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09/09/09
It definitely wasn't always this way though. If anyone else has brothers, than you can sympathize about the brawls you get into over stupid shit. Sisters, too, for that matter!
But I do wonder about the relationship I'll end up having with my sister. She's 14 months old. I'm kind of sad that I'll never really know her intimately the way I do with my brother--I mean, I can know her, but since I'm 18 years older than her, there won't really be that no-holds-barred, share everything and making mischief kind of camaraderie that I have with my brother. It'll probably be more like a mother-daughter relationship than anything, you know?
Who knows. If I ever have/adopt kids, I definitely want to have at least 2 so they can experience the type of relationship here. They're like cats, right? You have to have 2 so they don't get lonely and they can play with each other when you're gone?
:D
09/08/09
I agree with Kate. Having a great sister doesn't necessarily mean you have a "better" best friend than someone who doesn't. I tend to think of friends as the family you get to choose, so I don't feel like I'm missing out on much simply because I'm not genetically related to my best friend.
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I was talking to a friend who has both an older and a younger brother. Someone asked about how they're all so incredibly close and she looked sort of uncomfortable and said something like, "well, it's different with my older brother.... but the younger one and I traveled together, so we grew closer." And everyone was really surprised to hear that their relationships are multifaceted and complicated.
My sister and I are generally very close, laughing and talking and hanging out, but I certainly don't count on her for things. It's a relationship like any other, with pros and cons. We're just pretty sure we'll be dealing with one another for the long haul.
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I'm not sure if I even want to repair the relationships, despite what society says about blood trumping everything.
I've been thinking about the roles of sisters, and what they should mean, far too much lately. Both of my sisters have attempted to convince any mutual friends of how terrible I am, and have succeeded in many cases. Why should our shared parentage mean that I have to forgive that?
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after all you cant cut off your sister but you can cut off basically everybody else.
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But however much they fight, when their parents got divorced they banded together amazingly. Their parents are pretty screwed up in general, and their crazy dynamic seems to really protect them from their mum's general insanity and their dad's passivity. They're like a little team when it really counts.
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That said, I freaking love her and would do anything to make her happy. But she can be a real bitch sometimes.
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On the other hand, I almost broke her nose once. Swings and roundabouts--that's what sisters are all about, really!
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I'm probably the closest with the cousin (we chat nearly daily), then the friends, and then my sister. Frankly, my sister annoys the hell out of me more often than not, although she's nine years younger than me and still a teenager.
I don't know, it's probably a shame for my sister that by the time she got around to being born, I already had replaced her with the cousin, and she was always too young for us to really bond. Perhaps, if I don't kill her first, we will someday.
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Hannah and her sisters
09/08/09
As you all know, my mom recently passed. My older sisters went into her apartment while she was on her deathbed and removed whatever they wanted. Mom had a will, and my husband is the executor. My younger sister had no idea what they were doing. Now my hubby has to un-fuck what they did. One of them even has my mom's purse and she won't give it up so the executor can cancel mom's credit cards. She claims that since mom died in her house, everything there automatically became hers. Batshit insane.
They are dead to me. My younger sister is still close to me. The older ones, and their kids, can suck it for eternity.
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I often get this feeling that all my relationships, with my sister, my bff, etc, are just considered starter relationships. Insignificant in relation to that hypothetical great romantic relationship of my life that may or may not happen someday. I'd like to think that wherever my life leads, the relationships I hold now will not lose their significance.
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