I dress to please myself...often to the exasperation of those around me (Fuck 'em!). This includes but is not limited to gold leggings, black kitten heels, white tank top, heavily shoulder-padded 80s style yellow jacket from a thrift store, and fake black square-rimmed eye glasses. A well-dressed French gentleman complimented my outfit on the dance floor. I win!
Alright, one, I would argue that it's not what you wear, but how you wear it that matters. I guarantee I could seduce a man in a loose t-shirt and sweatpants with the right attitude, and I see plenty of girls at the bar wearing skimpy little skirts and heels and getting nowhere.
And anyway, I am SO not the type of person to dress for my man. Sure, it's one thing if you're trying to catch their attention, but once you have it? He doesn't love me for my V-necks.
If I could wear only what I wanted to wear, without any judgment or consequences, my closet would be filled with cashmere sweaters, yoga pants, Uggs and fleece jackets. (Assuming it's cold, and it's getting pretty chilly these days...) Say what you will, but I'd give an arm to walk around like I was wrapped in a blanket all day!
@rixatrix: You should move to Colorado. I swear to God, the nights that I DO go out dressed in sweatpants and tshirts and Uggs with my huge winter coat for the snow are the nights I get hit on by far the most. I think it makes you look more approachable and down to earth, as long as you're still having fun and aren't self-conscious about it.
I get very tired of people telling me that I need to step it up in fashion. Yes, I know I have been wearing the same fucking clothes for like... ever (I shit you not, today I wore exercise pants for weight lifting that I have had for 11 years). But when I am not required to conform to a dress code, kindly shut your face. I don't need to hear it. I don't care. I know you mean well, but it's so annoying.
My mom is always like, "You're gonna look back and feel bad that you wasted your youth, you know," but I don't think I will. Youth isn't about showing off how hot and/or sexy you are. It's about enjoying your life. Wearing a tank top or shorts isn't going to change how I feel about my own circumstances - neither better nor worse. So why not wear what I like, even if it's more than a decade old? I enjoy myself, and I dress decently when the occasion calls for it.
Hooray! I love this. I wish people would be more laid back about other people's fashion choices, be they skinny jean or legging. I hate this "skinny jeans look so shitty on everyone" business. Some stuff might not be for you, but it might be really fun for someone else!
@bleedingmouths: I have never been a fan of the skinny jeans, but I would also never mock a person for it. I think they are awkward as hell, but it is none of my business. If people want to wear skinny jeans, go ahead! You will hear nothing from me :D
Well, let's face it. The ideal dress both shames other women and attracts men at the same time!
I know it's cliche, but I've long since enjoyed the fruits of at least my own particular happy marriage. Mr. JB loves me no matter what I wear, and wants to have sex with me under circumstances that even gross me out. Dressing for other men isn't even on my radar. And since most of the women I know are also moms of young children, I don't feel like I have to dress for them either.
I will confess, though, that I'm tired of my wardrobe and need change...but everything that is both in my price range and my size range is leaving me feeling very meh this fall. I have to start teaching tomorrow, and I haven't the first idea what I'm wearing for this. Probably something boring from last year.
I have never dressed "for another woman" - this sounds so competitive and bitchy. I go for comfort first, attractive next. And like la.donna said - the things that get me laid are usually big T shirts and panties with worn out elastic. Good times!
If my data are correct over the course of nearly nine years of dating Mr. Pietra, a strappy tank top and pajama bottoms are the clothes to get me laid. That's what I've been wearing approximately 90% of the time prior to sexytimes.
Because all high fashion looks the same. Because all men like the same thing. Because all women think the same. Because everyone is looking for a heterosexual relationship. Because all men dress in a way to sexually attract women. Because women just don't do enough already.
Yawn. Fuck off Daily Fail.
Well, there's definitely truth to the 'women dress for women' slogan in my book. I also happen to find that high fashion doesn't always fall into the pretty, sexy or even alluring category. But things shouldn't be put into strict categories: one may wear whatever she pleases and looking confident and happy in it will definitely earn points in men's, women's and also the wearer's.
@Rocket Queen: You may dress for women. Personally, I dress for myself- reasonably comfortable and dressy/casual enough that I feel appropriate. Of course, I'm also not particularly into clothes.
I think lots of women dress for other women, but I hate the trope that women dress for women.
One of my favorite Old Hollywood anecdotes involves an actress auditioning for a lech and, finally, removing her falsies, handing them to him and saying 'Here's what you're after.'
You'd think with being told that she's the greatest living actress/of her generation over and over would make her untouchable and holier than thou. But I swear, at least in interviews, she's so damn charming and gracious it seems like she would be down to drink a beer and shoot the shit.
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It's like looking for words of wisdom on racial matters from the KKK.
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And anyway, I am SO not the type of person to dress for my man. Sure, it's one thing if you're trying to catch their attention, but once you have it? He doesn't love me for my V-necks.
If I could wear only what I wanted to wear, without any judgment or consequences, my closet would be filled with cashmere sweaters, yoga pants, Uggs and fleece jackets. (Assuming it's cold, and it's getting pretty chilly these days...) Say what you will, but I'd give an arm to walk around like I was wrapped in a blanket all day!
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08/31/09
My mom is always like, "You're gonna look back and feel bad that you wasted your youth, you know," but I don't think I will. Youth isn't about showing off how hot and/or sexy you are. It's about enjoying your life. Wearing a tank top or shorts isn't going to change how I feel about my own circumstances - neither better nor worse. So why not wear what I like, even if it's more than a decade old? I enjoy myself, and I dress decently when the occasion calls for it.
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08/31/09
I know it's cliche, but I've long since enjoyed the fruits of at least my own particular happy marriage. Mr. JB loves me no matter what I wear, and wants to have sex with me under circumstances that even gross me out. Dressing for other men isn't even on my radar. And since most of the women I know are also moms of young children, I don't feel like I have to dress for them either.
I will confess, though, that I'm tired of my wardrobe and need change...but everything that is both in my price range and my size range is leaving me feeling very meh this fall. I have to start teaching tomorrow, and I haven't the first idea what I'm wearing for this. Probably something boring from last year.
08/31/09
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08/31/09
Yawn. Fuck off Daily Fail.
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I think lots of women dress for other women, but I hate the trope that women dress for women.
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Of course, now I'm blanking on who it was...
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