the same way because I am extremely noise sensitive. I could never, ever deal with sharing a bed with someone who snores or hogs the bed or punches or kicks.
Family vacations where I had to share beds were always SO FUN.
REM sleep behavior disorder is no joke. Maybe let the guy have his own bed, but definitely don't sleep with him. Who wants to get suckerpunched in the middle of the night?
I once rolled over violently in the night, pinwheeling one of my arms up and over, to land with my wristbone resting across the bridge of an ex-boyfriend's nose.
It was the only time I had ever done anything like that, in my history of several years of having a bedmate, and I felt ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE.
Now that I live alone and I have my own full/double-sized bed, I'm not sure how I'm ever going to share it, should I obtain another bed partner. I sprawl ALL the hell over that thing now.
@tscheese: Me too. I'm a kicker and a roller, while my brother is a snuggler-to-the-point-of-suffocation.... My dad says our sleeping styles reflect a lot more of our personalities than is usual...
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The only sleep disorder I have been diagnosed with over the years is insomnia, though.
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I have had to physically roll him over so I can room in the bed. You try rolling over the dead weight of a giant leprechaun.
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Whenever I try to snuggle up to someone like that, there is snoring, drooling, overheating, sweating, flailing, and blanket-stealing involved. NO ONE actually sleeps like that. NO ONE.
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that's what i thought too, and how horrible this really might be for the couple in the article. suppose they've been cuddelbugs for the last 40 years or so and now all of a sudden they can't sleep together anymore? can't they medicate the man somehow? of course i didn't read the actual article...
my partner and i are cuddlebugs in bed and i can't really sleep if he's not in bed with me... i keep waking up. he's the same way.
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*our brother
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He has settled down. Now he just runs marathons or has the occasional dream disco.
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Family vacations where I had to share beds were always SO FUN.
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Only there's no reason for fidgety sleep anymore. All is right with the world.
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It was the only time I had ever done anything like that, in my history of several years of having a bedmate, and I felt ABSOLUTELY HORRIBLE.
Now that I live alone and I have my own full/double-sized bed, I'm not sure how I'm ever going to share it, should I obtain another bed partner. I sprawl ALL the hell over that thing now.
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I tend to sleep like a starfish, with my arms and legs stretched out. Probably a good thing that BF and I have a California king sized bed.
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